False Accusations

January 11, 2009
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False accusations

Almost every week we hear of another man freed from prison after years of incarceration because the false accusations that sent them to prison were proven false.  Even if there is no conviction, a false allegation of sexual assault or rape can emotionally, socially, and economically destroy a person. Such accusations are a form of psychological rape that is not included in the traditional definition of “rape.”  And false accusations are not studied enough because it’s politically incorrect to talk about. Meanwhile the names of the accusers are often protected while the names of the accused are not.  False accusations are hard to measure and there is not much available research, but the existing research shows the problem is much more common than we are told…

False accusations of sexual assault are rape of a different color

The June 2014 article False Allegations in the U.S. Government, Published by AmericanAnalyst makes the case that we need to take false accusations much more seriously whether we as a society wants to or not. The article also shares links to reputable and revealing research. If you are interested in this topic reading this article is a great way to become more knowledgeable about the serious consequences and implications of false sexual assault and rape accusations.

The prevalence of false allegations are on the increase in the power corridors of the U.S. government. Written by a former Foreign Service Officer of the U.S. Department of State, this short article addresses the phenomenon from a historical cultural…

According to an expert quoted in the CBC News Story Below, “for a four-year period from 2003-2007, 31 per cent of sexual assault claims that Ottawa Police investigated were dismissed as unfounded — that is, they never happened — as opposed to unsubstantiated, where there isn’t enough evidence to follow the case.”

The claim that only 2% of rape accusations are false is totally unfounded and is purportedly based on FBI crime data (though we have yet to see this confirmed), and crime data is never a reliable source to project upon the population as a whole, as compared to empirical research.  But no matter what the numbers are, there is no excuse for the lack of attention to the problem.  Falsely accused persons are victims too, and to deny or downplay the experiences of those victims is an hypocritical form of victim-blaming.

Much more attention and research is needed in this area.   False accusers should be prosecuted (they rarely are) and face same punishment their accused could receive.  And the names of the accused should be protected as much as the names of the accusers.  For more, see The False Rape Society. http://falserapesociety.blogspot.com/

We should give men charged with rape anonymity and like the rare cases above charge their accusers and release the women’s names to protect the public.

False accusations of rape and sexual assault are very hard to measure. But the research ranges from about 9% up to 60%. Most likely it is somewhere in between and probably varies by location, time, and context.

According to the FBI (www.fbi.gov/about-us/cjis/ucr/crime-in-the-u.s/1996/96sec2.pdf), “The ‘unfounded’ rate, or percentage of complaints determined through investigation to be false, is higher for forcible rape than for any other Index crime. Eight percent of forcible rape complaints in 1996 were “unfounded,” while the average for all Index crimes was 2 percent.

But that figure is very conservative. It does not include false claims made to non-police entities like universities, or false claims that were never proven false and only get classified as “unsubstantiated.”

In a nine-year study of 109 rapes reported to the police in a Midwestern city, Purdue sociologist Eugene J. Kanin reported that in 41% of the cases the complainants eventually admitted that no rape had occurred. In a follow-up study of rape claims filed over a three-year period at two large Midwestern universities, Kanin found that of 64 rape cases, 50% turned out to be false. Among the false charges, 53% of the women admitted they filed the false claim as an alibi. Kanin, EJ, Archives of Sexual Behavior, Vol. 23, No. 1, 1994.

Dr. Kanin had previously been praised by feminists for his research on the frequency of rape. But his research on false accusations received very little attention.

study in India found 18% of rape accusations are false and are often “coached.”

In a study by the U.S. Air Force, about one-forth of rape accusers recanted just before taking a lie detector test or after failing one.  Further research found 60% of the accusations were false.  The most common reasons given were spite or revenge, feelings of guilt or shame, or to cover up an affair.  McDowell, Charles P., Ph.D. “False Allegations.” Forensic Science Digest, (publication of the U.S. Air Force Office of Special Investigations), Vol. 11, No. 4 (December 1985), p. 64. (see Center for Military Readiness article “Sex, Lies, and Rape” for an excellent discussion of false accusations).

According University of Ottawa Criminal Lawyer Blane Crew, “… for a four-year period from 2003-2007, 31 per cent of sexual assault claims that Ottawa Police investigated were dismissed as unfounded — that is, they never happened — as opposed to unsubstantiated, where there isn’t enough evidence to follow the case. ”

Moreover, a 1996 Department of Justice report shows that, “…in about 25% of the sexual assault cases referred to the FBI, the primary suspect has been excluded by forensic DNA testing. It should be noted that rape involves a forcible and non-consensual act, and a DNA match alone does not prove that rape occurred. So the 25% figure substantially underestimates the true extent of false allegations.   Connors E, Lundregan T, Miller N, McEwen T. Convicted by juries, exonerated by science: Case studies in the use of DNA evidence to prove innocence after trial, June 1996.

The myth that only two percent of rape accusations are false, often falsely attributed to FBI data, is not credible and has been debunked.  Greer, The Truth Behind Legal Dominance Feminism’s ‘Two Percent False Rape Claim’ Figure, 33 Loyola of Los Angeles Law Review 947.

Falsely accused men are disproportionately African-American men. Innocence Project: Facts on post-conviction DNA exoneration.

Feminist groups not only downplay the statistical reality of false accusations but have been eroding the due process rights of the accused especially on college campuses, such as by lowering the standard of proof to a mere preponderance of evidence, removing the right to challenge the accuser, and placing the decision in the hands of college administrators who will essentially wind up being very biased kangaroo court type “hearings.”

Many college men are now suing their colleges for kicking them out without a proper hearing. UPDATED: List of Lawsuits Against Colleges and Universities Alleging Due Process Violations in Adjudicating Sexual Assault Also see: NCFM Carolinas and AVoiceforMaleStudents websites for comprehensive information.

There is more of a false accusation culture than “rape culture” on campuses. The Duke Lacrosse players were kicked off their team, vilified, and mobbed at their homes before there ever any hearing.   They were lucky to have had enough money behind them to hire good attorneys. Most men do not. Brian Banks spent years in jail before his accuser admitted no rape occurred. These stories are the tip of the iceberg.

 Here are just a few sample stories about false accusations:

Here are just a few sample stories about false accusations:

Three years in prison for framing innocent man.

Four young men traumatized by false rape accusations.

Man released on rape charge after 22 years in prison.

6 falsely accused young men rescued by video of orgy directed by accuser.

Female rapists sentenced for rape and false accusation. And, her name was not released to the press!

Women falsely claims rape to justify lover’s attack on ex boyfriend.

17 year old boy released after false rape accusation.

Innocent man falsely accused of rape to win back lover.

U.K. judge jails “skillful actress” who falsely accused man of rape.

Four young men traumatized by false rape accusations.

Law school graduate convicted of found guilty of falsely accusing ex boyfriend of rape.

6 falsely accused young men rescued by video of orgy directed by accuser.

Innocent man falsely accused of rape to win back lover.

The Brian Banks story.

U.K. judge jails “skillful actress” who falsely accused man of rape.

No matter what the numbers are, there is no excuse for the lack of attention to the problem.  Falsely accused persons are victims too, and to deny or downplay the experiences of those victims is a hypocritical form of victim-blaming.

Much more attention and research is needed in this area.   False accusers should be prosecuted and face same or similar punishment their accused could receive.  And the names of the accused should be protected as much as the names of the accusers.  For more, see information at the False Rape Society.

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218 Responses to False Accusations

  1. BartonChristner on August 13, 2015 at 4:41 PM

    Why don’t laws like these below apply to VAWA and why isn’t VAWA written as VAPA (P= “persons”?). I was falsely accused (proven to be false) by Pam Geldart, yet despite costing the state tens of thousands from a proven false 911 call, responding officer’s, processing, overnight mandated “zero tolerance” one night incarceration, 6 week’s medical urine analysis, countless hours and private attorney time, state’s attorney’s review, a judge’s time, and the courts media recording/audio and stenography time, including processing, fees, paperwork, records keeping…. two months later to find an absolute lie, absolute proof of the lie, and proof the lie was a malicious, vindictive retaliatory lie… the false accuser simply gets a verbal reprimand, walks away, not even a fine?

    As the falsely accused, enduring the stress, the arrest, the system not caring whatsoever about the truth until two months later, the humiliation, the career damage, reputation damage, a permanent online mugshot from multiple extortionist websites EACH demanding $400 to take the image down (mugshots.com, florida.arrests.org, bustedmugshots.com, hiddenpasts.org, etc., EACH claiming all the while that they put mugshots up there to “warn neighbors and family” – despite that for large sums of money they take them down – how does that make anyone safe – so the wealthy can afford to “save their reputation online” but the poor cannot?), and in the end, much like this Virginia false rape allegation, the courts issue vanilla statements rather than an “INNOCENT” document… they provide a piece of paper with “NO INFO” written on it, which they claim is not an exoneration, but enough to drop one’s case… that’s it… that’s all you get for having been dragged through the ringer… like the police department’s in Florida… Virginia’s “suspended case” leaves the accused still in public opinion limbo … where is the “absolute exoneration”? Why isn’t the false accuser held to a standard of integrity?

    How come political correctness takes precedent over facts. The only remedy for the falsely accused, is civil court. And to the average citizen, would cost $5,000 to $30,000 to contract a lawyer, to sue an accuser, who might like Jackie herself, be unable ever to pay out any punitive, financial reward… rendering the civil process untenable. Even worse, after the fact the accused MUST describe what actually happened in order to explain to future employers, relatives, etc., but by laws that FORBID the falsely accused from mentioning the name of the false accuser? Get this: the name of the falsely accused is boldly printed on ALL THE PAPERWORK, shows up in ALL the legal computer files, on ALL mugshot websites appearing page one SEO Google, Bing, Yahoo when you type in the name of the falsely accused. .. yet the false accuser’s name? NOT MENTIONED ANYWHERE, crossed out of ALL paperwork, blanked out/silenced on ALL copies of recording’s of the 911 call, hidden from ALL views in the press, not permitted to be listed at ALL, and if the falsely accused does list the false accuser’s name, especially online as I just did here in this comment, the falsely accused (despite proven lies against him) remains COMPLETELY at risk of being charged with a civil “cyberstalking” restraint order … yep.

    The false accuser gets a COMPLETE FREE RIDE over and over again at the taxpayer’s FULL expense. The falsely accused pays thousands and thousands in defense, loses their reputation, loses hundreds of thousands of potential current and future career income, the damage is extraordinary, and yet here we have the falsely accused, because the false accuser faces no penalty, has their name stricken from all legal documents and media, and has a “civil cyberstalking” law they can invoke for mentioning their name as the false accuser, the falsely accused CANNOT EVER VINDICATE THEMSELVES (even when there exists multiple documents, audio and video PROVING INNOCENCE from the location and time of the actual falsely claimed event). The U.S. is failing it’s citizens. The falsely accused, the innocent, now by law are not permitted to mention the name of a false accuser without violating “new cyberstalking laws”… all of which harbor themselves under a GENDER SPECIFIC FEDERAL LEGISLATION… with a blatant “W” written in it …. it should be Violence Against “Persons” Act…. but it’s not. How many “men’s shelters” are in the U.S. today? What HR department wants now to deal with someone who has a mugshot online? Will they really care if the person was falsely arrested? Really? Just the arrest and the dozens of scam online mugshot websites posting a Googled by persons name to page one result, just the arrest then alone is enough to offer the public a chance to “publicly condemn” and destroy the career of the falsely accused for LIFE – it’s not about facts – but perceptions.

    Our legal system is falling apart, good people’s lives, their careers, their children’s support… are being absolutely devastated by this skewed LEGALLY ACCEPTED and often encouraged (by lawyers) falsified gender-based, slanderous false witness (as a tool in custody disputes, divorce, etc.) Why not? There exists no reason for a false accuser to fear ANY consequence for wicked lies… Consider this…. the concept of “He’s a Witch!” is rampant now in America’s public media, continued commentary and sadly, systemic now in our own courts – in fact – processing false allegations is a huge financial gain for most jurisdictions (receiving increased federal funds for increases in arrests) and state’s attorney’s look great when they spend that money on larger shelters and advertise their higher arrest numbers to a voting public… “tough on crime” and “zero tolerance” … and everyone thumps their chest, “be happy you got ‘NO INFO’ and were cleared, hey, it just proves the system worked”… but look at UVA, the Greek system, the President, Rolling Stone… the system is NOT working. Not at all. I encourage anyone to view this 20/20 expose posted at this website here: https://vid.me/Gyx

    The 2014 Florida Statutes Title XLVI CRIMES Chapter 837 PERJURY View Entire Chapter 837.05 False reports to law enforcement authorities.—(1)(a) Except as provided in paragraph (b) or subsection (2), a person who knowingly gives false information to a law enforcement officer concerning the alleged commission of any crime, commits a misdemeanor of the first degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082 or s. 775.083. (b) A person who commits a violation of paragraph (a) commits a felony of the third degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082, s. 775.083, or s. 775.084, if the person has previously been convicted of a violation of paragraph (a) and subparagraph 1. or subparagraph 2. applies: 1. The information the person gave to the law enforcement officer was communicated orally and the officer’s account of that information is corroborated by: a. An audio recording or audio recording in a video of that information; b. A written or recorded statement made by the person who gave that information; or c. Another person who was present when that person gave that information to the officer and heard that information. 2. The information the person gave to the law enforcement officer was communicated in writing. (2) A person who knowingly gives false information to a law enforcement officer concerning the alleged commission of a capital felony, commits a felony of the third degree, punishable as provided in s. 775.082, s. 775.083, or s. 775.084. History.—s. 57, ch. 74-383; s. 34, ch. 75-298; s. 206, ch. 91-224; s. 5, ch. 97-90; s. 1, ch. 2013-117. Exceptional points and the U.S. Department of Justice, citizens of the U.S., in particular those trapped under false allegations beneath the weight of a GENDER SPECIFIC FEDERAL MANDATE called VAWA (that should be called VAPA where P= “persons”) absolutely cannot ever vindicate themselves. mugshots.com, bustedmugshots, florida.arrests.org takes the “zero tolerance” arrest now, investigate later mugshot, plastering them all over the Internet (extorting $400 each website to take them down, only to pay, and they pop right back up) they show up on page one SEO Google, Bing, Yahoo search engines, suppressing an individuals otherwise stellar, hard working career efforts, polarize family, friends, and especially HR departments against a perception of liability and risk, destroy careers, prevent children from receiving a parent’s care taking ability, and create an emotional collapse of people who once believed hard work meant something… the destruction of a legally permission false allegation, the accused has their name plastered on ALL DOCUMENTATION, reports, audio of 911, etc., while the false accuser’s name is stricken from the public record???? NOT MENTIONED, NOT POSTED, NOT LISTED, BLOCKED OUT OF 911 RECORDINGS.. there exists NO PUBLIC RECORD OF THE FALSE ACCUSER. In short a false accuser walks away unscathed, while the accused suffers tremendous fall-out for LIFE… THE INTERNET NEVER FORGETS. Wake up America. It is a Totalitarian legal precedent, and very dangerous… it’s a “He’s a Witch” trial… and it’s only just begun.

    Studies very wildly (probable due to different confidence levels used), so it’s hard to say what the actual % is, but suffice to say its significant enough to be an issue .

    New York Rape Squad (1974) n/a – 2% …………. Hursch and Selkin (1974) 10 out of 545 – 2% ………….. Kelly et al. (2005) 67 out of 2,643 – 3% (“possible”) 22% (recorded by police as “no-crime”) …………. Geis (1978) n/a 3–31% (estimates given by police surgeons) …………. Smith (1989) 17 out of 447 – 3.8% …………. U.S. Department of Justice (1997) n/a – 8% …………. Clark and Lewis (1977) 12 out of 116 – 10.3% …………. Harris and Grace (1999) 10.9% (“false/malicious” claims) 25% (recorded by police as “no-crime”) …………. Lea et al. (2003) 42 out of 379 – 11% …………. HMCPSI/HMIC (2002) 164 out of 1,379 – 11.8% …………. McCahill et al. (1979) 218 out of 1,198 – 18.2% …………. Philadelphia police study (1968) 74 out of 370 – 20% …………. Chambers and Millar (1983) 44 out of 196 – 22.4% …………. Grace et al. (1992) 80 out of 335 – 24% …………. Jordan (2004) 41% (“false” claims) 38% (viewed by police as “possibly true/possibly false”) …………. Kanin (1994) 45 out of 109 – 41% …………. Gregory and Lees (1996) 49 out of 109 – 45% …………. Maclean (1979) 16 out of 34 – 47% …………. Stewart (1981) 16 out of 18 – 90% ………….

    • NCFM on August 16, 2015 at 9:13 AM

      Great post, and not only do studies reveal wildly different conclusions, both the San Diego District Attorney Bonnie Dumanis and once Family Court Supervising Judge Lorna Alcski (sp) have said the “Everyone one lies in court.” If you really want to help turn the tide and someday smile when you heard that false accusers are being held accountable, well… join NCFM.

  2. bea on July 28, 2015 at 1:31 PM

    A grudge&vindictive anger from pastor david hammonds of Dream Center had been boiling from back when Masters Commission transfered2Dream Center!HAMMONDS daughter persued BARRAL@that point David Hammonds threaten 2break both of Barrals knee caps with a baseball bat if he persued his daughter.Barrals response (like every other 16-17 yr old teen n US)”u’ll have to catch me 1st!” The hate&vindictive anger just boiled til opportunity arose&Hammonds chose2lie3destroy a hard working,happy family with a LIE&involve coaching a child!all of this to satisfy a vindictive hatred4Barral!An innocennt responsible hardworking family man that has never even ditched School,destroyed with 2lies!He lost his house,job,cars,wife-(hammonds daughter)!!!DA’S office trying every plea agreement possible-using get out now-just take a title of child molester!HELL NO! He’d rsther go to prision than take the blame for something he didnt do!Barral never been in trouble,His life led by God,faith verystrong!than to succum to the evil consumed by father n law!refused2go2their wedding-forbid mom to go!.refused to allow grandpa to pay for their wedding

  3. kenneth pittsley on April 28, 2015 at 9:06 AM

    i am despreate i need help i am being acussed of abuse harassed and followed by
    some waa group please can you at
    least point me in the direction to find help

  4. Dianna Deshazer on March 27, 2015 at 9:43 PM

    My Friend Brian sit’s In Prison For Non – Aggravated Assault. He Served Our
    Country & Saw War Time, He came Home With P.T.S.D.
    In 2012 He Moved His Girlfriend Here From Denver Colorado. A week After She Moved
    In She Told Brian He Needed To Stop Taking His Medication for P.T.S.D. she called him a really foul Name & told him that it’s messing with his head.He loved her
    so Much & figured she was right . He stopped taking his Medication. Brian’s Not
    Violent while He’s Awake, Only When He sleep’s when He’s not on his medication.
    3 week’s later Brian caught her bring in large boxes of Meth & Heroin, so he had no
    choice but to make her leave. she moved in with Brian’s Best Friend Paula who Take’s in People who have no place to go. A few day’s later Brian Called Me To ask what he
    should do? He said He had went over to Paula’s Home To Help Her Out With Plumbing
    Issue’s & His Ex cornered him & Asked him for $5,000.00 she would not tell him
    what for. I told him No, because once He start’s giving her large sum’s of money, She
    will never stop asking. A few More Day’s pass Brian Call’s Me Again and tell’s Me
    She want’s to have sex with him. I saw a really big Red Flag. I told him Don’t give
    Her Money, Don’t Have Sex with Her & Don’t Let Her Back into Your Home. He got
    a little testy with Me Because He was Really Tired from Having War Nightmare’s,
    which caused us to have word’s. I called Him The Next Night to tell him to call
    someone else who care’s, if he’s not going to listen to My Warning’s. I never got the
    chance. Brian Answered and said ” Hold On DI .” I heard a women’s voice say ”
    Brian are you gonna give Me that $10,000.00 I need to Pay That Guy Off ?” Brian
    Replied ” F**k No I Ain’t Giving You Jack S**t Bi**h ! ” I then heard the women say
    ” You can ether give Me the Money or I’m Going to call The Police & Tell Them You
    Raped & Beat Me ! ” Brian Said ” There Not Gonna Believe a word You say.”
    about 40 sec later I heard Brian’s patio glass door slam open and then slam shut.
    Brian was walking back & forth using every cuss word under the sun, Even a few
    That would make a Sailor Blush. I then Heard Police Siren’s Blaze. Brian Got Back
    On The Phone with Me and Asked if I heard all of that. I confirmed That I did.
    Brian was arrested and spent 4 night’s in jail. I called Brian’s Home 2 Day’s Later
    Thinking He Might Be Home. That same women answered I asked If Brian Was
    There and The women said ” No! and don’t ever call back. Brian got home from
    Jail Walked into his home and it was tore up from top to bottom. I learned That
    the night he was arrested his Ex Had claimed to the police that he had raped & beat
    her and she also refused Medical Transport to the Hospital. She had left and then
    later came back busted into his home, stole his truck key’s and drove herself to
    the hospital after picking up a friend of her’s, had a rape kit done. Drove back to
    Brian’s home and called Paula from his home phone told her that she would be
    spending a few night’s at Brian’s home. She threw a great big party, all the people
    living around Brian complained about it. 28 day’s later she went to the police
    Station Made a Statement Then In Fed of 2013 she had a Restraining order filed
    Against Brian,A year & 3 Month’s later Brian was Charged with Assault Causing
    Bodily Injury / Family Violence. Brian Lost His Father in January Of 2013 and a year
    and 4 month’s later Brian’s Mom was in the Hospital Dying. Brian Still Not On His
    Medication The District Attorney Pressured Brian into signing a probation deal, even
    Telling him He could serve 30 years in prison if he lost his case in Court. His
    Attorney who was also a Former Judge, Who Know’s Everyone In This Small Town
    In Hilltop Lake’s Texas There all fishing Buddy’s Also Pressured Brian By Backing Up
    The District Attorney. Brian Had to sign onto The 6 Year Probation, 500 Hour’s
    Of Community Service, Anger Management & Substance Abuse Class’s. Brian
    Meet every Requirement Except for a few Hour’s of Community Service 6 hour’s
    Left. Brian Went to His Best Friend’s Paula’s Home in Oct of 2013 After Serving
    12 hours of Community Service To Help With Dumping Her Old washer & Dryer
    That Stopped working and replacing it with New one’s (Paula Has C.O.P.D. and is
    on ox ) ( Brian’s Ex Had Moved out of Paula’s Home in January of 2013) But Paula
    Was Friend’s still With Brian’s Ex and a few friend’s of Brian’s Ex. Brian was stopped
    on his own road on the way Home,The Police Office said it smell’s like you have been
    Drinking and The officer Gave Brian a Breathulizer Test Brian Passed it. The Officer
    Still Arrested Him telling him that the breathulizer Test was not accurate and that
    they will have to use the Machine’s at the station to get an Actual Reading. The
    Police station’s Machine’s did not work. Brian spent over night in a jail cell and was
    not charged with D.U.I. Brian Had to call his layer & Probation officer Brian was
    Charged with D.U.I. 2 month’s later and had a Court Date set for Sept 2014
    But It was Canceled By The Court. A Warrant Was Issued For Brian’s Arrest In
    Nov of 2014 and a Probation Revoke hearing was set for Jan 27 2015. Brian Turned
    Himself in, Like every time He was charged. Brian still Not On His P.T.S.D. Medication
    was told by the District Attorney’s Office That if He did not Sign a 5 Year deal In
    Prison, The Judge Is More then Likely going to Sentence Him to 20 Years and
    when He Get’s out of prison He will Be forced to register as a sex offender for the
    rest of his life. Brian Never maid it to his revoke hearing Because He was told to
    sign the deal on Friday January 23 2015 by his layer. Then After He signed the
    deal and they failed to explain the term’s of the deal, The Jailer’s & Inmate’s got
    Scared Because He started Having War Nightmare’s Again and The Sheriff Had
    To Beg To Have Brian Put Back on His Medication. Brian Called Me and while we
    were talking He asked Me Legal Question’s #1. Can He Appeal His case? I told
    Him What a Friend of Mine Had Told Me. Fire His Old Attorney and Hire a Competent
    Criminal Attorney, Have The New Attorney file the paperwork contesting the validity
    of the term’s of the deal. Brian I found out Had Been told by his layer & the District
    Attorney’s that he could not Appeal his case period even before He signed This
    5 years Deal. In Fact Both His Layer & The D.A. Had told him that there was no
    chance in hell at any point that he could ever appeal his case. I talked to his
    Layer, Brian asked Me To contact his Layer and ask him to call the jail Mr. Sillas
    Bolt Up and Told Me That Brian will Never Be Able To Appeal His case and that
    He don’t know who the hell is feeding Brian That Load of Crap.
    I set out to find more information everything I could find. I was Disturbed to Find
    Out That This Ex – Girlfriend Michelle Shanahan Owen’s Has A pattern of of using
    violence Against Women as a way to get a really big payday. She Just did it again
    same story and Man # 2 also served his Country and came home with P.T.S.D.
    Also while looking up information on Michelle I found out She study Criminal Justice
    at Park’s Business School ,Denver Colorado 2004 – 2010 she wrote 3 thesis all that
    ad lines with every False Claim Against Men. What will it take for the Justice system
    to open up there eye’s? A Judge Being Falsely Accused of Rape & Abuse Because
    I’m Female and I’v Been Beaten & Raped for real, I’m willing to test that theory.
    It appear’s That District Attorney’s could care Less about our Soldier’s coming
    Home with P.T.S.D. yet they spew there propaganda about they support the troop’s.
    also I’v Noticed in every False Claim Made Against Men. The District Attorney’s
    Office Dose Not Investigate any of the claim’s made Against these Men, It’s Like
    A women Can Just Say it and it make’s it Fact no evidence Required. I’m passed
    pissed off,To the point I willing to talk to My Family Member’s on The Key Side
    and Striping The United State’s of My Great Great Grandfather’s Song Sir Frances
    Scott Key ( National Anthem ) Because once we start allowing American Solider’s
    easy Mark’s for Women Like Michelle Shanahan Owen’s America Has Lost it’s
    True Freedom.

