National Coalition For Men (NCFM) NCFM is dedicated to the removal of harmful gender based stereotypes, especially as they impact boys, men, their families and those who love them. Wed, 04 Mar 2015 21:31:27 +0000 en-US hourly 1 NCFM Member Naomi Evans fourth update on paternity fraud reform legislation in Washington — victory in committee! Tue, 03 Mar 2015 05:22:33 +0000 paternity fraudFebruary 28, 2015 Update on Washington Legislation to Stop Paternity Fraud SB 5006

On February 27th The Washington Senate Ways and Means Committee held an executive session in which Senate Bill (SB) 5006 re: Non Genetic Paternity Disestablishment/Anti Paternity Fraud was voted for a “Do Pass” majority after the adoption of 2 new amendments that were targeted specifically at DSHS concerns for their Title IV-D programs.

These amendments were significant in their attempt to silence DSHS’ ongoing,  yet unsubstantiated claims that SB 5006 may disqualify Washington from collecting Title IV-D subsidies; however neither amendment will impact men seeking to disestablish paternity of non biological children if/when this bill is signed into law.

The important fact is the bill passed on the eve of the “cut off” deadline for bills of Senate origin to pass through the Ways and Means Committee.

That means we victims/supporters of this paramount legislation are still in the race for this bill to make its destination of passage!

Here is a link to the bill information:

As the process of passing a bill into law is rather extensive, there are still many things to be done, such as email and phone call campaigns to Washington law makers requesting their continued support.

For those interested in this process, I wanted to explain my understanding of the likely path this bill will take on its way to being enacted into law.

Now that SB 5006 has  passed Ways and Means it will be sent to the Rules Committee where one of its members will need to “pull” it (fancy term for request) to be sent to the Senate Floor for a vote from the complete Washington Senate.

The bill must pass a vote on the Senate Floor by March 11th in order to continue to the House where it will go to the House Judiciary Committee and will be given a public hearing.

The House Judiciary Committee will need pass the bill with a “Do Pass” vote through to the House Appropriations Committee who will also hold a public hearing and an executive session vote of the bill to be passed onto the House Rules Committee.

The House Rules Committee will need to “pull” the bill and send it to the House Floor for a full vote by the House of Representatives.

Once the bill passes through these committees and is voted on the House Floor with a “Do Pass”, it will be ready for Governor Jay Inslee to sign into law.

If for any reason the Governor does not officially sign it, but does not veto the bill, it will automatically become law 90 days after the end of the Washington Legislative Session ends.

That being explained, I welcome anyone willing or able to get involved in helping this bill makes its way to the Senate floor and receive a full vote.

Here are a few ways to help this bill continue moving forward:

  1. Please email these members of the Senate Rules Committee:,,,,,,,,,,


Sample email: (Copy and Paste into body of email):

“Dear Respected members of the Senate Rules Committee:

SSB 5006 was recently passed onto the Rules Committee on February 27th

This bill is about Non Genetic Paternity Disestablishment and would enable wrongly or falsely adjudicated men to end legal and financial obligation to non-genetic children.  This bill is very important and has undergone a few amendments to fix concerns from DSHS as well as still give relief to men who are now denied a legal avenue to seek justice through the court systems for Paternity Fraud.

This bill has many supporters and will help many Washington Residents.

I ask you to pull this bill as soon as possible so that it may receive a full vote on the Senate floor as it rightly deserves.

The House Judiciary Committee is awaiting its passage from the Senate as they also support this bill.

I thank you in advance for your timely consideration and help with this legislation.


(Your Name)

(Your phone number)”


  1.  Call these members of the Rules Committee and ask for their help to “Pull” SSB 5006 to the Senate Floor:

- Lt. Governor Brad Owens (Chair of Rules Committee)        360-786-7700

- Senator Pam Roach (Vice Chair)           360-786-7660

- Senator Barbara Bailey              360-786-7618

  1. Washington Residents ONLY:

Please leave a “Comment” in Support of this bill by following this link-


As always “Thank You” to everyone who has taken time out of their day to help this issue!  I am here for more information if you wish to contact me at: and please join this discussion on my Facebook group “2nd Wives Against Paternity Fraud”

Or my blog:


-Naomi Evans-

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NCFM NorCal Chapter Member Jeanne Falla’s report on “HOPE: Young Men’s Voices — An Insightful Discussion Mon, 23 Feb 2015 21:12:55 +0000


NCFM member Jeanne Falla and 11 others participated in this first of its kind event. We are optimistic that similar events will overtime involve many more. Its responsible activism like this that helps us understand how the world can be made a better place for all of us. Here’s Jeanne’s report.

HOPE: Young Men’s Voices  – An Insightful Discussion

The  weather Sunday, February 2, 2015, in the Bay Area was terrible with torrential rain, yet one man came from Sacramento and a two, a couple, came from nearby Davis.  Event closed with free food/snacks, a reward for these dedicated travelers and others who braved the weather to attend.  Thanks to all involved!

Hosted by Speaker Lonnie Graves, this event was designed to help and encourage its young male participants to open up and talk about their past and present experiences and touch upon important issues facing young  men (particularly minority men) such as family breakdown and the need for fathers and other male role models.

The event began with a few conversational “ice-breaker” exercises followed by a series of videos addressing topics such as fatherlessness and need for men to mentor each other and break out of a type of masculinity that rewards violence/sexual promiscuity into a healthier masculinity that respects family and community.  Last video shown was the NCFM college men’s groups AD.  The videos featuring men expressing anger at their absent fathers were very painful for some to watch, but the young men attending (some traveling long distances on a very rainy day) felt the subject matter was too important not to be addressed.  I added that sometimes angry mothers play a role in encouraging fatherlessness and my raising awareness about this was well received.

My observation is that bridges need to be built between the many groups that support young minority men and men’s rights groups.  Support groups do a wonderful job leading these men away from the “pipeline to prisons” trap but don’t do much to attack root causes such as a system that incentivizes poor minority women to ditch men and “marry” the government.  Rights groups attack this injustice, but their focus tends to be narrow.  I recommend dialogue and collaboration between the two; yes, there are degrees of ideological/political rifts between the two sides but with the right approach, support and advocacy groups for men can still work together on some level.


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Blast from the past, Female Sex Offenders and Pedophiles Sun, 22 Feb 2015 17:38:49 +0000 female sex offenders

Female sex offenders come in all shapes and sizes. She may even be your best friend, neighbor, or trusted school teacher.

Click on the picture or the link below to read the full article.

Blast from the past. This article about female sex offenders and pedophiles is as true today as is was when written in 2010. Thanks to organizations such as ours, Male Survivors, Julie Brand, author of A Mother’s Touch, and others there is an ever-increasing awareness of mothers as sexual monsters and child abusers.  This article is not for the timid. It should incite you to anger. Anger because for so long certain political factions and mainstream media would have you believe that children are only sexually abused by men. Ask yourself this: who has greater access to children, men or women. Who has the greater opportunity to sexually abuse children, men or women. What is clearly, emphatically, and irrefutably known is that in the United States of America the majority of child abuse and murder is committed by… women.


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Female sex offenders and pedophiles are much more common than you may think.

If you have been emotionally scared and otherwise violated by female sex offenders or pedophiles please contact Male Survivors for help.

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NCFM Chicago President Tim Goldich, It All Balances Out, second video Sat, 21 Feb 2015 00:20:26 +0000

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NCFM Member Naomi Evans third update on paternity fraud reform legislation in Washington Fri, 20 Feb 2015 06:19:28 +0000 paternity fraudFebruary 18th 2015 Update on Legislation to Stop Paternity Fraud Washington State HB 1524 and SB 5006

On February 17th the Washington House Judiciary Committee held a public hearing for House Bill 1524 re: Non Genetic Paternity Disestablishment.

In attendance to support this bill sponsored by Rep. Michelle Caldier (R) 26th district, was Naomi Evans, Andrew Evans, Allen Knight, Cedrick Day, James Childs, Shawn West, Abby Burlingame, Brandon Jones and Brandon Lyons.

Opposition testimony came from David Ward an attorney from Legal Voice (a Woman’s Right’s group in the Pacific Northwest) and Wally McClure from the Division of Social and Health services Child Support Division.

The full testimony may be viewed here at the 1:14:00 mark :

For those who are not aware, the Washington State House of Representatives is still slightly led by a Democratic majority, and although the issue of Paternity Fraud is not one in which most of us see as a “Partisan” issue, for the State House, this issue has had substantial “Conservative” implications within recent years.

Since our testimony in support of this legislation to free victims of paternity fraud, I have received word  that we were successful in gaining the support of at least one Democratic Representatives on the Committee,which holds 7 Democratic members and 6 Republican members; all of which we have recently met within Lobby Appointments in January.

It has been known to us who are fighting for this bill that all the Republican members within the House Judiciary Committee were supportive of our bill; so the knowledge of gaining support from even one individual across the isle is one of significance in passing this legislation.

However, it appears that we may have the support of other Democrats within the committee, some of which would like to wait for the already amended Senate Bill 5006 to pass the Senate and be sent to the House rather than work on two different bills.

At any rate, I have tried to stay on top of this and provide as timely knowledge of events and opinions as I am receiving them, so keep watching for updates….

Word on the Senate Bill 5006 has been verbally confirmed from a few Legislative Assistant’s of members of the Senate Ways and Means Committee (Where the bill is currently held) that the Ways and Means are in fact working on scheduling a hearing for this bill in the near future, but that they are possibly waiting for a new “Fiscal Report” on the amended version’s financial implications to the state, before such hearing is scheduled.

It is with this current knowledge that I have decided to work heavily on the Senate Ways and Means Committee to schedule a hearing and get this bill passed to the Senate floor for a vote as it has a longer period of time before the cutoff date of February 27th to pass this Committee, unlike the House Bill that may be allowed to die this coming Friday February 20th.

This is NOT in any way a “Bad” thing however, so please do NOT be discourage from helping. The Senate bill always had more of a chance to begin with as it is now in its second year introduction and has had more movement then the House Bill.

If you would like to participate in helping move this legislation forward in the Senate here are some effective ways to push these law makers:

  1.  For Washington Residents only: Follow the below links and leave a “comment” in support of both bills that will be sent directly to your local Legislators so they know how their constituents feel about this subject! It only takes a few seconds and is sure to get their attention!

SB 5006:

HB 1524:

  1. Email campaigns are ongoing. We supporters know that continued emails to specific Committees is what has gained this bill the recognition it has received and will need to continue such emails to pursue forward movement.  If you are so inclined, please email members of the Senate Ways and Means Committee to encourage their support in hearing and passing the Senate Bill 5006 onto the Rules Committee.

You can email the following list of members:,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

Sample or template email to these members:

Dear Chair Hill and Respected Committee Members,
I am writing in regards to SB 5006 re: Non-genetic Paternity disestablishment, which is currently held within the Ways and Means Committee.  This bill is extremely important to many Washington victims of paternity fraud, and as the cutoff date of February 27th is rapidly approaching, I would like to strongly urge the Committee to expeditiously schedule a public hearing and a vote of passage through the Ways and Means, so that this paramount Legislation may have a full vote by the Senate.  

Thank You for your consideration in this matter.
(Your Name, address and phone number)


  1. Phone Call Campaign:

Phone contact with these legislators is another great way to have your voice heard!  If you are interested please call the following members of the Senate Ways and Means. Your call can be short and sweet. (Please be nice to these law makers as they are our friends, not our enemies) It is as simple as saying “my name is ________ I just wanted to call and ask that Senator “so and so” please be aware of SB 5006 and its importance to me and other victims of Paternity fraud”….

Phone List for Ways and Means:

Senator Andy Hill (Chairman)- 360-786-7672

Senator John Braun (Vice Chair)- 360-786-7638

Senator Bruce Dammeier (Vice Chair)- 360-786-7648

Senator Jim Honeyford (Vice Chair)- 360-786-7684

Senator James Hargrove (Ranking Member)- 360-786-7646

Senator Karen Keiser (Assistant Ranking Member)- 360-786-7664

Senator Kevin Ranker (Assistant Ranking Minority Member)- 360-786-7678


“Coming together is a beginning, Keeping together is progress, Working together is success”- Unknown

I want to thank all those who have helped in any way they could. I know there are many out there helping and I am eternally grateful!

Naomi Evans (26th district, Bremerton, WA)

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NCFM Adviser Charles E. Corry, Ph.D., Why Veterans Can’t Get Jobs — Follow up Sun, 15 Feb 2015 21:48:17 +0000 hire a veteranWhy Veterans Can’t Get Jobs — Follow up

by Charles E. Corry, Ph.D.

President, Equal Justice Foundation

In January 2015 a three-part series of essays was published outlining why veterans can’t get jobs today. For several reasons I find it necessary to belabor the issues detailed there.


One basic problem is that a number of people on the EJF mailing list never received this newsletter. As they do every several years some group of radical feminists, whom I fondly refer to as “redfems,” got together and claimed we were illegally sending spam. As a result the web site was blacklisted and various spam monitors bounced the newsletter.

As it only takes several complaints from individuals for this to happen I’ve found this is a common trick that redfems use and I’m sure we are not the only targets. This is, I believe, at least the fourth time in the past fifteen years it has been used against the Equal Justice Foundation, once even by a coven in New Zealand. I have, hopefully, gotten whitelisted and the current attack turned back. This follow up should now go out to one and all without undue hindrance.

It is probably simply a coincidence, but paranoia should be given its due, that our PC was hacked in this same time interval. I suppose in today’s world everyone’s PC gets hacked about twice a year…

Hire a veteran! Not!

In Part One of this newsletter I noted that a major reason veterans couldn’t get jobs was that they were being given to foreigners on H1B and other visas. Sadly, I grossly underestimated the magnitude and impact of that problem. Adding to the burden is the uncertain state of the economy. As I was writing this I learned that IBM is laying off some 100,000 people worldwide.

