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Baumli, Francis, Ph.D. MEN FREEING MEN: EXPLODING THE MYTH OF THE TRADITIONAL MALE (1985, New Atlantis Press, 4 Ranch Lane, St. Louis, MO 63131). This anthology is by far the best introduction to the Men's Movement and issues affecting men as a gender. Includes articles (some as short as one page) by both activists and researchers. In fact, this is the only book that will introduce the reader to a "Who's Who" roster of people actively involved in the American men's movement. Subjects cover civil rights, health and interpersonal relationships. For the serious scholar there is a HISTORY of the Men's Movement which places in perspective most major points of view. The history covers the period from 1960 to 1985. For the casually interested, this book may be opened at any point and read with ease. It includes an index for those interested only in certain topics. Anyone joining the National Coalition of FREE MEN should read this book. (Return to the history file).

Pollack, William REAL BOYS: RESCUING OUR SONS FROM THE MYTHS OF BOYHOOD. (Random House, NY, 1998). William S. Pollack, PhD. (Psychologist), is the Codirector of the Center for Men at McLean Hospital/Harvard Medical Center. He has written a book for every parent of a male child. The proper understanding of boys by parents and community leaders is especially important in today's social environment, because a cloud of negativity surrounds them. We learn from Pollack that there is a code of boy behavior, --an unspoken "boy code" that teaches boys how to act and demands that they cover up their emotions. It doesn't take long to find out that being a boy these days isn't all fun and games. Pollack looks behind the stoic masks of modern boys as they struggle to cope with the mixed messages, conflicting expectations, and increasingly complex demands they receive from our evolving society. New research shows that boys are faring less well ...that many boys have remarkably fragile self-esteem, and that the rates of both depression and suicide in boys are frighteningly on the rise. Also on the rise are the incidents of boys blowing away their teachers and classmates in high school.

Coyle, C.T., MEN AND ABORTION: A PATH TO HEALING. (1999, Essence Publishing). If there ever was an exclusive "women's issue", abortion has to be it. The number of books which explore the male experience can be counted on one hand. Yet, for every abortion, a man was involved somewhere along the line. And it is not always an easy path that can be dismissed lightly. Somehow, in our culture, we treat abortion as the easy way out, like birth control. But abortion can be emotionally traumatic for women, AND for men. While it has long been known that abortion can be emotionally harmful for women, it is newsworthy that an entire book has been dedicated to helping men understand that their emotional pain following abortion is normal.

Farrell, Warren, Ph.D., THE MYTH OF MALE POWER. (1993, Pub by Simon & Schuster, New York, paperback edition, Berkley Publishers, NY). Farrell tells it like its is. What men want in this life is appreciation for the sacrifices that they make for women and children, but the appreciation has not been forthcoming, because of the influence of feminist male bashing. The reason to buy this book is because of its thorough documentation of issues and statistics. The underlying theme is the disposability of men: in the family (divorce), in the work place and in the military. It provides thorough documentation on such issues as: false accusation of rape, false accusation of sexual harassment, problems in the work place (affirmative action) and health (early life expectancy). The Myth of Male Power is more than interesting reading. Because of its extensive bibliography it is a working tool. Download an interview with Warren Farrell, Ph.D.

Driscoll, Richard, Ph.D., THE STRONGER SEX. (1998, Pub by Prima Publishing, Rocklin, CA). This book is subtitled: Understanding and Resolving the Eternal Power Struggles Between Men and Women. Why do women want to talk a problem through, while men just want to fix it? Why is it that women often want romance and conversation before physical intimacies, while men often want to get past it all as fast as possible? Understanding our strengths, weaknesses and differences is a way to resolve confict says Dr. Driscoll, who is a Clinical Psychologist. This book explores differences and points out ways to strengthen relationships.

Thomas, David, NOT GUILTY: THE CASE IN DEFENSE OF MEN, (Published by William Morrow, NY, 1993). This book is by the British ex-editor of the magazine Punch and is a book that most men need to read and all women should read. Written with great wit and wisdom, Mr Thomas has savaged the views that depict men as uncaring oppressive monsters. His book speaks for men, and to men, in a way that few others do by demolishing current stereotypical myths that bind both women and men into the destruction of current thinking behind the gender war.

He tackles all the difficult topics in the debate managing to present the most cutting and ruthless analysis in a manner that shows great and humane empathy for both men and women. To paraphrase, if Political Correctness blights your life like the red stripe through a tube of toothpaste then Not Guilty is the book that will move you. It is a call to men to caste off their fears of female disapproval, grow up and re-assert a moral authority, which is rightly male, for the benefit of men and women and their children.