  5. Jeff Luteyn on February 27, 2015 at 12:11 PM

    My career has been ruined by women who use ‘sexual harassment’ charges to deal with men who have professional disagreements with them. Seen it time and again, and my g-friend and other women admit that it is the easiest way to get rid of a fellow male employee.
    Latest incident resulted included accusations of stalking and rape, coupled with other easy to disprove charges, simply because I made mention of a sign posted on this women’s office wall: “No men allowed, signed the PE Princess”. It seems that I had no right to comment on this even tho I had to pass that sign daily. Now I am a stalker.
    Anyone know a male attorney willing to try and defend MY rights to have these charges removed from the dismissal form on my personal file???

  6. kenneth w burris on February 11, 2015 at 1:37 AM

    My name is kenneth burris i am being falsely accused of rape in the state of arkansas i just bonded out of jail on a $40,000 bond i sat in jail for over four months and did not have one visit or phone call or letter from my public defender also i wasnt able to get to vital evidence being incarcerated. When i made bond i immediately was given a court date and they already had a plea of 45 years in prison and my heart literally stopped i figured since i was innocent this would not go anywhere well i was “wrong ” they are convicting me on pure accusations its just so wrong i dont know what to do but pray and put it in gods hands. I have evidence but my public defender refuses to see it until a week before my next plea date also he says this is his first rape case hes handled and already is preparing me for the harsh reality that im going to prison on false accusations please any advice or help would be greatful.burriskenneth33@yahoo.com

  7. wendell m.k. ignacio on September 24, 2014 at 8:35 PM

    I’ve been the victim of pre trial provockation in other words my x was putting all of her personals while her x boyfriend was coming over!! treid to get me for child support $1,000.00 per month just like an relationship annuity had me audited while the neighbors the only ones that were her friends filed tro charges & faulse allegations of sexually assaulting their juvenile daughter making faulse reports and notice the father of the neighbors, the owner of the house the son inlaw was dealing methamphetamine while my mortgage payments fell behind I lost my job. the father that owned the house next door was “JUDGE DANEIL HEALY” who increased my bail 100% on every occasion he could even after finding ou all the facts /pluss welfare fraud / the son in law was the one that the state picked up the charges on yet no recompensation from “JUDGE DANEIL HEALY” or any of these so called judicial previlladged fuck holes to date iv lost $2million dollars my sanity it seems that if your dads a judge you can go around making other peoples lives a fuckin living “HELL” looking for support gonna take um down my name is “KA-ULA” iswear to defend liberty till its death or mine remember when liberty dies none shall ever find it again, never!!!! Jazzinroll@yahoo.com

  8. Dragon on February 18, 2014 at 8:27 AM

    I need to find legal help for a man accused of sexually abusing his ex-fiance’s 9yearold daughter. I believe that the child’s family is behind this and he needs to be cleared of this. I don’t believe that his public defender will have his best intrest at heart because of stories I have heard. Even the mother of the child doesn’t believe he raped her daughter. I need to find help from a lawyer that wont require much up front to help. The mother is tarrified that he will be convicted for something that her family may have coached her daughter into saying. She is also tarrified that if she stands up for him, that she will lose her children because the state believes he is guilty.

  9. Marc Angelucci on October 26, 2013 at 9:24 AM

    Even the FBI, which only collects data from police agencies on the number of rape claims they found to be false, says 8% of rape claims are false. The report says: “As with all other Crime Index offenses, complaints of forcible rape made to law enforcement agencies are sometimes found to be false or baseless. In such cases, law enforcement agencies “unfound” the offenses and exclude them from crime counts. The “unfounded” rate, or percentage of complaints DETERMINED THROUGH INVESTIGATION TO BE FALSE, is higher for forcible rape than for any other Index crime. Eight percent of forcible rape complaints in 1996 were “unfounded,” while the average for all Index crimes was 2 percent.”

    http://www.fbi.gov/about-us/cjis/ucr/crime-in-the-u.s/1996/96sec2.pdf

    That figure is conservatively low beause most fale rape claims do not get found to be false, they only are found to lack evidence. So that 8%% figure, although significant,, is the tip of the iceberg.

  10. Ken Hollander on August 31, 2013 at 9:19 PM

    Regarding qualified potential financial donors to your organization and causes.

    If David J. Glass ESQ, PHD is not already a current donor towards your organization, it may because he has been spending much of his time throwing catered parties and attending Laker games. Maybe a solicitation on your part may help him start a monthly financial contribution towards your organization . I am attaching a copy portion of the latest August, 2013 FMBK monthly newsletter which boastfully claims how well he and those around him are eating and living exceptionally well, while children across the globe are starving to death, are homeless, neglected and abused every day. It would appear that such a successful family law firm such as FMBK and an attorney with a PhD in Psychology would already be generous donors to your cause. The income levels of those fortunate enough to reside in the city of Beverly Hills, CA. are sufficiently able to afford generous ongoing contributions to your organization.
    DAVID GLASS HOSTS FMBK MIXER
    David and Carol Glass hosted an FMBK mixer at their beautiful home in Beverly Hills to help welcome our 2013 summer law clerks Anna Giroux and David Jones. Carol’s family’s restaurant, Joan’s on 3rd, catered the event, alongside a portable pizza oven that fired out hand crafted, delicious pizza pies! Dessert included brownie bites, lemon squares, and other delicious sweets. All of the attorneys attended, and the mild Southern California weather made it a lovely outdoor event. Thank you David and Carol for hosting!

    To remind all those with morals and to all those who love all children, that this David J. Glass Esq. PhD would giggle & laugh at me while waiting to see the judge. Shortly after this attached letter dated 2-12-2012 was received by the community of Malibu, CA this David J. Glass Esq. PhD conspired to injure a 3rd party (myself) , suborned perjury and falsified evidence just before he closed down his practice and went to FMBK Law.The CA State Bar has just received a 2nd complaint regarding this matter.

    2-12-12 Mr. Graham J Miller

    REGARDING CHILD ABUSE

    To The Principals of Malibu Elementary Schools and To Whom it may concern within the LAUSD and SMMUSD administrations, Directors or other persons.
    Dear Sir Madam or MS,

    I am writing to you firstly as a parent. I have a child in a Malibu public school. I am also writing as a Citizen, and therefore concerned in a more global manner with issues that I personally find disturbing and relevant. I believe a possible failure to perform to ethical codes of several professions, let alone what any normal person may find to be reasonable is about to, and could in the future lead to embarrassment, public consternation and at best a complete lack of faith ,trust and confidence in the above agencies.

    I have recently been informed by my daughter Lily-Jane Faith Miller that her mother has taken her out of Callahan elementary (Northridge); and she is now at some school in Malibu district. (Grade 2)

    My reasons for my concern follow.

    Within the Malibu school district there is a teacher, (C Cullen) who has accused her ex-husband of two counts of sexual abuse of their son, and 5 other counts of abuse of their son (11). This alleged abuse according to Ms. Cullen and her Attorney took place over the past 5 years.

    I would like a notation in my daughter’s file that she is never to be placed in class with the above person as her “(my daughters)” teacher. I apologize in in that I amenable to provide more details on my daughter’s whereabouts (school) but her Mom has not provided that info. I’m sure Dr Jacob the principal at Callahan would be able to assist.

    In MS Cullen’s divorce and custody case she utilized the services of a Mr. D Glass Esq.(Attorney) Mr Glass is also a PhD in Psychology .Mr. Glass was also utilized by the mother of my daughter, Lily -Jane in my own divorce and custody matter. Mr. Glass a Psychologist/ Attorney and mandated reporter saw fit to bring allegations of sexual abuse of a child and 4 allegations of other forms of abuse of MS Cullen’s son Sammy before family court. These all were investigated by the Police DCFS, and the District Attorney. They were found to be without either Medical or Credentialed 3rd party verification and closed therefore as unsubstantiated. These allegations were brought by MS Cullen via the services of Mr. Glass and occurred regularly before the summer school break on a yearly basis. MS Cullen had also recently remarried a Mr Brian Winsick another Teacher and coach in the Conejo Valley. Their marriage took place just prior to the allegations beginning.

    I will now outline my concerns and reasons for the request of the notation in my daughters file.

    It is my belief that the relationship between this teacher Ms. Cullen and her attorney and my own ex-wife and the same attorney is cause for reasonable concern. That to avoid any unfortunate incident where god forbid I was to be accused by my daughter’s mother of something similar as MS Cullen accused her ex-husband of it is imperative no establish able link is in place as could lead to suspicion of collusion. The worst case scenario that Ms. Cullen at some time becomes my daughters teacher and subsequently claims are made that perhaps my daughter had inferred to MS Cullen that I had abused her ( Lily-Jane) and MS Cullen then could relate this to my daughters mother through their mutual attorney, or contact at school is beyond horrific. I feel the separation of my daughter and this teacher protects LAUSD/SMMUSD and my daughter and me.

    In a more global sense I am concerned that a teacher married to another teacher and coach and an attorney who is also licensed as a psychologist made no attempt to make aware the LAUSD or the SMUSD of their concerns. (Two allegations of Sexual abuse and five other allegations of abuse.) Surely some ethical codes of their respective professions would demand other relevant or parties who could be impacted be advised.

    When a teacher finds the resources to pay $500 an hour to a Beverly Hills Attorney for 5 years surely there is a need for verification that such allegations will bring in terms of the expenses the County and State will bear during the protracted conflict. Especially if the accused has been made indigent by the continued claims and has suffered stress or work issues stemming from such accusations and is no longer paying taxes.

    As a parent I certainly would be outraged if I knew my child’s teacher was aware of a legitimate abuse situation and if, as in this case it included Sexual Abuse allegations and that teacher did nothing to bring attention to it as could protect other children I would expect answers. Specifically why and how a person(s) (2 Teachers, (Coach), An Attorney/Psychologist) would go ahead and consciously disregard accusations of such a serious nature, and then they having brought these allegations before family court and the district attorney go ahead and let other parents arrange activities with the person they were accusing of abuse in a manner as would expose other children to the accused.

    What is more disturbing and I expect the press will find disturbing is that repeated allegations of this nature are often utilized in family conflicts and that this is acceptable is in fact a failure of morality within our society. I believe this failure may have had a profound societal impact.

    That the failure of an application of evidentiary standards as are normally applied in criminal matters may have allowed credentialed persons possibly with questionable motive to use family court in a manipulative and deceitful way to achieve their own ends appears to me to be worthy of consideration.

    This epidemic of claims of abuse of children caught in such situations, (family breakups) versus children, who suffer actual abuse , desensitizes the general public and governmental agencies and allows real and dangerous criminals to hide and operate with virtual impunity in our society. It is beyond Peter and the Wolf it is an ongoing crime against humanity. To falsely perpetrate something that I believe leads to what we are now facing in the LAUSD and SMMUSD and may have exacerbated, perpetuated and indeed by lack of action condoned events and actions that possibly has led to emotional; mental and even physical harm to any child is heinous.

    I believe because of the actions as I have described many prior red flags have been ignored in many abuse situations and much suffering and harm and expense could have been avoided if a less commonplace attitude of children was the norm.

    Indeed in the immediate situation with (C Cullen, B Winsick )either the allegations were scurrilous and a product of vitriol, and an attorney(PhD Psych) with who knows what motivation (7 Claims) and that these claims were worthy of public expense .Or these persons were aware the claims they were bringing were false and therefore not worthy of reporting to LAUISD/SMUSD or other parents.? The alternative is an admission of negligent lack of reasonable due diligence and surely a great lack of concern for the school both pupils and other teachers and parents has been flagrantly displayed in total disregard for the safety and welfare of minors. Whether this is or should be a concern for the bond holders of these persons I do not know. Mr. Glass, Glass family Law and former associate of (Kolodny & Anteau) One of the most respected family law firms in the United States (Mel Gibson Getty, etc.) has been investigated by the CA Bar already in this matter and while the complaint was not upheld a letter suggesting the possibility of civil redress was issued by them.

    The APA also found he did no wrong apparently within their own ethics code.

    The fact remains an Attorney/Psychologist and a Teacher and a Teacher/Coach surely have some duty to the community. The positions of trust and respect they are afforded should allow the general public a reasonableness within their expectation of propriety and protection of the innocent by such credentialed persons.

    Perhaps the LAUSD/SMUSD could incorporate or suggest to the CA Bar a cooperative relationship of a professional nature that would allow this protection to be afforded our children as well as draft a code for the LAUSD/SMUSD’s own employees in such situations.

    Certainly recent events could lead one to surmise that a better clarified way of maintaining the safety and welfare of our children, from both bonifide and false claims of abuse would be helpful. The harm that both real and imagined events can bring to families, as well as collateral persons and an institution such as children’s learning environment should be minimalized at all times.

    Sincerely Yours,

    Graham J Miller.

    885 Avenue of the Americas

    Penthouse 1A

    New York. NY. 10001

  11. bill on February 1, 2013 at 5:56 PM

    Im going thru a nightmare. My ex wife passed away. I got custody of my 2 children. my step daughter went with the grandmother. The grandmother is tring to get custody of my kids but im denying her that. so two years later i get a visit from dyfus saying i was accussed of child sexual abuse. they are in the process of doing the dyfus investigation. The next day a prosecutor called me and asked to speak to me . I got an attorney right away, My attorney told me not to talk to no one becuase no good would come out of it. My attorney has advised me to just wait and see if any and what charges are put againts me. it has been already 3 days since the prosecutor called me. im living in fear every day. expecting the police to come to the door and arrest me and take my children away from because of these false accusations. my attorney says just relax and wait. we dont even know the chatges and the state has not decided what to do yet. reading all these post i feel this grandma will stop at nothing to get my kids and destroy my life also. anybody has some advice for me? please tell me. all i know is that i have to wait and fight when the time comes. wate all my money on legal fees. probably lose my house and lose my kids. how can this be happening to me???????????

    • Contessa on June 4, 2013 at 5:46 PM

      Creedence and Bill – please update us.

  12. […] Originally Posted by James2912 evidence or a link? My remark was kind of tongue in cheek. I don't really believe that 33% of rape claims are false. I do believe that a significant portion of them are false, though the actual percentage is impossible to nail down. A quick search revealed these. They are not all specifically about the military so are kinda off topic (maybe meaningless) for this thread. Also, not very good sources, but I can't be bothered to make 4 hours of research for a grasscity thread. Different sources have the figure varying wildly. The Forensic Examiner | Archive | Spring 09 Crying rape falsely: rare or common? | Straight Statistics http://blog.lib.umn.edu/jbs/maysessi…llegations.pdf UCMJ and Sexual Assault Accusations In The Military RADAR: About Half of Rape Allegations are False, Research Shows False Accusations | National Coalition For Men (NCFM) […]

  13. CREEDENCE on December 8, 2012 at 9:32 PM

    WHY WHY CAN I NOT GET HELP FOR ME BROTHER-IN-LAW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I HAVE LOOKED INTO MANY SIGHTS AND THEY WANT PAY!!!! WE HAVE NO MONEY!! BUT HE IS IN JAIL! HE DID NOT DO THE CRIME HE IS CHARGED WITH! I KNOW YOU HEAR THIS EVERYDAY, BUT… IT WAS HIS OWN DAUGHTER THAT SAID HE RAPED HER. THROW HER UP AGAINST A WALL AND TOOK HER FROM BEHIND” ( SHE HAS DONE THIS WITH OTHER MEN AND BOYS)HOSP REPORTS SAY SHE IS STILL A VIRGAN!!!!!!!!!! BUT HE IS STILL IN JAIL! HIS ATT. JUST GOT NAMED PROSICUTING ATT! CAN YO BELIEVE THAT???? HIS PAID ATTY, IS NOW AGAINST HIM
    AND HIS DAYS FOR A SPEEDY TRAIL HAD TO START ALL OVER AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!HOW IS THIS FAIR?????????? I KHOW I AM NOT TELLING ALL THE STORY CUZ IT IS A CRAZY ONE………..BUT PLEASE HELP ME!!

  14. Ron on November 27, 2012 at 2:03 PM

    If you really want someone who can help you with your false charges, look into the US~Observer. They have battling people’s false charges for years and they have a great track record.

  15. gsosbee on September 17, 2012 at 8:46 AM

    See fbi female operative yell ‘wolf’ in a public forum in order to attempt to discredit former fbi agent who reports fbi crimes:

    http://portland.indymedia.org/en/2012/09/417967.shtml

    “Who are you calling a grinning joker, you despicable little man. You are certainly full of yourself, aren’t you, slime ball. The readers can see by your post and comment that you are a loon, and there is no need for me to post a photo. Why would you ask for a photo, are you a pervert too, and want it to jack off by. Whew, you are a sick, sick person who has absolutely no grip on reality.”

    http://portland.indymedia.org/en/2012/09/418123.shtml

    “Your website is a testimony to your severe mental disorder. It is also the testimony of a serial crybaby who blames all his problems on someone else. The only thing I am disturbed about is you loose in the community. You appear to also be a pervert in addition to being a loon. Momma’s watch your little ones if you live close to this sick man. “

  16. David Slaughter on August 24, 2012 at 11:15 AM

    Tried to call 911 for a child in danger by his parents people in the Park tried to hurt me and police beaten down and take me to jail for getting about the calls they were came for a child was taken I was eventually cuffed taken to jail where I was worked over by County sheriffs paramedics were called I was eventually stabbed by a paramedic in the left shoulder and I was also falsely accused of biting a paramedic I was found not guilty by reason of self-defense whatever happened to child’s rights and minds?

  17. TERRY WAGAR on May 11, 2012 at 7:26 AM

    My wife Joan Wagar was poisoning me while she was having an affair with a cop.
    My wife recruited our daughters into this our daughters pretended nothings wrong when my wife poisoned me and they were hiding my wife's affair from me.

    My wife's lover the cop Eric Carlson and his bro's in law enforcement made sure I could not get help from 911 or from a hospital.
    Eric Carlson's partner would speak with my doctor in the hallway and label me as a bad guy repeatedly until the doctor got the hint to shut up about me being poisoned.

    Three family members died during my wife's use of pills and antifreeze as poison and police covered up my emergency visits to the hospital and my 911 calls.

    I was so badly poisoned I was just stuck, at home, at their mercy, with no one to turn to for help.

    Eric Carlson and his bro's were framing me for their crimes and they were using Eric Carlson as a photo double to frame me as a pedo and they framed me over a murder by using Eric Carlson as a double.

    My wife Joan Wagar's coworkers knew my wife was poisoning me and that her lover Eric Carlson was framing me by acting as a double, Joan Wagar's coworkers nick named Eric Carlson and Joan Wagar Doubleclick and Mrs Dash, and Eric Carlson and Joan Wagar used those nick names in their love letters.

    I was a plasma donor when they were poisoning me.
    http://www.scribd.com/doc/53065984/JoanEricSgtWal
    http://salem-news.com/articles/may072012/wagar-di

    Terry Wagar

  18. alejandro on May 1, 2012 at 5:16 PM

    I only went to speak with the ex and she accused me of hitting her and tresspassing when she let me inside her home. i lost my job and now i have a record so its hard to find employment.

  19. Mad Dog Mike38321 on April 26, 2012 at 11:16 PM

    I had a close friend who was falsely accused of sexual assault by a girl. At the time she alleged the incident occurred it would be impossible for him to have done this because he had 75 other children and some adults in the area. He had to spend thousands of dollars to prove his innocence and even her own family said she was lying. Did that stop the feminist trained law machine from grinding him in the dirt? NO so spare me your rape victim statistics. Now I know women and girls are raped all the time I am not unsympathetic to this fact. (I also have two teenage daughters) for every false accusation waste valuable and much needed resources that could be used to stop real criminals. I think these women should serve the amount of time their falsely accused victim served or would have served; this will be true gender equality.
    EQAUL RIGHTS MEANS EQUAL RESPOSIBILITY.

  20. Mad Dog Mike38321 on April 26, 2012 at 11:14 PM

    According to the feminist ideology women should be treated as equals. For women to truly be treated as equals they have to be held equally responsible under the law. This would mean a woman can and should be charged for rape by a man, and she should under the same law serve just as much time. We all know that is not going to happen because of lying women and chivalrous stupid men that rush to protect them. The reason you rarely hear about the false accusations is because the feminist run media and law enforcement don’t really want cases like this to catch the public eye. Cases like this shed light on the inequality that men suffer.

  21. madm001 on April 10, 2012 at 3:38 PM

    I am soooo glad I found this website. I have a friend going thru some of this now. It's horrible. Forturnately he's
    never been arrested for any of this. We have taken a defensive posture and make sure there's no contact. Appreciate all the comments and advice. Prayer helps.

  22. VegGirl on February 20, 2012 at 8:15 AM

    For immigrants out there, be especially careful. We're experiencing a veritable "perfect storm" right now. Our seriously mentally ill ex-landlady is accusing my husband of indecent assault. She sat in his preliminary hearing and couldn't even get her own story straight. After reviewing the transcript from the hearing, I counted a full 18 times that she contradicted herself. But this s&^t still continues, and now we're nearly $7,000 in debt from legal fees and we haven't even gone to trial yet. The cop investigating this case pulled up another immigrant's record and said it was my husband's. Mug shot? Looked nothing like my husband. No fingerprint check until charges were already filed, and they came back clean- obviously. If you're an immigrant living in a podunk town with podunk glorified mall cops with IQs around 85, BE ON YOUR GUARD! My husband is a lawful permanent resident, but this stupid vengeful accusation + racist cops might change our lives forever if my husband gets deported. Indecent assault is a "crime of moral turpitude", which means he would be disqualified from continuing to live in the U.S.. We would have to move back to Mexico with our 2 young children.

  23. Yayoi on December 25, 2011 at 7:07 AM

    I contacted a PI and he helped investigate my case. I gave him all emails, phone logs, and laid everything out for him. He told me to just ignore anything the guy sent me. I noticed that anything I tried to print that was his would become incrypted and unreadable, so I would have to print screen. After an email from him saying that he knew I was printing the emails and wanted to know why I was printing them.

    I ignored him. But every week I would get more threatening messages. Finally, he sent one that said: "We can end this quietly. Don't you dare tell anyone, and let me and you settle this silently like adults. We can meet up and neither one of us would have to worry, and I could be out of your life forever."

    I was so terrified, I didn't know what to do. I ignored it, but the message was very clear in what his intentions could have possibly been. I am only 21 now, and I am still naiive enough to not know what to really do in a situation like this when I am so scared.

    What would you have me do?

    I went to my mom and grandma and showed them the email, and they said to ignore it, and if I hear anything again to let them know.

    Eventually I stopped hearing from him altogether, but I never leave anywhere by myself. I am still scared to go out anywhere for fear of being watched or followed. I have no idea what can happen. Police won't do anything, I already tried that route, and all I wanted was an extra patrol or two during day and night in my neighborhood. I wasn't even asking for anything more. But still. I live in fear every day, and I can't really do anything because I am stuck between a rock and a hard place.

    Family means everything to me, and I would never do anything to jeopardize the family. This is the main reason why I was so scared in the very beginning. I figured that if I maintained family ties, I could eventually get out of this without hurting anyone except myself. But when my best friend found out when he was going to take me to the hotel, she helped me when I couldn't help myself. I had no control over this situation, but I was still on my own.

    It is not true that the courts and police only ever believe the women or girls. It depends on the officer(s), court(s), judge(s), region….there are plenty of factors.

    It isn't fair to say that ALL courts and officers only believe girls, because it isn't true. It is entirely dependent on the situation and the people involved.

    If the guy is someone like my uncle; who is a high ranking officer, community service person, elderly gentleman, and rich, then usually the favor goes towards that person especially if they served in a war. No matter how much proof the victim has against them, these types of people are GENERALLY (not always cause it depends on the judge, lawyers, etc) able to get through with nothing or something minor.

    It is true that there are plenty of cases with false accusations. But there are also plenty of cases with false accusations about other things too: Murder, Rape, Racism, Pedophilia, Homosexual relations, sex before marriage, who left the dish on the counter, and many other things. There will always be something out there.

    There are also cases where the victim BELIEVES they are the victim because maybe the situation was not appropriate. There are cases where the culprit believes THEY are the victim (like my uncle) because they believe what they are doing is right.

    He had no qualms about molesting a 17 year old grand niece. He told me it was his "love" and that he kissed and felt all his "lady friends" that way. He said there was no harm and that he just wanted to feel the other person. To him, this was okay and this was right. He didn't think he needed help. I have suspected before that maybe being in the war might have messed with his brain a bit. Or maybe he was bipolar or had some sort of Identity Disorder.

    My heart goes out to anyone who has been molested, raped, taken advantaged of, or wrongly accused. I don't care whether you are male or female. It isn't right.

    • keen on February 20, 2012 at 7:21 PM

      I do not believe you. I believe you made this whole thing up. I have had too many experiences with females lying and making things up to believe you.

      • URADick on April 1, 2012 at 7:45 AM

        Actually, this sounds quite legit. Of course you wouldn't believe her since she is a woman. However, you have to understand, that just because of this, you can't automatically claim she is in the wrong.

        You are an asshole. I can say that I don't believe you if you were to spout that you were wrongly accused.

        Sure. Go ahead.

        URA Dick.

    • URADick on April 1, 2012 at 7:47 AM

      The reason I say this sounds legit, is because a person making something up wouldn't go and tell something like this on a place like this, AND support both sides. Yayoi here is telling her story, yet, she is also saying it isn't right for ANYONE. A person making it up generally would tend to support a single side.

      There is also too much inner monologue here (too many opinions of the situation) to be "just a story".

  24. Yayoi on December 25, 2011 at 6:07 AM

    I have something to say as well.

    I am a woman though, and my situation is horrifying.

    I have an elder family member who sexually abused me and blackmailed me into having sex with him even though I didn't want to. He was relatively violent, and he was terrifying when he was angry. The first time he did this, I was 17 years old. At that age, no matter how much I told myself it wouldn't happen to me, it did., and I was terrified. I should have told someone, but I was so scared. He would tell me things like, "Your family would be disgusted with you." "You have no where to go" "No one will believe you. I do a lot of things for everyone, and you are just a girl."

    Eventually I was mind fucked out the ass, and he started stalking. He would pull out a list of dates and times of when I would be home and where I would be. Some of the logs had descriptions of people I was with. Things were really bad, and I had no idea what to do.

    My best friend, who was living with me at the time and knew what was going on because I secretly confided in her, helped get me out of the situation by calling the police. They interrogated him, and he denied nothing. The officers told me that he was so calm, that he made them nervous during the interrogation. They said that he sounded and acted as though he owned me and had "rights".