I did not previously discuss the impact on veterans of the widespread practice of offshoring American jobs. The problem is complex and quantitative estimates vary widely. Linda Levine (2012) provides a Congressional Research Service report on this issue for those who care to dig deeper. Whatever the magnitude of these job losses they are primarily impacting National Guard and Reserve veterans who are returning from deployments to find their jobs have disappeared overseas while they were in combat.

Discharged and retiring veterans who are entering the labor market for the first time are primarily impacted by the creation, or lack thereof of, new jobs. With regard to that issue the Center for Immigration Studies released a report in June 2014 that I was unaware of. According to government data, the net number of jobs created between 2000 and 2014 all went to immigrants, not people born in the United States.

The CIS report found that over the last 14 years, people who were born in the United States held 114.8 million jobs in 2000 but just 114.7 million in 2014, a drop of 127,000. But it’s an entirely different picture for immigrants — 5.7 million more jobs were held by aliens in the U.S. in 2014 compared to 2000.

Nor is that all. In February 2015 the CIS issued another report based on a Freedom of Information Act (FOIA) request that reveals some 5.5 million new work permits were issued to aliens between 2009 and 2014, above and beyond the number of new green card and temporary worker admissions in those years. This huge parallel alien work authorization system is far outside the limits set by Congress and destroys opportunities for veterans and citizens as well as inviting further illegal immigration.

Summarizing from that report, during the last five years ~1.8 million new work permits were issued to aliens with temporary visas or those who entered under the Visa Waiver Program. Of these some 1.2 million had a visa status for which employment is not authorized by law. For example, ~470,000 work permits were issued to aliens on tourist visas and 532,000 to foreign students. More than 156,000 were issued to dependents of students and guest workers, all in categories not authorized for employment by law.

About 982,000 new work permits were issued in this time period to illegal aliens or aliens unqualified for admission. Of these, 957,000 were aliens who crossed the border illegally. Inexplicably, 1,200 new work permits were issued to aliens who were denied asylum, were suspected of using fraudulent documents, were stowaways, or were refused at a port of entry.

A huge number of work permits, 1.7 million, were issued to aliens whose status was unknown, not recorded by the adjudicator, or not disclosed by U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS), the agency that processes the applications. Work permits are gateway documents to driver’s licenses and other benefits. If the government agency issuing them does not know or will not disclose how the bearer arrived in the country how can others rely on the authenticity of an individual’s identity? It is equally disconcerting if the government does know and chooses not to disclose it.

Clearly it is not only veterans who are unable to find employment due to unchecked immigration, but all American citizens.

It cannot be overstated that a nation that cannot control its borders soon ceases to exist.

We have been invaded, not by force but by stealth. Our Department of Defense spends at least $600 billion a year and there are 1.4 active-duty military personnel fighting numerous imperial wars in other countries while the homeland is overrun with unopposed invaders who are draining our life blood.

There is no reason this invasion cannot be stopped and turned back. According to Wikipedia during the Great Depression more stringent enforcement of immigration laws led to the expulsion ~2 million Mexican nationals from the United States. In 1954 the government implemented Operation Wetback that led to the deportation of nearly 1.3 million Mexicans from the United States. Of course not all invaders today are Mexicans but in the interests of protecting its citizens a functional government would immediately halt this invasion and quickly expel these foreign forces.

And justice for none

In Part Two I reviewed the plight of veterans caught in the justice system. Since then I have again pushed our district attorney to adopt deferred prosecution in our veteran court rather than the current practice of a veteran plea bargaining to a deferred sentence that leaves a permanent conviction on their  record. A district attorney should not, and must not be judged simply by the number of convictions he obtains. The real measure is how effectively his policies provide for public safety. In contrast, his present practices are criminogenic.

I have also requested of both the district attorney and the new sheriff that they set up a diversion program at the county jail to screen veterans for PTSD, TBI, and other traumas from their military service before or during the incarceration process. That would keep minor cases out of the justice system but direct wounded warriors to needed treatment.

At present veterans who are arrested but not convicted are traumatized by the “justice” system but do not receive any needed treatment for conditions that brought them to the attention of peace officers. My understanding is that the sheriff is currently in the process of hiring a liaison officer to work on issues such as this.

Dying to get an appointment with the VA

In Part Three I discussed issues faced by the Veterans Administration in dealing with the onset of OEF/OIF veterans coming home from our endless imperial wars. Sadly each new day seems to bring forward new problems and issues with that department.

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NCFM Member Naomi Evans second update on paternity fraud reform legislation in Washington Sun, 15 Feb 2015 20:56:56 +0000
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He’s free…finally free.

Paternity fraud reform legislation has a good chance of succeeding in the State of Washington. Please help.

February 14th, 2015 Update on Washington Legislation to Stop Paternity Fraud;  House Bill (HB 1524) and Senate Bill (SB 5006).

The Washington 2015 Legislature holds a great opportunity for citizen activists and victims to come together and support two cloned bills that will help relieve victims of Paternity Fraud.

Senate Bill (SB 5006) re: Non Genetic Paternity Disestablishment; introduced by Senator Jan Angel has now had a public hearing in the Senate Law and Justice Committee, followed by an adoption of a substitute bill and was voted to pass through committee and was then referred to the Senate Ways and Means Committee where it is still awaiting a vote of passage.

There are two deadlines SB 5006 needs to meet. The Ways and Means Committee has until February 27th to pass this bill out of their committee as well as the bill must be voted on the Senate floor by March 11th.

As for its companion bill HB 1524 sponsored by Representative Michelle Caldier; the House Judiciary Committee has recently scheduled a public hearing on Tuesday February 17th, 2015 at 10:00 am at the Olympia Capital in the John L O’Brien building, Hearing Rm. A

This public hearing comes just three days before the February 20th deadline to pass this bill out of the House Judiciary Committee.

Time is short indeed, and although it may seem daunting at times, I believe there are many good signs pointing to these bills picking up steam.

Thanks to many people who have taken action on this issue by emailing respective legislators, we are making this issue one of significance!

I would like to ask anyone in Washington State who is willing and able to join our group of victims/supporters for the public hearing on Tuesday February 17th.  We are hoping to have as many live bodies as possible to wear our “Stop Paternity Fraud” t-shirts and to either give personal testimony, or to simply “stand in” support of this issue.

The House is the primary place that a large presence of support must be shown due to its history of not supporting this legislation for fear of back lash from the Division of Social and Health Services regarding Title IV-D funds, and although it appears DSHS has come to some kind of compromise with the Senate Bill 5006 within the substitute bill, we still need all the help we can get.

Now is the time to rally together and to push these Legislators one step closer to our freedom.

Please help us make history this year in our efforts to end Paternity Fraud in Washington State by:

  1. Join us at the Olympia Capital on Tuesday February 17th at 10:00 am for the public hearing.


  1. Email the following House Judiciary Committee Members a brief message asking for their support in the passage of HB 1524

*Member emails:,,,,,,,,,,

*Sample email:

Dear House Judiciary Committee,

Please support the passage of HB 1524 re: non genetic paternity disestablishment to help relieve victims of paternity fraud, and provide a legal avenue in which these men may seek the justice they deserve.


(Your Name)

(Address and Phone number)


  1. Email the following Senate Ways and Means Committee Members asking for their support in passing SB 5006

*Member emails:,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

* Sample email:

Dear Senate Ways and Means Committee Members;

Due to the approaching cut off deadline of February 27th, I would respectfully urge you all to vote upon and pass SB 5006 re: non genetic paternity disestablishment. 

Many Washington victims of Paternity Fraud are counting on you to pass this bill that will provide necessary relief to their families. 

Thank you for your consideration and support in this matter.


(Your Name)

(Address and Phone number)


If you are able to meet for the public hearing this coming Tuesday but need more information please feel free to contact me at

We will plan on meeting together at the circular “Sun Dial” just outside of the John L O’Brien building around 9:30 am if you would like to join us there we look forward to meeting new supporters!

Naomi Evans (26th district, Bremerton, WA)

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NCFM Advisor Michael Conzachi, evidence suggest wrongful prosecution of Army officers Sun, 15 Feb 2015 03:38:12 +0000
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Pogo knows best.

U.S. Army Major & Head Prosecutor of Sexual Assault Cases at Fort Bragg North Carolina, Major Burris, Convicted of Sexual Assault in Courts Martial, Sentenced to 20 Years in Detention Barracks at Leavenworth. Evidence Suggests Retaliatory Prosecution.

In 2012 and 2013, U.S. Army Major Erik Burris, 39, was 82nd’s Airborne Chief of Justice (senior prosecutor) overseeing sexual assault cases at Fort Bragg North Carolina. He had a distinguished 16-year military career and served in Bosnia, Iraq, and Afghanistan.

Recently, Major Burris was removed from the Army, sentenced to 20 years in the stockade, and ordered to forfeit all pay after being convicted of rape, sodomy, related sexual assault charges and disobeying an order. Now, he sits in a cell stripped of his military service and branded a sex offender.

Major Burris has maintained his innocence. According to Fort Bragg Press, “The court-martial found Burris not guilty of four specifications of assault, two specifications of sexual assault, two specifications of forcible sodomy and two specifications of communicating a threat.

major burrisPrior to being charged, he testified in a sexual assault case for an Army Captain. According to an article in the Daily Mail (and others), during the trial, Major Burris revealed that as head J.A.G. Officer, he was pressured to pursue sexual assault cases even when “iffy”. “I know enough about what’s going on. If I wanted to, I could embarrass the 82nd,” he said in court.

Military Corruption and others reported that the female investigating officer, a Lieutenant Colonel, testified:

 “My assessment is that Ms. Burris’ allegations . . . her statements to CID . . . were driven by a combination of motives. The evidence in the case file and testimony suggests she embellished or made untruthful and or inconsistent claims . . . her displays of emotion. . did not appear genuine . . . I am left with no other alternative but that Ms. Burris is fabricating her allegations.”

Sexual assault allegations began surfacing months after his ex-wife left him in 2012, when she battled for sole custody of their two daughters. During a FOX network interview, Major Burris said that after his wife left him, “she proceeded to make more and more allegations, each time she spoke to someone new – each time she was in a different environment, she was accusing me of something else, and generally those accusations just became more heinous as the process went on”. He thought, “[t]odays military is too quick to file charges on sex assault cases to compensate for years past when many weren’t…” He said he “was also concerned about those women who make valid complaints later on but have their allegations dismissed because of the number of false allegations.”

As reported by military’s website COURT-MARTIAL Trial Practice in the article Burris Trial, he “testified there was growing pressure to prosecute sex assault cases under his watch in 2012. The rule was, he said, given probable cause all cases should go to an Article 32 Hearing. If pending probable cause again, it will head to a court martial. According to Burris, there was a blanket directive to prosecute cases. “It was increasing and just having to deal with the burden of information handling on the cases was significant.” Burris admitted earlier expressing his “extreme displeasure” with how the Army was handling sex assault cases. Prosecutors pointed out that Burris faced similar allegations by his then wife. Consequently, in February 2013, a month before the FOX interview and just after his arraignment on charges, Major Burris was reassigned as an Operations Officer pending the outcome of the charges against him.

False allegations of sexual assault, domestic violence and child abuse are favored weapons in contentious divorce and child custody cases. False accusers are rarely held accountable, even after destroying careers and lives of decent people, like Major Burris perhaps.

In researching this story we found no information to suggest Mrs. Burris suffered from post-partum depression, post-partum psychosis, or whether she had a history of interpersonal violence coupled with a serious character disorder, any and all of which should have been determined prior to taking Major Burris to trial. Lying, sometimes habitually if not pathologically, is part of such disorders. Nor do we know whether Major Burris suffered from anything similar including but not limited to PTSD related to his overseas postings; or, his marriage for that matter. We have heard many times from soldiers that they felt safer at war than at home. All we know is that an independent investigator concluded Mrs. Burris’s allegations were false, that she lied.

Unusual here is the absence of the media, the reluctance of the Army to release information other than a terse press release, and the chief investigator, a female Lieutenant Colonel, finding that his estranged wife consistently lied. And, why did the Army only notify the media after court martial proceedings had ended?

What caused the major media from attending the trial? Was the Army concerned about the lack of clear and compelling evidence? Did the Army prosecute Major Burris because he was outspoken about pressure to pursue sexual assault cases with little or no merit, the “iffy” ones? Have we reached lynch mob mentality in the Army, where unsubstantiated accusations lead to court-martial, the destruction of careers, and ruination of decorated warriors? To our knowledge there was no – as in zero – evidence to corroborate Major Burris’ estranged wife’s allegations.

So why was he convicted and why did not the media cover such a scandalous case? The story has everything necessary for the cover of pulp magazines, the New York Times or the Women in Pink (a must watch video) to picket. Decorated Army officer prosecuting sex cases, allegations of sexual assault, rape, child abuse, pressure to prosecute… so where’s the media?

Another senior Army officer, Brig. Gen. Jeffrey A. Sinclair, recently faced court-martial for alleged forcible sodomy, adultery and other charges. His case was a considerable embarrassment to the Army. The Washington Post reported Sinclair’s “legal defense team mounted a vigorous public relations campaign for many months, running a Web site and a Twitter account to spread the message that he was a victim of politically motivated Army leaders intent on making an example of him.” Was his accuser used to make an example of General Sinclair? If she was sexually assaulted and terrified, then why did she continue an affair for three years? Eventually acquitted of assault charges, Sinclair pleaded guilty to having a lengthy affair with a subordinate officer. Maybe the subordinate officer was vindictive because Sinclair promised to divorce his wife and marry her. I reported more about the Sinclair case on our NCFM website here: Brigadier General Jeffrey Sinclair Courts Martial Drama Now…

Has the military reached the same level of witch-hunt hysteria we now see on college campuses? Are we in such an irrational state about the nonexistent rape culture and sexual assault epidemic that some cases and military leaders are willing to railroad anyone, regardless of rank to create the appearance that the military is cracking down on sexual assault cases?

All military branches are under onerous political pressure to uproot and destroy all types of sexual assault and harassment. To sell their politically correct directives, Legislators like Sen. Kirsten Gillibrand, D-N.Y., has used her position as a bully pulpit to spread misinformation about the number of real sexual assault and harassment cases, which in reality are comparatively few. The Navy has even banned racy photos, no more pinups on deployments.

