A few years ago we picketed these events because they excluded recognition of male victims of domestic violence.
We would often be booed, called women haters, and given baffled looks, if not looks of disgust and hate. But in those days we were the ones primarily concerned about ending domestic violence for everyone, not just women– or, men.
Back then, silhouettes, like those above, were only of females murdered by their partner. Now, in the picture above two of the five silhouettes represent male victims murdered by their partner. Or, we’ve come a long way from Kansas Toto.
Thanks largely to the good work of opened minded people like Dr. Dawn Griffith , President of the San Diego Domestic Violence Council ; Kent Peters, Director of Catholic Social Ministries, and Chesley Blevins of the County Office of Crime Prevention, the domestic violence industry in San Diego is much more aware of male victims. Hence the inclusion of the silhouettes of murdered men.
Event “Terms and Conditions” included a non discrimination clause prohibiting vendors and exhibitors from displaying or circulating information that implied or stated services provided would be restricted based on sex. The majority of people who visited our booth were from various service providers, virtually all of who were happy to see us and concerned about the absence of services for male victims in the county, including in the military. So, even though there is a heightened awareness of male victimology in San Diego there still exists a dearth of related services. Interestingly, two days later I took a call from a male victim who received some legal assistance from the YWCA!
NCFM member Joe Naldowski is our San Diego Domestic Violence Council Representative. He was instrumental to NCFM participating in this event. Thank you Joe!
I’m very pleased to note that NCFM’s work in San Diego largely contributed to the local domestic violence industry’s raised awareness and recognition of the plight of abused men.