    After that, I ceased to have contact with him. I finally told my mom and grandma (my father passed away a long time ago) about what happened, and they helped me to avoid contact. I did not want to press charges because the family needs him, and he does a lot for the community and the Reserves. I just wanted him to stop and leave me alone. In his mind, he was not doing anything wrong. He justified everything he did, and controlled everything I did through fear and power. When he got angry, he got ANGRY. I did what he told me to do cause I didn't know what would happen to me. He knew a lot of people, and he could have anything done to me and no one would be any the wiser. He had made sure to tell me these things on plenty of occasions. I just wanted him to leave me alone.

    The three of us kept it to ourselves. We didn't tell anyone in the family, and we didn't have any intentions of pressing charges. We especially didn't want to hurt his wife and family. My aunt is an amazing woman, and me, mom and grandma agreed that we couldn't let her know because she would be really hurt. She had caught him cheating several times before, and she would be done with him if she knew.

    And then he started stalking me again.

    I got messages from him, and he claimed to have videos of me and voice recordings of me while I was home and while I was not home. I ended up getting so scared that I wouldn't leave my own home, and I kept everything locked, and windows covered with dark curtains.

    I went to the police with the messages, and they told me that they couldn't do anything about it because it was not "proof enough".

    After two weeks, I got more messages from him. He was paranoid, and under the impression that we had told the entire family what had happened and what went on. So he decided a new tactic to get me to talk to him and message him. He told me that he was going to prevent me from studying abroad and get me for defamation of character. Even though I didn't do ANYTHING wrong. He said that I ruined the family (even though we didn't tell anyone, but I don't think he knew that), and he was going to get me for it. He was going to send pictures to my mom that I didn't even KNOW he had. They were of me in my room getting dressed for school in the mornings, getting out of the shower and into my room… it was really disturbing to know that he or someone else had taken those. He also had pictures of me hanging out with some of my old guy friends from high school that I used to go fishing with. He said that he was going to tell everyone I was "fucking them", and that no one would believe me when I told them I wasn't because HE was the elder and HE was the one who did things for the family and community.

    was really terrified that he had the gall to do those things, and I had no idea what else he could do. He was right. He could say anything and I would be screwed. I had no problems with a lie detector test, but since they were flawed, the courts can not use them in trial legally.

  25. Christopher on December 9, 2011 at 1:05 AM

    I met a girl in a bar. We talked for a few hours. As the bar was shutting down, I invited her to my place. She accepted. We drove separate cars. She followed me. When we got to my home, I fixed her a drink and we started to make out. She gave me head on the couch. We moved it to the bedroom. We had vigorous sex for more than 90 minutes. She fell asleep. When she woke up she said that I had raped her and taken advantage of her. I was told that I needed to pay her for emotional distress. If I did not she would wreck my life. I refused to pay. She went on a broad smear campaign. I was arrested and released. I was fired within 48 hours of that arrest. My parents were told. My family is distraught. Did I rape her? Of course not but the whole world seems to think so. I have a lawyer which means more financial distress. I'm totally fucked.

    • Sebastian on January 29, 2012 at 8:36 AM

      Why would you go meet a girl in a bar anyway? That was stupid right there. Usually, people who meet up at bars tend to have issues in their relationships, since more often than not those who go to bars have issues or problems of their own. (Not always, of course)

    • keen on February 20, 2012 at 7:16 PM

      You failed yourself. You did nor cover you own @ss. Nothing she does or says before hand can be trusted. You have to be able to prove beyond the shadow of a doubt AFTERWARDS that it was consensual. Video-recordings, witnesses anything. The legal system has been re-engineered over the last half century to make YOU guilty until proven innocent.

    • Dianna Deshazer on March 27, 2015 at 11:01 PM

      Sound’s somewhat Like My Friend’s case. The women wanted Money & since She
      Did not Get The Money She Cried Rape. But Until Enough Federal Judges & D.A.’S
      Get Falsely Accused, Me as A Female can go out and Falsely Accuse as Many Men
      As I want, Because The D.A.’S Office will not ever Investigate. The women’s word’s
      Are Holy and Ain’t a dang Thing No one can do about it. As for you Picking Up a
      Women at a Bar About Half Of American’s In The U.S. For 100’s of Years have
      Found there Soul – Mate’s in Bar’s. Don’t Listen To Idiot’s That Don’t Know Any
      Better. I know A Few Men Who Were Accused Of Raping Women In Church. So
      It Don’t Make A bit of Difference where you Meet A women There are gonna Be
      Some Bad Seed’s who Just Have it out for Men. Also If For some Reason You Manage to see a Favorable Out Come In Your Case. You Decide To Try & Date
      Again. #1. If You Have a cell Phone Make Sure To take a Picture of Her Before
      You Leave any Place You Met her, Always Keep Record’s of everything. anything
      and everything can be used as evidence in your Favor. I know I might sound
      Kind of Strange telling you that, but If My Friend would of took my advice He would
      Not Be in Prison an innocent man. One More Thing My Uncle Was Falsely Accused
      Of Rape By A women He had Never Met or even know’s, The Date the women
      Claimed He Raped Her, My Uncle Was Driving A tour Bus For George Straight In
      Florida, The women was in Texas. I will Pray For A Positive Out Come For You.
      God Speed.

  26. Mike on December 1, 2011 at 2:32 AM

    I also know the pain and frustration of being wrongfully accused. In my case, I was able to go back a couple years later and petition the court to have the charges expunged, and although it has helped in terms of being able to obtain employment, the rest of my life has been pretty much wrecked. I was recently dating a young lady that I care for very much. I had met her friends and family and they all thought well of me. Then she found something online that referenced the conviction and she broke it off with me without even giving me a chance to explain. When you are falsely accused, you are victimized over and over again as it follows you all throughout your life.

  27. Gerard on October 29, 2011 at 5:06 AM

    Here is a whopper of false accusations in a recent story from abroad.
    http://www.theflorentine.net/articles/article-vie
    The accuser named in the article, Marianne Grin, is a Harvard trained lawyer who lived in Florence and filed false accusations of abuse against her husband when he filed for divorce. When the accusations were proved to be false, she lost custody of the children. So what did she do? She abducted the children and went to Russia and started making the same false accusations in another country! Unbelievable? No, believable. I guess they teach you how to falsely accuse at Harvard Law, and have a good exit strategy when you get caught!

    • A.W. on October 30, 2011 at 1:57 AM

      I disagree a bit as the story about Marianne Grin is already getting play in the international press. The Italian newspapers reported facts that are far more grim. Compare the following articles (use Google Translate for the Italian one).
      http://www.theflorentine.net/articles/article-view.asp?issuetocId=7229
      and
      firenze.repubblica.it/cronaca/2011/10/14/news/la_moglie_fugge_in_russia_con_i_figli_il_marito_aiutatemi_a_trovarli-23186341/
      The story in the mainstream Italian media was far more serious. Marianne Grin was not just found to be psychotic and a false accuser, she was also being investigated for child abuse. In the English story, they downplay the gravity and depravity when dealing with the mother/accuser. Lost In Translation?

  28. JPS on October 10, 2011 at 6:52 AM

    I have been falsely accused of sexually abusing 2 of my former foster children. We are going to our 2nd motions hearing in 2 months. This whole ordeal is on track to cost me around 75k dollars. While I am still very hopeful that the truth will be known and the judge will either dismiss the case or grant in my favor, I still am very worried about getting stuck with this amount of debt for defending my innocence. Any thoughts?

    If I were to share the details you'd understand that DSS has mis-handled this case from the very beginning. If I win this case, and I have to, what is the possibility of suing DSS, or the family that's coaching the children to make these claims? Any thoughts about that either?

    • Tess on April 17, 2013 at 4:45 AM

      At this moment we are going through hell that apparently is just starting. My daughter who has suffered from mental problems much of her life decided she no longer wanted to live at home with Myself her step father and brother. She accused her step father of sexual abuse that supposedly took place two year ago. In addition she said that at some stage I witnessed some abuse taking place. I nor any other member of the family his or mine not even her biological father and his family, counselors, special ed teacher, or any other person that she has had free availablity to speak with by herself or otherwise has ever heard even the most minor complaint of misconduct by either himself or myself. She told me why she reported it , but that is hearsay to DCS since talking to them now at least a half a dozen times and the accusations become apparently more damning with every interview she is now convinced it happened. I can not talk to her at all about the case and he has been removed from my home. When I asked if I could at least know exactly what he is being accused of of what I was supposed to see they threatened to take my son because asking questions of DCS is not cooperating with them. We have no rights and no help.

  29. A Wife on October 4, 2011 at 5:22 AM

    Now, I myself have been raped by my ex-husband. I went to the hospital, did the KIT (which got lost by the police department) was forced to do a lie detector test (which showed that I was not lying), and did everything the LAW said to do.. My ex had NOTHING happen to him, he still walks free to this day. He has done this to me and his other ex-wife and the justice system doesn't do anything about it. He has even gone as far as to threaten me after that saying that he can do anything to me and get away with it at anytime. He has assulted me on several occasions after, the police did nothing. Now why is it that the Justice system prosecutes Innocent men, but lets the true Guilty ones run free?????

  30. A Wife on October 4, 2011 at 4:53 AM

    My husband was accused of raping his own daughter. The prosecution withheld DNA evidence that proves his innocence until 4 years after his incarceration. He was sentenced to 10 years (which he did finish), filed 2 appeals, the case is now in the 3rd Circuit and we are hoping that it goes through this time. His ex-girlfriend was into drugs so he took their daughter away to keep her safe. The so called mother didn't like that and made accusations, the 3 year old girl was coached, and he got wrongfully charged for a crime he did NOT commit. He no longer gets to see his little girl, she was taken away by that mother, then given up to the state along with her 2 sisters. We were not together then, but today we are married and now some people are threatening our children and our marriage. They do not care that he was falsely accused, they don't care there is proof of his innocence, all they care about is that he went to jail. My husband will never get that time with his daughter back, she is now a teenager and we don't know the extent of the pain she has felt.

  31. Rich on September 30, 2011 at 11:47 AM

    My 22 year old Son was falsely accused of aggravated sexual assault by his ex-girl friend shortly after he broke up with her, a girl who he shared an apartment with and had been going steady with for almost 2 years. They had 6 months left on their lease so they coinhabited (separate rooms) until it was up. My wife and I supported her for a year prior as well, as we were lead to believe she had no place to go and she was broke and couldn't afford to live anywhere (suckers we are).

    Without an once of evidence, no history of violence or abuse, a clean arrest record, and only her single accusation 3 police cruisers came to my house (he was house sitting for us) and arrested him – they searched my house without a warrant even after he was in custody, and confiscated my rifles and ammunition (they already took his from his apartment), they took novelty swords, old pocket knives, and even a paintball gun – then locked him up in the state pen with a $50k cash only bail. He spent 3 days there before arraignment where our lawyer was able to "reduce" bail to $50K cash or bond. Still it cost $10,080 to bail him out using a bondsman with only $5,000 refundable. the judge said being in the military made him a flight risk???

    [insert very long story of her craziness here]

    3 months and nearly $20,000 later the charges were dropped. But not before he lost most of his friends, his reputation was ruined thanks to news papers and news outlets, and he missed a very important army training exercise… and so much more heart ache I can't even describe. I have so much evidence she planned this entire thing, yet there not one thing we can do about it.

  32. guest on August 24, 2011 at 9:43 PM

    Five police showed up at my house looking for my son who is 23 and a college student, I am disabled and he helps me out.

    They had warrent for swab because he was being accused of an sexual assualt of a girl who he doesn't even know her name but was at a house of his friends that himself, his friend, his girlfriend and another male friend was at.

    He was drinking and he spent the night as he knows not to drink and drive and slept in a room by himself. These police came four months after this happened. He competes in video game computations and his friend and him practice which they do for hours.

    This girl who is accusing was throwing up and sick and this floored me. My son tole me the detective had called him but he said he had nothing to say as he doesn't know her and no didn't want to come in so I guess that is why the five men to "make sure he got his swab".

    What is bad when he was a senior in high school, a preivious girl friend called him late crying hysterecally to come get her and talk to her, her boyfriend broke up with her, whom was friends to the m both and he did. He had another male friend with him and picked her up and when he brought her home it was late late and parents were up and same thing, got a call on the phone that a dectitive needed us to call. I told him not to talk to anyone , we will get a lawyer.

    A friend called him and told him to look on my space this girl was bragging she lied to the police and getting my son in trouble and got back with his girlfriend Nothing else happened.

    I am concerned about this trend and the per cent of falsely reported rapes are as high as fifty percent on the Man Issues site states. We got a lawyer, I am not putting up with these false allegations and for those that think I do not know rape is bad.

    I have been raped, with physical carpet burns, bruises and it was my husbands best friend and he did nothing (ex husband) as he said his friend was drinking. This is a ex husband and I was domestically abused and while teaching at a middle school I overheard a group of girls explain a gaim they zero in on a boy they chose and falsely accuse them of actions and the others take up of them.

    Women who falsely accused should be charged and sent to counseling.

  33. […] dishonest academics, and radical feminists disagree; even though intentionally making a false accusation and lying under oath are serious crimes with serious […]

  34. ray on February 2, 2011 at 5:01 PM

    False accusations against innocent men by some women are common and occur for a variety of reasons. Rape witch-hunting, domestic violence witch-hunting, sexual harassment witch-hunting, etc. are merely thin disguises for the hate movement that gender feminism truly is.

    The flimsiest of false accusations by a woman can cause a man's arrest. False accusations can be devastating to a man's self-worth and his career.

    Such false accusations are a form of violence and a crime, yet police and prosecutors almost never prosecute false accusers. As long as false accusers are tolerated and encouraged by a legal system, that legal system will have NO integrity – NONE!

    Nuremberg like trials should be held for any member of a legal system that participates in following gender feminist ideology over Constitutional law and facts in evidence. Police, prosecutors and judges who follow gender feminist ideology are not being good servants of a system of law as they allege. They are following a corrupt, vile system and they know it. They are violating human rights and should therefore be prosecuted, sentenced, and sent to prison for it for a long, long, long time.

  35. Rosemarie on September 12, 2010 at 11:51 AM

    Eric, I feel your pain. What a horrible, horrible nightmare. My heart goes out to you.

  36. barbra on September 9, 2010 at 12:05 AM

    KYLE, where did you get this explanation of women? Quite strong statements. How do you know she bit him on the neck? Maybe before that he bit her while in a sexual state. Vice Versa. I am curious to know. Thanks

    • kyle on January 21, 2011 at 9:10 PM

      I put it together after decades of study on female psychology, alternative history, the bible, the occult, observation and experience. He did not bite her, she bit him to demonstrate her defiance over him while being in the submissive (on the bottom) position. She refused to be submissive to him and hence this is how she demonstrated it.

      It doesn't mean it's strictly true, but this is what is taught about Eve and Lilith, for Eve in the occult IS Lilith. Even though some try to say that Lilith was Satan's second wife, she was not. They often cloak names and make up other people to hide the truth from the uninitiated and general public.

      This is also done to a great deal with Corporate names and logo's, where the truth of them is hidden in plain sight. Most don't really have a clue just HOW much truth there is in corporate logo's. Michael Tsarion, Freeman at FreemanTV.com and a couple of others have videos talking about Corporate Logo's, their occult connection and how it all ties back into Egypt or Satan worship in one form or another. Since Satan gives them their wealth and power, those logo's, mostly based in Masonic specifically symbols lets them know who really owns and runs those corporations.

      One of my favorites and most obvious is the department store KOHLS. Just like the names ARCO, and SOBE, this name means NOTHING in English…but in Egyptian ARCO and SOBE are names for Satan worshiping cults. In Egypt the Sobekits were "Worshipers of the serpent".

      Upon further research I found out that KOHLS was the leader OF the Sobekites themselves. Unbelievable. If you've ever gone into Kohls the shirts nearly all have some kind of occult symbols and pictures on them. Whether it's skulls, bones, suns, pyramids or the like that's almost all that's on there. The youth LOVE that stuff and they have no idea at all, nor do most even care, what they're reading or wearing on themselves or it's real meanings. I heard that they do have some less obvious occult apparel as of late but they're still littered with it.

      Another less obvious one is Macy's. Their catch phrase is "The Magic of Macy's" with a single Red Pentagram as their logo..hmm. Disney also has "The Magic of Disney" and of course we have "Hollywood" magic and magic wands are made FROM the wood of the Holly tree and were said to be able to be imbued with magical energies which is why magicians and sorcerers use them as their "magic wands".

      Point is that there is SO much deception in the world most have NO clue. But specifically with women, as a group, not EVERY single woman, though nearly all FEEL this to some degree, and I have spoken with a LOT who have admitted it, have felt the strong pull of the dark side, the pull to go against men, to fight with men for no reason, to talk about them, put them down, falsely accuse and SO much more.

      Many have admitted that they hear voices, see visions, experience strange sensations at night as though something is holding them down. They feel something brush against them in a sexual and non sexual way and SO much more. This is ALL because women were the first ones to willingly make a deal with the devil to gain POWER over Adam. Because women rejected their place as a man's Helper, they then teamed up with Satan to become his destroyer, ESPECIALLY at these end times as Satan's power grows stronger and stronger!

  37. Dan Abshear on September 6, 2010 at 1:48 PM
  38. Kyle on August 30, 2010 at 11:19 AM

    Just like Satan is also called “Appolyon” and “Abbadon” which means “The Destroyer”, Women have become the DESTROYERS OF MEN in following their Master Satan into open rebellion against man and God.

    Eve sought power OVER Adam in the beginning and thus didn’t delay to make a deal with Satan to gain power over Adam. She wanted to become a “god” and legend has it that a great deal of the reason had to do with not wanting to be submissive or on the bottom during sex.

    In rebellion she BIT Adam on the neck, thus becoming the first vampire, which is a major reason why women are SO obsessed with vampires, vampire movies, have vampire dreams and such. Eve thus became Lilith, known as Satans consort because instead of a woman being MAN’S HELPER as God intended, they have become by their OWN CHOICE.. Satan’s (Santas) helper instead, helping Satan to DESTROY the lives in men over and over again as these stories and millions more prove over and over again.

  39. Eric on August 30, 2010 at 8:34 AM

    Patti,

    This is in response to your request on the National Coalition for Men website. I’ve personally been through this (fairly recently) and the only advice that I can give to you is to seek full custody of the child in question, and aggressively seek out the best legal counsel that you can buy. Expect this to be at least $3-5,000 maybe more. Do what you have to do to get this money together, but that is the bare minimum that you should expect to spend on this. This is a criminal case and requires a well respected criminal defense attorney that will be on your side through this process. I was put through this by a vengeful ex, twice, and I know the pitfalls that await you on this horrifying journey.

    My first mistake was thinking “I’m innocent! I just need to talk to anyone that I can to explain my side of this story.” That is incorrect, Patti. Your loved one is guilty until proven innocent in cases like this and that is the first reality that must be understood and accepted. I naively believed that I could hire a $1,500 lawyer, and get my little girl back within a matter of weeks. I was as mad as hell, and I knew that if only given a chance to defend myself I would receive justice in the legal system, the mother who made the false allegations would be punished for accusing me of this, and my daughter and I would be back together before Christmas. This first happened to me in the middle of November. I retained a $1,500 lawyer, and the days went to weeks, and then into months with no news. The lawyer avoided my phone calls, and I left voice mail after voice mail for him and he would never call me back.

    Very long story short, I didn’t see my daughter again for almost 5 months, and this was no thanks to the worthless lawyer that cost me $1,500 either. Unbelievably, when the ex and I had gone to mediation, one of the mediators actually pulled me to the side when I was outside of the office and told me that I needed to get another lawyer, that is how bad this one was. So, when I did get her back, she acted afraid of me. I can only dwell on what she may have been told about me by her mother. I have no idea what emotional trauma this little baby has suffered. She wasn’t the same happy-go-lucky little girl that I had known only several months before. This was only round one. She leveled more allegations against me one week after my now wife and I were married roughly a year after the first allegations. At this point, I knew that I needed a better attorney.

    I closed out my meager 401k and borrowed another thousand from relatives. I found a good, well respected attorney in my city. I remember when I was in my first meeting with him, I was venting about this horrible person and how she needs to pay for costing me so much money, hurting my little girl, and filing false reports. He listened to me go on for quite a bit and finally, he pulled out this spreadsheet that had a row running horizontally and a row that ran vertically across the page. He said “This is what you’re being accused of” and slid his finger across the page, “and this is the amount of prison that you will get if you’re convicted of it.” His finger had landed on 25-34 years.

    I was completely shocked. Until that moment, it never had dawned on me that I could actually be convicted of this. I had only assumed that if you’re innocent then the truth will be found out and the truly guilty will be punished. I had never considered until that very moment that I could actually be sent to prison. When I showed up to court to face this new round of charges and she saw that I had a new lawyer, the blood drained from her face. She knew at that moment that the ruse was up and she was facing a real player. Her attorney practically crapped in his pants too. Needless to say, the charges were dismissed. She is now paying me child support and I share 50/50 custody with her, which is about the best that you can hope for.

    That doesn’t negate what she put my daughter through. It doesn’t negate the fact that she financially ruined me for several years to come. And it most definitely doesn’t negate the fact that used a very serious crime against children to push her own agenda and then goes away from it virtually unharmed. What about the little kids that actually have had something like this happen to them? If you saw allegations like this on a daily basis that turn out to be untrue, don’t you think that it would make you jaded and less trusting when that little child comes through your door that actually has had trauma inflicted on them and it’s disregarded as false because the court system sees this on a daily basis? I think that the laws against falsely accusing someone of a crime of this magnitude should be enforced to the maximum and carry very stiff sentences with them. This would cut down on this BS that clogs up the courts, and denies good men and women the right to see their children by having to defend themselves against this garbage.

  40. Contessa on August 27, 2010 at 9:49 PM

    I so wish there was a way to help each and every one of you. I wish there was a way I could undo the damage and take away the
    pain.

    There is not. I will never be able to erase my husband's pain and he's always going to feel it. The best I can do is be the best wife I can.

    I am always ready to listen even though I might not have any advice. Sometimes, one just needs to vent.

    8dozenroses@gmail.com

  41. Dan Abshear on August 21, 2010 at 8:33 AM
  42. Robert on August 8, 2010 at 2:53 PM

    I had a life and she took it from me!

  43. Robert on August 8, 2010 at 6:51 AM

    Dental Recruitment Says:

    July 7th, 2010 at 10:56 pm
    False accusation is a very bad thing for any one who is being accused. Only a person can feel that bad impression. This leads to a person makes angry whether he fails to his mental condition or take revenge after when they get free.

    Exactly. If I were "the vionent criminal" that the state of Teenessee thought I was, Sandi Delk would nolt be alive now. She has stalked and harassed me ever since she realized she got away with her lie. How would anyone expect the falsely accused to react upon being within ten feet of the person who stole their life? She was close enought for me to catch and exact revenge upon her for destroying my life. I was presented a link to a website/news blog, where she (it couldn't be anyone else but her who bragged about what she did. I have been working every night for over three years now. I'm now trying to save the money to hire an attorney ( I don't know wether I need a criminal defense attorney or what/who to seek exoneration. I can't tell you how much hell and grief she caused to be brought into my life. Sometimes I have to fight myself to keep from ending it all. As of August 2, 2010, it has been four years since she brought hell into my life. I am beyond filled with misery and grief.I JUST WISH I WERE DEAD.

  44. Dental Recruitment on July 7, 2010 at 2:56 PM

    False accusation is a very bad thing for any one who is being accused. Only a person can feel that bad impression. This leads to a person makes angry whether he fails to his mental condition or take revenge after when they get free.

  45. Patti on July 5, 2010 at 7:35 PM

    I am begging for your help. My husband is dealing with an ex who is psychopathic and we have just went through the worst 5 months of our lives. She accused him in February of sexually touching his daughter who is 5 which was an absolute lie and thrown out in court because the judge seen right through her. Now she has told us she is on a mission to destroy us and this is just the tip of the iceberg. We have tried to seek help with Children and Youth and the local police but have just been told good luck you will need it. Is there any one out there who has been in this situation and can give us any direction on what to do, if so it would be greatly appreciated. Please email me at pjbagley@comast.net. Thank you so much.

  46. Contessa on July 5, 2010 at 7:11 AM

    @Texas Tomcat,

    Thanks so much for the kind words. There’s nothing special about me at all. I readily admit that I might not have understood any of this were I not living it.

    Being married to a falsely accused man is not easy and I become despondent at times myself. There is a lot I do without and I’m not always cheerful about it….LOL. But he is a wonderful man, just scarred from the horrors of the accusations and I love him very much.

  47. cliff on June 28, 2010 at 2:57 PM

    I wish we all human being have a big heart and
    follow the law of god.
    dont destroy the opportunity of our life and life is precious that supposed we care.
    now my life change at all,i am now scared all the time and,I dont wanna trust anymore to the people that,i dont really know.pls pray for me to be happy again and helpful person and respectful…i love god as ,I love human being…

  48. cliff on June 28, 2010 at 2:54 PM

    now,I am still scared because of those people making up stories and false accusation through me.i have peace order and accept the judge order because he said no contact only until i sign w/o knowing the conclusion.
    here comes this people making those horrible stories that,i climb in the night and went to the house but i didn’t try that because for what reason and I am a man with honor and respect for human kind.
    I hope good people and good judges knows about the case well before believing the allegations….

  49. ken pangborn on June 27, 2010 at 5:28 PM

    Just wanted to remind folks I’m still here as is the “Team” and still kicking rear on false allegations, and custody cases particularly interstate and international cases.

  50. cliff on June 27, 2010 at 3:21 PM

    first of all lets be peace on earth and love one another..all my life was struggling and helpful person and understandable.
    the story is ,really tragic and scary.
    I been lock up by false accusation of this family and destroy my personality and telling lies to the government that,i am bad person and threatening them…i am still trying to fix this case..god bless u all.
    love help me and help everyone who is honest…

  51. Yunxiang Ye on June 25, 2010 at 1:23 PM

    False Allegations of Domestic Violence is ruining my life, my life is upside down.

  52. Texas tomcat on June 24, 2010 at 9:33 AM

    I can add a few words here. I know false accusations have often times killed the innocent. Remember this, I have reread my post. I have read other posts. Now I am beginning to see the light. There are towns and circles of friends who often time associate with their circles or another circle of buddies. Now getting to the point. False Rape cases are always gonna cost the every dime out of taxpayers because of selfishness, greed, and pure ungratification.

    I have seen tides turn toward the accusers, these tides are known like children turning against the accusers of their paternal parent. Remember this, You cannot do wrong and expect to come out right all time. I can tell you that its going to cause more strife later on down the line.