Last year, the Pentagon vigorously fought efforts by Sen. Gillibrand to take the decision to prosecute cases away from commanding officers. Sen. Gillibrand and her supporters believe the military justice system is an old-boys club, one that protects its’ members. She wants a new-feminist club that gives weight to unsubstantiated charges. Justice does not seem relevant.

The old-boys club sacrificed Burris under the political pressure. Moreover, the brass fed Gen. Sinclair to Sen. Gillibrand. One has to wonder whether the military is fattening up more heroes for slaughter. Maybe outside intervention would have been more concerned with truth than politics.

Who knows, but if we find out for sure, we will let you know. We are certain there will be more and more persecutions of military men in favor of unsubstantiated allegations. In PC parlance, men are perpetrators, women are victims, women do not lie…

Then there is the Army’s “transitional benefits” for victims of abuse (real or imagined), like the continuation of medical care, exchange privileges and commissary privileges – the travel, transportation, and relocation allowances, and thousands of dollars a month compensation for up to 32 months, including the housing allowance – free rent? The children may even be eligible for whatever Veteran benefits remain, if any. Big money. No fear of repercussions. Lying pays. Think about it… Murders happen for less.

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Were Major Burris and General Synclair scapegoats?

Does Major Burris deserve 20 years in prison?

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NCFM Member Naomi Evans update on paternity fraud reform legislation in Washington Sun, 08 Feb 2015 06:29:55 +0000 paternity fraudFebruary 7, 2015

Update on Washington paternity fraud reform Senate Bill 5006 re: Non-Genetic Paternity Disestablishment/ Anti-Paternity Fraud Legislation.

For anyone following this paramount legislation in Washington State to help relieve victims of Paternity Fraud, I wanted to let you know that on February 5th the Senate Law and Justice Committee held an executive session on the bill where they voted to adopt the recently prepared Substitute Bill which was done to appease opposition from the Division of Social and Health Services.

The Committee then voted 4 yay’s (Republican) to 3 nay’s (Democrat) to pass the bill and referred it to the Ways and Means Committee.

So what does all this mean you ask? I will try to break this down for you further as I myself am confused at times, but having been at this fight for the second year now, and am getting a better understanding of this crazy process we call “Legislature”.

*First off you may follow and comment in support of this bill yourself here:

*The adopted “Substitute Bill” can be viewed here:

The significance of this adopted substitute bill is that it has specific language stating:

“An order of disestablishment entered under this section must provide prospective relief only and there is no right of reimbursement for amounts paid under any earlier order of child support. As of the date of the entry of the disestablishment order, the man is not liable for any future child support amounts or other future obligations. A man is liable for any earlier court or administrative orders for unpaid child support amounts or other past obligations entered prior to the disestablishment order; however, the earlier court or administrative orders may not be retroactively modified after an order of disestablishment.”

This paragraph was honestly a bit tough for me to swallow… I am not an attorney and therefore don’t claim to know all the legal interpretations of this “legalese”, but even I was cautious when first reading it due to concerns of how it may conflict with a victim’s ability to file a civil action for reimbursement of damages against the woman committing paternity fraud against him. However I believe that because this statute will be passed under family law, it will not hinder his rights under civil action. (Note: If there is an attorney who believes I am wrong in this interpretation, please contact me immediately so I am not giving bad advice here)

There are (in my understanding) a different set of rules than someone filing a civil action for emotional/financial/liable damages, than rules surrounding family issues such as divorce/parentage etc.

It was necessary to adopted this language for the DSHS to back down from their opposition, due to fear in passing a bill that could create a huge financial deficit to the welfare and Title IV-D programs if it allowed victims of paternity fraud to vacate a wrongful adjudication of paternity back to its start.

Think on this… Our state and federal agencies keep track of statistics on many various things…probably down to how many people have brown or blue eyes right? Now ask yourself honestly why they would not keep statistics on how many men claim to be victims of paternity fraud and are paying for non-genetic children? I would guess it’s because they already know that number is at EPIDEMIC levels!

If the government agencies admitted to the actual numbers, they would have to explain why they have continued to be “co-conspirators” in this Fraud, which would open then up to law suits as well. The State agencies will never show you the real statistics, but instead they will come up with a way to bury the facts by writing a clause within the bill to effectively cover their asses!

Again, I know it’s not always fair, but in this case most of us fighting for the bill understand we have to pick and choose our battles in order to win this victory for freedom. The Goliath in the room was DSHS and if they are willing to bow out gracefully while still saving face; I think most of us victims can swallow the compromise of “absolute justice” with the knowledge that we will be set free going forward.

So now that SB 5006 has been referred to the Ways and Means Committee we have until February 27th to get these Legislators to vote it onto the Rules Committee before it dies.

It doesn’t seem like much time given the fact that it will likely need another public hearing, but we are keeping faith that with the right amount of pressure by concerned citizens in the form of emails and phone calls that we can get them to prioritize this bill.

I realize I have asked many people to email certain lists of legislators on several occasions, and that it seems redundant, for which I am truly sorry; but listen up folks! This kind of constant “nagging” (in a respectful way) is exactly how I got the bill as far as I did last year. I never gave up until the bill didn’t pass… I kept my faith and I kept nagging via emails and phone calls.

So I would ask again that citizens in or outside of Washington help make this year a WIN for men and their loved ones across the country by helping support this bill.

Our goal now is to get the Senate Ways and Means Committee to schedule a public hearing as quickly as possible to keep pushing this bill forward for a full vote by the Senate and the House.

Go here to easily send the below email:

To get this hearing I need anyone available and willing to email this list of members:,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

Please copy and paste this email to the above members:
Dear Chair Hill and Respected Committee Members,
On Feb. 5th 2015 the Senate Justice Committee adopted and passed with a majority vote (substitute bill) SB 5006 re: Non-genetic Paternity disestablishment, on to the Ways and Means Committee. As this bill would help free victims of paternity fraud in Washington State, I would like to ask your help to make sure that it be given a public hearing as soon as possible so that victims who are eagerly waiting, have a chance to testify before the committee.
I would also like to ask that you support the passage of this bill through the Committee so that it may soon be sent to the Senate floor for a full vote. There is a Companion bill HB 1524 that is sitting in the House Judiciary who are waiting to receive the senate bill, so I would respectfully ask for the necessary support to continue moving this important legislation that will give relief to men and their families.
Thank You for your consideration in this matter.
(Your Name)

As always I am here to reach out to if you would like to know more about this legislation and what is being done to push it through. I can be reached at

Thank you all for your help and support!

Naomi Evans- Bremerton (26th dist)

“Freedom is never voluntarily given by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed”- MLK jr.

 national coalition for menPaternity fraud is most profitable for the state that perpetuates its corruption.

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NCFM sends complaint to commanding general at Fort Campbell Kentucky re disrespecting his soldiers Sat, 07 Feb 2015 01:12:40 +0000 soldiersOur Soldiers deserve more respect.

The text below the soldier in the picture to the left is hard to discern, but we spelled it out in the letter of protest sent to Major General Gary J. Volesky, Commanding General,
101st Airborne Division (Air Assault) and Fort Campbell, Kentucky.

It seems that the brass of the highly decorated 101st Airborne have stooped to guilt by association with little or not regard for the men and women that serve us so well, in peace and at war.

Moreover, it seems that the recent Congressional and Presidential ravishment of our military over a nonexistent rape culture and nonexistent sexual assault epidemic endorses such callous disregard for our soldiers, to include creating literally thousands of sexual assault commissars to stamp out the nonexistent problems.

Click on this link to read the letter 150104 lte to General Volesky re sexual assault

national coalition for menVery few soldiers commit sexual assault. There is no reason for ignorant promotions like this one.

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NCFM PR Director Steven Svoboda book review, Secrets of Great Marriages… Thu, 05 Feb 2015 13:06:40 +0000 marriagesSecrets of Great Marriages: Real Truth from Real Couples about Lasting Love.

By Charlie and Linda Bloom. Novato, California: New World Library, 2010. 233 pp. Review by J. Steven Svoboda

Therapists, workshop co-leaders, and life partners Linda and Charlie Bloom have written a book that is more unusual than it should be. This book is packed with inspiring stories of pairs of people who manage to stay committed, to enjoy each other, and to move forward despite the many challenges life and marriage can offer. The Blooms networked through colleagues, relatives, and friends to locate twenty-seven married couples to feature in their book, each of whom have been together at least fifteen years and an average of thirty years. The list is diverse, including lesbian and gay couples, couples of various races including interracial couples, working-class people, four couples who like the Blooms co-lead relationship workshops, a restaurant manager, a dress shop owner, a multi-millionaire (who later ends up losing all he has), and professionals from a number of different fields.

The Blooms certainly cannot be accused of having picked out people lucky enough to have led relatively charmed lives free of serious conflict or strife. If anything, many of the couples depicted here have faced and overcome more than the typical level and number of issues. Deaths of children, marital infidelity, life-threatening health challenges, and many other difficulties crop up. Yet in ways as different as the individuals depicted, they somehow manage to negotiate these minefields, usually emerging with a stronger relationship with their spouse than when they started.

From the very first example, it is clear that the Blooms have located some great couples. Lobsterman Pete Smith hires Deanna as his first female assistant. Initially skeptical that any woman can do the job, he eventually becomes convinced and also ends up creating a successful, long-lasting marriage with her! Well-known Christic Institute lawyer Daniel Sheehan achieves perhaps his greatest success in his remarkable support for his wife Sara Nelson’s recovery from breast cancer. Maya Spector leaves her marriage to Barry for another man, yet four years later, in the wake of an injury to their son, Maya and Barry reunite, re-open their hearts to each other, and re-marry. The portrait of Hassidic rabbi Nehemia Cohen and his wife Rachel (and their twelve children) provides a fascinating glimpse of a lifestyle that many of us might never directly encounter.

Workshop leaders (and my personal friends) Judith Sherven and Jim Sniechowski come together later in life than many couples in this book, making two important pledges: to place their relationship as a higher priority than their individual preferences, and “to honor our differences rather than try to homogenize them.” When—on their honeymoon–Judith leaves a beloved nightgown in a hotel, and Jim fails to understand the importance of it to her, both of them manage to learn and grow closer from the conflict. A gay couple confronting Steve Schalchlin’s AIDS find themselves going broke as Jim Brochu takes off work to care for Steve full-time. “We celebrated what we believed would be our last vacation, our last Christmas, and our last birthdays together. For about a year, I was so weak I couldn’t even sit up.” Medication rescues Steve just in time, and today their relationship is stronger than ever.

Yet all is not golden. Next we meet a married couple living in denial, so focused on their kids they make no time to nurture their marriage, with the result that husband Drew Coleman eventually has an affair. To Drew’s surprise, when the news comes out, Shirley takes responsibility for her part in the breakdown, and the marriage recovers. Later when their daughter Anne becomes troubled, news emerges that a relative who babysat their daughter had molested her from ages ten to thirteen, and the couple are able to help their daughter through recovery from this trauma. Barbara Dossey travels with husband Larry back to Vietnam many years after he served in the military there, and with her support, he is able to go through a night of catharsis that rids him of the nightmares from which he had been suffering.

Inspiration can be found on practically every page. Hope Juber’s chance meeting with her idol Ringo Starr finds her not only employment but also her husband Laurence. Later the couple join together to help see their 19-year-old daughter through successfully fighting off a life-threatening lymphoma. Jane Morton and Michael Jacobs could be described as a “power couple” of two tenured Stanford physicians, yet “[w]hen confronted with the need for a major life change, they completely removed themselves from their secure, predictable, and prestigious but stressed-out life” and go on a year-long adventure, never making plans more than twenty-four hours in advance.

What can we learn from these couples? As the authors lay out in their introduction, we see throughout the book that—among other keys to their successful relationships–they: have a high level of mutual respect and trust for their partners; have a nonhierarchical relationship; tend not to hold grudges; address unfinished business expeditiously rather than putting things on the back burner; tend to avoid cycles of blame, express affection, appreciation, and need for each other frequently; are honest with themselves and their partner; and engage in frequent acts of service to each other. “The way to avoid divorce,” Hal and Sidra Stone wisely counsel, “is to have a no-fault marriage.”

Husband Ron Gladis’s truly awe-inspiring support of his wife Mariah’s needs given her ALS (amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, also known as Lou Gehrig’s disease) enable her to survive and their marriage to thrive and, most remarkably, make it possible for her career to flourish as well. Shakti and Rick Butler, who are now thriving financially, once “lost everything financially and were actually homeless for six months.” With the help of his wife Justine Toms, Michael survives the devastating suicide of his adult son Mike and eventually focuses on enriching his bond with Mike’s two children, Michael’s grandchildren. Workshop leaders Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks (of whom I am a fan) have a great life except for many years they simply cannot bring financial matters under control. Then one day, “We made an agreement on the spot to let go of our scarcity orientation and consciously think in terms of abundance.”

Barry and Joyce Vissell were able to endure the severe disapproval of both sets of parents when they married despite their different religious backgrounds (Jewish and Protestant), but when Barry has an affair with Joyce’s best friend, the relationship nearly ends.

“Sooner or later most couples are challenged in unwanted ways that they never imagined…. Your heart breaks, and you feel great pain…. It’s a chance to finally learn to live with an open heart.”

Apart from a brief introduction to each chapter, the Blooms mostly abstain from inflicting lessons or conclusions on the reader, limiting themselves to presenting twenty-seven diverse stories from diverse couples. The people in this book are not simply halves of amazing (yet ordinary) couples but are also phenomenal individuals, yet they struggle with many of the same challenges the rest of us face. Highly, highly recommended.

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Secrets of Great Marriages highly recommended.

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NCFM files declaration making complaint public record in Santa Barbara re John Heffernan persecution case Mon, 02 Feb 2015 21:33:34 +0000 ncfmGrand Jury Complaint Filed in California involving Prosecutorial Overreach of Restraining Order Violations. NCFM Files Official Court Declaration making Complaint Public Record.