August, Eugene, Ph.D., THE NEW MEN'S STUDIES. A SELECTED AND ANNOTATED INTERDISCIPLINARY BIBLIOGRAPHY, SECOND EDITION. (Fall 1994, Libraries Unlimited, P.O. Box 263, Littleton, CO 80160). This book is for libraries and the serious scholar. This work contains a listing of over 1,000 English-language books with a complete synopsis of each work. Works are arranged according to topical chapters including: men's rights, divorce and custody, health, careers, prisons, the military, and consciousness raising. Subtopics covered include: men in literature, art, sociology, single men, mid-life transitions, sexuality, and memoirs. A necessary catalog for anyone interested in or providing reference services. All material is indexed.

Goldberg, Herb, Ph.D., THE HAZARDS OF BEING MALE: SURVIVING THE MYTH OF MASCULINE PRIVILEGE. (1976, New American Library, New York.) Provides an easy-to-read overview of men's issues with an emphasis on the personal and emotional. The book talks about the impossible binds when trying to be all things to all people. Out of the many topics covered, one of the most important is sexual impotence. Each year thousands upon thousands of dollars are spent by men going to doctors and therapists to try and correct a problem with impotence.

Notwithstanding, that sometimes physical problems are the cause, psychological therapists most often assume that something is personally wrong with the man that needs corrected. Psychologist, Herb Goldberg, takes a more careful approach. He explains that impotence may be the result of a man's penis trying to send him a message he should listen to. In other words, impotence does not always mean that something is wrong with a man personally or sexually. The provocative insights offered by this work are sometimes credited with having started the men's rights movement. All material is Indexed.

Baber, Asa, NAKED AT GENDER GAP: A MAN'S VIEW OF THE WAR BETWEEN THE SEXES, (1992, Birch Lane Press, Secaucus, NJ) Asa Baber has been writing his monthly Men column for Playboy Magazine since April of 1982. (The column grew out of a nonfiction article he published in Playboy in 1979 called, "Who Gets Screwed In A Divorce? I Do!"). In 1992, a collection of ten years of Men columns called NAKED AT GENDER GAP was published by Birch Lane Press. Professor Eugene R. August says this about Baber's book: "...this collection offers feisty views on such matters as male bashing in U.S. society, the alliance of fundamentalists and feminists that denigrates male sexuality, the absence of men's studies on college campuses, and the importance of hanging tough as a divorced father whose ex-wife makes visitation difficult. Above all, Baber stresses the importance of strong fathers....Baber revels in controversy, skewering misandry with zest and wit."

Kipnis, Aaron KNIGHTS WITHOUT ARMOR: A PRACTICAL GUIDE FOR MEN IN QUEST OF MASCULINE SOUL, (1991, Jeremy P. Tarchwer, Los Angeles). Many men feel trapped by restrictive roles and jobs that just don't fit. Others are beginning to speak about their grief, their confusion, and their unrealized dreams. All are seeking new ways to express what it means to be a man in our time. Knights Without Armor, by Aaron Kipness, PhD., begins with an insider's description of a men's group that started as a Poker game and ended in discoveries that radically changed the player's lives. In their group the knights discuss: healing father-son relationships, creating better relations with women, learning to overcome workaholism, alcholism, and other addictions. They discuss: breaking out of the old stereotypes of masculinity, reclaiming ancient and scared masculine images and facing men's wounds and oppression. Click here to download an interview with Aaron Kipness.

Sommers, Hoff Christina, Ph.D., WHO STOLE FEMINISM: HOW WOMEN HAVE BETRAYED WOMEN. (Simon & Schuster, NY, 1994). This book would have been better subtitled, "How Women Betrayed Everybody". Sommers has created a lot of fuss, because she has publicly presented the well documented ammunition anyone needs to expose feminist lies. She further shows how these lies drag America into third worldism and fear. Her book picks up where John Gordon (above) left off many years earlier (1982). For a complete picture you should own both books.

27. Sommers, Christina Hoff, THE WAR AGAINST BOYS: HOW MISGUIDED FEMINISM IS HARMING OUR YOUNG MEN, (Simon & Schuster, June 2000) - Not since 1969 when Sociologist, Particia Sexton, wrote, The Feminized Male: Classrooms, White Collars, and the Decline of Manliness (Random House) has anyone been so critical of the school system on behalf of boys. Way back then educators were being warned that something was terribly wrong. Now Christina Hoff Sommers, Phd., a former professor of philosophy and currently a fellow at the American Enterprise Institute, is sending out the warning that boys are having major problems in school that must be addressed. Sommers is known for her meticulous research and attention to detail with respect to gender issues.