    In conclusion, I am humble to acknowledge that Contessa is a model woman standing up for the rights of innocent men who suffers daily from depression from hearing in court over false allegations from the accuser. Most people do not realize after this life. There is another judge that is impartial, no lawyer will be able to plead your case. You will have to answer for everything done in past life. Remember this, No one can escape revenge or injustice. Even the judges that are harsh on the male will have to answer to the judge in judgement day.

    Picture in your mind gentlemen, the other side where there is streets of gold, water so pure you do not have to worry about chemicals, Houses you do not have to worry about maintenance and one God who is loving, caring, and more of all the compassionate.

    These times will come where the current system is going to be replaced with the biblical system that is impartial. Just because the da can prosecute cases based on lies and deceit, will win in todays courts because of the special relationship with the judge. The facts are often times ignored.

    Remember, victims are the small children and the innocent parents suffering the evil doings of the feminist movement. I hope one day, D.C. will abolish the NOW, and other racist organisation that contribute to hate, and dissolution to traditional family values. We as a nation need to rebuild stronger. For the children, whippings do no harm but, make stronger parental models. fathers and mothers who do not whip their kids will have barbarian kids or sociopathic adults. it has been proven in today’s society. I can say that one of these days, everyone will look around and find majority of the problems with false rape and other false allegations will vaporize. Its going to take time.

    Majority of the male victims, hang on tight on what sanity you have, you will come out a winner. Female victims, I do not know if you are telling the truth. I think that you are just throwing a pity party to discredit this site. It will not work. I am to a male victim who have experienced a huge recovery mode of being the victor. One of these days, the tide will turn. Til then, hang on tight. It will get better.

  53. Robert on June 14, 2010 at 12:43 AM

    Friday, June 11, 2010
    Sexual assault nurse’s erroneous findings might have helped convict innocent men of sexual assault

    http://www.goerie.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20100608/NEWS02/306079920/-1/news

    http://falserapesociety.blogspot.com/2010/06/sexual-assault-nurses-erroneous.html

  54. Robert on June 11, 2010 at 9:47 PM

    Google the Duke lacrosse and Hofstra cases.

  55. Banker on June 3, 2010 at 2:51 PM

    Google “Biela in Reno NV”

  56. Banker on June 3, 2010 at 6:50 AM

    Do NOT sign this petition. It will do nothing but enable serial rapists to rape even more victims.

  57. Robert on June 2, 2010 at 5:50 PM

    Petition Supporting Anonymity For Rape Defendants

    Men around the world who are falsely and wrongly accused of the loathsome crime of rape suffer all manner of appalling harm, including murder, suicide, beatings, the deprivation of employment, and the loss of their good names, due to the unconscionable stigmatization that accompanies the publicity of such accusations.

    We, the members of the world community concerned about the rights and dignity of those who have been falsely and wrongly accused of rape and related offenses, call upon the governments of the world, and news agencies and outlets everywhere, to grant anonymity to the presumptively innocent who have been charged with rape and related offenses, which anonymity should be lifted only upon a conviction for such charge.

    We specifically support the UK Government's May 2010 proposal to grant anonymity to defendants in rape cases, and we oppose those efforts to block the proposal for the reasons stated here: http://falserapesociety.blogspot.com/2010/06/refu

    Please click here and sign
    http://www.petitionspot.com/petitions/anonymity/#

  58. Contessa on May 15, 2010 at 7:58 PM

    Cheryl, I'm so sorry for your experience. No, as time goes on and persons of either gender who lack morals and integrity discover that they can lie with impunity, we will see an increase in false accusations. That's why it's so important to support NCFM.

    Making false accusations: Not just for women anymore. But false accusations of rape, DV, incest, etc. against men are the most common. It's tragic.

  59. Don Saxton on April 30, 2010 at 6:26 PM

    Cheryl
    I am for equality and I am not a feminist. To me equality is a very old human desire. Call me a humanist.

    False accusation is indeed a cheap shot. It is a way to ruin the accused. So far the cost to the false accuser has been very low. In a criminal trial the accused (you) has only the security that the conclusion is upto a jury of “your” peers. And all of us who played “telephone” as kids know the game can be very scary if you had to trust your life to those kids. This is particularly true when you know your innocent and the best you can imagine from a jury of your peers is 50 : 50. But having lost your house and job, you know that the cost is huge even if you win.

    Move this to a non-criminal trial where there is no jury and no “beyond a reasonable doubt”. Imagine that it is not a few thugs in cabs against your gender, but the judge. Suppose that judge is the product of 40 years worth of “training” against your gender. Suppose they (the judge) has already taken your house, is making you pay for it, and you have already lost your job. Then you might already have surmised that you’re screwed. What do you have to live for? Well, did you leave out anything? What about your kids? Was there something more valuable to you, maybe more valuable than your life? Well the “judge” doesn’t care about your kids, or your life, only your gender and her feminist politics and that she and her friends are paid. So you will pay, and pay and pay. You will run yourself silly into debt, more debt than you could ever imagine. All of this because you know your kids are more important than anything. You may already know that the odds are against you 10 to 1, but your kids are all that is left.

    The judge doesn’t care, because she is against your gender. At least now you know what screwed is.

  60. Cheryl on April 29, 2010 at 1:55 PM

    I consider myself a feminist, in that I believe in equality. I too, was arrested on false charges, and my life is in shambles.
    The problem started when I was the only female cab driver in town, and was being pursued by another cabbie, who is a drug-dealer. I politely declined several times, and when he found out I was dating someone else, retaliated against me by getting all the cabbies to sexually harass me. The harassment was extreme, egregious and humiliating. I complained to the owner of the company, but he defended the drug dealer and often participated in harassing me himself. The owner of the cab company and most of the cabbies are middle-eastern and I was constantly told “all American women are whores.” This went on for a year and a half before I finally told the lot of them that if they did not stop it, I would file suit. Instead of stopping, they retaliated even more by threatening me verbally and physically, and stalking me. They terrorized me to the point I ended up in counseling. I went to the police 3 times, unaware that the police were being sued for sexual harassment by their fellow female officers, and that they had retaliated against the female officers by falsly accusing them, and turned them into Internal Affairs on bogus charges. So instead of helping me, the police yelled at me, told me that I was “probably asking for it” and then tipped off the cabbies, so that I was retaliated against again. Eventually someone told me that the police and the cabbies were conspiring to sabotage my sexual harassment case. I do wish to say that I did not want to file a suit, I just wanted them to stop it.
    A couple of weeks later, one of the cabbies chased me down and tried to punch me. Then he bit his own lip and called the police, and told them that I punched him in the face, which was a complete lie. The police made me sit in my car alone while they and the cabbies made up an absurd story that I beat up 2 men. Then they made me get out of the car and handcuffed me in front of the harassers to humiliate me. I was not allowed to tell MY side of the story, or even talk at all. The police took away my Hackney license, so I lost my job. Then they threw me in a jail cell. I have never been in trouble in my life, but I was treated like a criminal.
    There is a police surveillance camera on the cab stand, but the police refused to hand over the videotape. I filed a motion in court for the videotape, and the judge also refused the motion. Then the police destroyed the videotape to cover up that they filed false police reports and arrested me on false charges. The police officers even used fake names on their reports.
    I have a severe medical condition that requires me to wear hand-splints, and had several rounds of physical and occupational therapy, so it is impossible for me to punch anyone, however, my medical records were completely ignored.
    I had called the District Attorney a month prior to my arrest(and I have the phone records to prove it), pleading for protection from these creeps, but the DA wouldn’t help me. Instead, the DA began threatening to take away my house and give it to these jerks if I didn’t agree to probation.
    I filed charges against these guys for filing false police reports, but since they are being backed by the police, they are being “taken care of” and don’t even have to show up for court. The DA refuses to assign me a prosecutor. They also don’t have to show up for Civil court, either.
    It is amazing that the DA was willing to prosecute me on no evidence whatsoever, yet refused to prosecute them for filing false police reports, in spite of OVERWHELMING evidence to back this up.
    I had to sit in court and listen to everyone call these jerks “victims.”
    I nearly lost my home to foreclosure because I couldn’t get a job because I now have an arrest record. My formerly perfect credit is now ruined. It has been 6 years and I still have nightmares. I have lost all faith in the so-called “Justice” system, and regard police officers as thugs. I feel frightened every time I leave my house. I no longer date because I feel revulsion towards men.
    You men are not the only victims in this game. False accusations are the way to win in court.

    • kyle on January 22, 2011 at 5:18 AM

      ALL people need to learn more about the LAW, about the UNIFORM COMMERCIAL CODE, about personal Sovereignty, about how the “LAW” is nothing but FICTION, a GAME, a SCAM.

      Read these documents and start to protect yourself, whether MALE OR FEMALE!
      Feminism is MEANT to DIVIDE men and women!! It’s an OCCULT religion based on Satan worship at it’s core.. see PAST it and learn to protect yourself!! LEARN the LAW!!! LAWYERS will NOT TELL you these things because they’re PART of the system itself. They work for the COURTS and the STATE, NOT YOU, even if you are paying them. They’re FIRST obligation is to the COURT and the SHAM that is Maritime Law!! Learn about the UNIFORM COMMERCIAL CODE (UCC 1-207.7)

      Click this link, read the article, watch the videos at the bottom and read the PDF documents below that!! PASS IT AROUND!! It’s time to take the power BACK to WE THE PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  61. Contessa on April 28, 2010 at 11:10 PM

    Wow, Maekala, I had no idea I wanted my way with everything in a skirt! I'm a lesbian and I didn't even know it.

    So what you're saying is that even the women here just want other women? I'm am just SOOOOOOOOOO pining away for you, Maekala. May I have your phone number please? I'll buy you some Midol.

  62. afraidforhim on April 25, 2010 at 7:34 AM

    I am the girlfriend of a man who has an ex-wife that is very abusive to him – both physically and emotionally.

    Because of financial issues, they still unfortunately live under the same roof. They have two children together under the age of ten.

    They have been divorced for almost two years now and he and I have been together for 7 months. He is awaiting a settlement and plans to move out depending on the outcome of this settlement.

    She worries me very much. Every day she is hitting him. She punches him, pushes him, kicks him, scratches him. She cuts up his clothes, jackets, underwear. She has even taken the knife to his mattress.

    He has a lot of physical problems, I.E. ongoing problems from work related injuries and whatnot. He has a herniated disk between his 5th & 6th vertabra which in return sends shooting pains down his shoulder and arm all the way to his fingertips. She will haul off and punch him right in his neck, back and/or shoulder.

    He just recently had surgery to repair a bi-lateral hernia problem. Before and after the surgery, she would kick and punch him in his abdomen/groin area. She would actually wake him up by kicking him (they sleep in separate rooms) in his stomach.

    She also harrasses/stalks him big time. His cell is his only telephone and she will call him 10, 20, 30 times in a row and fill up his voice mail with hateful messages.

    He has mentioned many times that he is going to call the police on her. To date – he hasn’t. I realize how embarrassing and humiliating this must be for him. He is a man. A strong man. He can handle the pain she inflicts on him. That is similar to what he thinks. I have wanted to call the police on her before and he has begged me not to for his kids’ sakes.

    I am seriously worried about him. He knows I am. I have cried to him about how worried I am about him. He has a hearing date coming up next week in regards to his pending settlement and his ex is acting up worse and worse each day that comes closer to that. It’s like she knows the “end” is really coming. She is sooooo controlling that in her mind, there is no way he will ever leave her, I.E. move out.

    I’m scared to death that she is going to really seriously injure him. Just a couple of days ago she stabbed his mattress and cut it up (he wasn’t in the bed, but it sends chills down my spine the thought if he was….) I mean, this woman is off.

    She came by my house a couple of weeks ago and rang my bell and said she wanted me to buzz her up so she can talk to him. I told her that I thought that wasn’t a good idea. She replied “WHY???? I’M HIS WIFE!!” I told her no your not and you need to go home and take care of your kids he’s with me now. She said something else and I told her that if she didn’t leave there was going to be major problems.

    She left.

    She tried using intimidation and manipulation with me. Neither worked.

    But that just goes to show her controlling manner. She’s used to wiping her feet all over him. I, however, will not tolerate that behavior. Which I have already voiced to her.

    I’m not looking for any advice. I am just venting. I am well aware of my situation with this man. I love him and he loves me and we plan on staying together. But my God, it is so difficult dealing with a crazy ex. I just hope and pray that she doesn’t kill him.

  63. LadyBug on April 13, 2010 at 12:28 AM

    Just got back from court. An 11 year old girl began calling and texting my 15 yr old son. Had a bad crush on him. He had a girlfriend, didn't think this girl was cute, and found her to be a total nuisance. I told him just be nice to her because she was just a little kid, but let her know he had a girlfriend and that she was too young for him to consider being anything but friends. After trying to change his mind for 3 months, she finally got mad at him for not giving in and because I blocked her number at his request. That night she told her older cousins he sent her sexual texts and tried to seduce her (by phone since they have never been in the same location in person!) They assaulted him, causing over $4,000 in medical bills. Then her mother pressed charges against my son for text stalking and electronic molestation (no lie – that is what the subpoena said). Result: The two cousins received two years probation and must pay restitution. The girl changed her story three times, then finally recanted her statements under oath and said she "exaggerated his comments to her". The charges against him were dropped, but with prejudice because the judge wouldn't look at our evidence (phone records showing the girl initiated EVERY contact and when I finally blocked her number)stating she "didn't believe an 11 year old girl could concoct such allegations" unless my son had shown "some level of disrespect". So a little girl lies and a completely innocent teenager now has a file with a charge that can be resurrected at any time until he is 18. UNBELIEVABLE!!!

  64. Jim on April 1, 2010 at 3:34 AM

    This is the very kind of attitude that would falsely accuse someone.Your IGNORANCE speaks for itself.You go girl…lol

  65. Robert on March 24, 2010 at 6:01 AM

    Makaela Says:

    February 28th, 2010 at 11:45 am
    Bull. Shit.

    Every rapist’s defense is “she wanted it” or “she was asking for it” or “she enjoyed it”.

    Rape isn’t a feminist invention meant to try and make a man’s life harder. Rape and abuse happen. More often than ANY gender would like to believe or accept. Not to mention most abuse is never even reported because the abuser keeps the victim is constant fear.

    I think the people on this website need to grow up and accept that you can’t bully women – or anyone for that matter – into doing what you want by whining about how “unfair” you think it is that you can’t have your way with everything in a skirt.

    Get over it. Seriously.

    ————————————-

    You are waaaaay out of line. Take your feminist banter to a site where it is welcome, like feministing.com.

  66. Rachel on March 10, 2010 at 11:29 AM

    The only thing I despise more than a rapist is a woman who lies about being raped.

    A woman who lies about this is truly selfish and ignorant. Our “foremothers” fought very hard to help put laws in place to protect women and girls and these are the women that take advantage of it.

    Real rape victims go through so much horror with the legal system and with society in general. Their validity is always questioned. These women who lie do nothing but set us back many generations.

  67. Jose Diaz on March 5, 2010 at 9:57 AM

    Hello, I understand the feeling. I am going through this right now. I found out that my wife was cheating on me, after trying to convince her to go with me to counseling, she refused. Then when I called and confronted the man she was cheating on me with because I found his number on the phone bill. I filed for divorce and I found myself, being issued an order of protection against me, falsely accused of harrassment and stalking, arrested and now I have to hire an attorney to defend myself in criminal court next week for aggravated harrassment, stalking, and even physical abuse when I never even laid a finger on her. By the way her attorney’s fees are free because she is working through a woman’s advocacy group. Then to top it all off, after the order of protection was issued, she goes a invitro fertilzation center to try and get pregnant with the man she left me for, using my health insurance.
    I feel the system is totally against men and that women can use the system to maliciously prosecute men just to be vengeful. CAN ANYONE HELP ME. JOSE FROM NYC.

  68. Makaela on February 28, 2010 at 11:45 AM

    Bull. Shit.

    Every rapist’s defense is “she wanted it” or “she was asking for it” or “she enjoyed it”.

    Rape isn’t a feminist invention meant to try and make a man’s life harder. Rape and abuse happen. More often than ANY gender would like to believe or accept. Not to mention most abuse is never even reported because the abuser keeps the victim is constant fear.

    I think the people on this website need to grow up and accept that you can’t bully women – or anyone for that matter – into doing what you want by whining about how “unfair” you think it is that you can’t have your way with everything in a skirt.

    Get over it. Seriously.

  69. Michelle Morris on February 24, 2010 at 4:38 AM

    If any man has been through false allegations of DV and has been successful please email me details berryislegirl@gmail.com

  70. Michelle Morris on February 23, 2010 at 8:32 PM

    My son has been going through this for 6 years We have 2 beautiful children w this sick woman. She is now remarried 4th time.we go to trail in 4 weeks I was wondering does any one know where you would find someone that has been through false allegations of DV to testify I think this could be very helpful for alot these cases Ive found people in general dont believe woman would or could lie about such things please help I think she has BPD every symtom of the illness we are up against alot she has to be stopped mm

  71. M.P. on February 9, 2010 at 2:36 AM

    I stumbled upon this website, looking for resources for my falsely accused brother. (Accused of "sexual imposition- touching a girl's stomach). This girl waited 4 months to report anything, and did not exhibit any symptoms/reactions typical of a girl that has been sexually assaulted.

    To the feminists (such as myself) out there I say this: False allegations/the propensity to adopt a "women don't lie about sex" mentality negates the very essence of "equal rights". A true feminist ideal is for -complete equality-. A level playing field on all accounts; this includes in a court of law.

    Additionally, for *every, single* false allegation, a girl somewhere (that has truly been grievously assaulted) is undermined. We'll revert back to the days when women don't come forward at all- because too many have cried wolf. As a feminist, this should offend your sensibilities to the core!!

  72. Ron Belec on February 3, 2010 at 12:50 PM

    FAKE

    False Allegations Kill Everyone

    All the time, every time

    Ron Belec NCFM Seattle

  73. Terri on February 3, 2010 at 3:00 AM

    I've been dealing with this false accusation ordeal for 2 1/2 years with my son. His girlfriend at the time was breaking up and going back with her ex and she claimed false accusations on him… he was convicted on circumstantial evidence only and the attorney that was hired died 3 months before the trial. He ended up with an inexperienced attorney from the firm. It was horrible… there was NO defense at all. Out of ignorance the family did not know what to do… or if there was anything that could be done. Now, the appeal opportunity is over… and the family is lost.. any help would be great.

  74. johnny on January 28, 2010 at 5:00 AM

    my ex filed a restraining order on me that i havent been served with ,since shes filed shes contacted me several times doesnt that render the restraining order void?

  75. Robert on January 18, 2010 at 9:00 PM

    Please forgive the music.

  76. Robert on January 18, 2010 at 8:59 PM

    There is one thing that stands as an enemy to innocent men and women;
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Go7cyTlao04
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i6lIurF3wA4&fe

  77. wife of another vict on December 8, 2009 at 12:07 PM

    I too am married to a man who has been wrongly accused of abuse. During their marriage she was always the aggressor. After he and I got married and she found out I was pregnant, she started to get worse with her antics. My husband decided to take her back to court for more visitation. She was told by her attorney and his that my husband "would" get more time. She stated that she would not allow that and if she had it her way, he wouldn't be in the girls lives at all. Two days later she called the police accusing him of physically abusing the oldest girl. We hired an attorney and went to court. She had coached her daughter on what to say. At 5 she said "my mommy told me to tell you that daddy put bruises on my bottom" On top of that, in court she also testified that her mommy told her to say those things and that my husband was her step-daddy. Fortunately, the jurors saw the lies and my husband was aquitted. But that was only part of it. During these two years, my husband only got to see the girls supervised for 4 hours a month in which the youngest who had just turned 3 at the time would say to my husband "mommy says that you don't love us because you put bruises on sissy's bottom". He had to go through anger management and parenting classes, which he completed all of them. Then he had to go through court again for reunification therapy before the girls were allowed back in our home. Since they have been in our home, she has taken him back to court 2 more times. The most recent was to try and have the extra time he was given taken away because she thought that we ate macaroni and cheese for dinner every night. The judge ordered them to go to co-parenting. I think she realized that she was going to lose more time, because she found a way to manipulate the system again and stop the proceedings. She came to the house to pick up the girls and left. She then came back to the house to start an arguement with my husband. When she didn't win the arguement, she went home and then called the police to say that my husband assaulted her. Two days later at their next co-parenting appointment she played the victim, co-parenting was stopped, a copy of the police report was requested and everything sits in limbo.

    Hopefully things work in our favor and she is seen for the liar she is. It appears that the police report shows her the aggressor since she left and then came back to our home and my husband never left the doorstep. Also, the officer reported that she showed him how my husband supposedly grabbed her but the way in which she did seemed to be suspect as it left marks that she claimed my husband left. When he went to the car to get the camera to take pictures, he came back and the marks on her arms were gone. No pictures were taken even though she claimed to the co-parenting therapist that pictures were taken.

    Our only hope is that the when the therapist gets a copy of the police report that it becomes apparent to the therapist that his ex is again making an attempt to interfer with our visits and my husbands rights as a father.

    I hope the therapist recommends the psychological evaluation that she needs and sweet justice would be that the DA actually persues a false police report against her.

    It is unfortunate that we will always have to be on our guard around her and that we still have 12 years to deal with the sociopath.

  78. Bob Ludlum on November 24, 2009 at 3:08 PM

    False allegations of domestic violence have been made against myself. I can only say that this crime should be made a felony with jail time. It costs several thousand dollars to defend against such false statements and injures innocent people. Not to mention wastes
    the time of the Court. The tactic is well known to Judges, attorneys and law enforcement officials.

  79. Saleemah A. Green on November 11, 2009 at 12:04 AM

    NCFM:

    I commend you for standing up and speaking out on behalf of men everywhere. I applaud your recent press release calling Rihanna to come forth and own some accountability in the unfortunate chain of events leading up to her assault earlier this year.

    I am a 37 year-old African-American woman with 3 brothers so I have seen many Rihannas come and go. I cannot begin to count the number of times I have witnessed instances when my brothers, friends, neighbors, etc. have been pushed away from their homes, taken to jail, or forced to withstand verbal and physical abuse from women. In at least half of those instances, the women perpetrated or escalated the entire episode.

    Like NCFM, I am not condoning Chris' behavior but I am undeniably standing behind your message to her and to the public. Again, I commend you for your words.

    Thank you!

    Saleemah A. Green, M. Ed
    Cincinnati, OH

  80. Gigi Cabrera on November 9, 2009 at 11:01 PM

    Hello All,

    I am the current girlfriend (1.5 yrs) of a man who is being falsely accused of DV by his ex and mother of his 7 year old child. This woman who is actually the abuser, put a RO against him back in April 2008 after following him around town until she found him at a gas station where he stopped because he thought he had lost her. She then (5′10″ and probably over 200lbs) jumped him, bit and scratched him, and broke his laptop after getting it out of the car. All this while their daughter looked on from her vehicle and people at the station witnessed on. Someone called the police and when they arrived, she accussed him of beating her but thankfully for him people attested to the contrary and she ended up getting arrested. He bailed her out and to his surprise that was his worse mistake: she went back to police station and accussed him of beating her and they went and arrested him. He who had just bailed her out for assaulting him in front of a bunch of other people! She also accussed him of assaulting their child and got DSS involved. Its been the same story ever since, she follows him around, calls him incessantly, leaves him messages threatening him, vandalizes his property, shows up at his house/job or his sisters house if he doesnt pick up her calls, has accussed him of violating RO which has landed him in jail, he is currently out on $6000 bail. She also coupled up with her sister who accussed him of assaulting her and thru a bogus witness was able to also get a RO against him. And now if either of them even sees him on the street, they follow him and call the police. Yesterday actually, the siter saw a friend of his at a barber shop and immediately went to police and accussed him of violating the RO more than a week ago. A warrant for his arrest was issued and now all he thinks about is killing himself because he doesnt know how he’s going to be able to get rid of all the problems without having to go to jail first and having an even longer rap sheet, all due to this woman’s obsession with him. She says she rather see him dead than with another woman.
    What I would like to know is, what can he do to defend himself from all these bogus claims and get all these charges dropped? If he has proof that she is falsely accussing him as well as her sister, can any charges be brought against them? Can he too get a RO against them both? He has eye witnesses, text messages, emails, voice mails, recordings (audio and camera)of her following him and screaming obsceneties at him and his phone records that show that she is the one to call not the other way around. He asked for a RO back in July 09 after she showed up where he used to work and again assaulted him in front of his boss, coworkers and customers and then started slapping their child as an example of what happens when he doesnt pick up her calls but got denied. This has gotten way out of hand and i would like to somehow find a way to help him and put an end to this crazy woman’s madness.

    Thanks,

    Gigi

  81. Daveyone on November 8, 2009 at 5:47 AM

    Take a look at my latest at;
    http://www.daveyonefamilylawman.blogspot.com/
    Best wishes
    Davey

  82. Bill on November 6, 2009 at 9:22 PM

    Jill, your husband needs a lawyer for one. Second what was he doing in a bar and kissing some random broad after he was busted for dui after he was busted for stealing beer. How was he getting home from the bar, drive? He had no business being in the bar. I find it hard to believe that they arrested him on the "evidence" you speak of….and I find it also hard to believe hes on parole for stealing beer. You have to be not sharing something about him….

  83. Bill on November 6, 2009 at 9:07 PM

    Don.. it takes 2 people to agree to have sex…dont make it as if the woman controls it all…the guy has to be involved as well. Guys have to learn how to keep it in their pants as well as woman not be so willing to sleep around….We need to get back to morals. No sex before marriage and get to know the person your marrying very very very well BEFORE you say those vows

  84. Bill on November 6, 2009 at 8:59 PM

    I think what the biggest thing is that people A) Dont really get to know the person they are marrying BEFORE they get married. B) Are not willing to go thru counseling or work things out, marriage vows say "till death do us part" not "till a judge lets me out of the marriage" and C) the fact that so many people have to resort to violence and lies about others…God's greatest commandment says " Love one another as you would love yourself" EVERYONE needs to be willing to work things out, stop lying and start facing life and the challenges it brings and deal with it.

  85. Chris on November 6, 2009 at 12:10 PM

    After reading your stories, I just wanted to chime in briefly…

    First of all, my heart goes out to all of you who are suffering and struggling in the wake of cruel, unjust and malicious false accusations. I wish all of you the best as you work to rebuild your lives, reestablish your careers and reconnect with those close to you. I'm glad to see that there's an organization like NCFM taking up mens' issues. As a young man, you give me hope that there are people working toward a more just future.