A Voice for Men has filed a complaint with a Grand Jury in California, this time in Santa Barbara County, and sent a copy of the complaint to the local office of the FBI, Public Corruption .

The National Coalition for Men in cooperation with AVFM has taken steps to make the complaint a public record and have filed a formal court declaration as to the existence of the complaint.

After more than a year of investigative effort and the review of several thousand pages of official documents and transcripts, the complaint centers on the issue of prosecutorial overreach and misconduct in the Santa Barbara County District Attorney’s Office; specifically Deputy District Attorney Von Ngyuen, in the handling; or as this case illustrates the persecution of a man for violating a restraining order.

The history, ferocity, aggressiveness, and questionable legal tactics employed by the DA’s Office, and some of the related and subsequent actions suggest that these types of tactics and approach are routine and acceptable when prosecuting violations of restraining orders against males.

This is a story, complete with sex, passion, money, divorce, lies, love triangles, violations of trust, vulnerability, financial manipulation, coercion, stakeouts, arrests, court drama, suspect prosecution, maladministration, power, politics, hope, and what appears to be some serious gender bias against males.

This case involves Mr. John Heffernan who was subjected to a restraining order when a long term relationship failed, primarily because Mr. Heffernan ceased financially supporting his ex-girlfriend, Ellen Riley Mason. Once an order was issued, Mr. Heffernan made the mistake of contacting his ex-girlfriend, Ms. Ellen Riley Mason via email. The emails were non-threatening and are better described as a man who was blindsided by a restraining order, and asked his ex, why she would do such a thing and tried to re-kindle the relationship.

That set off a long-term flurry of activity and actions, that in the end, defeated and beat down a man; emotionally, psychologically, and financially to the point where he accepted a plea bargain, just to make the nightmare go away. Even then it did not as he is routinely threatened with incarceration and hearings for no legitimate reason.

We have seen this so many times before, that we can’t count the times. It has been for some time and continues to be a time period where a man who just wants to end a relationship or marriage, ends up being a convicted criminal and left in a state of financial ruin.

Why is that, and why does it happen? It happens because there is a climate and system that by its very design is constructed to inflict the highest levels of punishment, stress, and financial ruin against a male for simply wanting to end a relationship or marriage. We are no longer in a criminal, civil, or family law system that simply accommodates the termination of relationships, but a system designed to cause chaos and devastation.

During the course of this inquiry, it was learned that there is a substantial history of news reports and civil litigation of corruption, political cronyism, and heavy-handed tactics against males in DV and restraining order cases by the Santa Barbara County District Attorney’s Office. One only has to Google the words “corruption” and “Santa Barbara” and the examples are too many to list in this post and too extensive to read in one sitting.

AVFM and NCFM are both in agreement, that when examples of anti-male persecutions occur in these types of cases, that they should be brought to the attention of the Grand Jury process. We have seen time and again of the systematic failure of regulatory agencies such as state bar associations and judicial commissions to police their own. Rather these agencies serve as nothing more than organizations designed to mitigate or excuse the egregious behavior of their members, and either ignore complaints or issue long drawn out explanations in legal mumbo-jumbo, and nothing is ever done to fix the problem.

Right now in California, there are now two complaints brought to Grand Juries about the misuse of the restraining order process, the LA County case involving actress Pauley Perrette and her ex-husband, Francis Shivers, and this one. There is also the federal RICO lawsuit in San Diego County, against the family court brought by the California Coalition for Families and Children. The documentary, “Divorce Corp.” focused on California’s family courts and there are nearly a dozen web sites and blogs documenting family court collusion and corruption, in various California counties.

There is something wrong in our family courts and something wrong with the way that males are persecuted in these courts. Nothing is being fixed and the public is unaware of the danger that exists. That is one of the reasons why complaints have been filed with grand juries and lawsuits filed, to get that information out there to the public.

NCFM hopes that others who have had similar experiences to research their own jurisdictions, and to file complaints with their respective civilian grand juries who are outside of the auspices of state bar associations and judicial commissions and to make these complaints public, as we have done here.

This case is ongoing and there are still issues that will be brought up to the proper agencies and venue, and when that happens, we will bring that information to you.

national coalition for menIf you have similar experience and are not afraid of some hard work please call NCFM: 619-231-1909


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NCFM Member Naomi Evans needs your help with paternity fraud reform legislation in Washington Fri, 30 Jan 2015 01:49:20 +0000 paternity fraud

Washington legislators need to agree to agree on paternity fraud reform legislation.

Update on Anti-Paternity Fraud Legislation in Washington State Legislature-

Just an update to anyone following the Paternity bills in Washington State as it appears our story is not “cover worthy” this year by any media outlets other than one very small article in the Spokesman Review. Honestly I am pretty dumbfounded that none of the newspapers and/or news stations I have contacted have picked up on this issue, but perhaps that is because my blog and articles published by National Coalition for Men are doing a hell of a lot better job than reporters at the “Lame Stream” media can do…

For those of you who do not know…

Republican Senator Jan Angel (26th dist) is sponsoring SB 5006 this legislative session as well as newly elected (R) Representative Michelle Caldier (26th dist) sponsoring HB 1524 with the help of Representatives (R) Jesse Young, (D) Chris Reykdal, (R) Vincent Buys, (R) Elizabeth Scott, (R) Hans Zeiger, (D) Timm Ormsby, (D) Marcus Riccelli, and (R) Liz Pike, making the House Bill a beautiful work of “bi-partisanship”.

These two cloned bills are in Re: Authorizing the termination of all legal responsibilities of a nonparent if genetic testing shows by clear and convincing evidence that a man is not the genetic father of a child.

The full bill can be viewed here:

On Monday January 19th, 2015 the Senate Law and Justice Committee held a public hearing on SB 5006 in which 9 of us supporters and/or victims shared our personal testimony and request for passage of this bill. In attendance of support were:

Kingsley Morse (Bellingham, WA), Brandon Jones (Tacoma, WA), Eric Johnson (Tacoma, WA), Cedrick Day (Olympia, WA), Andrew Evans (Bremerton, WA), Naomi Evans (Bremerton, WA), Allen Knight ( Renton, WA), Shawn West (Spokane, WA), Abby Burlingame (Snohomish, WA)

Only one person; Mr. Ward (an attorney) from “Legal Voice” a woman’s rights group was in attendance to testify against this bill.

The full testimony can be viewed here:

The primary arguments against this legislation this year as well as last year’s (SB 5997) have been:

– Leaving children fatherless (which really equates to financial support)

– Loss of Title IV-D funds for the state, as warrantless “fear mongers” at the Division of Social and Health Services have recently attempted to push by claiming they believe the language of the bill may disqualify the State from collecting their big fat pay checks each year that range around 12.7 million dollars from their grotesque practices of financially enslaving innocent men, as well as bankrupting any person deemed the “non-custodial” parent to fork over thousands of dollars in child support to greedy “custodial” parents each year.

-There has also been a small concern from Legislators as to how this legislation would impact adopted children; which has been easily explained that this bill in particular specifies that men who have willingly and legally adopted a non-genetic child or has participated in reproductive medicine with a woman/spouse with the intention of producing a child that may not be that man’s genetic child, are not subject to the right of challenging to disestablish paternity.

If you have time to watch the full testimony on January 19th you can see for yourself that this year’s testimony appeared to be a major success in garnering support from the Senate Law and Justice Committee who appeared to “beat up” the one opposing attorney from “Legal Voice” as his arguments centered around “best interest of the child” or “fatherless” children.

Our group of supporters listed above have been working very hard over the last several months in preparation for these same arguments in opposition that were focused on last year, so in what I believe was an awesome show of collaboration and strategy we were able to drive our points home and dispel these fears for the majority of law makers.

The following two days after this hearing (January 20th and 21st) our group (Naomi Evans, Brandon Jones, Shawn West, Abby Burlingame, and Allen Knight) worked together to tackle a long list of Lobby Appointments with all members of the four committees that will be tasked with passing this legislation to the Senate and House floors for a full vote.

I am happy to report that 48 out of 50 legislators we spoke with were in support of this legislation, which included the Lt. Governor Owens!

I want to take a moment to personally thank all those listed above who took time out of their schedules and enthusiastically ran from appointment to appointment across and over four different buildings for the very important “lobby appointments”, which was no easy task.  I want to especially thank Shawn West who came all the way from Spokane (on the opposite side of the state) and Allen Knight who completely “kicked ass” and met with 30 plus legislators or their assistants on the second day of Lobbying.

Representative Michelle Caldier’s House Bill 1524 which was also filed early last week has now had its first reading and been referred to the House Judiciary Committee where it is waiting to be set for a public hearing.

Senator Jan Angel’s Senate Bill 5006 is still sitting in the Senate Law and Justice Committee awaiting a vote from Committee Members as to whether or not they will pass the bill onto the Senate Rules Committee.

I have begun an email campaign with my fellow supporters asking both of these House and Senate committees to continue “moving” these bills, but would ask anyone interested in helping push this legislation feel free to join our email campaign. Please “copy and paste” the paragraph below in red and use the email addresses to send the information to the legislators:

(Note: Anyone anywhere can do this. You do not have to live in Washington to support this)

The House Judiciary Committee:,,,,,,,,,,,

Dear Chair Jinkins and Committee Members,

Representative Michelle Caldier’s HB 1524 re: Termination of non-genetic paternity has recently been referred to the House Judiciary Committee.  As paternity fraud is an issue that affects many men and their loved ones, I would like to respectfully ask you all to expedite this bill receiving a public hearing in which supporters are anxiously awaiting to testify on behalf of. Thank you for your urgent consideration in this matter.


(Your Name)


Follow the links below for both bills and leave a comment in support of them.  This is the second year Washington Legislative website has offered this very easy way to contact your local district law makers in a matter of 30 seconds you can ask that they support a bill and the site itself sends them the message!

SB 5006:

HB 1524:

There has been a ton of help and support from people that has gone into the 2015 fight for freedom and I can never thank all who have helped enough for the time, effort and even money that has gone into countless emails, testimony, and donations of funds for our “Stop Paternity Fraud” shirts that looked great during testimony!

However, we are not done… not even close so I would ask you all to help if you can. Our hope is that when the House Judiciary Committee holds its public hearing for HB 1524 that many more supporters will be able to come to Olympia and at the very least stand in the hearing room wearing one of our teal shirts (pictured above) to show your support.  The House Committee is especially important to show a big public gathering because they did not see this legislation last year due to the bill dying on the Senate Floor after running over the cut off mark for a vote.



*Senator Jan Angel and Representatives Michelle Caldier and Jesse Young from my 26th district who have remained faithful to us victims in fighting for our freedom. “Thank you all!”

*Shawn, Abby, Brandon, Allen… my primary team-members.  You all are awesome! I could never have done this without you and all that you do! I am blessed to have met and been a part of all of your lives within this battle.

*Thank you to EVERYONE who came to Olympia to testify for this bill: Cedrick, Kingsley, Eric and my husband who hates public speaking as much as I do… Thank you all for your courage to stand up for justice! And thank you to everyone who has written legislators and signed my petition to help this campaign!

BTW the Petition is still open if you want to sign that also:

Remember I am always here to contact if you are interested in helping to further this cause. I can be reached via email at or through my Facebook at:

Naomi Evans

 national coalition for menNo sane person can support paternity fraud, not even the thieves that steal someone’s identity and another persons money.


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NCFM Adviser Charles Corry, Ph.D, “Why Veterans Can’t Get Jobs…” Sat, 24 Jan 2015 01:39:26 +0000 veterans

Why Veterans Can’t Get Jobs

by Charles E. Corry, Ph.D.

President, Equal Justice Foundation

Veterans have always faced some difficulties reintegrating into society after their discharge. That is particularly true if the veteran has been injured or wounded, even invisibly, by combat, training accidents, sexual assault, or the many other hazards of military service.

However, society has compounded the problems for veterans of the perpetual wars of the new millennium in at least three major ways: (1) deceptive advertising, (2) mala prohibita laws like the War on Drugs, and (3) a malfunctioning Veterans Administration.

I have broken these into three sections. I don’t have pat answers as to how balance might be restored but these problems don’t exist (or are ignored) unless and until they are documented and publicized.

If nothing else perhaps these essays will chart some of the rocks and shoals veterans must avoid if they are to reach safe harbor.

Part One — Hire a veteran! Not!

An examination of the hypocrisy, lies, deceit and Congressional acts that underly veteran unemployment.


Part Two — And justice for none

The impact of an overcriminalized justice system on veterans

 Part Three — Dying to get an appointment with the VA

It is self evident that in order to hold a job a veteran must be physically and mentally fit. In order to provide for that insofar as possible with the human debris of our endless wars our benevolent government has established a huge bureaucracy.


What is today the cabinet level Department of Veteran Affairs has its roots in the Continental Congress of 1776. They provided pensions for soldiers who were disabled in the Revolution but, initially, medical care, if any, was provided by individual states and communities.

Federal medical facilities and housing for veterans were authorized in 1811 but none were opened until 1834. Assistance was later expanded to include benefits and pensions for veterans and also their widows and dependents.

It became the Department of Veteran Affairs (VA) on July 21, 1930, and was elevated to cabinet status on March 15, 1989. As with most government programs these worthy and essential services have grown to gargantuan proportions with a current budget of ~$153 billion with over 313,000 employees.

Under President Obama, the VA’s budget has grown by more than 60% over the past six years, although congressional overseers and veterans’ organizations complain that the department continues to be hobbled by what they consider a bloated and inefficient bureaucracy.

The Department currently has three subdivisions each headed by an Undersecretary:


During the Vietnam conflict 2.59 million veterans served in country, 58,209 were killed, 153,303 were wounded, and 1,643 are still MIA. But these casualty figures grossly underestimate the burden on the VA and as of September 2011 some 7.4 million Vietnam-era veterans were enrolled with the VA. And 5.9 million Gulf War I as well as 5.7 million peacetime-only veterans have sought VA assistance. Throw in WW II and Korean veterans and the VA clientele amounts to over 23 million and the need for a gargantuan bureaucracy becomes obvious.