Pearson, Patrica WHEN SHE WAS BAD: VIOLENT WOMEN AND THE MYTH OF INNOCENCE (Viking Press, NJ, 1997). Alarmed by the number of violent women who later claim their behavior was accidental or caused by abuse? Patricia Pearson, a crime journalist who has written for Harper's and other magazines, decided to study current notions of female aggression and uncovered some stunning statistics. Women commit the majority of child homicides in the United States; an equal or greater share of severe physical child abuse; an equal rate of spousal assault; about a quarter of child sexual molestations; and a large proportion of elder abuse... The rate at which infants are murdered by women in the U.S. is higher than the rate at which women are murdered by men. Pearson is particularly disgusted with the FBI tenet that "there are no female serial killers". When She Was Bad considers two different issues: (1) how we see violent women--that we either excuse their behavior with a "syndrome defense" such as battered woman syndrome, or else see them as the passive partners of violent men; (2) how we see aggression itself--that we perceive it as physical and blatant, thus missing the ways in which women more commonly use verbal assaults and indirect strategies. NOTE: The graphic shown is not part of the book jacket or any promotion by the publisher.

Mayer, Adele WOMEN SEX OFFENDERS: TREATMENT AND DYNAMICS (Learning Publications, Inc., 5351 Gulf Drive, PO Box 1338, Holmes Beach, FL 34218, 1992 telephone (941) 778-6651). This book is important for a number of reasons: It is easy to understand and is short. Only 92 pages of text. It is thoroughly documented so that the reader can embark on further research of their own. It comes with a glossary of terms. It recognizes that males can be sexually victimized and even raped. It maps out who female victimizers are and explains what victims should do. Victims, especially male victims, should know that they are not alone. There has been little funding for and academic interest in male victims of sexual abuse, especially by females.

Kammer, Jack, GOOD WILL TOWARD MEN: WOMEN TALK CANDIDLY ABOUT THE BALANCE OF POWER BETWEEN THE SEXES (St. Martin's Press, NY 1994). This book consists of interviews with 22 well known and prominent women in journalism, industry, education and social services. The consensus is that men, today, are getting screwed by the excesses of feminism. This is an extremely well written book that articulates men's issues from a uniquely female point of view. All manner of topics are covered including affirmative action, battered husbands, expectations of the male, etc.

Schenk, Roy, PhD., Everingham, John, PhD., Click here to order through Amazon.com:MEN HEALING SHAME (1995, Springer Publishing Company, NY) - The most recent edition of this book is available on CD only from the publisher. $16.95 includes shipping in the USA. Write: MPC-BEP Press, PO Box 259141, Madison, WI 53725. The power that women exercise in society is that of moral superiors of men. The result for men are feelings of shame and guilt. Men Healing Shame explores the social and cultural causes of shame in men's lives. Men Healing Shame is an anthology that contains the works of prominent psychologists and such men's movement spokesmen as Robert Bly, Tom Williamson, Francis Baumli, PhD., and Jack Kammer.

Amneus, Daniel, Ph.D., THE GARBAGE GENERATION. (1990, Primrose Press, 2131 South Primrose Ave., Alhambra, CA 91803). This book was written by an "avowed" conservative and often leaves "liberals" with their mouth open. Unlike liberals, Amneus talks in terms of maintaining a system of sex discrimination (as do all conservatives). Unlike other conservatives, he insists that we hold women to certain standards, where, if the standards were violated, there would be consequences (legal or otherwise). Amneus argues that society must control female sexuality and that it has a greater stake in doing so than in controlling male sexuality. He maintains that the breakdown in traditional family results from uncontrolled female sexuality. He shows, further, how the break down of the traditional family has contributed to drugs, crime, lack of productivity and the decline of education. The preservation of the traditional family is the solution to many of our social problems and the way to insure it is to 1)- Guarantee father custody if a marriage breaks up and 2)- To place societal controls on female sexuality. In other words, a woman's body is not her own. The research and documentation is spell-binding. He includes over 70 pages of annotated references. Another arguement for patriarchy is a book by Robert Lindsey; Cheney, Jr., called, "SUFFERING PATRIARCHY: An Analytical Exploration into the Promise of the Forbidden Planet" (University Press, New York, 1999). This book can be read online for free. Just click on the title.