    My second comment is to Contessa…this world needs more people like you!!! Your comments here are articulate, insightful and heartfelt. I sincerely appreciate your advocacy and your dedication. Your husband should feel incredibly lucky to have you…I wish you both the best. Please keep up your amazing work!

  86. Chelle on November 4, 2009 at 6:22 AM

    Our system today is screwed up. My father who raised my 3 sisters, 3 aunts, and their daughters in our home with my mother was convicted 5 years ago of child molestation and rape and received a life sentence. The false allegations made by my twin stepsisters out of spite for being punished have ruined our lives. They have gone on like nothing has happened. Our family couldn't afford an attorney and therefor one was appointed by the state. Guess what, this guy never had been on a case like this as he only handled DUI's. Although there was no evidence, and my step-sisters stories changed consisitently our father was still taken from us. Our whole family is in support of my father but no one can afford the cost it would take to have him free'd. My father a hard working man that would give you the shirt off his back, didn't have a thing on his record and now he sits wasting away in a Washington state prison. And guess what? They say he's one of the best prisoners they have never causes trouble, works…Model prisoner. :(

  87. Don on October 26, 2009 at 6:41 PM

    REMEDY:
    BIG NUMBER ONE: Just keep “it” in your pants, guys.
    2) Women who are overtly sexual always have something rattling loose in their brains. Avoid them at all cost, or else you’re injecting poison into your life.
    3) Get over your fascination with bisexual women. They’re loonie-toons.
    They can’t decide who or what they are. Doesn’t that tell you something?
    4) If your woman ever confesses to you that she’s been abused, as soon as you can, EJECT HER FROM YOUR LIFE. She will certainly claim SHE was the victim, but there’s always TWO sides to the story. Also, she’s more likely to call the police on YOU for the slightest infraction due to her past experience.
    5) Keep your eyes and ears open for the slightest indication of a controlling personality. If you sense this, ditch her!
    6) DO NOT BECOME INTIMATE WITH FEMALE LAWYERS!!!!!!! ARE YOU CRAZY???
    7) If she seems the slightest bit physical, lose her.
    YOU’LL DISMISS ALL THIS AS B.S. UNTIL YOU FIND YOURSELF SITTING IN A TINY CELL WITH A 300# AXE MURDERER, YOUR RIGHTS STRIPPED AWAY, YOUR LIFE RUINED.
    I’ll take no pleasure whatsoever in saying “I told you so!”.

  88. Don on October 26, 2009 at 6:27 PM

    Just today I was told by a friend that a man was seen hanging by the neck from a pine tree, in full view of rush hour traffic.
    I’LL BET I KNOW WHY HE DID IT.

  89. Don on October 26, 2009 at 6:14 PM

    Lets’ face it. What we’re seeing here is the swan song of heterosexual marriage. It’s being killed off with brutal efficiency. You can thank those lesbians who are outraged that THEY have been historically denied the right to get married, along with the greed of unscrupulous women and their equally slimy lawyers. They fuel this unfortunate phenomena any way they can.
    The lawyer cop-out: “Hey, this is a no-win situation for the guy…might as well make some money off his misery anyway.
    After my own outrageous experience with a deranged ex making false accusations against me and so deftly manipulating societal tools meant to protect women with LEGITIMATE concerns, I AM SO VERY GLAD I’VE NEVER MARRIED…and I’m in my late forties.
    Need companionship? BE SMART, GUYS. GET A DOG!

  90. Don on October 26, 2009 at 10:54 AM

    Guys…
    1) Face it. Sex was never meant to be YOUR domain, like the sea is the domain of a hungry, great white SHARK. THE WOMAN still typically give consent for sex. Don't be a fool and believe otherwise.
    2) WOMEN:
    A. …GIVE CONSENT FOR MARRIAGE TO TAKE PLACE
    B. …GIVE CONSENT FOR SEX TO TAKE PLACE
    C. …GIVE CONSENT FOR BABY-MAKING TO TAKE PLACE.
    Typically (and don't whine, "but what about rape?!!!" to me…), women control all these things.
    3) Don't be fooled into thinking you have ANY SAY-SO in these matters.
    A very famous female columnist once said, "Women think in very PRACTICAL terms in regards to marriage."
    Guys who date two- three women at once do so for a very healthy reason…to cull out the nut-jobs.

  91. chad bolin on October 26, 2009 at 1:16 AM

    4 years ago i was falsely accused of indecent contact with 2 of 3 of my kids by my x wife.she is bi-polar,manic depresed with personality disorders,and yet i was railroaded by law enforcement.2 polygraphs,30,000dollars,4 years of grief im back where i was before.she is still mentally ill and in control.nobody and i mean nobody will help.i never went to trial ,charges were droped but the damage is already done.my kids were 3,4&5 at the time.and for 4 years she has been running me into the ground to them.what does a person do?what can i do?

  92. Jill on October 23, 2009 at 8:15 PM

    I don’t know if this is the right place, but in reading your posts, it seems that I may have finally found a group of people who understand my torment. My husband (we are newlyweds of 5 months) was doing great in his life, a student about to pass his classes and enter in to a new career, attending church weekly, attending AA due to a DUI he received just prior to giving up alcohol a year ago. It seems his life was just getting on track. Yes, he did something dumb when he was about 21 years old, he got drunk and stole some beer from a small store. He admitted his guilt, served his time and was on parole.

    About a month before he stopped drinking, he stopped in a bar one night to play pool and have a couple beers, he had visited this bar before (maybe twice) and a woman approached him as soon as he walked through the door, she had obviously had a few, she said she had seen him there before, so he invited her to have a drink and play a game of pool. After a couple games of pool and a couple drinks, she took a few shots of tequila and began to kiss him. He admits to kissing her for a minute or two but then stopped and told her he didn’t want to do this. She said “whatever” and seemed to be upset when she left. What happened to this woman next (by the way, he didn’t even get her name)is unclear to us, as my now husband’s sister showed up at the bar to drive him home and he left. Now a year later, a lifetime later, my now husband is arrested and they say this woman was raped that night and his DNA was found on her neck (saliva), no other DNA on her matched him, but since he was the only match that came up in the computer (because of his parole status, they had his DNA on file). They issued a warrant for his arrest. Arrested him out of the blue all because he kissed a woman (consensually) in a bar one night!!!! My husband is the most gentle man I have ever met, he was raised by 5 sisters who taught him against abusing women, and he would never do such a thing. The bartender saw the man she left with that night, and when shown a picture of my husband, said no that was NOT the man she left with…….so why did they arrest him?? The description she gave of the “rapist” (if there was one) was of a man with a tattoo on his stomach, which my husband does not have, an earring, which my husband has never worn an earring, so why did they arrest my husband???? When shown a photo lineup of possible suspects, the woman recognized my husband and said she thinks he looks familiar……of course he LOOKED familiar, she was only kissing on him earlier that night about 4 shots of tequila earlier in her memory!

    We know nothing about this woman except that the people who work at that bar roll their eyes and act as if her rape claims are crazy. Because of this crazy false accusation, my husband must sit in jail for at least the next 12 months waiting for his day in court (you cannot have bail when you are on parole) He is contemplating suicide and has been medicated in the jail and all I can do is sit in my house and wait for a collect phone call from him so I can try to encourage him and pray with him while I, myself, am dying inside, wheres the justice? How do I tell people, friends, my daughter’s classmates parents, where my new husband is? The only person who knows is our pastor and he encourages me without being judgemental. Why does society believe these woman? Why can’t some laws be passed to go after people who use accusations to tie up courts when it can be proven the accusations are false? I’m just so disheartened with our society now, I pray something will change for the better soon.

  93. Scott on October 22, 2009 at 12:07 PM

    Andrew, I haven't heard from you here or via email…i am praying you are ok and not being held in jail. I hope to hear from you soon! If you email, me put False Accusations in the subject line so I know it is you.

  94. Jose on October 22, 2009 at 6:06 AM

    I dont know if anyone has heard of the female student at HOFSTRA University that accused four men of raping her, but its really aggravating to me. She went out to a club or some event, met some guys and had consentual sex with all of them while one other guy videotaped it with his cell phone. Afterwards she goes home to her noyfriend and he started questioning her as to what she was doind and where she was. In order to keep him from finding out about it she lies and says she was raped by 4 guys in a bathroom stall. They go down to campus security and file a complaint. The police arrested all four guys and their faces were plastered all over the news. Then when the prosecuter was interviewing her they brought up the fact that there might be a videotape and all of a sudden her story collapsed. She ends up confessing that it was consentual and the boys are let free. Now what drives me crazy about this is that these boys were about to face up to 27 years in prison, their names and faces were all over the news, reputations destroyed, and the police did not want to release even the name of the girl involved. She just ruined their lives and they wouldnt give up her name? Then she doesnt even go to jail for it. She should have to face the same prison term they would have if they were convicted.Its such a double standard. All a woman has to do is say something happened and she is automatically beleived to be telling the truth. Why hasnt some mens organization caused an uproar over this? The national organization of women has caused an uproar over David Letterman and his sex scandal and he didnt even break any laws. All he did was damage his marriage, he didnt do anything illegal. The double standard here is ridiculous and if the womens organization is going to flip out over something like David Letterman then the mens organizations should be fighting back. If it happened to these four boys it could happen to any man and there may not be a video to prove their innocence the next time.

  95. Daveyone on October 21, 2009 at 2:59 AM
  96. Katherine on October 20, 2009 at 8:56 PM

    I would love if someone has some links I can research on children/teens with mood disorders making false allegations. My wonderful 13 year old daughter made allegations of molestation against her stepdad who has been in her life since she was 3 months old. NOBODY believes this to be true…except for human servises and the district attourney. Her bio dad's family are even highly doubtful in her claims. My husband is a caring, selfless, sweet man. I KNOW from work experience children with mental illness do this, but the only info I am finding online is false allegations from custody and divorce issues. I want to help my daughter, but there are so many "holes" in her story, and I think the help she needs is to help her out of the hole she has dug herself in. She refuses to testify because "she is afraid no one will believe her and she will go to jail for lying. HELLO! I strongly believes my husbands life long character should speak for his innocence. I can't believe the so called "experts" can believe her soley based on her 20 minute disclosure. They never looked into her mental health background, or researched the family. We had witnesses in the house during the time period my daughter is allegating it to happen. Her statments are riddled with things that are untrue…such as I was asleep when this was going on….NO, I was in and out of the room and up and around! It goes on and on. Anyway, like I said, I am looking for info on children with mental heath issues making false allegations, or having false memories.

  97. Daveyone on October 19, 2009 at 9:57 PM

    Parental alienation or maunchausens syndrome by proxy is the cruelest thing and woman can do to a devoted dad, but is a weapon they can use with impunity. Equality in society stops at the family court room door, men become doormats and nobody cares the judge the lawyer the social worker the mental health professionals have reverse the premis innocent till proven guilty!
    I have had the grilling through court yet in 6 years I have not had a word against me as a father but the contact orders where not enforced on the mother, but added to what is now 25 months of no contact, time in a limited childhood that will never come back, I just hope some day they will come back to me but I already have anticipated regret!
    I guess this is small potatoes compared to some of the harrowing accounts here and my ex stopped with her acusations of calling me an alchoholic which nobody believe as I was a trucker for major national companies and in fact she has a criminal record for an assult on me not the reverse, but makes no different in our secretive family court rooms. Time may heel who knows I feel for you guys hard stomarch churning pain if only someone in authority would feel it ! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mpif_uGysno
    Take your pick from this lot; http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=CAFCA

  98. Stoneofrefuge on October 19, 2009 at 9:08 PM

    I have to add that contessa has the guts to stand up for the men. On the other hand, I have been raped by men and women as a toddler. I have to admit that a woman forcefully made me do things that I did not know was morally wrong. As a toddler, I was forced to lick her between the legs, and eat the butt, use my finger to do fingering things, I was forced or I had my butt whipped. I was at the baby sitters house. I was about 3 years old. I still remember the horror. Now to the feminists, You all can go to hell for all I care. You feminist are nothing but Monsters. I am a 36 year old man who believes women are threats to society. But I was also raped by men too. I have been messed up mentally and socially. I cannot describe the pain that I am suffering. Alot of time I feel like vomiting. I do feel for the men who have no rights or being defended for false allegations. I will not and cannot hurt a woman. I do not have the heart to do so. I have been traumatized, I cannot even sleep at night. You will have to understand that Sex is a wonderful thing.

    I cannot fathom that 1 in 4 women have been raped. I can say this, very few women get raped. most of them are under the women age. like teens. However, females tend to forget the ordeal and go on with their lives. Men on the other hand have to deal with the scars.

    I have been scarred mentally and socially. I am having a hard time keeping a relationship, I do not know what love is. I am having a hard time associating with people.

    I do not know what love is. I wasn;t give a chance. I have been ridiculed in life. I have also been told to step on the bumper of a vehicle to hold on tight to be given a ride home. I have been made fun of because of a drooping eyelid. I have been made fun of because of my social class. I have been made fun of because I am hard of hearing.

    I had men wanting to be my friends because of one thing. They wanted what I have which I worked hard for. I hate it when people use innocent to get what they want.

    As far the school girls are concerned. Karma is a bitch when it comes back. Mark my words, when it comes back, its a rough price to pay. Remember the Fab 5 Texas Cheerleader scandal. They rode high at the time. Now where are they now. They are living on welfare and working at burger joints.

    my name is Phill, I have been through hell. I know what its like being grilled by psychologists and law enforcement officers. It is not fun because of some lies. I almost had my life ruin because of it. Now people forget as they get older. Now I am seeing the same who put me through hell are suffering the pain themselves.

  99. Robin on October 19, 2009 at 9:08 AM

    My brother finaly was able to speak to his children after two months of no contact at at all. Because of the accusations he was given supervised visitation for 6 months. He was told her lawyer was looking to make sure he went to jail if they took it to trial. So if myself or my parents want to see the children we have to be “processed” & cleared and must be supervised. My father is so upset. He says what has he done but helped them all these years when they asked. I agree. We are treated like criminals just because she wanted a divorce and all the control.

  100. Daveyone on October 18, 2009 at 3:57 AM

    I first entered Family Court and previously thouight the F4J protest were foolish and whilst I believe they are counter productive I have sympathy with what drives a guy to such desperate protests just to have contact with their kids and have done nothing wrong! Instead of getting bitter and twisted over this which would have been quite easy,I chose to make a 6 year study of it and some of my conclusions have shown how bad it is in the UK with ineffectual Law ministers in Lord Falconer , Barness Scotland and Jack Staw and it will be interesting to see if the New (Opened this month) Supreme court of appeal with serve those who have been done wrong in County courts!
    As bad as it is in the UK I did not realise it was a worldwide phenominom and seem as bad in the US with slight State and County variations it is even worse in Canada and whilst courts are a little more open in Australia they still remain far from ideal!
    I intend to blog till this law is reformed and can be found on the UK's leading newspaper thus http://www.thesun.co.uk/discussions/forums/show/S

  101. unjustly served on October 17, 2009 at 1:50 AM

    I have been falsely accused of molesting my daughter. After passing two lie-detector tests and one psychosexual evaluation at a leading center, why on Earth do I still have to defend myself ?
    I need advice: I want my ex-wife to go through a lie-detector test, but I don't know the questions that are relevant as to whether she is training or coaching my daughter. Can anybody help, PLEASE?

  102. Robin on October 16, 2009 at 11:10 AM

    Wow! I did not know how rampant false accusations are. My brother is currently fighting a protective order. The order was gotten with false accusations. He has not been able to see or talk to his children in two months. He was very involved with his children. She had the high paying job. He took a job making less so he could be there for the children. Now he has nothing. His children were his life. How in this day and age can a person be guilty with not proof? He told me he could fight it but it would mean his daughter would have to testify against her mother.
    I don't understand why she had to be so ugly. Why not just get a divorce like most people? I just feel the laws are in place for women that really need that help and she is just thumbing her nose at those women. This just is selfish and keeping the children from their father is the abuse.

  103. Scott on October 14, 2009 at 9:56 AM

    Andrew, I sent you an email!

    Daveyone Our "justice" system is most assuredly 'guilty until proved innocent' and even then you will be considered a risk for no fault of your own….

  104. Daveyone on October 13, 2009 at 11:43 PM

    Much of our brocken societies stem from the incompitences and discrimination perveyed by Family Law Courts, so biased accounts that go unchallenged render many good men and above all fathers being slated by vengeful mothers and fee earners (Solicitors/Barristers) exsasibating matters as they have a finanial insentive to do so …..justice will never come into it here!!

  105. Andrew on October 13, 2009 at 11:28 PM

    Scott, I do apprecitate all the support I can get right now. Your moral support and prayers mean more to me than you know. Thank you for taking the time to offer me advice as I feel I keep hitting brick walls. I am continueing to use any and all resources I can in order to fight this false alligation. Here is my email as well, meswilkins@cox.net thank you again for all your advice Scott, I do apprecitate it. I look forward to hearing from you or I will let you know how things are progressing as my court hearing is right around the corner.

  106. Scott on October 13, 2009 at 7:11 AM

    Andrew I hope you will be able to find a lawyer…beg and borrow if you have to because without one it is next to impossible to defend against these false allegations. I wish I could help you but all I can offer is my advice and moral support. Hang in there and I am praying for you and your family that this will work out in a positive manner. If you wish you can email me bluvocal@yahoo.com I would like to keep in touch and help out if I can.

  107. Andrew on October 12, 2009 at 7:38 PM

    Scott, I am sorry to hear everything you have had to endure and all that you have lost because you were falsly accused. I am glad to hear they finally dropped the charges against you. My heart is breaking and I yearn to be with my son each and every moment of everyday. The thought of losing him has destroyed the person I once was and more importantly the person I might have become. Instead I feel alone, confused, angry and sad all at the same time and find myself deperate and drowning in unchartered waters. My horror story is just beginning and I can't imagine it getting any worse and yet I know it will. I would do anything to protect my child from harm but the court has tied my hands. If I had to sell everything I had in order to prove my innocense so that my child would know how much I love him, I would do that! The court has made it almost impossible for me to defend myself as I am sure my clothes will bring little or no money to help in my defense.

  108. Scott on October 12, 2009 at 1:29 PM

    Andrew I feel your pain…I live in Florida as well. GET A LAWYER QUICK! Find one who has experience in these types of matters. My horror story began in August 2008 with my wife's ex accusing me of molesting my step-daughter…I was arrested on December 5th. The arrest warrent had $100,003 bond on it ( signed by a female judge) I wasn't read my rights either…spent the night in jail and had a male judge @ 1st appearance. He lowered the bond to $15,000 (so it was $1500 to bail out). We had to retain my lawyer @ $5,000 pre-trail and if it went to trail it would be another $5,000. We had to pay $650 for a lie detector test by a retired FBI agent and $600 to be examined by a prominent local Psychiatrist both are specialists used by the state. I naturally passed the lie detector and the psycho-sexual examination as I was innocent. My lawyer also found 10-12 descrepancies in the testimonies of my accusers including the DCF investigators. I appeared in court for pre-trail appearances 4 times before a female judge and finally the female prosecutor dropped the charges after my lawyer presented my case to the head prosecutor (a male) who said I never should have been charged in the first place. Naturally, during all of this, the ex-husband went before the family court and futher barred visitation from my wife and our lawyer got that remedied to be visitation as long as I'm not present. And of course the ex violates this order and refuses to allow much contact between my wife and her daughter. We do not have the resources @ this time to persue it and fix it as upon my arrest, I lost my job as a manager and was reduced in rank and pay progressively, lost my health insurance, almost lost my house, may lose my car…and I still consider myself lucky. I have not seen nor spoken to my step-daughter since August 2008. So get a lawyer, I recommend doing a lie-detector test and a psycho-sexual exam prior to being arrested (in an effort to not be arrested) because DCF will most likely stamp you as a verifyed abuser and recommend you be arrested. DCF will manipulate evidence and lie to get you arrested. So GET A LAWYER! (and my story was in a nutshell… the pain is very real and consumming)

  109. Andrew on October 12, 2009 at 12:23 PM

    On October 1st I returned home from work to find out my girlfriend of 5 years and mother to my 3 year old son was having a relationship with another man. To say I was devestated would be an understatement. We began arguing and she wanted me to leave our home and I refused and said "I'll be damned if someone else is going to sleep in my bed". An arguement ensued and I took her cell phone to read the text messages she was sending back and forth with this other man. When I returned to our home I was approached by police who asked me what was going on. I explained what had happened and they spoke with her as well and basically said no crime was committed and that they could not enforce anyone leaving but suggested that one of us leaving for a cool down period would be a good idea. The police also stated that while no charges were being filed if they had to come back someone would most likely be going to jail. At that point I called my Mom and asked her if I could come spend the night with her so that the situation didn't esculate. I had plans of joining the military and had recently taken the asvab test and was waiting on my physical. While at my mothers I made a decision I was not going to go back, while I wanted to be with my son I did not want to be with someone who could not be faithful to me and had been very vindictive in the past. I had visitation rights with my son as I insisted on this at the time of his birth because we were not married and I wanted to protect my rights as a father should a problem ever occur…..my mom is a paralegal and see's this sort of thing all the time. Because my son was in the residence at the time of this altercation DCF was notified and they came and talked to me about the incident. I told them everything that had happened and at that time I was told of accussations that were being made against me by my x. I was outraged that she had accused me of domestic violence as I have never layed a hand on her or our son in all the years we were together. My family immidiately began to ralley around me and help me fight these accussations and through our own investigative work found out that she had been committing fraud with the state in order to recieve assistance for our son through the many different agencies. My mother contacted the DCF hotline for fraud and abuse and told my x that she had reported her and that she would not use my son as a pawn anymore. The very next day, 1 week after the altercation she went to the court house and filed and injunction for emergency protection and made statements that she had been physically and mentally abused for the past 5 years and was in fear for her life and our sons. Based on that statement alone and with no evidence the judge granted her 100 percent custody and I am only allowed to go to my home one time to pick up clothing and personal hygene stuff. In the 5 years we were together the police have never been called to our home prior to the incident stated above. My son is my pride and joy and has never been abused! The only abuse is her depriving me, a loving father from being with my son. She knows the only way to hurt me is to come between me and my son, whom I adore. I don't have much money and quite honestly after reading all these post I am truely afraid that I won't get a fair hearing. If the judge takes the time to listen to the evidence as well as witnesses I might have a chance but it sounds as though this is not how the proceedings will take place. It was my understanding that I had a right to face my accuser and question her in a court of law, however according to everything that I'm reading and the research I have done that is not the case. In Florida the accussation only needs to be plausable, it falls in the realm of "he said, she said" and if the judge thinks there is the slightest possibility that DV occured than I will not only lose my rights to my child but will also be facing criminal charges as well. Where is the justice in any of this? I recently lost a friend who committed suicide because his girlfriend left him with his newborn child and refused to let him see her. At the time I couldn't understand how someone could take there own life, but now I can feel his pain and I can definately relate. Having your child ripped away from you merely for revenge is about as low as you can go. I am trying to do whatever I can to come up with the money in order to hire an attorney to represent me and protect my son from being taken away from the one person who truely loves him but honestly I am running out of time and resources as my hearing is on the 21st of October. I don't know what to do or where to turn. Could someone please advise me what to do, I feel the weight of the world upon me and the mere thought of losing my son has already killed me inside.

  110. Dean on October 12, 2009 at 7:49 AM

    Angela, I am SHAGDA from antimisandry.com, I read "bobs" post and read your link as well.After reading it I wrote an email to newsdirector@kohd.com expressing need for further investigation, along with that 2 links..If you would like to read the email I sent I have posted it hear..
    http://antimisandry.com/false-allegations/guy-nee

  111. Bob on October 11, 2009 at 5:40 PM

    Angela,

    I have posted your link onto Antimisandry.com and asked people to help with an email campaign to the DA and the local publications. Meanwhile, check out the False Rape Society’s website. They have lots of resources there for people who are falsely accused. Also there is an outfit called Accused Falsely that is a network of lawyers that specialize in false accusations. Tell Kevin that it will cost a lot of money but he is young and can recouparate. It seems to be late in the game now so time is not on Kevin’s side.

  112. Angela on October 7, 2009 at 9:20 AM

    I’m afraid you may be unaware of a great injustice currently happening in Oregon. Local prosecutor Jody Vaughan is currently pursuing false rape charges against a local man. Her tactics are less than ethical and has built “evidence” she knows to be based on lies.The evidence against the alleged “victim”, proving SHE is a repeat liar and crier of wolf is incredible and hard to overlook; unfortunately that is exactly what the Deschutes County District Attorney’s office is doing.

    As a woman, a mother and a victim of rape and sexual assault, it is extremely important to me for a woman to feel safe to report sexual abuse of any kind. I know firsthand the personal power that is regained when looking an offender in the eye and sending them to prison. Regrettably I have also learned that it is far too common for women to hide behind the claim of rape in order to avoid taking personal responsibility for their own actions. The classic he said she said is almost always swayed to the woman’s side, requiring little proof on her end of the alleged events; leaving the accused to fight for their life with little help due to the Rape Shield Law. My concern is that this man is not going to receive a fair trial due to the protections this “victim” has on behalf of the DA’s office. This isn’t the first time she has cried rape falsely and without your help it certainly will not be her last. Please, take the time to follow the link and read the story of Kevin.

    (http://usobserver.com/archive/sept-09/driscoll-september.htm )

    The time is now for something to be done, before another innocent life is ruined. Kevin’s trial begins November 3rd, 2009. Can some please tell me what to do. I know that he has been trying everything to prove his innocents. Any help or information would be great. Thank you

  113. Burton on October 4, 2009 at 2:17 PM

    Shannon, I have a question for you: if you really believe in equality between women and men, then do you think that women who lie about rape should get the same penalty as men who rape? Or do you think that the women who have lied in cases such as Hofstra and Duke U should serve no jail time?

    And if you believe in equality, would you support university programs to raise consciousness about why women lie about rape?

    You say: "The definition of feminism, according to Merriam-Webster, is “: the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes”, which means that by definition and practice I fight for the equality of both women and men."

    But this is not a definition which most feminists follow. Please note that Shannon's parade of statistics concentrate on women as victims, but not as perpetrators (of everything from DV to lying about rape). More fundamentally, feminism as it exists in the real world is not about equality. It is about giving women (or I should say, pro-feminist women) certain privileges via affirmative action, government set-asides, womyn's studies departments, and special protection via VAWA and so forth. At the same time they do not demand that women take up the duties of men, such as registering for the draft.