Of the ~2.6 million veterans who served in-theater during Operation Enduring Freedom (OEF), Operation Iraqi Freedom (OEF), and Operation New Dawn (OND) in Iraq since 2001 only 6,843 (includes 17 DoD civilians) were killed and 52,281 were wounded in action as of October 30, 2014 (Table 1) thanks to advancements in body armor, transportation, and battlefield medicine. That tally excludes hundreds of thousands of others because the Pentagon counts only those injured as a “direct result of hostile action.” If a wound or injury did not occur on a combat operation, or it was the result of an accident, or it was caused by simply wearing body armor every day for a year, it does not make the list.

Despite these relatively low casualty figures 1.76 million veterans are currently eligible for VA benefits and 1.03 million of have already sought treatment at a VHA medical facility at least once since 2002, usually (93%) for outpatient care. About 45% of them have sought compensation for service-related disabilities. By comparison, about 21% of those who fought in the 1990-91 Persian Gulf War (Gulf I) filed similar claims.

However, 1.76 million new cases is only a 7% increase in the total number of veterans the VA has to deal with. Why then the multiple problems so evident today?

First, the history of the VA is one scandal after another since the Revolutionary War so the current problems are nothing new.

Second, the endless wars of the 21st Century, with their advances in body armor and armored vehicles, together with the multiple combat tours required of OEF/OIF/OND veterans, has produced a much higher percentage of wounded and disabled veterans than previous conflicts. In Iraq and Afghanistan, where there were no front lines; where improvised explosive devices were the enemy’s weapon of choice; where troops wore bulky protective gear most of the time; wounds such as traumatic brain injury, persistent ringing in the ears, elevated blood pressure, post traumatic stress, etc. that do not fit the military’s classic definition became the norm.

Once troops returned home and the adrenaline ebbed they began to confront the cost of all they wore to protect themselves, of the bone-jarring trips in mine-resistant trucks, of inhaling desert sand pulverized into jagged particles by armored vehicles, back pain, blown-out knees, headaches, chronic coughs, etc.

As noted above, for more than 1 million vets, serving in these wars has left them in worse physical health according to a poll run by the Washington Post and the Kaiser Family Foundation. Eighteen percent — about 470,000 current and former service members — reported being seriously injured while deployed to Iraq, Afghanistan or in support of the wars. Some of those wounds have been profoundly life altering — lost limbs, widespread burns, massive brain damage. Others are more prosaic, often the results of accidents or wear and tear on the body, but nonetheless they have saddled veterans with enduring pain.

More than 600,000 veterans who have become partially or totally disabled from physical or psychological wounds resulting from military service in the new millennium are already receiving lifelong financial support from the government. That figure is certain to grow substantially as the VA slowly processes a large claims backlog. Additionally, the types of injuries and disabilities have changed with advances in war, medicine, and mental health adding to the burden and delays in receiving disability determinations and compensation.

The difference between the ~1 million veterans seeking compensation and the 600,000 who have received it may help to explain why almost six in 10 vets believe the VA is doing an “only fair” or “poor” job in meeting the needs of their comrades.

One in three veterans surveyed by The Post and Kaiser said the VA or the Defense Department has determined they have a service-connected disability, a ratio that is almost identical to the VA’s overall tally.

What problems are OEF/OIF/OND veterans reporting? The three most frequent medical diagnoses of disabled veterans today are:

  • Musculoskeletal ailments (principally joint and back disorders),
  • Mental disorders, and
  • “Symptoms, Signs and Ill-Defined Conditions,” that most veterans would say translates as “If it isn’t simple and obvious we don’t know what it is, and it certainly doesn’t qualify for disability benefits.”

Each of these areas is addressed sequentially below.

Physical wounds and musculoskeletal ailments

Waits of months to sometimes a year or more to even see a doctor have been frequently reported. But once admitted the VHA, to all appearances, deals well, if not always timely, with physical wounds.

Advances in prosthetics for lost limbs has been remarkable and the VHA is a leader in such medical research. But the problems don’t stop there.

Obviously major limb amputations fall under this category and for the period 2003-2014 some 1,577 (Table 4) have been reported for OIF/OEF/OND veterans. However, a veteran may lose the use of a limb, hand, or foot without it being amputated and such accidents may happen outside of a combat theater. Veterans are commonly subject to crippling injuries during training and in other accidents and there is little doubt that the total number of such injuries, both from combat and other accidents far exceeds this number.

The signature wound of the current conflicts is a traumatic brain injury (TBI). These wounds result from impacts to the skull from an external force, e.g., projectiles, blasts, acceleration or deceleration, contact with a fixed object, etc. The impact may or may not penetrate the skull or result in fracture. The result is permanent or temporary impairment of cognitive, physical, and psychosocial functions, with an associated diminished or altered state of consciousness. Repeated blows to the head increase the likelihood of permanent impairment and such injuries may occur in combat, in training, and on or off base in an auto accident or fall, for example.

For the period 2000-2014 the VA reports 307,282 (Table 3) cases of TBI for all military, including OIF/OEF/OND veterans. That number is certain to increase. TBI is also known to be associated with early onset of dementia and increased numbers and severity of the disability of veterans with TBI can be expected in the years ahead.

In addition to direct injuries, the weight of man-packed combat gear in Iraq and Afghanistan was far beyond recommended loads. A basic load out for personal armor, water, helmet, weapon, ammunition, and other ancillary equipment was typically 60 kg (135 pounds) and often ranged to 90 kg (200 pounds) or more. As a result there will be tens of thousands of veterans with back, hip, and knee problems as they age and many have these problems now.

Qualifying for disability payments for any of these conditions, however, is typically dependent on such injuries being documented in a veteran’s medical records before discharge and getting an honorable or general discharge. Otherwise the veteran usually faces a years-long battle with the VA before they can hope to obtain benefits, if any.

All of these conditions are going to make it difficult or impossible for OEF/OIF/OND veterans to get or hold jobs that require them to stand for long periods, carry heavy loads, or walk any distance on pavement or over uneven surfaces. Many are also limited in the types of tools or machines they can operate particularly if they have TBI.

Obviously these conditions are not caused by the VA but the failure to provide prompt and effective treatment exacerbates the veteran’s problems. That is particularly true when payments for these disabilities are also delayed or denied.

Mental health and psychiatric assistance

Veterans suffering from mental health issues are particularly problematic. The problems are compounded by a shortage of mental health professionals in the VA and a crisis in the way psychiatry is practiced.

Wars have always produced more psychiatric casualties than physical wounds. Prior to 1980 little seems to have been done for mentally-impaired veterans other than to put the most severe cases in care facilities. Otherwise veterans were largely left to self medicate while telling war stories around the bar in the VFW or American Legion halls. If the laws hadn’t changed, as noted above, that would still be a good therapeutic approach for many veterans.

In 1980, the American Psychiatric Association (APA) added PTSD to the third edition of its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-III) nosologic classification scheme. The PTSD diagnosis has filled an important gap in psychiatric theory and practice. The significant change ushered in by the PTSD concept was the stipulation that the causative agent was outside the individual, i.e., a traumatic event, rather than an inherent individual weakness. Bremner (2006) reviews known changes to the brain associated with PTSD.

The types of trauma that can lead to PTSD varies widely between individuals but certainly includes witnessing or being a victim of violent crime including sexual assault, being a victim of or witnessing an accident or natural disaster, death of a loved one, and certainly combat particularly if severe, protracted, or repeated and especially if the veteran is wounded. Other causes are, of course, known. Training and genetics also play a role with, apparently, Asians being less susceptible.

To understand why PTSD has such a drastic impact on employment for veterans it is necessary to review the characteristic symptoms and behaviors. Endnote 1 presents the symptoms of post traumatic stress as commonly seen in veterans. Most individuals initially experience only a few of these symptoms, with sleeplessness and nightmares being the most common. Dissociation is diagnostic, particularly in flashbacks. Symptoms such as irritability, irrational anger, anxiety, hypervigilance, etc. may develop later. Or initial symptoms may disappear only to be reignited years or decades later by some new traumatic event. Rarely if ever does an individual exhibit all these symptoms. Commonly some symptoms come and go while others are persistent. Veterans with PTSD may be high functioning for some period and then regress for no externally apparent reason, usually to the detriment of their employment and those around them.

Onset of post traumatic stress may occur within weeks or a few months of the trauma or delayed for years and decades. Symptoms must persist for at least a month to be considered a disorder. If PTSD is going to clear up it usually does so within one or two years, otherwise it often becomes chronic. Even if initial PTSD symptoms disappear a later traumatic event may trigger a renewed onset.

I know of no universal treatment for PTSD. The DoD and VA favor cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) and continuous exposure therapy but not all veterans respond favorably to either of these treatments. Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) is also used with some success.

Gore (2014) points out that many different drugs have been used to treat specific PTSD symptoms such as benzodiazepines for anxiety, anticonvulsants for impulsivity and emotional stability, and clonidine for nightmares. However, the principal agents of treatment have been the various antidepressants and beta-blockers. Atypical antipsychotics have been used for patients who do not respond to antidepressants. Some studies suggest that fluoxetine demonstrates some efficacy for all three symptom clusters. Various sleep medications have also been used. But what appears to work best for most veterans who have tried these drugs is marijuana either because they no longer have prescriptions, expense, or superior benefits.

DSM-5 notes that individuals with PTSD are 80% more likely to have symptoms that meet diagnostic criteria for at least one other mental disorder, e.g., depressive, bipolar, anxiety, or substance abuse as well. There is also increased risk of suicide and suicidal ideation. DSM-5 also notes that co-occurrence of PTSD and mild TBI is 48% in Iraq and Afghanistan veterans. I would suggest that for more severe TBI the co-occurrence of PTSD approaches unity and that it becomes difficult, if not impossible, to distinguish one from the other in many veterans.

Studies of Civil War veterans recognized that veterans suffering from mental trauma were at increased risk of disease and early mortality (Pizarro and others, 2006) so recognition of the problem is not new but effective treatment is still uncertain.

There is considerable debate over the percentage of Vietnam veterans who suffered from PTSD, e.g., see review by Richardson and others (2010). For in-country veterans who actually engaged in combat studies suggest around 30% lifetime occurrence although some estimates suggest that 50% is more accurate.

A RAND study (Tanielian and Jaycox, 2008) estimated 300,000 (19%) of the 1.62 million Iraq and Afghanistan veterans who had been deployed at the time or their study suffered from PTSD or major depression based on a telephone survey of 1,925 veterans. They also estimated 320,000 suffered some level of TBI. The authors note that “…respondents were concerned that treatment would not be kept confidential and would constrain future job assignments and military-career advancement.” These concerns suggest the veteran’s problems were underreported, a recurring problem.

Fischer (2014) reports that the Army Office of the Surgeon General has only identified 164,817 new cases of PTSD among deployed and not deployed troops between 2000 and 2014 (Table 2). Since veterans with all but the mildest cases of TBI are likely to have PTSD as well, and she reports 307,282 cases of TBI, the number of OEF/OIF/OND veterans who have or will develop PTSD is grossly underestimated.

These rather low estimates for PTSD lend credence to anecdotal evidence from veterans that the Army and VA grossly underdiagnose the problem.

Of course a failure to correctly diagnose disabilities, whether deliberately or through incompetence translates into denied benefits and often great hardship for tens of thousands of veterans.

Thomas and others (2010) studied both Active duty Army and National Guard troops at 3 and 12 months post deployment. They observed PTSD rates across active duty and National Guard study groups after a single deployment. Using the least stringent definition, the mildest cases, ranging from 20.7% to 30.5%, and depression rates ranging from 11.5% to 16.0%. Using the strictest definitions with high symptom rates and serious functional impairment, PTSD prevalence ranged from 5.6% to 11.3% and depression prevalence from 5.0% to 8.5%. Between 8.5% and 14.0% of all soldiers reported serious functional impairment due to either PTSD or depression symptoms. They also noted that the incidence of PTSD is 2 to 3 times higher among those exposed to combat compared with those who did not report significant combat exposure and that PTSD is more frequent among National Guard and Reserve troops. My experience suggests the highest rates of PTSD occur in medics, corpsmen, and truck drivers in daily convoys.

A weakness of the above surveys is that they were done with troops who had completed a single combat tour, as was also true of most Vietnam veterans. Conversely, many OEF/OIF/OND veterans served multiple combat tours lasting from nine to fifteen months, many enduring three, four, five or more with only nine to twelve months back home as the operational tempo increased.

The March 29, 2014, Washington Post and Kaiser Foundation survey is more inclusive. They found that of those deployed to Iraq, 47% were sent on two or more combat tours, and 29% — more than a half-million veterans — spent two years or more in-country. Of veterans who deployed to Afghanistan, 29% had two or more tours, and 16% spent at least two years there. And many veterans served combat tours in both Iraq and Afghanistan but I haven’t found data on veterans who served in both countries or three or more combat tours.

The Washington Post and Kaiser Foundation poll found that the wars have caused mental and emotional health problems in at least 31% of OEF/OIF/OND veterans — more than 800,000 of them. When more specific questions were asked, the rates increased: 41% — more than 1 million — report having outbursts of anger, and 45% have relationship problems with their spouse or partner. Both are symptoms of post-traumatic stress (see Endnote 1) and data on other mental health problems, e.g., suicidal ideation, schizophrenia, depression, etc. are not reviewed. More than half of veterans polled say the government is not doing a good job addressing the requirements of this generation of veterans. But when asked to rate their own treatment, almost 60% said the government’s response is “excellent” or “good.” Greater than 50% finding VA not doing a good job versus less than 60% pleased with their own treatment is probably within the margin of error for the survey. When asked about their own health care more than 80% stated their physical, mental and emotional needs are being well met by the VA. So once in the system veterans generally seem pleased with the care they receive.