Bly, Robert, IRON JOHN: A BOOK ABOUT MEN. (1990, Addison-Wesley Publishing Co., Inc., New York, NY). This book uses the fairy tale of Iron John as a frame work for explaining: 1)- The roots of male experience, 2)- Contemporary social change and the reasons why men have only played a passive role in it, 3)- Societal disintegration resulting from the passivity of the male and 4)- The path men must take in order to restore a balance to the ecological nature of our social relationships. Bly also draws on psychology and literature as well as an abundance of other mythological tales to make his points. IT WORKS. The book is the first about men to make it to the New York Times best sellers list. Note, however, that the book is written in a cryptic fashion.

Cook, Philip W., ABUSED MEN: THE HIDDEN SIDE OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE (1997, Greenwood/Praeger Publishing, Westport, CT). This is the first book ever published about men physically abused by women in a relationship. It has drawn praise from a diverse spectrum of readers from popular advice columnists to some of the nations leading domestic violence researchers. The book contains essential information about all types of domestic violence based on unbiased data. There is a self-help chapter for men currently caught in the domestic violence trap, as well as information helpful to men who have experienced the problem in a prior relationship. It is a necessary resource for all who seek to change public attitudes.

Lynch R., Frederick, INVISIBLE VICTIMS: THE CRISIS OF AFFIRMATIVE ACTION (Praeger, New York, 1991). How did affirmative action begin and what has been its consequences on males (both white and black)? Why has there been no backlash to this type of government policy? What has been the role of media? What is the new "McCarthyism"? These and other questions are answered. This is "must reading" for anyone interested in both economic and social issues affecting America. Also, follow up this reading with the February 15, 1993 issue of Forbes Magazine, WHEN QUOTAS REPLACE MERRIT, EVERYBODY SUFFERS, by NCFM 1998 award winner, Peter Brimelow.

Roberts, Paul Craig; Stratton, Lawrence M.; THE NEW COLOR LINE: HOW QUOTAS AND PRIVILEGE DESTROY DEMOCRACY (Regnery Publishing Company, Washington, D.C., 1995). Despite its title, this book is not about race, although race and gender play a role. This book is about politics. It is the history of the 1964 and 1991 Civil Rights Acts and the history of Affirmative Action. It is an important book in that it demonstrates how one form of racism and sexism was simply substituted for another in an America heavily influenced by Socialism. Please note that while racial issues are important, they are outside the mandate of NCFM. NCFM addresses the way *gender* issues affect men and boys.

Mazzeo, Rob; A MAN'S VIEWPOINT: VIEWING GENDER ISSUES THROUGH MEN'S EYES (Viewpoint Publishing, Providence, RI., March 1998). Rob Mazzeo a well versed broadcast journalist in the current events of gender issues makes the argument for equality for men. He looks at the way feminism has vilified men and how they have used this vilification to their own legislative advantage. If you are looking for the truth about wage gaps between men and women you will find the documentation here. A multitude of topics are covered including: sexual harassment, affirmative action, special laws benefiting only women, understanding male rage, military issues, media bias and more.

Vilar, Esther, THE MANIPULATED MAN (Pinter and Martin, Ltd., 6 Effra Parade, London SW2 1PS, England, 1998). This book is available from Amazon.com in the United Kingdom. Esther Vilar is back after nearly 25 years of silence. Vilar wrote one of the most scathing criticisms of feminism and a defense for men back in 1971. The original book, Der dressierte Mann, was translated into english in 1972. The translation included an additional chapter which singled out the American male as being the most manipulated in the western world. Vilar's work is well known to hardcore advocates of men's rights and has been something of a collectors item, bringing a premium price in secondhand book stores. Pinter and Martin has decided to rerelease the book. This is a window of opportunity that should not be passed up. There is no telling for how long this work will again be available. This work is NOT available from Amazon.com and has to be purchased direct from the publisher through the mail.

"Songs for Parents of Missing Children" was written and recorded by a father whose parental rights were abrogated by the gender-biased family court system. The songs alternate between vehement and poignant, yet each one is rendered intensely; the direct result of the artist having personally lived each song in real life.

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NOTE: In the considered opinion of NCFM, the three most important books on this list are: Men Freeing Men, The Myth Of Male Power and the Hazards of Being Male (in no particular order).

In the past there has been a lot of resistance on the part of publishers to produce anything that did not promote the feminist line. This situation was true for all authors whether male or female. Within the past few years some of this has started to change. We credit Robert Bly with opening these doors. Still, book shelves are not filled with works about men that talk from a purely masculine perspective. While a few authors are starting to gain prominence, many works have had to be privately published or have had to be salvaged by private individuals who wanted to preserve them. We want to thank Amazon.com for making as many works available as they have and for making available their Associates program to organizations like us.

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