    Feminists, of course, have a long history of being opposed to basic constitutional rights. For example, their support for the Lautenberg Amendment is a violation of the 2nd Amendment. And their Mau Mauing of Larry Summers from the presidency of Harvard shows feminist contempt for Free Speech. And such "oppressive" patriarchal customs as due process and presumption of innocence get tossed out the window to be replaced with hysterical feminist lynch mobs demanding the lynching of innocent men, such as the Duke University Three.

    See my website on Why Feminists Lie About Rape.

  114. A Poor Soul on September 30, 2009 at 5:32 AM

    It is an emotional thing to read this blog. I am a man falsely accused of molesting my children. I have been financially destroyed by my ex and I am fighting desparately to see my children again. IT is a lonely journey and I feel for any man going through this situation.

    As this is occuring in Illinois, I especially feel for anyone in that state. The state definately leans to the mother. My ex can spout off anything she wants and everyone believes her. The fact is she is mentally ill, with a disease that is difficult to diagnose. Even still, they choose to ignore her past, which includes multiple marriages and herself and mother being sexually abused (if it is not a lie)

    I feel as if the only solution will be for her to kill me and get rid of me – this will be a good thing for her, since I have a sizable life insurance policy and she will continue to get the children’s support.

    What makes it difficult is that she is the one abusing the children, by filling them full of lies. Where is the justice. I can’t see the kids at all and she gets them every day! Reading this blog clues me in that there are others out there in the same situation – yet nothing is being done.

    It is difficult, because we have to prove our innocense and there is no easy way to do that. Once this awful accusation is made it is always out there. Noone knows except you and the kids. When the kids are so small, they will never remember and therefore the truth will never be heard. No one will ever listen. That being said it is even difficult to make the claims that you are innocent because criminal attorneys tell you not to talk. District Attorneys will say it is those that protest too much that get thrown in jail, because eventually something said won’t match exactly and then that will be equated to everything being a lie.

    There needs to be better support for this scenario, because it is just not right.

    I can go on and on about my ex telling lies – During hte divorce it was I was physically abusing her, then I was gay, then this lie. She has to be the victim and it is so sad because her ability to manipulate others is great.

    The other unbelievable thing about this situation is that I saw it coming. My friends and family all knew this was going to happen because I told them. You see, my ex taught my children at an inappropriate age some very sexual things. Proper terms for private parts and so forth – it was weird, but I could do nothing except live with it.

    Additionally, my ex did things while we were married to set the stage for her future torture. It was weird and I can only assume frustrating for her, because these “traps” never worked, because they were based on dillusional opionions she was hoping existed.

    In summary, I can add that what gets me through is the faith that when my children are old enough to make their own decisions, they will see the truth. Then they can have a healthy (as much as possible) relationship with their father who loves them and has missed them greatly.

    I pray all they time that my ex doesn’t scar them too badly and that they can have a happy and productive life. I pray that for all children put into this situation.

  115. Relda Copning on September 23, 2009 at 1:29 PM

    September 21, 2009 is the day I witnessed a travesty. In Citrus County Florida a 20 year old man was snatched from the life he knew and thrown into a state prison to serve a 7 year sentence for crimes he DID NOT commit. From the beginning, he pled NOT GUILTY when out of the blue, his attorney advised him to change his plea to no contest. This was with a 7 year cap..the judge could not give him any more than 7 years. He waited in jail for 7 months only to stand before a judge who believed every lie that was told . There is no justice in the country!! There is no innocent until proven guilty!!!! Not for the poor, not for the young. Justice is only served to those who have money and prestige. This country is allowing dirty cops, greedy district attorneys, and biased judges to destroy the decent men we have left.
    This county has gone as far as to sentence a 16 year-old boy with Downs Syndrome to 10 years in a state prison because he stole a 6-pack of beer. That is totally barbaric!!!! This is the “Good Ole Boy” network.
    I witnessed the poorest excuse for justice that could be imagined. A 20 year-old boy, with no prior record, except for an incident when he was 15, was sentenced to the maximum allowed, according to his plea deal. His attorney lied to me and my son after I gave him all the money I had to defend my son and he sold him out. Every lie that was told in that courtroom was held against my son but yet, there was no investigation, only the word of 3 people who were the accusers. Believe me, I heard some extreme lies that day and watched the dramatics performed as well. These people should be in Hollywood. There are so many details to this case and wrongs done to my son, I don’t have the room to type them.
    I fear for my son’s safety in the Florida Prison System. He is not a violent man but will be treated as a violent offender.
    If you ask me why God allowed this to happen I could not tell you. I have asked that question a thousand times myself. No answers!!!
    All I know is this system that is supposed to protect the innocent is sending innocent people to prison and allowing their “chosen few” to walk the streets and destroy other young innocent lives. My son will never be the same. He will be changed forever because a judge decided that my sons life wasn’t as important as the liars in the courtroom. Liars and thieves rule the world so why not a little courtroom in Florida?
    I raised my son to believe that you only have to pay for the bad things you do. As of September 21, 2009 I retracted that statement. I’m the reason he believed in a system that threw him away. Now I have to stand back and watch that same system try to destroy him. There will be an end to all the dirty cops, greedy DA’s and biased judges but until then innocent people continue to be prosecuted and imprisoned for crimes they did not commit. One day God will pass judgment on all who have not followed His word but what about now? How many lives have to be destroyed before people start saying ENOUGH??? Do we just sit back and allow these people to destroy our kids? I won’t!! I will talk until someone listens that can help change things.

  116. Nick on September 14, 2009 at 9:13 AM

    I'll also say, that prior to this occurring, I worked in both private security as well as political, non-profit issue advocacy campaigning, both of which have been difficult if not impossible to obtain work in since…

  117. Nick on September 14, 2009 at 9:10 AM

    Feminism is not the root cause of the problems faced by those like myself, who have been subjected to unjust, unfair, unconstitutional criminal penalties due to the vindictive lies told by spiteful former relations and the highly flawed, reactionary laws such as the well marketed and over reaching VAWA. I would say that feminism is the struggle for equality between the sexes in the face of a highly unfair history of gender inequality.

    What I would refer to the forces and supporters of gender bias legislation of this variety as, would have to be female superiorism. Combating sexism with more sexism and perversions of justice and combating a social ill with rash, emotionally gratifying breaches of due process. I say this because an intelligent feminist will recognize injustice for what it is, while supporters of a system of punishment enacted upon simple accusation, without any burden of proof required (female superiorists) care only for the past injustices done to women. They feel that these injustices and the social ills that are domestic abuse, warrant the punishment of all men and the "empowerment" of women, not to a level equal with their male counterparts, but above them.

    Under the Violence Against Women's Act, criminal convictions can be found and criminal penalties applied, without a criminal burden of proof being met. Simple accusation and often emotional appeals, can be enough to have a man's Constitutionally protected rights to free speech, the right to bear arms, the right to a due process the right to see his own children made the subject of one's mood and spite.

    When debate is raised, it is quickly squashed by accusations that abuse of the system are either marginal or non-existent and that those who disagree are either ignorant of abuse, condoning of the practice or abusers themselves.

    I myself have been a victim of these biased and unjust laws. The victim of a mentally deranged, sociopath, hell bent on ruining my life out of spite due to the failure of our relationship. Our daughter had just been born and we were struggling to make ends meet. While I was bending over backwards to make the money we needed to get by, she was demanding plastic surgery to restore the body she had once modeled with to its former state. While I wrangled the impossible and endless paper work and meetings to obtain social assistance, she watched Seinfeld and insisted upon running off any old friends or family I had when it came to seeing the baby. As time went on, I noticed a pattern emerging, beyond these superficial selfish concerns, as she would continually talk about how the baby "hated her" and how she was thinking of killing herself.

    I spent weeks getting her into treatment, scared that she may hurt herself or someone else. After three weeks of treatment, her mental state continued to deteriorate. A social worker asked if I was willing to help commit her to a hospital, but at the time, I still thought I could help her. Two weeks later, I returned home from work to find her and the baby gone. I called the social workers, the mental health facility and even her family, but no one knew where she was. Then, just before I was readying to call police, she called.

    She said she had moved out and that she couldn't live with me any longer. When I asked where she was, she said she couldn't say and that I couldn't see our newborn daughter. I told her that if she wanted to leave me it was fine, but that I wouldn't permit her to keep Quinn (our daughter) from me. She agreed to a preliminary visitation schedule and the next weekend we met in the Walmart parkinglot. She said I would need to bring Quinn back by six and when I asked why, she refused to answer. I asked if she needed money and she said yes, asking for fifty dollars. I gave her a hundred.

    I spent the day with my daughter and unsure of what I should do, I reluctantly returned her to her mother at the same Walmart. We agreed upon another visitation the following weekend at the same time. The next weekend, as I woke up and got ready to leave, a call came. It was an hour early but my ex had called to ask with a venomous tone "are you coming to pick up your daughter?"

    "Yes," I said, "I'll be right there." On my way, I was diverted due to road construction onto a detour through a residential neighborhood where two blocks up, I saw her. She was in her car with the baby in the back stopped at a stop sign. I drove up and we pulled over onto a side street together.

    Approaching her car I noticed she hadn't rolled her window down or gotten out, but instead sat staring angrily at the wheel. I knocked on the glass and after a moment she rolled it down.

    "She can't see you today, she has a play date with Trevor." She spat.

    "Tabi, she's twelve weeks old. Trevor's five. Besides, its my time with her."

    "I need more money Nick. I need at least two hundred. I need gas, she needs food," (even though Tabi had taken the month's worth of baby food granted to us by social services) "You can't see her till I get the money."

    I at the time was broke due to a bi-weekly pay cycle. "I don't have any Tabi. I'll get you some when I get paid."

    At that, she started up her car, looked at me and said "no." As she drove off, I said aloud, "Stop acting like a bitch and let me see my little girl!"

    She stopped, backed up and looked at me with a smirk. "Oh I'm a bitch, huh?"

    "You are acting like one." I replied. Once again she drove off. I got in my car and immediately called our social worker, who had become increasingly distant as our problems developed. As I drove and explained the situation, I saw her up ahead. Tabi was pulled over, talking to the cop on traffic duty at the detour beginning. He waved me over and I hung up with the social worker.

    He approached my car and leaning over asked if I had just threatened Tabi and my daughter with a gun. I told him I didn't have a gun, that he could search me if he liked and that Tabi was mentally deranged. Shaking his head he said "you two need to settle this in court. It'll only get worse otherwise." He was so right…

    A little under a week later, two sheriffs arrived at my door to serve me with a temporary restraining order. They demanded to search my apartment, the confiscated my pistol, a decorative sword and a pocket knife. I was given a court date and at court, during the 15 minute hearing, in which Tabi faked crying and told a wild tale of me screaming at her and sticking a gun in the baby's face for ten minutes, with the judge asking simply if I had been arrested for it and if I had "anything to say," half way through which he interrupted me saying he would "take it under advisement."

    A week later I was served with the final order. My apartment was searched again and I was given my court orders, restricting me from seeing my daughter more than 10 hours a week, sometimes going two weeks without seeing her at all, forcing me to pay $100 a week, even though I only pulled in $270 and subjecting me, as I would find, to Tabi's whims and mood.

    I, not having the money to fight it, went along with the absurd schedule, hoping in time things would get better. During this time, Tabi had moved to New Haven (three hours away) with a new boyfriend. After about two months, she came to me during the exchange at the police station, asking if I would sign over my rights as a father and let them move to Florida with the new boyfriend. I said I would not give my little girl up for anything and that was the end of it.

    Two weeks later, while dropping my little lady off with her mother, Tabi arrived and took the baby, saying to her "ok baby, say goodbye to Nick, we're going to see daddy."

    Muttering as I walked out to avoid saying something rash, I said "never going to happen." Later that night, as I was home at my apartment, five officers arrived and called me down to the landing. They asked if I had seen my ex that day. I said I had. They asked if I called her a skank whore. I said I hadn't. They then, with a sigh of resignation, told me I was under arrest for violation of the DVP.

    I spent two days in jail because Tabi was pissed and decided to lie again. Months and a thousand dollars of borrowed money later, when the trial came around, Tabi didn't even show up to testify. The charge was dropped, but a week later I received a letter from the clerk dated the day of the trial, in which Tabi had filed a new claim saying I abused and neglected my daughter. I went to the hearing and read a prepared statement I wrote, outlining how Tabi had gamed the system and caused me to miss the majority of my young child's life and development.

    He dismissed the case with no finding. Upon this, I decided it was time to take action and running right up to the clerk's office I filed paperwork bringing a complaint of contempt and request for modification against her. The case was heard and while my modification request was honored and I was granted more time with my little one, the contempt items were dismissed without even being heard. Now, a year later, I receive word that the vindictive sociopath is requesting an extension of her order, demanding I remain under her yoke.

    I never threatened her ever and never could she produce a shred of evidence nor keep a story straight. Repeated false accusations flying left and right, with my defense falling on deaf ears every time. I've since learned that under VAWA, the burdens of proof for these criminal complaints need only live up to a civil claim and that courts are incentivized to find in the plaintiffs favor regardless of facts or circumstances.

    Its disgusting and for anyone who supports this draconian sexism, for shame…

  118. Connie Chastain on August 29, 2009 at 11:04 AM

    I've always been uneasy about feminism, but the past few years, I've become aware of specific damage it has done our culture. I was particularly appalled at the false accusations of rape and sexual harassment, and the mindless lumping of all men in the "evil" category. It inspired me to write a novel about a man falsely accused of sexual harassment, and the grief he and his family experience as a result. I invite you to visit my website to learn more, and to email me with comments.

  119. Warren Maynard on August 20, 2009 at 6:26 AM

    I am going in to fight a restraining order from a girl who lived with me. When she left, she stole 800 dollars cash, tools that I had in my car, etc… Before I was even in town she had a stalker order started. When I reported the thief, I was told by law enforcement, "Good luck with that," and pretty much laughed at. Two days later, there was a restraining order.

    They did not laugh when I said I wanted at least 8 subpoenas. If anyone is interested in what happens, the case number is 190918011. It will be heard on September 8, 2009 at 9:02am in Eugene, Oregon, at the Lane County Court in the Show Cause room.

  120. christina haviland on August 14, 2009 at 1:29 PM

    A year ago my husband and i took his daughter from his mom whom had been raising her since she was very small. Reason was his daughter had been causing grandma to much stress, and when she was arrested for vandalizing a school my husband said no more. and she came to live with us. he always wanted her with us he just didnt want her to feel forced until this. not only did she get arrested she wasnt attending any school for almost 2 years and she was only 13. well since then shes been having a issue with not being spoiled rotten since my husband and i have a total of five kids . she didnt want to have to do chores because she had always had everything done by grandma. So her first move was to run to the school councelor claim a bunch of things that werent true about us and cps opened an investigation that lasted about maybe a week or two and the case worker closed it when she decided it wasnt at all true. so then she decided she wanted to run her own life come and go with whomever, when ever she chose…. Not in our home. I guess since the cps thing didnt work she then decided shed run away with a boyfriend we found her almost imediately and shes done it 2 more times since and each time finding a better spot to hide. the second time she was caught she was heard by my sister in law telling cops all sorts of crazy lies about her dad and i trying to get us in trouble. but cops didnt believe her. well now after many promises to not do that again we trusted to let her not be watched constantly. She ran again but this time i had a horrible time finding her location and the cops and i finally did. at this point my husband and i were terrified she was dead or something and when they found her she went full on about her crazy alligations again only this time she stewed up the bigest lie ever. she told police there was drugs and sexual abuse from her father and once again shes got cps in our lifes and with this its almost impossible to prove that shes lying and not to mention the police are investigating to bring charges. I dont know how she could say such a thing and about her blood father but im unable to see her and speak to her right now and cps dont know what to believe. they spoke with every kid in our house and even grandparents and a friend of hers who say this is crazy and a lie. But today it was asked that we sign a temp release till the investigations over , and so shes in foster care, and my whole life is crumbling and i dont know what to do to stop it from ruining my husbands life and hes not ok with being looked at like a creep who messes with kids, thats gross but how do we turn this around to be the truth and make them see shes just a angry kid. i dont want them in my life and no one will tell me if she even is aware how serious this can be for her father and i know we have to have a way to do this or rights that they are walking on ive got five kids so the money is tight barely make the rent and bills everymonth so i cant hire a lawyer. can anyone help me find the answers or resources i can use to stop this disaster we are good people and good parents

  121. John Dias on August 10, 2009 at 2:06 AM

    Jaded Man:

    I would strongly caution you to think hard about whether to accept that plea bargain; it's essentially an admission of guilt — guilt for committing a sex crime against children. Once you do accept a plea bargain, you'll be put on your state's list of registered sex offenders, and you may never again be able to obtain stable and gainful employment. If your plea includes jail time, know that prisoners who were convicted of sex crimes against children are often attacked by fellow prisoners. And even once you've been released from jail, there's also your ongoing reputation to worry about.

    Despite all that you have written about the heavy-handedness of the law, your right to a jury trial is still inviolable. Utilize it. Expect your public defender to strong-arm you into accepting a plea-bargain, but that's what they do because they're so underfunded, and they don't like defending the not-guilty in an expensive jury trial. Just remember: no matter what your public defender tells you, you are NOT required to accept a plea bargain. If you do decide to utilize your right to a trial, then too bad for the public defender; he'll have to do his job. It's your life on the line; don't be pushed around.

  122. Jaded Man on August 9, 2009 at 11:38 PM

    Sheesh, sorry to ramble on like that. You can see how frazzled I am about this. Being falsely accused ruins peoples’ lives. I read all the stories above and I can relate to all of them (except Shannon’s biased posts). I nearly went insane being in a cell for a week (I have BiPolar, ADHD, PTSD, and now added a full Panic Disorder after this all started.) I don’t know what will happen to my mind sitting in a 6×8 cell for 23 hours a day for a year. I wish I could afford a real lawyer. But, I am going against the STATE. They have endless pockets for this kind of criminal trial. And endless votes for legislating against those falsely accused.

  123. Jaded Man on August 9, 2009 at 11:26 PM

    My story is a strange one. I am a good Dad who married an unstable woman who basically lives like a gypsy going from guy to guy like a bee goes from flower to flower. I tried to give my daughter a stable life and teach her right from wrong, but thanks to my ex’s devil-may-care attitude, my daughter was molested when she was just a baby by my ex’s new husband. I got sole custody of her after that. But, who knows what damage it did to her head, so I gave her a lot of slack because of it. She was a decent kid up until she started to come into her teen years. Then, she became a monster. My health went downhill and I had a stroke that took most of the vision in one of my eyes and disabled me for life due to other side effects of the stroke afterward. I tried and tried to get my daughter to behave. We moved in with my parents because I lost the house due to rising medical bills, and she fell in with a bad crowd at school. Disciplinary reports mounted and mounted. I had to ground my daughter several times and take things away from her at times. She didn’t like that one bit and decided she was going to start spinning a story about me molesting her around town and at school. The Police and other authorities were constantly telling me to put her on “CHINS” which means Child In Need Of Services. What it REALLY means is you are giving your child over to the state and they have every right to do what they want with him/her. I refused initially. My daughter got so bad that the her accusations were investigated by Child Services and the Police. It was found out that she was constantly changing her story and they found the accusations unfounded. I sent her to live with relatives (my ex’s) and she became a nightmare for them as well. So, like an idiot, I took her back into the home. She promised to stop the accusations and admitted to my mother that nothing ever happened. Well, soon she was up to her old tricks again and the trouble escalated. She pulled a knife on me, knocked my elderly mother to the ground once, and disturbed my elderly father so much that he nearly had a heart attack and had to be hospitalized. So, I figured the “CHINS” program was my only out. I put her on it and she decided it was time for real revenge on me. She started her story about being molested again and this time wanted to make it stick. She, and a friend, got a hold of my computer and planted Child Porn on it. They planted it in several places on the drive and left discs that were labeled like I label my own archive discs (full of games and movies). The police and the child services people stormed our home, took my PC, took my daughter, and dragged me off to jail after tackling me, bending my arm back up to my neck and telling me to stop resisting! I spent a week in Jail till my parents sold my old car and gathered up some other savings to bail me out. The system has been totally against me since. I was arraigned WITHOUT a lawyer present, never read my rights, and found guilty by a circuit court and not the superior court. So, my daughter is still in their custody and contentedly going from foster home to foster home because she can’t behave. She contacted my mother a couple times and said she was having a great time. They have her on all sorts of meds. And here I sit with a child pornography possession hanging over my head. The system considers me guilty until proven innocent because I own the PC where the images were found. The investigating officer is even trying to get me convicted of distributing the child porn because I had many pirated games and movies. He feels I was trafficking based on that alone. This has been a nightmare for my family and I. None of us sleep well, if at all. This has been going on for a year. My public defender is useless because he knows little about computers and our so-called expert thinks I am guilty because they left the discs behind. Lots of people don’t think teenage girls are capable of this level of framing someone, but I am living proof that they are. I will most likely be accepting a plea deal because they are offering me 1 year at county versus the 7 years at state. I am poor. I have no choice. If I fight, I’ll most likely lose because the law is skewed against ANYONE who is accused of such a heinous crime. Like someone said before: WHERE is the justice?? I’ve entertained the thought of suicide several times but haven’t gotten to that level yet. I will have to register for LIFE once I get out. All for a teenager’s revenge and my attempt to be a decent dad who protects her daughter from being a plaything for teen boys. That’s my reward.

  124. James Latona on August 7, 2009 at 12:13 AM

    I have been falsely accused in 1995 and still I'm being persecuted for something that never happened.It's a horrible way to have to live.

    • steve on July 15, 2012 at 12:06 PM

      I dont know if you will receive this ,but, I just got out of jail, have nothing but depression left in my life, and the crime never happened ! i was falsely accused by a gold-digger that i hired to clean at my small buisness. she worked 4hrs on a sunday, I have lost everything !

      • DCC/MM on November 19, 2012 at 7:35 PM

        how are you now?? We are in the midst of a trial ourselves

      • mikktallman on June 19, 2015 at 12:47 AM

        COMPLAINT ABOUT A CALIFORNIA JUDGE,
        COURT COMMISSIONER OR REFEREE
        Confidential under California Constitution
        Article VI, Section 18, and Commission Rule 102

        6/1/2015

        RE: 09FSXXXXX

        To whom it may concern:

        On 5/19/2015 the Hon. Stephen Acquisto was able to help repair the damage that the Hon. Bunmi O. Awoniyi caused. Her failure to enforce her own orders or adopt domestic violence protocols early on with the preponderance of evidence could have avoided a lot of trauma. The court finally took notice of the permanent DVPA-RO entered 9/26/14 against the mother, Africa White, based on the findings that she perpetrated Domestic Violence and Child Abuse, for Family Code 3044, the court granted sole legal and physical custody to the father. The court adopts FCS Report (A76.392) as the court orders effective immediately.

        The Hon. Bunmi O. Awoniyi recused herself following a public apology for her actions, was held accountable for every act of contempt and abuse that White has perpetrated, and finally stripped of any immunity so that the civil tort filed included her as a co-perpetrator. Due process, one of the most hallowed and ancient of rights, apparently has no place in the law when a citizen attempts to seek recompense from a judge who has wrongfully caused an injury. Judges Should not be privileged to violate the rights of citizens unfortunate enough to find themselves in a biased, corrupt, or irresponsible court. When unjust injuries are inflicted by improper judicial acts, the state or its insurers should be forced to bear the cost of the wrongful act, not the individual.

        The CalVCP shall provide restitution, a trial and settlement conferences have been scheduled for July, domestic violence alimony payments, therapy reimbursement for past, present, and future, attorney fees and litigation costs, relocation expenses due to emotional trauma, and any other crime related expenses will be discussed. Following the trial and settlement hearing there will be some discussion about pain and suffering where, The Hon. Bunmi O. Awoniyi, will be included as this will be a lifelong debt for the perpetrators and a concept of deterrence for others who suffer from narcissistic and sociopathic tendencies.

        Thank you for your time and effort in this matter, I look forward to a response.

  125. Robert Hodge on July 26, 2009 at 4:25 PM

    Contessa, I hope you and your husband are both doing ok.

  126. Robert Hodge on July 26, 2009 at 4:24 PM

    True justice is never served by the blood,suffering and, death of the innocent.

  127. Robert Hodge on July 26, 2009 at 4:13 PM

    I found it.

    National Coalition for Men (NCFM)
    932 C Street, Suite B, San Diego, CA 92101

  128. Robert Hodge on July 4, 2009 at 3:40 PM

    What is the mailing address?

  129. Contessa on July 4, 2009 at 4:34 AM

    Heartbroken, feel free to email me here:

    eightdozenroses@yahoo.com

    I only check it once a week but I do know what it’s like to need someone to just listen. I’ve never found such a person in RL because no one wants to hear about false accusations – until it’s their turn.

  130. Contessa on July 3, 2009 at 8:30 PM

    Yes – I think snail mail is the only way to join.

  131. Robert Hodge on June 30, 2009 at 9:54 PM

    By snail mail ( money order).

  132. Robert Hodge on June 30, 2009 at 9:51 PM

    Good points American echo. Being a member of the U.S. Military and a victim of false accusations, I understand everything you are saying. Being the victim of false accusations, and a system that is programmed to attack men, based on hysteria and ,in many cases, feminist jurisprudence, has caused my patriotism to begin eroding. I try to never throw up to anyone my job of upholding and defending the U.S. Constitution; one of our most valuable documents and, the supreme law of the land. Imagine how I feel when someone. whose rights I defend, misuses their rights to not only cause irreparable harm but, a crime of falsely accusing me of a serious crime. The state of Tennessee simply took her word as if it were gospel, even though she perjured her statement to the police. There is also the fact that I was never allowed to give my account of what really happened. God is my witness. I did not have a gun or any other type of firearm nor, did I even pretend to have one. Simply on her word, and her word alone, the state saught a class c felony conviction against me. How can I feel patriotic when I am not considered to have any rights or any value in this country? The government I defend betrayed me.

    • Donald on October 23, 2012 at 4:26 AM

      help, i recently broke up with my gf, n nw i’ve to appear b4 the judge 2morrow @ 13:00 in tacoma, wa. cus my ex-gf petition a temporary sexual assault protection order against me, and in part of the accusation of rape, hav no atty, but am gonna tried to request for a continunce in order to get 1. Can anyone help?