As reviewed by Grossman (1995, rev. 2009, p. 43-45), WW II studies found that after 60 days of continuous combat 98% of surviving soldiers became psychiatric casualties. The 2% who were able to endure sustained combat showed a predisposition toward “aggressive psychopathic personalities.” I have not found any comparable studies that quantify the effects of multiple combat tours on veterans although a qualitative difference seems well established. When troops who have completed multiple combat missions are polled the rates of PTSD are much higher. Everyone has a breaking point past which they cannot continue to function. While that point cannot be individually measured I do know that far too many veterans of the current conflicts have been pushed too far.

Available data suggest the Army and the VA are badly underdiagnosing the prevalence of PTSD and other mental health problems.

Part of that issue might be a sampling problem as it is becoming more apparent that these problems first occur or become worse later in life as suggested by the veteran arrest study of Corry and Stockburger (2013). If valid, many mental health problems for OEF/OIF/OND veterans won’t become apparent until they reach age 40 or so.

Not only is the VA understaffed in the mental health arena, and apparently underdiagnosing the prevalence of PTSD, but the field of psychiatry itself is in a state of crisis. Daniel Carlat, M.D., in his 2010 book Unhinged details how psychiatry has largely forsaken the practice of talk therapy for the seductive — and more lucrative — practice of simply prescribing drugs. Thus, when troubled veterans do manage to get an appointment with a shrink the likely outcome is the psychiatrist will spend the session typing notes into his computer and send the veteran off with a shopping bag full of drugs. Veterans on 12 and 14 different medications are reported and, because of their condition, they have little idea of what each drug is for and often report feeling like a zombie on them and this “treatment” may be fatal.

These policies are dangerous. There are many cases of premature deaths in veterans that are linked to the multitude of prescription drugs they are often prescribed. Of particular note are the fatalities associated with both legal and illegal drugs, notably opioids, veterans take for pain and relief from the multiple symptoms of PTSD.

The death of young veterans by heart attack was reviewed by Rappaport (2012) based on the research of neurologist Fred Baughman, Jr. M.D., Fellow, American Academy of Neurology, and Diplomate, American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology. Dr. Baughman refers to these cases as Soldiers Dead In Bed and as of September 2014 he has tabulated over 400 such cases. As he notes, this is far from a complete list and the problem continues unabated. Seroquel (an antipsychotic) is the drug most frequently linked to these deaths but other antipsychotic and antidepressants have also been identified in such cases particularly when Paxil (antidepressant) and Klonopin (benzodiazepine) are prescribed and taken together. And the negative effects of these drugs are magnified when dosage is suddenly interrupted, as for example; the veteran is thrown in jail.

Accidents, often deliberate, and alcoholism also account for numerous, but usually uncounted veteran deaths as reviewed by Alan Zarembo in a December 2013 article in the LA Times.

The cumulative impact is horrific. Between 2,709,918 to 3,173,845 American veterans served in country and in interior waters of Vietnam between 1954 and 1975 (American War Library, 2007). Yet less than one third of the veterans who survived ground combat in Vietnam are alive today although most would only be in their 60s or early 70s. For example, see the discussion by Duff (2009).

Suicide is the factor most talked about but Katz (2013) points out that homelessness is as large a factor. And homelessness results directly from a veteran’s inability to get a job.

It is estimated that at least 22 veterans a day commit suicide. These statistics only count cases where suicide is the stated cause of death and the individual is known to be a veteran. In the military bastion of El Paso County, Colorado, the coroner has no way to know whether or not a suicide case is a veteran or not and that is likely true of many other coroners.

Veteran suicides are much more common than published values.

The prognosis for current veterans is no more favorable. Already it is estimated that more OEF/OIF veterans have died from suicide than in combat in both wars.

The total number of Iraq and Afghanistan veterans who have died since returning from those theaters isn’t known but certainly far exceeds any published figures.

Without effective and accurate diagnoses and treatment veterans with PTSD and TBI are poor candidates to get and keep a job.

While an accurate diagnosis and proper treatment are critical for mental health problems suffered by veterans, lets face it, any veteran who admits they are under psychiatric care by the VA isn’t likely to get much of a job, if any.

One is left with the impression that in many cases the veteran would be better served sitting around the bar at the VFW or American Legion and swapping war stories. For sleeping and keeping calm marijuana is clearly a better drug choice although that almost certainly hurts the veteran’s job options whereas the alcohol doesn’t.

Symptoms, signs and ill-defined conditions

For chronic conditions the VHA record is not stellar. For example, they strongly resisted recognition of such conditions as exposure to Agent Orange in Vietnam veterans. Veterans began to file claims in 1977 with the VA for disability payments for health care for conditions they believed were associated with exposure to Agent Orange, or more specifically, dioxin. However, their claims were denied unless they could prove the condition began when they were in the service or within one year of their discharge. It wasn’t until 1991 when Congress enacted the Agent Orange Act that gave the VA authority to declare certain conditions “presumptive” to exposure to Agent Orange/dioxin, making these veterans who served in Vietnam eligible to receive treatment and compensation for these conditions. Of course many of them were dead by then!

But by April 1993, the Department of Veterans Affairs had only compensated 486 victims, although it had received disability claims from 39,419 soldiers who had been exposed to Agent Orange while serving in Vietnam.

The effects of Agent Orange on veterans and their children is draining, debilitating, and sometimes disfiguring. Such conditions make it very difficult, if not impossible, for them to get or hold many jobs. And that says nothing about the time, energy, and money they have had to spend in getting the VA to recognize, let alone compensate them for these conditions.

A similar scenario has played out for veterans suffering from what is known as Gulf War Syndrome. Approximately 250,000 of the 697,000 veterans who served in the 1991 Gulf War are afflicted with a wide range of acute and chronic symptoms including fatigue, muscle pain, cognitive problems, rashes and diarrhea. There are also reports that Iraq and Afghanistan veterans of the current conflicts suffer from this syndrome. Clearly veterans with these conditions are going to have difficulty finding and holding a job.

The same game of delay, denial, and obfuscation appears to be playing out for OEF/OIF/OND veterans.

While these games are played employment prospects for these wounded warriors are dismal. And they frequently must wait months and often years to receive the disability compensation their service entitles them to. In the meantime they are often dependent on family and friends, if any, for food and shelter. And many simply become homeless.

Dealing with the Veteran Administration

Unless and/or until they can find a job and become self sufficient, timely support from the VA is critical. But it is difficult to find a veteran who hasn’t had problems dealing with the Veterans Administration. The first problem a veteran or their relatives face is finding the right branch among the three that they should be dealing with. Then, like in any good bureaucracy, there are forms to be completed. And fill out the wrong form or in the wrong sequence and it is usually back to square one.

One would hope that the Internet and a functional web site would alleviate many of these problems. So I tried it and when I went to download the veteran pension form I was led to I got this error message:

To view the full contents of this document, you need a later version of the PDF viewer. You can upgrade to the latest version of Adobe Reader from

For further support, go to

The reader will never guess that I tried to download the latest version of Adobe Reader only to find that is what was already on my machine (Mac with OS 10.10, Adobe Reader 11.0.10, January 3, 2015). It is these types of problems that drive technically-challenged users up the wall, and don’t make me too happy either. And this presumes the veteran has access to a computer and knows how and is physically able to use one.

Numerous other examples of this and many other problems might be given but to little purpose. The problems exist, they are common, and they are unworthy of a government agency of such importance.

Without the assistance of groups like the Disabled American Veterans (DAV) and Paralyzed Veterans of America, independent non-profit organizations, many veterans find it impossible to navigate through the VA bureaucratic maze and determine what forms need to be filed for what condition in what office or branch of the VA, with what documentation, when, and in what order.

A sad commentary on one of our government’s largest bureaucracies inability carry out even its simplest mission.

But the games don’t end there. Once the proper form is filed with the proper VA office the wait begins. One hears of routine delays of 2 to 5 years for disability determinations. Assuming the VA reviewer cannot find a reason to deny the application, and the disability is determined to be service related, a standard practice seems to be to award it with 0% monetary award. The veteran then has to file another claim for monetary award with current date, wait another couple of years for decision, with back pay only to date of second filing.

Should the initial claim be denied, as is reportedly routine, the veteran must then file an appeal and wait more years. It is not unusual to find Vietnam veterans still trying to get their disabilities recognized and just compensation from the VA.

Clearly the civil servants within VA offices are now in fear of their lives from such mad beasts as we. Veterans entering a VA facility are now scanned and searched. Even pocket knives are banned in case a “trained killer” goes insane and attacks an incompetent, pettifogging bureaucrat. Of course that approach ignores our bare hands, if they haven’t been blown off. Soon we may need to be handcuffed or placed in a straightjacket in order to enter what is presumably a public building dedicated to serving veterans. But the recent event at the VA Hospital in El Paso, Texas, suggests a more immediate problem may be their own employees “going postal.”

As noted above, a few arrests and veterans are homeless, but the VA hotline for homeless vets isn’t reliable. It takes time to get appointments, run through the rain dances, and frequently they have no means of transportation to the VA clinic or hospital. Often their only means of communication is through a free email account at a public library. It is little wonder then that vets often get pissed off and say the hell with it. Suicide is too often the final option for them.

We can and must do better!


It is tragic the way many veterans are treated both by their government and by many businesses. After WW II veterans largely built the most advanced and prosperous nation the world has ever seen. But overcriminalization by mindless legislators, who have passed an incomprehensible multitude of punitive mala prohibita laws, has now filled America’s prisons with more of our citizens and veterans than any other nation on earth.

Where the War on Drugs left off poisonous dogma by feminist ideologues stepped in to destroy the children, families, marriages, and lives of millions of veterans, e.g., see the Last Statement of Retired Army Sergeant Ball. Thus even those veterans who managed to find employment and reintegrate often found their lives destroyed.

With actions like the H1-B and similar visa programs it seems the Congress is actively attempting to prevent veterans and other Americans from finding lucrative positions.

Most disabled veterans seem to spend a lifetime fighting with the VA. Without the assistance of the Disabled American Veterans (DAV) and similar non-profit organizations many veterans find it impossible to navigate through the VA bureaucratic maze and determine what forms need to be filed for what condition in what office or branch of the VA, when, and with what documentation. A sad commentary on one of our government’s largest bureaucracies inability carry out even its simplest mission.

It is a lucky veteran who navigates the rocks and shoals enumerated here without going aground. And the anchor supposedly provided by the Veterans Administration is dragging.


Summary of symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) observed in local veterans:

  • Sleeplessness (probably the most common and the first thing one notices);
  • Dissociation from actual events and no memory of them is diagnostic;
  • Nightmares often accompanied by kicking, fighting, or choking a partner in one’s sleep and are much more persistent and disturbing than what Grossman and Christensen (2007, 2nd Ed., p. 156-157) call the Universal Warrior Nightmare;
  • Impotence in males;
  • Irrational anger or irritability accompanied by emotional or violent outbursts;
  • Anxiety and a need for unconditional control of almost every situation in order to feel safe;
  • Panic attacks and hyperventilating (veterans are known to put on their body armor in such cases);
  • Social withdrawal and fear of crowded places (often will not leave house or go shopping until early morning hours);
  • Difficulty concentrating, focusing, or remembering (short-term memory loss);
  • Hypervigilance often expressed as a fear of crowds and a need to do a reconnaissance before entering an area or building, e.g. Wal-Mart;
  • Flashbacks to the event(s); and
  • An exaggerated and often violent startle response.

For a comprehensive diagnostic description of post traumatic stress disorder see the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders DSM-5 pages 271-280.

To officially fall within the diagnostic guidelines the symptoms must last for at least a month.


About the author

Dr. Corry is a Senior Fellow of the Geological Society of America and an internationally-known earth scientist whose biography has appeared in Who’s Who in the World, Who’s Who in America, Who’s Who in Science and Engineering, among others, for sixteen consecutive years.

He has been doing research on domestic violence, particularly abused men, since 1997.

In 2008 he and former EJF Director Robert Alvarez began pushing for a veteran court in Colorado Springs. That court is now up and research continues on veteran arrests.

After service with 1 st Marines Dr. Corry became involved with the early space program in 1960, doing preflight testing and failure analysis on Atlas and Centaur missiles, including all the Project Mercury birds. In 1965 he switched to oceanography and did research at both Scripps Institution in San Diego and Woods Hole Oceanographic on Cape Cod. He has also taught geology and geophysics at two universities and worked as a research manager for a Fortune 500 company.

Among other pursuits he has climbed high mountains, been shipwrecked and marooned on an unexplored desert island, ridden horseback through Utah, Arizona, and Colorado, and enjoyed many other adventures during his long career.

Presently Dr. Corry is president and founding director of the Equal Justice Foundation.



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NCFM Member Naomi Evans 8th letter to Washington legislators re paternity fraud reform legislation… Hey, I lied, so what, it’s my right and the state should reward me, it’s only fair… Thu, 22 Jan 2015 02:27:23 +0000 liarDear Washington Legislators,

Last year, two fellow victims of Paternity Fraud joined my husband and I in giving testimony in support of Senator Angel’s bill re: Paternity Fraud in Washington State. There were also two bar attorneys from special interest feminist groups who testified in opposition to this legislation. It did not go unnoticed by us supporters, however, that there was a complete absence of testimony from those women who have committed Paternity Fraud.

In fact I would go so far as to bet money that there’s never been or ever will be a single instance of a perpetrator of Paternity Fraud testifying against this legislative reform, as such testimony would most certainly sound ridiculous and reveal these criminal masterminds for what they truly are. So, for the sake of shedding light on the female perpetrator side of the Paternity Fraud “equation,” I would like to share the following fictitious “testimonial” written by yours truly in an effort to expose what I believe to be the underlying opinions and views of these women who seek your support.