    • American Echo on October 1, 2014 at 8:20 AM

      Hello Robert (Hodge),

      American Echo here. Not sure if you read this website anymore (thanks for your response in 2009!). Have you noticed this link on NCFM about the recent spate of lawsuits brought by male students against universities? I am so glad these young men are fighting back with help from others:

      http://www.avoiceformalestudents.com/list-of-lawsuits-against-colleges-and-universities-alleging-due-process-violations-in-adjudicating-sexual-assault/

      Also, in reference to our earlier discussion about the USG and false allegations, what do you think of this article?

      http://www.scribd.com/doc/236235147/False-Allegations-in-the-U-S-Government

      Hope things are going well for you since 2009,

      American Echo

      • NCFM on October 1, 2014 at 6:42 PM

        Thank you for the article. I posted it on our Facebook page! I hope things are well with you.

        • American Echo on October 1, 2014 at 7:26 PM

          That’s great to hear, thanks! In this contemporary American society of so many competing discourses (and so very many of those discourses containing negative and false information regarding men) your website is a welcome antidote. I hope it all gains more and more momentum, in the U.S. as well as internationally!

          • American Echo on October 3, 2014 at 12:43 PM

            Wouldn’t it be an interesting social experiment if this quite popular youtube video–which musters the powers that lie between DC and LA, including Obama, Biden, and various prominent Hollywood actors–gave the complementary message to “it’s on us to stop sexual assault”, that is, “it’s on us to stop false allegations of sexual assault”? How would the public react to all these Hollywood actors and two of the most powerful men on the international stage flipping their message? What gets me is that it is absolutely inconceivable that they would do such a thing. That’s when you know you are not living in a democratic country.

            https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wNMZo31LziM&index=3&list=PLbpi6ZahtOH4GfY2jCGfaMIS_pHGgy6nT

            or how about flipping the message in this youtube video, which is offered immediately after the one above to viewers?

            https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jePvXFz4XDc&list=PLbpi6ZahtOH4GfY2jCGfaMIS_pHGgy6nT&index=4

            For instance, some guy going bankrupt or committing suicide after being falsely accused, and the subtext stating: “try not to blame him or tell him to change his behavior.” Again, such a flipping of the script — a complementary flipping that is, not necessarily antagonistic flipping — would be inconceivable in our democratic country. Bizarre!

            And the Republicans are like deer in the headlights on this issue, have no strategy to counter, which pinpoints what this Obama push for college campuses is all about: votes, follow the votes.

  133. Robert Hodge on June 30, 2009 at 1:53 PM

    Contessa, is there a way of sending in membership dues to join this National Coalition?

  134. American Echo on June 28, 2009 at 9:42 AM

    I apologize for adding an addition. But I do think the charge of "overblown" may easily be flung at me, understandably. That aside, my conclusion simply wanted to suggest that when you live in a country with such polarized politics (feminists who claim 2%, researches who claim 60%, regarding false accusations), the only result of this radicalism, especially when it comes to something so intimate as sexual relations and the family, is the disintegration of the family and sexual relations. China and India have infrastructure issues that they are fixing and restoring as we bicker and argue about false accusation statistics. China and India – despite all their injustices against their own people – have a heavy hand socially and do not let these issues disrupt their country's growth. I'm not saying they are right or innocent or democratic countries (despite appearances with regards to India): what I am saying is that they are not destroying the family unit as we destroy that unit. Our radicalism has caused men and women to distrust one another: to actually worry about writing "he" or "he and she" or "S/he" when writing a term paper or newspaper article. We actually worry about such things! And it is this kind of radicalism, creating pettiness, which usually brings a country low. I hope perhaps – even though I know I will be reamed regarding China's human rights record – the others on this site see the point. The feminists beat the hell out of american men in their writings and get away with it, are accepted for it, legalized for it: there is something cryptic about that, sly, and slick, that eventually brings a society down. China's human rights record: the Chinese know exactly what they are doing: abusing human rights in China isn't an accepted social movement like feminism in the u.s. – this is what will eventually bring the u.s. down as we destroy our social fabric, openly, consciously, and funnily enough – legally.

  135. American Echo on June 28, 2009 at 9:25 AM

    I am so glad this blog exists (and the organization which supports it). I am also so glad all of you contribute and keep this discussion alive and timely.
    Being male, and having experienced a false accusation, and having experienced the consequences of a false accusation, I have to say that watching the statistics enumerated on both sides just leave me confused. In other words, I want to be sympathetic to what women experience in the world (as far as threats of rape, DV, et cetera), and at the same time I find the interest groups (in other words, groups influenced or backed by feminist work) to have no interest in any empathy or sympathy for my situation. That is to say, Shannon enumerates her statistics, and in my earlier days, I would have carte blanche been sympathetic and understanding – but, now, after experiencing all the repercussions that come with false accusations, I have nothing but disgust for the feminists (or those who support them like Shannon) for anything they say, because it does not seem like individuals like Shannon want to do anything about false accusations (why would they, they are attacked vehemently for taking a counter position?) and so I am left in a political deadlock: namely, disgust for the feminists, disgust for women who falsely accuse, and yet wanting to have some kind of balance here. Of course I am foolish to think such a balance can exists in today's climate, and berate myself for ever trusting women to be honest (at least the kind of woman i have been falsely accused by). All this to say, I am glad you are writing this, but at the same time I feel the only real conclusion from everything you write is for men to be aware from a very young age (high school, junior high even) not to trust women (because you never know which woman might just be that false accuser)…that I have to use the same tactics the feminists used to attack the feminists: for instance, "every woman is a potential false accuser." So that the next generation of men growing up now may walk the streets and work in their jobs and socialize at parties protecting each other, reminding each other that "every woman is a potential false accuser." Vilifying women, in other words. How else are men to fight women like Shannon? Women like Shannon aren't going to defend falsely accused men. It takes the same sort of radicalism that the feminists employed to fight the feminists. But, in saying this, I am encouraging the destruction of the social cohesion of the family. I am saying that husbands and boyfriends should distrust their girlfriends and wives with all their heart – never really love them – but always sort of suspect them, be ready for that potential false accusation. For some reason, I think nature (human nature that is) always takes revenge on such radical thinking: I'll lose in the long run just as much as the feminists will (the feminists will eventually lose, with people like Glenn Sacks around, they will lose eventually). So, what I am really left concluding ( and I apologize for my rambling entry ) is that the U.S. is really a sick and evil country, inside and out. There's a reason countries abroad hate us, and there's a reason our own populace hates this country (I hate this country for falsely accusing me, for allowing a female to falsely accuse me – why would any sane man be patriotic when the justice system of his country allows a woman to falsely accuse him?). In other words, what the feminists like Shannon really represent is the implosion of the United States upon itself, eating itself alive with pernicious radicalism. Countries like China and India will become more powerful and more socially cohesive, and the only people we will have to blame – is ourselves.

    • Marie Fries on October 22, 2012 at 5:45 AM

      Unfortunately… I can relate to anyone that has been accused, much more than ever before.
      After becoming one of “them”. Yes, “them” “those people” … who, when people hear of the accusation/allegation… they look at you… as if it must be true…or as if … you must have done something horrible to deserve this.
      I remember seeing a Geraldo show years ago…the topic included false allegations…where he had said “If you are going to err…do it in favor of the child” …. i agreed with that…protect the child, always protect the child. But then i thought….what if this is a teenage girl who is testing her power to influence (which she has learned from society at large) what happens to that person who is falsely accused?
      There has to be an intensive investigation in these cases, on both sides!
      But there is not. It is horrible that i agree with the post above…the idea that a women cannot be trusted… absolutely horrible. I am a woman… i have always been complimented on my integrity. And yet, there is no use for it in this situation. My teenage daughter has accused me of horrible things… as well as… my ex-boyfriend… and others… and has been caught lying about a rape threat… i cannot believe that she is capable of this… but then…she has been drugged….legally…when i stopped her from taking seroquil (after it caused her to behave dangerously) her doctor called CYS on me…(in order to show his power).
      I had sought help for my child for her behavior issues… then a group of feminist witches became involved… My daughter is now on 4 different meds…being used as a pawn by these witches…she cant recant…. she cant face her lies…they have coerced her, and bullied me out of her life.
      This is more than i planned to share… i am just looking for answers, cant afford an attorney, facing a court date, my ex boyfriend has been pulled into this… because my daughter has to “name” someone… he is devastated… he didn’t know what to think… of course this causes the mind to reel…. he couldn’t help but to think or ask himself “would she do this to hurt me?” … but now… he understands… it is not me… it is the agenda of the witches…. it is such a horrible stigma to be accused…. and then to be the mother of an accuser… surreal, comes to mind… i cannot believe that this is happening. I am talking with my ex about this… it is odd that we both share an understanding… of how this feels… nobody can imagine how it tears at the core… not unless you have become “one of them”.

  136. Robert Hodge on June 23, 2009 at 2:54 PM

    Heartbroken, have you considered contacting this organization?

    The Equal Justice Foundation

  137. Robert Hodge on June 23, 2009 at 5:33 AM

    Another suspect, you are correct, there are a few men who falsely accuse women of rape ( I wonder if radical feminists will claim it is only two percent or a myth, as they claimed false rapes were.

    True justice is never served by the blood,suffering or death of the truely innocent.

  138. Robert Hodge on June 22, 2009 at 9:29 PM

    Contessa, after what happened to me, I almost became a radical MRA. I kind of understood what it was like to be raped (by someone using/abusing the law to do so. I have become evolved into a constitutional,civil, and human rights advocate.

  139. Robert Hodge on June 22, 2009 at 9:23 PM

    There are still innocent men who will more than likely die in prison.

  140. Robert Hodge on June 22, 2009 at 9:19 PM

    another suspect Says:

    "Moreover, in our society we take a tough, ‘no-nonsense’ approach to criminal justice(ie. punishment–and dont be fooled by the fancy ‘rehabilitation’ moniker they put on it), therefore our forefathers once again implemented checks and balances to assure that we did not falsely imprison for very VERY long periods of time people who we were not absolutely sure were guilty."

    Could you explain that to any of the people featured here?
    http://www.innocenceproject.org/

  141. Robert Hodge on June 22, 2009 at 9:15 PM

    Contessa, Thank you for being so compassionate. It is rare that I hear such compassion from a women, as many of the women in my city are mean. Also Shannon should visit this site to find out how common or rare false rape accusations are.
    http://falserapesociety.blogspot.com/

    This Web site was started by a U.S.-based attorney to help raise awareness about Western Civilization's taboo epidemic, wrongful rape claims. In recent years, our society has declared war on rape, and numerous measures have been adopted to make reporting rape easier than ever. It also has become easier to make false rape claims. In the process, we have allowed an entire class of victim — those falsely accused of the vile crime of rape — to be treated as nothing more than flotsam, collateral damage in what many regard as the more important war on rape, despite the grievous harm falsely accused men and boys often suffer.

  142. Robert Hodge on June 22, 2009 at 9:12 PM

    Is their a way of donating by money order? After having a bad experience with credit cars,I cancelled both of mine. I really would like to be a member.

  143. Heartbroken on June 21, 2009 at 10:31 AM

    This is such a tragity, I am going through this with my husband as well. He is accused of raping his 2 children. Violently raping them. I know it’s not true, so I stand by his side. He is in jail right now and it has ruined our lives. Not just his life, his children’s and mine. I don’t know what more I can do but to keep doing what i’m already doing and that is research, and I read and reread all documents that I have recieved from my husband. There is so much just in those documents that he is innocent. But to prove it is the difficult part. All they need in my state is an accuser. So, that means anybody can say anything about anyone, and put them away. It’s really sad. All the medical says he is innocent as well. It has been 9 months already and trial isn’t gonna start for another 5-7 months. I am having a hard time dealing with all of this. I don’t know what else to do or who else I can turn to, His lawyer seems to not be doing much to help him. It is so true that you are guilty until proven innocent.It’s a long tedious uphill batter, that seems to never end, I describe it as a nightmare and I can’t wake up from it. Thanks for reading.

    • Nikki on September 4, 2012 at 12:32 PM

      My brother was arrested on dec 4, 2009 in Las Vegas Nevada and is still awaiting trial (3 years later). His accusers have stated they will not be testifying. How can these girls get away with accusing him and then not wanto to go to trial? How can the state of Nevada keep waiting 3 years for his trial and that’s if they don’t push the date back once again? How is it that the prosecutor can tell me that my brother is evil and that she is going to put him away for life if nobody shows up to testify against him? His life has been ruined with these false allegations and he’s lost 3 years of his life. I just don’t get it.

    • scott on December 12, 2012 at 9:04 PM

      My wife is going through the same thing, i am temporarily free, she can’t understand how my stepson from 8 years ago could accuse me of such disgusting things. we have been together six years and have 4 children altogether. if it wasn’t for my 13Y/o daughter from my first marriage telling my new wife it is all a lie, and having known me around our children, she would probably believe it was true, last month the state offered me one felony count of child abuse no prison no sex registry, instead of 7 felonies. today they offered me two misdemeanors, they have all the power, and we are the victims. I would like to tell the DA she can take her deal and shove it. i told my attorney to tell her drop all charges, and exspounge my arrest record, i’m innocent no deal……..Be strong

      • deena on January 30, 2013 at 10:51 PM

        scott,
        I am posting this just to see how are things are going,It seems your post is recent,I respond because I have a sibling who is going through the Unthinkable,he is being falsley accused by two stepdaughter’ s who are teenagers.It has been a nightmare and I am behind my sibling,101%.It has devastated us to no end,He has two boys from a previous marriage and the nightmare has just begun,there is no way to know where to start,and they keep piling lies after lies,I know he is innocent,and now were in the fight of his life,on top of watching his world crumble on top one bit at a time.I pray God bring out the truth of these lies.I pray your situation gets better,but our system is pretty wacked,If we take a stand,and start dra wing out awarness of these type allegations,we have a chance,and I won’t stop till we have proven my sibling’s innocence.God Be with you and Us of these horrible nightmares,Stand up for the truth and fight like hell,laws have got to change.Make your voice heard…

    • GOD IS GOOD on January 7, 2015 at 7:09 AM

      hello I would like to ask what happen my husband went through the same thing is ex wife had they kid lie and say that he raped her but I know it did not happen I stayed by his side at the end of 17 long months it came out and the judge said not guilty but I knew he did not do it they lied and could not keep up with there lies I would like to know is there anything you can do for them lien I think if they lie they should do time all I can say is thank GOD he is out and I feel for the ones that are locked up for someone lien

  144. Contessa on June 18, 2009 at 9:21 PM

    May I respectfully ask if all of you are members of NCFM? $30 – I know it's a lot of money but there's no way we can ever hope to inform the public of these things unless we unite. I'm sure even $5 would be welcome.

  145. another suspect on June 12, 2009 at 12:49 PM

    If a law routinely fails to differentiate between the ‘rapist’ and the ‘non-rapist’, the ‘abuser’ and the ‘non-abuser’, the ‘pedophile’ and the ‘non-pedophile’, that law fails to ACCURATELY IDENTIFY the ‘rapist, abuser, or pedophile’…This is a law which fails to protect the real victim of rape or physical/sexual abuse. Even as an advocate for the rights of true victims you have to see the importance of a system that ACCURATELY identifys those that are a danger to the people of our society. Moreover, in our society we take a tough, ‘no-nonsense’ approach to criminal justice(ie. punishment–and dont be fooled by the fancy ‘rehabilitation’ moniker they put on it), therefore our forefathers once again implemented checks and balances to assure that we did not falsely imprison for very VERY long periods of time people who we were not absolutely sure were guilty. This is why the burden of proof(you know that ‘cliche’, guilty beyond a reasonable doubt)exists on the prosecution, to avoid at all cost falsely thowing somebody into our penial system! at all cost!…i got a thought for you, shannon, how many men do you think are raped in prison? yeah…or, how bout this, what small precentage of men in prison do you think acctually report it? How many men in prison are the VICTIM of violence? wow! You see the reality of it is even if shannon is correct in her figure, which i certainly have to question…2% is way too many innocent people to be in prison! As a society we should be appaled at one single innocent human-being being sucked into our so called justice system. Trust me when i say to put an innocent person in prison is to create a criminal out of thin air! Criminal mentality is neccessary to survive in prison. Therefore, it is not only appaling, but hazardous to our society. Think of it in figures…it kinda voids out the incarceration of someone who truely is a danger to our society. Throw an otherwise law abiding citizen into a tank with sharks for a couple years, then release him into society a trained criminal..one off the streets, one on the streets! So you can see how dangerous it can be to lock up the innocent? Its a horrible system full of suffering, discomfort, desolution, lonliness, and devoid of any element of rehab. We must protect our citizens from bad things like murder, and robery, and rape( and terrorism) but not through fanaticism or panic. This only causes more problems. Lastly, i wanna eduate you all to a new, and ever growing/new trend in false accusations…this is the cancer that has infected my life! A growing number of men are being accused, charged, and are usually convinced by some slick lawyer after 2 years of motions and continuences and haveing spent up $25,000 to cop to a plea bargin for possessing child pornography! This is heineous, and you all should know that there are many men who are serving 2, 5, 10 even 20 to 25 years sentences in prison for having illegal pictures on their computer which they did not personally or knowingly and willingly posses…No regard for whether they downloaded them or they were obtained as temp internet files…regardless of whether they were aware of the pictures existance on their computer or not…regardless of whether the computer was a shared computer in a common area of a house many people live or stay at…regardless of intention….regardless of willingness to take a lie detector, or cooperate with any investigation to so as to clear their name…etc, etc, etc…this is a modern day witch trial/mccarthy era! And it is not only destroying the lives of those accused, but it is also FAILING to protect the children who are acctually being exploited by the real pedophiles who are profiting off of this billion dollar industry(thats right $1billion a year in illegal pornography, and i am broke, unemployed, and am about to file for bankruptcy–who are they arresting? waiters, bus drivers, lawyers, judges, teachers, doctors, social workers, construction workers, regular people)! Something has got to be done! The problem is that no politician stands to gain a single freakin vote by fighting for the rights of falsely accused child pornogrphers! Moreover, due to the inconsistancies in sentencing(they have sentenced men to 2 to 160 years for possession of child pornography)most falsely accused men plea guilty eventually so when they finally do get out of prison with a felony on their record, and registered as a sex offender no one is much willing to listen to what they have to say anyway…and i dont imagine they have much fight left in them after the constant fight for survival required to make it in prison as a convicted “chester”! Me..Iam speaking out NOW! I have been accused of this, and i am not guilty! 2 and 1/2 years of my life now have been spent in and out of court proceedings, grand juries, preliminaries, motion hearing, etc…I live in a relatively small town, so this made the news…i have not been able to get a job since(thats 2 1/2 years of unemployment)..my girlfriend, who consequently knows/swears by my innocence and has been with me through the entire ordeal held it down as long as she could financially but we are now getting evicted and have had every utility shut off except electric…our lives are falling apart! I dont sleep because when i do i dream about being in prison….i have had deal after deal thrown at me ranging from 8years to 3 years…I refuse to take a deal! I am innocent, and i will let 12 of my peers decide wether they believe me or not! My lawyer warns me against it because i literally face 75 years, but i believe this is bigger then me! This is about truth, so my fate will lie in the hands of people just like you! I hope they understand whats at cost! For what its worth, they, along with God have my faith…as for you, please educate yourselves on what the police and prosecution are doing in your name…in the names of our children…THIS IS NOT A SOB STORY…MANY HAVE FACED FALSE IMPRISONMENT AND HAVE PREVAILED….MANY HAVE FACED WORSE….I TOO WILL PREVAIL! THIS IS, HOWEVER, A TRUE STORY! THERE IS PROBABLY ONE IN EVERY TOWN LIKE THIS RIGHT NOW! IF WE DO NOTHING, THERE WILL BE ONE IN EVERY FAMILY LIKE THIS! EVENTUALLY, THERE WILL BE A STORY IN EVERY HOUSEHOLD LIKE THIS! AND PS…I SAY ‘MEN’ OVER AND OVER AGAIN BECAUSE UP TILL RECENTLY IT HAD ONLY BEEN MEN CHARGED WITH THIS CRIME, BUT I JUST RECENTLY HEARD OF A FEMALE BEING CHARGED FOR THE SAME THING, SO IT IS NOT JUST A ‘MAN’S’ PROBLEM ANYMORE!

  146. steve on June 12, 2009 at 4:12 AM

    Shannon said “ It’s even more important to note that only 10-15% of all sexual assaults are ever reported. The problem of violence towards women is only related to men in the way that men perpetuate the violence. Rape is a woman’s issue, 1 in 4 women will be raped or sexually assualted in her lifetime.”
    This a feminist myth fed along with the poison that runs throughout the fabric of our society that thread is feminism .

  147. molly s. on June 9, 2009 at 5:09 AM

    My brother is experiencing this right now, and he has been torn away from his three sons due to false allegations of DV. I can't believe this is happening. I believe laws should be in place to protect victims of any kind of abuse, but the laws should be written to protect the victims only – not people taking legal action out of pure spite and revenge. Here's a petition to congress. If anyone has experienced this, or knows someone who has, please sign!
    http://www.petition2congress.com/2/1627/go/350122

  148. Contessa on May 22, 2009 at 12:47 PM

    Shannon, I do not believe for one minute that only two percent of rape claims are fake. You believe what you what – even when you attempted to be understanding, you really angered me. YOU live his life and then take that patronizing attitude.

  149. Contessa on May 22, 2009 at 4:45 AM

    Robert, they never do. After tearing my husband's life to shreds and admitting that his falsely accusing wife was the "most repugnant person on the planet" (the DA's EXACT words), it was like "Oh well". His life was torn to shreds but if a woman is raped, all sorts of services are available to her. I am not advocating doing away with these services for REAL victims of rape but, rather, wonder WHO IS GOING TO HELP THE MALE VICTIMS of these heinous lies?

    Shannon would have us believe that it's far far worse for a woman to be raped. I say apples and oranges, first of all, and a rape victim's life is only destroyed if she allows it to be. I speak as a relative of women who HAVE been raped. When your name is destroyed and everyone is sure you're guilty, then what?

  150. mrs cee on May 17, 2009 at 5:38 PM

    i'm also loving a falsely accused man..My daughters friend of 3 1/2 yrs was welcomed n2 our family as she was our own;ncluded her n several family outings etc. this young lady had dated boys n her past & on some occassion have been seen n our hallway being fondled but @this time she decide to date a girl which her family strongly opposed, her mother continously questioned whether she was sure of her decision. her girl friend being the stud wasn't allowed n her mothers house & her brothers stopped talking to her. So, feb2009 i cooked her a birthday dinner, she turned 18 shortly after i gave one of my usual lectures advs her that now she grown by illinois law she cant visit like she use to, however upon each visit that once stated to her directly when i'm going to sleep u most leave & if i'm not home u are not to be here (cant play wife & ward ) * she responded w/understanding 3/17/09 @155p she text my daughter "where r u?" my dauther replied @ultra foods w/my mom & sister. With knowing this nfo she states her younger brother wanted his white hat whch was @my house due to her leaving it there nstead of sending her brother to get frm my husband she went to retrieve it. ( please remember the rule i told her to her face.) Per my husband, he answered the door she walked right in w/o being welcomed; headed straight to my daughters room where she got the hat. The victim? states: my husband requested to perform only oral sex on her. According to my husband she said yes thn gently took him by the hands leading n2 our bedroom where the supposed attack to place. ( both taking advantage of an opportunity ) During the event he states he did not penetrate he performed only 2-3licks.
    Once he finished he helped her get dressed gave her..her shoes and let her out all the while not displaying signs of distress or giving any indication that he did any thing wrong. Before closing the door behind her.. per my husband, she said now that i'm 18 we can b more that nieghbors. And did he think she was too pretty to b gay? plus w/all multiple fights & arrest he's gone thru w/me that he should leave me & be w/her. He said he replied,"no. . . i'm not leaveing my wife for nobody, so she proceeded to leave( quietly ).
    My husband went back2 his reg routine whch was beer & playstation3 for about 30ins. Unknown to him that w/n seconds his whole life w/b changing. Her brothers attempted to kick n my door about 255p aftr getting her call; even thou i'm @the store i'm on the phone w/him when the break-in started. Please note* my apartment has a front & back door. So w/that being said he opened the frnt door to prevent any futher damage. ( crow bar )
    he's rushed by six men ( nieghbors )before the police arrived. So, again my husband & i have had our share of problems & disagreements whch sometimes brought the attention of police. As u can see he's no angle & niether is she. However if he knew that he had violated her he would not have set back down to cont. a video game; he w/have "dipped" out the back door. ( excuse my slang ) For some reason i became very fearful to leave my house; stayed n about 5dys too scared. Once i had calmed i had come to learn that she was outside next day aftr the supposed attack, still w/her hospital band on. I hear people asking her "girl why u still got that on?" she replied w/smile "idk" but because her brothers came to her supposed rescue, now their talking to her again & the girl friend not only was she allowed to come in2 the mothers' house she could also spend nights!!! ( shocked ). Tried to ask the mother/daughter to drop charges *refused*. Tried to get the mother to see that her little sheep n wolves clothing wasn't being honest w/her & that theres more to this store.( denial ) Neighbors have come forward say'g she's been @our apartmnt b4 n the past whn my daughter and i weren't home. So he's n jail & tomorrow we go2 court to file motions. So if anyone has ideas to share on how help him. Please Please advise any advise is very welcomed.

  151. Robert Hodge on May 5, 2009 at 1:11 AM

    Me a Soldier and the state didn’t care. The prosecutor they chose to take the case is a known feminazi. You might ask why my lawyer wasn’ doing anything to help me. I had two public defenders and one court appointed attorney (one at a time) who made it clear they were not going to defend me. The public defender’s office dropped my case because of conflict of interest. The court apointed attorney, who I thought might be better, coerced me to accept a plea bargain to a lesser charge. Not a one of these,or the state, had an account given by me concerning what really happened. How can a public defender or a court appointed attorney defend a client without having their client’s side of the story? I sent to the F.B.I. and the Depatment of Justice a copy of the police report and the transcripts from the preliminary hearing that shows how the “victim” couldn’t keep her lie straight. I also sent my account of what really happened. Only one other person should have a brief account,according to me, of what happened. This is one of the things I believe; true justice is never satisfied by the blood,suffering or, death of the innocent.

  152. Robert Hodge on May 4, 2009 at 4:56 PM

    I virtually lost my life because a woman wanted to play victim and cause me harm. I was the actual victim of a crime yet, the police and the state didn't care about a male victim.

  153. Robert Hodge on May 4, 2009 at 4:51 PM

    I know too well what it is like to be a victim of a devastating false accusation. I was falsely accused of waving a gun at a woman who lives a few houses down the street. The "victim" and her friends came to my home and threatened me with bodily harm and death, all because the woman's nine year old nephew allegedly told them that I had approached him in the middle of the road way and dropped my pants in front of him. The thought of doing something like this has never even crossed my mind. The boy's aunt and mother knew it was a lie. If they knew it possibly happened they would have gotten a warrant as they told the police officers they would. They did not get a warrant nor did the state of Tennessee. The police ignored my complaint regarding the woman and the armed mob who came to my house and threatened me. I was arrested without being informed that I was being arrested. I was never even informed of my miranda rights. The aunt ( the "victim"), gave two different accounts of what she claimed happened on the night of Aug2,2006. There was an investigation and no weapon was found. I made it politely clear to the police officer who arrested me that I had no gun and only a limited and controlled access to the rifle that is assigned to me by the Tennessee Army national guard. I have recently sent a letter of request to investigate to the F.B.I. and select persons in the U.S. Department of Justice along with proof the woman lied to the police and the state. The whole case was a "he said/she said case and the state chose to seek a conviction against me and sentence me to two to fifteen years in prison, all based on the woman's word alone. Because of the woman lying, I lost a good future in the U.S. Army and, almost got thrown out of the national guard here in Tennessee. False accusations do cause irepairable harm and destroy lives. As a result of what happened to me, I have nothing left to live for and nothing left to lose. I feel pain everyday and very disenfranchised.

  154. Shannon on May 3, 2009 at 6:04 AM

    Contessa and Gunner,
    As a feminist, I am an advocate for the rights of all women, whatever those rights may be. I am not fighting for women to be better than men, and to presume that I “don’t think men matter” is both audacious and ignorant. The definition of feminism, according to Merriam-Webster, is “: the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes”, which means that by definition and practice I fight for the equality of both women and men. Most importantly, the fact that you, or any other person reading these messages, disagrees with me is irrelevant and doesn’t dictate whether or not I care about your opinions or feelings.

    "feminism." Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary. 2009.
    Merriam-Webster Online. 3 May 2009

    I do not pretend to claim that what has happened to your husband isn’t real or tragic. If your narrative is true then his situation is both unfair and unjust. Also, in context my use of the word “insignificant” refers to the percentage of cases that are false accusations and not to your situation. In fact, I do not deny or trivialize the experiences of any of you men or women who have personally experienced.
    That being said, these few cases do not change the majority of sexual assault and rape cases. It is also important to note, Gunner, that I am speaking specifically of sexual assault and rape, not domestic violence or child custody. Those are a completely different and complex set of issues.
    Here is the research you all desire, all of these facts are followed by the appropriate sources. Because unlike those you consider fear mongers and harpies, I value factual data, in fact, it is the only way to construct a convincing and valid argument.
    • 1 in 6 women will be sexually assaulted in her lifetime, and 1 in 33 men are sexually assaulted in his lifetime.
    • Only 2% of reported sexual assaults have been determined to be false.
    These facts are from the National Institute of Justice Website. http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/nij/topics/crime/rape-se
    Fisher, B.S., F.T. Cullen, and M.G. Turner. The Sexual Victimization of College Women . Washington, DC: U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics and National Institute of Justice, 2000, NCJ 182369.
    Koss, Mary P., and C. Gedycz, and N. Wisniewski. "The Scope of Rape Incidence and Prevalence of Sexual Aggression and Victimization in a National Sample of Higher Education Students." Journal of Consulting and Clinical psychology. 55(1987), 162-70
    Thoennes, Nancey, and Tjaden, Patricia. “Prevalence, Incidence and Consequences of Violence Against Women: Findings of the National Violence Against Women Survey.” U.S. Department of Justice, November 1998.
    It is possible that you just don’t understand the definition of sexual assault or rape, this can make things very confusing. Let me clarify.
    • Sexual assault: any act of sex where the actor has not obtained consent from the other person. Runs on a continuum from unlawful sexual contact to actual penetration.
    • Rape: Sexual intrusion or penetration of the vagina anus or mouth of the victim. The weapon of intrusion used by the perpetrator may be a penis, tongue, finger or object.
    • Consent: Cooperation in act and attitude. Knowledge of what is happening, intoxicants, such as alcohol, can impair a person’s ability to give consent. Submission due to fear is not consent. Having previous sexual relationship does not mean consent. http://dictionary.law.com/default2.asp?selected=1
    Gunner, I am confused as to where I claimed that 25% of the male population was rapists? In fact nowhere in my comment did I make such a ludicrous statement. Also it is geographically impossible for 2 or 3 people to commit every sexual assault in America. I do not know the percentage of men who commit rape and will there for make no such statements about a specific number.
    It is interesting that you refer to rape in a way that makes it seem like a game or quota by using phrases like “professional”, “running around” and “keep the numbers up”.
    Steven,
    I was incorrect in my range of rapes reported, these are the new facts.
    • The Bureau of Justice Statistics (BJS) reports that the majority of rapes and sexual assaults perpetrated against women and girls in the United States between 1992 and 2000 were not reported to the police. Only 36 percent of rapes, 34 percent of attempted rapes, and 26 percent of sexual assaults were reported.
    I don’t know how statistics are calculated from the reported percentage, and unless you do, you are unjustified in saying that the numbers come from thin air.
    Rennison, C.M. Rape and Sexual Assault: Reporting to Police and Medical Attention, 1992–2000. Washington, DC: U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics, August 2002, NCJ 194530.
    Again, I am not talking about domestic violence and I do acknowledge that DV is committed by both men and women.
    Let me reiterate so as not to offend anyone. I believe the experiences of men who have experienced false accusations are horrible and unwarranted. Occurrences such as these are detrimental and hurt the credibility of both sexes. I realize that both sides of this argument will be able to find and cite sources so agreement is impossible. I do encourage all of you to perceive sexual assault and rape as serious issues not to be dismissed by allegedly high percentages of false accusation.

  155. Melissa on March 31, 2009 at 7:37 AM

    I thought our judicial system was fair. I had quite an eye opening. You do not need to give dates or have any evidence of rape in the state that I live in. An accusation is enough to send someone to prison. Guilty until proven innocent. Where is the justice? Where is the retribution for loss of freedom, respect, defirmation of character, going in debt to protect yourself against the false accusations. Laws should be severe for false accusations.

    • Taniya on March 1, 2012 at 12:17 PM

      Could you provide a link to that information? An allegation is never enough. Many rapes go unpunished because of the LACK of evidence.

  156. Contessa on March 22, 2009 at 1:35 AM

    When I have some free time, yes, I will do that. Thanks so much for the invitation. As far as awareness of the crime of false accusations, we have such a long way to go. Look at the comments made by Shannon in this thread.

    Sadly, I can take no credit for awareness on my own. Had I not met up with this man, and done a LOT of research, I might be believing the same feminist propaganda. There are fair minded women everywhere – but we have to reach them. That's why this organization is so important. Please – if you're just stopping by, I encourage you to join. I know times are tough financially and I have to scrape for my dues as well (I'm late! AGH!) but it's money well spent.

  157. E. Steven Berkimer on March 20, 2009 at 10:00 AM

    Contessa,

    I’m so sorry you have to watch him go through that. And I’m appreciative that he has someone who is willing to be there watching him go through that.

    Sadly, the crime of false rape accusation isn’t something that rarely happens. Please, if you have a story to share, please drop by the website I post regularly on, http://www.falserapesociety.blogspot.com, and if you are willing, please share your story with us. We are one of the few sites that are comitted to making sure that the issue of false accusations of rape are exposed.

  158. Contessa on March 20, 2009 at 2:12 AM

    I still keep quiet about it.

    • Guest on March 26, 2012 at 10:55 AM

      Yes, you do because you are afraid you will be exposed for all of the lies he told, that you chose to believe for the financial security.

  159. Ally on March 17, 2009 at 6:25 AM

    Wow… Two years ago I would have rolled my eyes at the stories of false allegations. But then I watched the life of the most gentle, kind man I know get ripped to shreds by a sociopath with unlimited funds to take legal action against him based on things she simply made up out of thin air. Even though the police testified against her, my fiance continues to live with barely any contact with his own children. He was the primary caregiver, took them to all doctor and dentist appointments, taught them to ride bikes, loved them the way a father should and helped them grow. He cries every night and it is TORTURE for all of us.

    I had no idea the vicious power women have when they turn and twist the elements in the system meant to protect real victims of abuse.

    Once I started sharing my fiance's story with coworkers (I hesitated becuase i figured no one would believe me), each and EVERY ONE so far has a friend or a brother or is himself experienced in the area of having to defend against false allegations and losing his children as a result.

    That last statement in the post… that the pain will only end when he passes. … it is a heartbreaking truth. I feel it for my man too.

  160. lonely sufferer on March 16, 2009 at 8:24 AM

    To all men being falsely accused. If you have nothing to fear take a lie detector test. I did and passed. Child protective services and local police backed off and I got my children back after 6-8 weeks. I am legally totally disabled due to 10 years of childhood rapes by adult males in two foster homes in California. Thirty years after the fact I sued the perpetrators and won in civil court. Not everybody becomes a perpetrator just because they were perpetrated against as children.

  161. E. Steven Berkimer on March 14, 2009 at 12:32 PM

    Gunner,

    Thank you for responding to her, and Semper Fi.

    I have a couple of additions:

    #1. It’s even more important to note that only 10-15% of all sexual assaults are ever reported.

    If they aren't reported, then you are just pulling figures out of thin air, as there is no way to accurately calculate something that isn't reported. Unless of course, you could be bothered to cite your sources as Gunner did.

    #2. The problem of violence towards women is only related to men in the way that men perpetuate the violence.

    Then please explain how the rate of domestic violence is the same in lesbian relationships as heterosexual relationships?

    "Statistics regarding domestic violence against LGBT people are unavailable at the national level, but as regional studies demonstrate, domestic violence is as much as a problem within LGBT communities as it is among heterosexual ones."

    That is a direct quote from the NOW website: http://www.now.org/issues/violence/stats.html

    Funny, even NOW is aware that DV, as well as sexual assault/rape is not something that only men do to women.

  162. Gunner Retired on March 4, 2009 at 7:18 AM

    Shannon,
    You claim that "Only 2% of all reported cases of sexual assault and rape are false" is in err. This 'Canard has not only long since been disproved, the source of of the "2% False claim" has been exposed.
    Edward Greer wrote a paper on this… I invite you to read it and educate yourself.

    Now discussing your claim that "Rape is a woman’s issue, 1 in 4 women will be raped or sexually assaulted in her lifetime,"
    a) there is NO reliably sourced data to support this… anywhere and
    b) do you truly expect use to believe that 25% of the male population of the planet are rapists? Or are there like 2 or 3 professional rapists out there running around attacking women just to keep the numbers up?

    Now… having said that, let me point you to some DATA (which I realize is inconsequential to fear mongers and "OMG IT'S A CRISIS!" harpies):
    a) Per the United States Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families, as published in their annual Child Maltreatment Report- the VAST MAJORITY of neglect, abuse and maltreatment suffered by our children is inflicted by their mothers (with the child father being the least frequent perpetrator of said neglect, abuse and maltreatment.
    Don't take my word for it, the data is available online at the US US DoH&HS website.
    b) Review the US CDC (United States Centers for Disease Control) NVSR (National Vital Statistics Report), Vol. 56, No. 5, November 20, 2007 Table 1.
    …and you'll see that contrary to one of feminists cherished dictums
    "More women are killed by Domestic Violence than any other cause in America", that more women die from accidental causes than die from ALL forms of violence (ie Domestic or otherwise) combined, and in fact deaths caused by violence drop off the charts completely at age 45.

    c) If you'll review the National Hospital Ambulatory Care Survey data files you'll find that contrary to another of feminists prized dictums,"Domestic Violence is the leading cause of injury to women between ages 15 and 44 in the United States – more than car accidents, muggings, and rapes combined",
    Survey data fil  that injuries to women caused by Domestic Violence (titled "Injuries purposefully inflicted by spouse or other intimate" rank far behind such mundane causativeas as 'motor vehicle accidents', 'accidental falls', 'sports injuries',  etc.
    In fact, in 1996 the NHACS published data placing DV injuries at #8 in line at 2.2%, a paltry 0.1% ahead of #18 'poisonous animals and plants', #19 'hot substance or object' and #20 'foreign body accidentally entering eye'…

    COMBINED!!!.

    d) Going back even further in history (merely to illustrate to you that this data is, AND HAS BEEN, known (i.e. despite feminists BS lies) to the 1985 US NIJ Family Violence Research Survey i.e. FVRS, males reported that women initiated family violence 44.1% of the time and women reported that they initiated the violence 52.7% of the time.
    Yes, 23 years ago women admitted they initiated family violence almost 20% more often than men did.
    Further, the US CDC has published data showing us that in families experiencing reciprocal violence women initiate the violence as often as the men, and in families experiecing non-reciprocal violence women initiate 3/4 of the violence.

    Shall I continue?
    I can.
    I wouldn't lie to you.

    I'll not only sit here and tell you you're a lying *censored* and full of *censored*, I'll tell you what the DATA is (as opposed to your cherished *censored* rhetoric) and I'll tell you how and where to go look up that DATA.
    For example:

    * 29.9% of custodial fathers and 76.9% of custodial mothers receive a support award.
    * 26.9% and 46.9% of non-custodial mothers totally default on support payments.
    * 61.0% of non-custodial fathers and 20.0% non-custodial mothers pay support at some level.
    * 10.2% of single custodial fathers and 66.2% of single custodial mothers work less than full time.
    * 24.5% of single custodial fathers and 7.0% of single custodial mothers work more than 44 hours weekly.
    * 20.8% of single custodial fathers and 46.2% of single custodial mothers receive public assistance.

    Source:
    Technical Analysis Paper No. 42 – US Dept. of Health and Human Services – Office of Income Security Policy.

    Further:
    * 90.2% of fathers with joint custody pay the support due.
    * 79.1% of fathers with visitation privileges pay the support due.
    * 44.5% of fathers with no visitation pay the support due.
    * 37.9% of fathers are denied any visitation.

    And read this one real carefully, it’s pertinent:

    * 66% of all support not paid by non-custodial fathers is due to the inability to pay.

    Source:
    1988 Census “Child Support and Alimony: 1989 Series” P-60, No. 173 p, 6-7, and “US General Accounting Office Report GAO/HRD-92-39FS Jan 1992

    If anyone else cares for a copy of the [Mythos Busted] file (from whence came this data) I maintain here, you need only email me at gunnerretired@hotmail.com asking for it.

    Gunner Retired
    F4J Georgia
    NPRA

  163. Contessa on March 1, 2009 at 3:49 AM

    Shannon –

    Please come to my house and tell my shattered husband that false accusations are "insignificant" – if you dare. Of course, you'll have to GET PAST ME FIRST!   And there's fat chance of that.

    Tell me, if you're so concerned about women's rights, why are you not fighting for MY right to not have MY life destroyed (albeit vicariously) via these horrible false accusations?  I'm a woman – OK, so you don't think men matter, well I'm a woman so therefore my pain must matter to you, right?

    Ooooh, sorry – my bad.   The last thing feminists care about are the rights of those who disagree with them – male OR female.

    • Guest on March 26, 2012 at 10:53 AM

      Your house? Don't you mean, his house? Keep on trying babe, no one believes you or him.

  164. Contessa on March 1, 2009 at 2:51 AM

    PS Shannon, dear?  You need to stop spouting the feminist line and actually do some research.  1 in 4 my a$$.

  165. Contessa on February 21, 2009 at 4:37 AM

    CrazyDrama – I’ll tell you what’s crazy. Giving a group of high school girls SIX DAYS to “get their stories straight” – meaning they can rehearse their lies during that time.

    Unbelievable.

    Your defense is in your post – he broke up with the girl.  Hell hath no fury.  Other than that, your son is at the mercy of those who believe that women don’t lie about such things. 

    I wonder why men want to have anything to do with us anymore – it’s too dangerous!  I’m glad they do, but still I have to wonder.

  166. Contessa on February 20, 2009 at 9:30 PM

    Steve – my heart goes out to you.     I do understand – albeit vicariously – the pain, the torment, the nightmare.
    My first suggestion is to research, research, research.  I do have a copy of Dean Tong's book – somewhat useful.  I can't remember which book.  I do know that my husband lost most everything he had by the time it was all over – first criminal charges, then civil charges (they couldn't put him in jail for the rest of his life and get his money that way, so they sued). 

    My husband used to be a wealthy man.  His money was meant FOR HIS CHILDREN as he is a modest man who requires little and worked very hard to secure the future of his children.   His ex wife and her minions stripped HIS CHILDREN of their college education – ironically, his children were her minions – and the police, and the DA and some radical women's groups, and psychologists, and social workers……the list of the complicit goes on and on…

    At the end, the children  only f-ed themselves over because now they have NOTHING – none of them have ANYTHING.    Not that  I care about them, because they all went along with this and filed charges and perjured themselves and have NO REGRET about it.

    In *your* case, your daughter is not complicit and it breaks my heart to hear this story. She's a baby and at least she doesn't know about any of this while it's going on but the damage her mother is doing to her – depriving her of a father – will eventually haunt her.

    So tragic.

    • Guest on March 26, 2012 at 10:52 AM

      You are so bitter! Have you even tried to help him face what he did and try to ask for forgiveness from his children? It sounds like it is all about the money to you. So sad to read such vitriol. If he is so poor, how did he afford a sailboat? Just sayin…

  167. CrazyDrama on February 19, 2009 at 11:41 PM

    I am currently dealing with an issue where my 17 year old son was accused of sexual harrassment at school, the only witnessess the girl and three of her friends (one of whom is a girl my son recently broke up with) The school took  6 days to conduct its "investigation" basically gave them 6 days to get their stories straight. Now my son who is a D1 football recruit is in danger of being expelled from school and missing his senior season of football. There is no evidence, no video, the teacher who was in the classroom when this supposedly occured saw nothing. How do you fight something like this?

  168. Steven Bilik on February 19, 2009 at 8:43 PM

    Hello,
    My name is Steve, I am currently in a battle with my ex just to have unsupervised visits with my daughter who lived with me 10 1/2 months of her 14 month old life. The allegations started out with physical abuse and willful deprivation. Next came the drug abuse allegations. Now they have turned into child pornography, and sexual abuse on own daughter. I pray that someone will see through these lies.  Everytime that I refuse to pay for something (Like a party for her family at my daughters baptismal)another allegation emerges.
    I live in Illinois and it seems that she can keep making the accusations and I have too pay to keep defending myself. I am guilty without evidence, until I prove myself innocent. I have spent all of my money and now am 35,000 in debt due to this, and it still is happening.
    Our daughtert has special needs also and I think it would be much better to spend all of my money on her care, not just for the right to be a part of her life. WHERE IS THE JUSTICE???

    • Victim on July 3, 2011 at 7:59 AM

      Steve, I feel for you…where is the justice? I am currently going through similar accusations; one after another. I tell you one thing…if your attorney isn't defending you, more than likely you will be found guilty! I am going through a divorce and had to hire a criminal attorney to defend me since my divorce attorney wasn't telling me what the heck was going on. CPS found nothing against me so now I am facing statutory rape. I met her when she was 16 and I was 21. We had a child right before she turned 17 and another when she was 19 and another when she was 24. The relationship was off and on…mind you she was illegal immigrant and she tried to file a VAWA (Vilence Against Woman Act) in 2005 report on me while we were living together…we never officially married until 2008. Immigration denied her request for citizenship under spousal abuse because she wasn't able to provide a marriage certificate. In 2008 she lied to me and said her dad had got her citizenship and we married. .

      • Victim on July 3, 2011 at 7:59 AM

        cont'd…Come to find out she is still illegal and inorder to be able to qualify for the citizenship (this time) she had to have a marriage certificate, which she now did and be married for at least 2 years before getting a divorce and also that abuse occured. This girl had no police reports of any incidents prior to her leaving me. After she left, coinsidently all these accusations of abuse and child abuse towards my children occured. She never reported them. She moved out Jan. 2011 to move in with her boyfriend. And yet….I am still fighting to protect my innocence! What happened to my Constitutional Rights as a US citizen? I am fighting full custody for my children and requesting she pay for all false accusations. I live in Texas

  169. Shannon on February 9, 2009 at 5:59 AM

    Although I realize that some men suffer the consequences of a falsley accused rape or sexual assault, in reality this issue is practically insignificant, especially when compared with the real issue: a system of violence towards women. Only 2% of all reported cases of sexual assault and rape are false, this is the same percentage of false accusations of every other crime. It's even more important to note that only 10-15% of all sexual assaults are ever reported. The problem of violence towards women is only related to men in the way that men perpetuate the violence. Rape is a woman's issue, 1 in 4 women will be raped or sexually assualted in her lifetime.

    • Matthias. on October 16, 2011 at 12:24 PM

      2% is a myth! studies have proven that roughly HALF of all rape accusations are lies! It's not a woman's issue, It's a people issue. I am male, and i have actually been raped by several WOMEN. and i couldn't take action because it isnt seen as rape is you're a male victim. stop spreading this lie. you're worthless.

  170. Contessa on January 26, 2009 at 7:06 PM

    Drew, I'm so sorry to hear that.    I hope you have had success in putting your life back together again – although from what I've seen, it's damned near impossible.  What was lost by the accusations can never ever be regained.   If my husband has one peaceful night in all the rest of his life, it will be a miracle.   OK, so the bitch ended up in jail over a non-related offense, but she SHOULD have been in jail for making horrible false accusations.  Where is the outrage??

    My heart goes out to you.

  171. Drew on January 26, 2009 at 9:47 AM

    I know exactly the pain of losing a job over false accusations; I was fortunate that it didn't go to court. People then wonder why some men are gay. That way at least both partners are equal in the eyes of the law.

  172. Contessa on January 20, 2009 at 8:16 PM

    False accusations destroy lives.  And it doesn't just destroy the life of the man falsely accused.   His parents, grandparents,  children, brothers, sisters …. can and will be impacted in ways which only those who love a falsely accused man will ever understand.  If you can imagine being shunned by  neighbors 10 years after false incest/rape/abuse charges have been dropped…

    FALSELY ACCUSED.
    Imagine losing your job and not being able to find a new one…even though the charges were dropped….Imagine being sued in civil court by an evil ex-wife and children determined to get the revenge they feel the legal system denied them (but really didn't, since you did lose your job and you were arrested and on the news and humiliated and are being shunned and everyone is convinced you are guilty just somehow got off the hook).  Imagine spending all that money once again to defend yourself and imagine the pain you feel when your attorney advises you that you'd better settle out of court if you even want to retain one dime…

    Imagine being too old to start over once everyone began forgetting…

    Imagine watching all the money from years of hard work for your family (once the lawyers were paid, of course) disappear because you can't find a new job. 

    Imagine knowing you'd be turned down for a career position as the french fry guy at McDonald's…

    Can you even begin to imagine the nightmares – each and every night – from the 5 weeks you were refused bail because your ex lied and said you would try to kill her (in addition to the daily beatings, rapes, etc.)????

    And worst of all, imagine that your children, whom you have loved so dearly –  have been trained in your absence while you were attempting to provide for them the best future you could – being molded by a vicious woman to lie, cheat, steal, and do whatever it takes to get whatever they want – and to despise and blame YOU in the process?  Imagine losing your children forever –

    Imagine any and all of this – because it does and did happen.

    My name is Rosemarie and I'm a proud member of NCFM.  I am now married to a falsely accused man.  It's a nightmare which will only end when he finally passes away – and that's exactly what she wanted.  Trust me on this one.

    • Guest on March 26, 2012 at 8:46 AM

      You are truly brainwashed and in denial about the man you married (and met through an on-line dating service). Your neighbors know the truth. Your community knows the truth. Law enforcement knows the truth. Most importantly HE knows the truth. He destroyed the lives of all of those who loved him and wished him well. By all accounts you are a bitter, profanity spewing, angry, isolative woman. It's time for you to get a life of your own and stop talking about things you know nothing about. It sounds more like you are more interested in the financial apects rather than truly caring about this man and HIS family. Did you ever stop to think that perhaps the allegations were true?

    • Barry on December 14, 2012 at 7:52 PM

      I too was falsely accused of rape. I failed a lie detector because I was so nervous I couldn’t think straight and perhaps because I had just been fired 2 hours before from 100k + job because of the allegations. The State Attorney offered me 5 years felony probation. A week later charges we dropped no DNA evidence and the semen they found matched her boyfriend. This evil bitch tried to come on to me and I rejected her advances. She told 4 different stories and the SAN still pressed on. Thank god for my wife standing by me because I Iost everything except my family!

  173. Contessa on January 20, 2009 at 7:20 PM

    PS That was really poorly written; I can do  better but there is so much pain and rage inside.  I have just spent another night listening to the man I love cry out in his sleep.  My heart is broken and I didn't even know the man when all this was happening…..If *I*, as an outsider at the time, feel this badly and this hurt and this much anger, how much more do you think the falsely accused man feels?

    • DeeCee on December 2, 2011 at 11:40 PM

      Doesn't matter. Society knows men are perverts and women are saints.

    • keen on February 20, 2012 at 7:28 PM

      it is now 160 weeks later and I would place real money that Contessa has left the man that she professed to love so much – no not left, abandoned is more the word.

      • jACK LEWIS on May 26, 2014 at 6:47 PM

        The women who report false claims should have the same jail time of the person they falsely reported. That way the real women would get the real justice they need. Usually all a woman has to do is act bollistic and cry and the police officer usually being male will bellive her IT IS IN THE MAKE UP OF A MAN TO WANT TO PROTECT ESPECILLY A WOMAN. oh hea it happend to me too it cost me a career. My kids know the truth now but what a ride

        • rosemary on January 4, 2015 at 8:52 PM

          I have a love one detained at Coalinga state due to a clerical error because of that error he was sent to Coalinga state hospital a maximum security facility for those who have been convicted of a sexual violent offense and Ruben is the only one in the hospital who has never been convicted of a sexual violent offense please read he’s website http://www.rubenherreraneedsyourhelp.com click on view documents it tells everything in detail what I say is the truth he’s charges were non-forcible please read he’s story thank you

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