“My name is Jane Defrauder and I am here testifying on behalf of women, like myself, who have committed paternity fraud against men. I am asking my legislators not to support paternity fraud legislation as it would not be in the best interest of my financial goals. Of course I knew, like all women do, that it was a lie when I told my ex boyfriend several years ago that he was the father of my child. I knew there were a few other men who could likely be my child’s father because I was cheating on my trusting and stupid boyfriend with half of the college football team. But he didn’t know that, and I didn’t think he needed to know. He had a good future with a well paying job ahead of him. He’d certainly be able to provide for myself and my child; so I didn’t feel bad telling him this one little lie. He was the best man for the job and, after all, the laws are always siding with us women when it comes to reproductive rights. It’s like what Julia Roberts said in “Pretty Woman” something about “I say who and how much” right? If we decide we aren’t ready to be mothers, it is our right as women to get abortions when we want and to give up our babies for adoption—even without the father’s permission. The man is only a sperm donor, you know? It is our bodies that carry and grow our babies and we are the best parent to care for them because men are not really capable of loving their babies like mothers do; it’s simple biology.

I want to thank you law makers for helping me and my child by giving us welfare benefits on top of the child support that I am able to collect. These men who whine about paying too much support are lazy and don’t always work high paying enough jobs to cover all our expenses. And even though I lied to my ex boyfriend about him being my kid’s daddy, I want to assure you that I have never once lied about my income when applying for my welfare benefits.  In fact I want to tell you that I am very responsible when it comes to spending the welfare and child support checks that I collect from the “duped dad.” I provide well for my babies.  I make sure they get the best I Pads and cell phones that money can buy, and of course I buy lots of ramen noodles, soda, ice cream and DiGiorno frozen pizzas for my precious babies. Only the best that money can buy, you know? I hope that you Legislators can see how grateful I am for being allowed to get away with this kind of fraud, and that if there is any reform that would allow my ex boyfriend to end his financial enslavement to me, that it would certainly impact my current quality of life.  It would be an extreme hardship to be forced to find my child’s real father and to go back to work fulltime in order to financially provide for my own child. Honestly I get a little anxiety attack just thinking about breaking one of my manicured nails or having actual real life sweat come out of my pores if asked to do any manual labor job. I am certain my complexion would not withstand such hardship and that I would no longer be able to afford weekly visits to my dermatologist for laser facials. Such hardship for us crafty mothers should not be endured!

I fear the worst hardship if this law were to pass would be the possibility of having to face my child’s biological father, who most certainly will not like the fact that I essentially kidnapped his child at birth and have so far denied his right to be a father to his own flesh and blood.  And what about the animosity his family members will have toward me when they discover they’ve been denied the knowledge of and interaction with a grandbaby, niece or cousin? I simply cannot face these angry people or take responsibility for my actions when I first chose to lie to my ex. It would be far too devastating!

Now I know that these victims of Paternity Fraud keep talking about how their real kids are getting the short end of the stick, and how they can’t provide for them because they have to pay women like me, but I want to thank you law makers for continuing to put my kid’s needs above those other forgotten “real kids”.  I’m sure they will be fine because they have a mother and a father to provide for them.  Maybe those kids’ Mamas need to get a better paying job to make up for the short comings imposed by my monthly child support income.  And since we are talking about those other kids, I was hoping to ask you law makers if you could change the child support laws so that Family Court Judges will stop giving financial consideration toward these other genetic kids that my paternity fraud victim has to care for.  After all why should he get any consideration for those kids when my child was born first? If it hadn’t been for those kids, I would have gotten a whole $250 a month extra at my last child support modification hearing.

I would like to remind all you law makers that we live in a free country to do as we want and say what we want, and I was simply exercising my constitutional right to free speech when I told my ex that he was my child’s father. So if there is anyone to blame here it is the man who believed my lie about paternity and he should have exercised his right to free speech by asking for a DNA test when my child was born. As for any claims that the laws that protect women like myself are violating these men’s constitutional rights of due process or freedom from indentured slavery, I would say that these are just made up claims by men and they should just continue to “shut up and pay up” because that is their punishment for ever believing women like me.

Now that I have explained my view point and my reasons for committing various felonies over the last several years (such as perjury, kidnapping and fraud), I will close with a simple thank you to all those legislators who continue to support my crimes by holding these men accountable to thousands of non genetic children. May God have mercy on your soul.”

I hope you have all enjoyed this purely honest yet comedic depiction of a perpetrator of Paternity Fraud, and that its sarcasm and reality will help further your decision to support Jan Angel’s reintroduction of paternity reform in the 2015 Legislature pre-filed as SB 5006.

Yours Truly,

Naomi Evans- Bremerton (26th district)


NCFM NOTE: You can listen to the testimony before the State Legislative Committed here: . It starts at about minute 17:

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NCFM Chicago Chapter President Tim Goldich, “It All Balances Out—just four words, sounds simple, but it’s not…” Tue, 13 Jan 2015 16:24:37 +0000 it all balances out

Tim Goldich, Chicago Chapter President, at NCFM board meeting holding his STOP MALE BASHING cup.

The following essay, It all Balances Out, is the product of many years devoted to searching out the right words with which to deliver our message to the general public. I’m indebted to recent critiques for these words in red that I’ve added in an effort to better communicate with my fellow MRAs (I also use the term “masculist” as synonymous with MRA).

It All Balances Out—just four words, sounds simple, but it’s not.

It is, I believe, a phrase that best describes gender reality throughout history and it’s a phrase that might cause the modern-day MRA to, shall we say, raise an eyebrow. I’m well aware that men suffer comparison with women in virtually every measure of wellbeing. But I respectfully request that my fellow MRAs hear me out on this. What you’re about to read demonstrates a strategy for getting our message across to the mainstream. In part, it’s crafted for “straights,” those who’ve not taken the “red pill.” How do we reach them? How do we send our message in a manner that is at least relatively palatable to mainstream sensibilities? How do we penetrate the “lace curtain” in a manner that’s healthy and constructive? How do we move gender politics into a new and more evolved phase?

I present to you now, how I use the concept of It All Balances Out to further our cause:

It All Balances Out

it all balances out

By Tim Goldich

he underlying principle that pervades and unifies every aspect of my book can be expressed in a single word: Balance. In defiance, the book’s “radical” premise is simply this: in the benefits enjoyed and in the liabilities suffered, in the power and in the victimization, in the freedoms and the constraints, the good and the bad, It All Balances Out between Woman and Man—and it always has.

Historically, the gender system has certainly been less than perfect, inflicting injustices on both sexes alike. But these injustices have come out even. Ours has been an imperfect yet essentially balanced gender system, except for one thing—the highly imbalanced gender belief system. If I could, I would shift our entire gender belief system away from feminism’s MalePower/FemaleVictimization paradigm and toward a balanced gender paradigm.

As it stands, there’s an assumption of imbalance—an “imbalance” of power enjoyed by men and an “imbalance” of victimization suffered by women. That’s the story we make up, but that has never been more than half of the full story. The other half, the FemalePower/MaleVictimization half of the story remains obscure because . . . neither sex wants to hear it. Nevertheless, for every female complaint, there is a mirror-opposite male complaint. For every one CEO there’ve been many POWs. Hard/hazardous labor, battlefields, prisons, mines, the streets, the sewers—men have always occupied both extremes, the most and the least enviable positions on earth—the latter in far greater numbers than the former.

Imagine, if you will, a gigantic scale with love on one end of the balance beam and respect on the other:

This love/respect dynamic upon which gender balance pivots can be described in two brief statements:

Throughout history, both sexes have tended to respect men more than women.

Throughout history, both sexes have tended to love women more than men.

Feminism has effectively protested women’s lesser status in all things along the respect axis. Both sexes have listened and both sexes have done much to change the cultural environment in ways that promote respect for women. That men are less loved, however, may ring true from the outset yet be met with cynicism just the same. Both sexes receive the female side with empathy and the male side without empathy exactly because both sexes love women more and men less.

Hostility, when directed at women, is given a pejorative label—“misogyny.” We give it this very negative label because hostility toward women is forbidden. Arguably, our culture leans more toward misandry (hostility toward men). But few know this word misandry—a word that would condemn hostility toward men the same way the word misogyny condemns hostility toward women.

Our lack of love toward men is so pervasive as to be invisible, and we concern ourselves with it so little that we don’t even have a word for it.

This Balance I speak of is revealed in the following four key statements:

One: At birth, members of both sexes are assigned roles, socialization, and conditioning that facilitate and ensure a world in which men are more respected/less loved and women are more loved/less respected.

Two: Historically, men have been no more empowered to escape their biology, role, socialization, conditioning, and concurrent fate than women have.

Three: The two sexes, equally powerless and equally powerful, have plied an equal overall force of influence in the molding of our world, and are thus equally responsible for outcomes.

Four: Throughout history, the enormous consequences and vast repercussions suffered by women for being less respected have been matched in full by the enormous consequences and vast repercussions suffered by men for being less loved.

These four statements are key, because taken together they lead inexorably to the one key truth: It All Balances Out!

Last year, while at a Christmas Eve party, I was asked what my book on gender was on about. “It All Balances Out between men and women,” I said.

What balances out?”

“Everything,” I said, “the power, the victimization; the freedoms, the constraints; the joys, the sorrows; the good and the bad, the whole thing.”

So, there I was, trapped in the kitchen with a half dozen women all good naturedly ready to pounce. “I’m . . . going to go over there,” I said, pointing toward the dining room—a tactical retreat that drew a laugh. But, not long after, the hostess walked over and admitted, “You’re probably right.”

The truths of Balance stand in such direct contradiction to the official (feminist) gender belief system that they may be taken for an “outrage.” So it’s telling I think that, unofficially, these truths are so often met with a shrug. In my experience, prefacing a discussion on men’s issues with “It All Balances Out” is a good approach. It is an angle that is generally well received. And it gets my foot in the door in places that might otherwise slam the door on men’s issues. On a purely intuitive level, the truths of Balance ring true.

Balancing out the “official” gender belief system, that is my goal; that is what my book is all about. It’s about replacing “female-ism” with a new gender-neutral gender politics (what I’ll call “equalism”) that deals with the many and varied issues of women and men as mirror-opposites that balance each other. Only with this understanding can the gender politics of the future be built upon an even foundation.


So, this is how I use simple, intuitive language and imagery to introduce people to men’s issues. But, let’s pause here to field two predictable objections.

1) Some masculists will reject the notion that men are, or have ever been, more respected.

2) Both feminists and masculists will tend to reject It All Balances Out as simply “false.”

One masculist response reads: “Personally, I find the assertion of balance here defies two matters of pure reason. One, men are not and never have been respected. If anyone has been the beneficiary of more social respect, it is women. And two, the men’s movement serves a population of men and the women who love them who have seen first hand just how callous and brutal the imbalance really is.” So, let me address these objections one at a time. First, is it true that “men are not and never have been respected”?

From Plato to Caesar to Leonardo to Shakespeare to Bach to Einstein, there is a lineage of the Great Men in history. In a sense, being male, we are all enfranchised in that lineage while all women are disenfranchised. From relativity to evolution, psychoanalysis to modern art, for every cultural megalith, a man is named the “father.” Yes, women have been more loved. Men have kissed women’s hands and risen when they walked in the room. But, there was a lesser respect lurking behind all that adoration and it was revealed the moment a crisis occurred and there were problems to be solved. Suddenly, male intellect, competence, prestige; toughness, strength, and courage were sought and the women who took focus a moment before, fade into the background.

Even today, to the extent that women remain viewed as “women-and-children,” women remain disrespected. Why is that bad for us? Because Woman is powerful. The shadow side of her feminism is profoundly destructive. Only by respecting Woman as a full-fledged adult wielding enormous power can Woman be held fully accountable for her effect in the world.

Historically, men may not have been loved much, but men and masculinity were most definitely respected. Even so, the response to the above was: “But where you fail, and I must add miserably so, is that you confuse lies with good intention as being high-minded. Not the same thing. Rigorous pursuit of truth, even at personal expense, and even when it offends people, is the epitome of high-minded. The idea that women are born disenfranchised in a culture that will cut down droves of men in order to save a single one of them is not high-minded. It is a pure and simple lie.”

I know the truths of female privilege and male victimization as well as anyone, but the rigorous pursuit of truth is the very thing that compels me to also acknowledge the other half of gender reality, even at personal expense, and even when it offends people. Asserting that men have never been respected is the pursuit of victim, not truth. If it were true, if the gender deal Man entered into and engaged in for millennia was a deal that Man got nothing out of, if along with the bad the male experience contained no positives, we must conclude that Man was no better than a fool, a whipping boy, a sexual puppet. There’s been more to the male experience than being cut down in droves. From splitting the atom to landing on the moon, I happen to think that the male legacy is magnificent. Men went along with the deal because they got a lot out of it. Where the past is concerned, I’m willing to call it even.

But what of the post feminist present? Is It All Balances Out “a pure and simple lie”? Note that I prefaced the article saying, “I’m well aware that men suffer comparison with women in virtually every measure of wellbeing.” It all balances out EXCEPT for the highly imbalanced gender belief system. That’s not a small thing that’s HUGE. And later in the essay I go on about how feminism’s imbalanced MalePower/FemaleVictimization belief system sets in motion an anti-male cascade.

So, thinking globally/historically, there may be a difference in opinion, but there is no lie in stating that It All Balances Out (IABO). And, thinking currently, given the proviso of the highly imbalanced gender belief system (and the consequences of that imbalance) there is no lie in stating that, otherwise, IABO. But now it may seem that I’m only playing games with rhetoric. Why go on about Balance if it’s not currently “true”?

“If there is a single word that will define a sane future,” wrote Warren Farrell in the preface to my book, “it is balance.” To understand why I consider IABO to be the one gender truth to raise above all others, we must understand the value of the concept. How would a culture-wide understanding and perception of gender Balance solve problems and leave the world a better place? And, how might presenting our truths as the truths that go on the other end of the Balance beam, transform our truths into truths that the general public might embrace rather than reject?

It’s funny but, I’m often asked: If it all balances out, then what’s the problem? The assumption would seem to be that a balanced system is the same as a perfect system. But, as I see it, women suffer injustice along the respect axis, men suffer injustice along the love axis; these injustices may come out even (balanced), but they’re injustices all the same. So, a balanced system is not at all the same as a perfect system. There are many problems. But far and away the deepest problem lies in our failure to know and to acknowledge that It All Balances Out. This failure to perceive Balance results in the one overarching aspect of the gender system that is imbalanced, the gender belief system. Believing that Man has the power and Woman is the victim is one-sided, which is why it is false, which is why it’s poisonous. It is a gender belief system that maximizes victim, vindictiveness, and vengeance motives, which is why it’s a belief system that escalates the Battle of the Sexes.

The Battle rages, inflicting damages on both sides. The damages may come out even, but they’re damages all the same. So, again, a balanced system—especially when it is not acknowledged to be a balanced system—isn’t the same as a perfect system and it certainly hasn’t proven to be an entirely peaceful system. Understanding that It All Balances Out there remains much to be passionate about regarding gender issues and gender politics.

And, crucially, it’s also true that the kind of immature emotional rage that both feminism and masculism can provoke finds no basis of support within an It All Balances Out belief system.

On what legitimate basis will we resent our opposite sex for the various powers, privileges, and exemptions it enjoys when we know our own sex enjoys powers, privileges, and exemptions in equal measure? When we come to the realization that the costs each sex pays for their respective privileges are costs that come out even, there remains no legitimate basis for inter-sex envy and bitterness.

But the only way to perceive this Balance I speak of is to come to an understanding of the politicized perspectives of both sexes. With that understanding, Balance is plain to see. At that point a whole new gender-political space opens up allowing for a whole new level of maturity, forgiveness and fairness. Moreover, when we proceed from the understanding that It All Balances Out on the global level, then when we focus in on any specific instance of gender conflict on the individual level, we do so without the bias and emotional bile currently tending to poison love and respect and healthy negotiation between the sexes.

The Battle of the Sexes is like any other battle in as much as it is fueled by rage and righteousness. But, while other battles may be settled when one side defeats the other, because the sexes are so deeply intertwined, “when one sex ‘wins,’ both sexes lose.” For the Battle of the Sexes, the only win position is a draw. The Battle will only deescalate when the warring factions become willing to accept a balanced perspective. We give up rancor and resentment when we admit that what “they” did to “us” is balanced by what “we” did to “them.”

We acknowledge the wheel of complicity whereby Man exerts a force of influence upon Woman, and in turn, Woman exerts an equal force of influence upon Man. But we give up foolish blaming and take on accountability when we agree that—as is true of each of us as individuals—Man and Woman are really each their own worst enemies primarily responsible for creating their own predicaments. The predicaments of Woman and Man are different, but equivalent. The two ends of the balance beam need not be identical to weigh the same.

It All Balances Out is not an endpoint; it is a new and improved beginning. And a balanced system becomes a far more workable system from which to proceed when it is acknowledged to be what it truly is—balanced! Believing the falsehood that men have the power and women are the victims is the deep underlying problem. Proceeding from the knowledge that It All Balances Out is the solution!

Balance is something that may be espoused even as a matter of principle. It’s healthy. It’s an “olive branch,” a peace offering. It is a decision. It is a leap of faith. For both women and men, it is a constructive and magnanimous position from which to start anew. It is the only mindset that leads to the full restoration and preservation of love and respect between the sexes because it is the only mindset that combines the politicized perspectives of both sexes. It is, therefore, a gender-political structure offering real promise toward deescalating the Battle of the Sexes.

The future “ceasefire” in the Battle of the Sexes in favor of a cooperative era of Peace, Love, and Understanding between the sexes is the reward; and it is attainable, but not without extending ourselves. To reach a perception of Balance we must embrace the truths that are rejected, the truths that are missing, the truths of FemalePower and the truths of MaleVictimization, the truths that go on the other end of the balance beam.


By presenting our truths as the truths that go on the other end of the Balance beam, our truths become essential in furthering the goal of evolving gender politics and gender relations (by which we reduce inter-sex rage, resentment, and paranoia; strengthen families and increase father involvement). Should our truths be presented as truths that can bring about all that good in the world, then the general public is given a compelling reason to embrace our truths rather than reject our truths.

Also, within a Balanced gender belief system there can be no justification for females, and only females, having their own special “ism” (“female-ism”). Bereft of the MalePower/FemaleVictimization paradigm that sustains and legitimizes it, feminism cannot long endure.

With It All Balances Out (IABO) we get: a compelling presentation of our truths leading to the demise of feminism and a better world to live in. Yes, currently, Man may be the victim, but perhaps, in the big picture, that is not the most important truth to be emphasized. Within an IABO gender paradigm, there is a healthy sustainable wisdom and forward progress sorely lacking in a “men are the victims” paradigm. So long as we remain stuck in the acrimony of “my victim is bigger than your victim,” there can be no forward progress.

The MalePower/FemaleVictimization paradigm is our true enemy. Let us destroy it by replacing it with Balanced perspectives.

Only within a MalePower/FemaleVictimization (MP/FV) paradigm can feminists come to the bargaining table saying in effect: You men have everything, we women have nothing, so give us what you’ve got because that would only be fair. “Knowing” that men have the power, what else will society do but take power away from men, and give it to women? Knowing that women are the victims, what else will society do but extra protect and advantage women? And so, naturally, society requires Man to pour from his cup half “full” into Woman’s cup half “empty.”

Moreover, if women are the victim, what else can women be the victims of but men, the ones with the power. So, now we’re left with a story of Bad over-empowered men oppressing Good innocent-victim women: thus the MP/FV paradigm leads inexorably to the ManBad/WomanGood paradigm.

Believing that men have the power and women are the victims, men are bad and women are good, sends misandric “sparks” flying in all directions. Countless misandric “brush fires”—such as June Stephenson’s proposed Man Tax—are the inevitable result. Why not tax the “over-empowered,” “criminal sex”? What if believing that men have the power and women are the victims is the source of all our gender political woes? If so, wouldn’t a Balanced gender paradigm be the answer to our prayers?

Let us admit that no human mind can hold the entire female experience on one side of the brain, the entire male experience on the other, and claim to Know, with certainty, which side is lighter/which side is heavier; which is happier/which is sadder; more fulfilled/less fulfilled; freer/more constrained; which is “better”/which is “worse.” The reality of the Big Picture is a reality that simply cannot and will not support any such certainty. In its place, what you end up with is mere opinion.

Pull the camera back far enough, take in gender reality all over the earth all through history, and I believe that It All Balances Out is the one gender truth highest in both quantity and quality of truth. Nevertheless, the main objection to It All Balances Out is that it is not “true.” In the opinion of feminists it isn’t “true” because men have the power and women are the victims. In the opinion of masculists it isn’t “true” because women have the power and men are the victims.

Masculists currently have the better claim. But what if the dreadful man-stats and misandry all result from actions and attitudes society adopts in response to feminism’s MP/FV belief system? If so, then a culture-wide understanding and perception of this Balance I speak of, may be all that’s necessary in order to bring about balance because, in balancing the gender belief system, we balance out the one overarching imbalance from which other imbalances derive.

If social workers, teachers, police officers, judges, legislators, and politicians operated within a Balanced gender belief system, it seems reasonable to suppose that these professionals would do their jobs in a balanced way. It seems to me that, to a large extent, a culture-wide perception of gender balance in power and victimization will, all by itself, take us a long way down the path toward creating gender balance!

Currently, IABO may under represent the victimization of males, but it may also be the best way to remedy that situation. Besides, to render IABO consistent with the facts, I just add the caveat: except for the highly imbalanced feminist gender belief system. Also, as anyone who’s read my book knows, presenting the facts of female power and male victimization as the facts that go on the other end of the Balance beam in no way limits that presentation. I present an ocean of such facts.

But, facts only capture part of what’s true. If women are “winning,” if it’s really that pure and simple, then why is it that recently, and for the first time since such measures have been taken,[1] women’s happiness has sunk below men’s?[2] And how do we account for the overwhelming correlation whereby the most feminist cultures produce the least happy women?[3] I believe it’s because, “When one sex wins, both sexes lose.” It’s because internalizing victim is emotionally self-fulfilling.

I recently read a big thick book on Einstein. Like all the Greats of history, Einstein was male—and so am I. When I read about and dream about the top pantheon in history, I’m dreaming about others of my kind. To me, it’s one of the best things about being male. And no one can reach into my own inner experience and tell me that I’m “wrong” about that. In the debate over which sex is the powerless victim, part of that debate is objective and part of it is subjective. Even under current circumstances, IABO is not a “pure and simple lie.”

I have a dream. It is a hundred years from now and in my dream the history of gender politics goes something like this: At the midpoint of the 20th century, Woman channeled her immense power into a movement based on selfish, self-righteous, self-proclaimed victimhood. The damage her war cost was devastating. Man resisted the strong temptation to respond in kind. He did not escalate the battle. He waved his right to insist that it was he who was the primary victim. Instead, he stepped up, took a leadership role and in his wisdom, he steered gender politics directly toward a healthy, sustainable equilibrium. And we’ve been there ever since.

With little support and/or funding, we few MHRAs have done a heroic job of raising awareness. Our facts and truths are finally beginning to penetrate the “Lace Curtain”! But I think that, strategically, we could do better.

When we present the facts and truths of FemalePower and MaleVictimization as an end in themselves, we turn a lot of people off. Our goals would seem to be: proclaim men the victims and escalate the Battle of the Sexes. Naturally, those goals will tend to be ill-received. We MRAs have cause to be angry and embittered, but we don’t really want to oust Woman from victimhood’s center seat just so Man can sit there instead. And yet it can seem as if we seek to drag the profoundly entrenched MalePower/FemaleVictimization belief system all the way to the far other end of the ideological spectrum when the more doable task of dragging gender beliefs into the middle serves our purposes just as well. Out there among the “straights,” outside the grip of gender ideology, It All Balances Out rings true. But more than that, it rings healthy and hopeful. It’s an olive branch, a peace offering.

When asked, “How does it all balance out?” we’re invited to speak our truths just as we always have. But, because we opened with It All Balances Out, we cannot be dismissed as “victim mongers.” We present our truths within a framework that validates both sides and promises to bypass War and head instead down a path toward a brighter future. In so doing, we invite a more positive response.

IABO is not a magic pill, and there is room for disagreement, but I believe that what I’ve presented here at least has merit. And yet I’m told that, “any honest examination of history and current events will tell you that your particular message has passed its expiration date and is doomed the be ignored — for very, very good reasons.” While my message seems to resonate well with the general public, it sure does tend to emotionally trigger those on both ends of the gender political divide.

We’ve all had dealings with feminists. We’ve all learned to despise their intractable, intolerant, self-righteous victim-dictum. Feminist methods and mindset have proven highly effective, but to what end, and at what cost? What good is to “win” if by “winning” we become what we despise?

So, what will humanity do?—wait for the “right” time?—wait till all agree? Being a matter of opinion, the battle of MalePower/FemaleVictimization vs. FemalePower/MaleVictimization, feminism vs. masculism, can rage back and forth for a long time. But it cannot go on forever, can it? What must we endure and for how long, before we set victim and vengeance aside and finally, inevitably call it a draw? It is exactly because there can be no agreement and no certainly in these matters that we might as well be magnanimous about it. And we men might as well be the magnanimous ones because, while a perception of Balance can only fatally undermine feminism, we men have nothing to lose and everything to gain by it! So I ask, why not take a leap of faith, demonstrate a little gender generosity, and simply call it even?

The contest for Most Powerless Victim can have no victor and no positive outcome. A pox on it! Only by putting that toxic contest behind us can we move forward toward a more evolved phase of gender politics and gender relations.

If the MHRM truly wishes to effect constructive change and peaceful resolutions, I believe it would be wise to stand behind It All Balances Out as its first principle. To Men’s Issues Activists everywhere I say, let It All Balances Out be the banner that unifies us and keeps us on a healthy path. Whether present or distant, it is the inevitable future. What are we waiting for? There’ll never be a “better” time to declare Balance. The right time is now!


The approach to gender politics that I’ve outlined here is an approach that the men’s movement has never before attempted. Given proper exposure within the media, I think it could work for us in a huge way, and do so in a manner that future generations of men can look back on with pride.

The Detroit men’s conference attracted considerable media. Perhaps the next conference will do even better. Shouldn’t somebody use that podium to do more than preach to the choir? Shouldn’t that someone attempt to reach the attending press and their readers with a positive and hopeful message they might embrace? I personally would like to reach out with a healthy, appealing message that might bring the multitude on board with us. Bring the multitude on board with us, and we win. And if we win with a new and more evolved approach to gender politics, then everybody wins.

Thanks for reading – Tim Goldich

Author of – Loving Men, Respecting Women: The Future of Gender Politics

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[1]        “Global Gender Gaps: Women Like Their Lives Better,” Pew Research Center,, October 29, 2003.

Women are somewhat happier than men with their lives overall, according to 38,000 interviews in 44 countries conducted by the Pew Research Center for the Pew Global Attitudes Survey . . . Women’s greater satisfaction with life is pervasive in many of the less-developed regions of the world: in 7 of the 8 countries surveyed in Asia, 6 of the 8 nations in Latin America and all 5 nations in east and southern Africa. In particular, women are much happier than men in Japan, India, the Philippines, Pakistan and Argentina.

[2]        Betsey Stevenson & Justin Wolfers, 2009. “The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness,” American Economic Journal: Economic Policy, American Economic Association, vol. 1(2), pages 190-225, August.

By many objective measures the lives of women in the United States have improved over the past 35 years, yet we show that measures of subjective well-being indicate that women’s happiness has declined both absolutely and relative to men. The paradox of women’s declining relative well-being is found across various data-sets, measures of subjective well-being, and is pervasive across demographic groups and industrialized countries. Relative declines in female happiness have eroded a gender gap in happiness in which women in the 1970s typically reported higher subjective well-being than did men.

[3]        Douthat, Ross, “Liberated and Unhappy,” May 25, 2009,

On some fronts — graduation rates, life expectancy and even job security — men look increasingly like the second sex. But all the achievements of the feminist era may have delivered women to greater unhappiness. In the 1960s, when Betty Friedan diagnosed her fellow wives and daughters as the victims of “the problem with no name,” American women reported themselves happier, on average, than did men. . . . In postfeminist America, men are happier than women.

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