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NCFM Member J.M., The Weaponization of Domestic Violence Laws Against Men

February 4, 2021

Most men don’t have any idea just how powerful and life-altering the domestic violence laws can be until it happens to them. A review of California’s do-it-yourself Application for Domestic Violence Restraining Order published on every state court website shows us just how destructive they can be. Based on the mere accusation – without witnesses, or even physical signs of injury, a person accused of an act of domestic violence (yanking the cell phone out of their significant other’s (“SO’s”) hand may be sufficient) could immediately suffer the following consequences:

1. Lose their Second Amendment rights and be forced to surrender all of their firearms to the police or a licensed gun dealer within 24 hours and file proof within 48 hours with the court;
2. They may not have any contact with virtually anybody the SO identifies in their application for a restraining order;
3. They must immediately move out of and cannot return to their own home, see their children or come within 500 feet of the applicant/children/family dog/cat or tropical fish;
4. Drive their car or use any other piece of property the applicant wants exclusive control of;
5. Be required to pay your SO’s credit card bills, phone bills, or anything else they want you to pay;
6. Do anything that would be considered encumbering or transferring any property
7. Change or cancel any insurance policies
8. Your SO can legally record your telephone conversations or any other communication you have with them, which will be thrown back in your face at the next hearing. One man told me that after the temporary restraining order was granted, his SO called him to set up a meeting “just between them” to talk. She had a friend hiding around the corner who took pictures of the whole thing and the photos were later used to hold him in contempt.

The California Penal Code has some of the strictest prohibitions against videotaping or recording another person without their consent in the nation. [Penal Code § 632]. However, in 2017 the law was changed allow a person to make recordings of the other party’s confidential communication without their consent “for the purpose of obtaining evidence reasonably believed to relate to the commission by another party to the communication of the crime of . . . domestic violence” as defined in Penal Code § 13700. [Penal Code § 633.5|. The term “domestic violence” in turn means “abuse” defined in Penal Code 13700(a) as “intentionally or recklessly causing or attempting to cause bodily injury, or placing another person in reasonable apprehension of imminent serious bodily injury to himself or herself, or another.”

This may be helpful to anyone in the midst of an abusive argument or violent confrontation with their SO.

9. Your SO can make you pay her attorneys fees for the entire matter.

Imagine coming home from work during a busy week and being blindsided with one of these restraining orders. These orders are based on a handwritten allegation filed by your SO and routinely granted. Depending on the judge, a bare claim of “he hit me” might be enough. Violation of any of these orders can land you in jail for up to one year.

The courts give top priority for consideration of domestic violence restraining orders, and they can be obtained in a matter of hours. It doesn’t seem to matter whether the judge is male or female, the guy usually gets the raw end of the deal. With regard to the female judges . . . well, they’re female, right? As for the male judges, when presented with a sobbing woman during the restraining order hearing, the male judges in my experience seem to have that “Oh Honey, let me help you” attitude, and again the guy loses.

Things are getting even worse – there was recent legislation in Texas that sought to nat;ional coalition for menexpand the meaning of the term “Domestic Violence” to include emotional abuse as well as the creation of a domestic violence suspect registry, much like a sex offender registry minus the requirement that the person actually be convicted of the offense. It’s hard to imagine anything that couldn’t be labeled “emotional abuse”. Fortunately, the legislation was vetoed.

About two years ago I was falsely accused of domestic violence by a vindictive ex-girlfriend. The costs have been enormous. I spent tens of thousands of dollars, lost countless hours from work, was evicted from my home, and at least $50,000 of my property was stolen or destroyed by my ex that can never be replaced.

But the worst thing of all? She stole my cat. She put my cat’s name in her restraining order application that my cat belonged to her and the judge granted it. She knew I loved that cat. My cat is dead now because she abandoned it after the judge gave him to her. What she did was mean and unforgivable, but sadly this happens all too often.

In my case, I was arrested. When I was placed in the holding tank I began talking with the other men in the cell. Out of the ten men there that night, all ten were there on domestic violence charges. Most claimed that they never laid a hand on their SO but were arrested anyway after the SO decided to get the upper hand on them and called the cops.

Without going into specifics, I can tell you that my life has been changed permanently, and not for the better. In this new environment of weaponized laws designed primarily to benefit women, if you are having relationship difficulties with your SO, these are the life and death rules to live by:

1. If your SO ever lay hands on you, the relationship is over and you should call the police on them. If you don’t, they will do it to you sooner or later. For that matter if they ever call the police on you, the relationship is over. It will only get worse from that point forward. I failed to heed these warnings, and paid the ultimate price. I’d give anything to go back in time and follow this advice. It will take me years to recover.

2. Don’t assume your SO is unaware of how powerful domestic violence laws are. Like the men I met that night in the holding tank, you don’t even need to do anything wrong to be arrested on false accusations. Most women know that they can have you arrested any time they feel like it. Make them angry enough, and you may find out what an amazing actor your SO is if things go sour.

3. If you do find yourself caught up in a domestic violence case, realize the position you are in: you are facing your worst enemy and stand to lose everything if you don’t (1) hire a lawyer immediately; (2) leave your emotion out of it – it’s become a business transaction at this point; and (3) realize that everything your SO does from this point is designed to get you to violate that restraining order. Don’t fall for it.

Stay safe my friends.

NCFM Member J.M., The Weaponization of Domestic Violence Laws Against Men

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12 Responses to NCFM Member J.M., The Weaponization of Domestic Violence Laws Against Men

  1. Enough is Enough on December 5, 2023 at 8:23 AM

    On the brighter side of this ever growing and evolving shrewdness and nightmare thus we can hope: As today we are witnessing the rise of non anti-nature, anti-life, and anti-human powers in the world’s arena.

    Women are women, and so forth. The laws are built with that on mind, to establish that women are a state property, or a state entrapment bait.

    We, the so called “People”, can only hope that the rise of other ‘Superpowers’ will eclipse this tyranny and protect the families, humanity and world society’s from its malice and harm; and regress and cut the tyranny’s clasp on us, and liberate us, the citizens of this tyranny.

    By that is meant, not just the war machines against all other nations, and the open involvement before the word in genocide and killings while preaching ‘peace!’ and ‘prosperity!’; and the non ceasing efforts to destroy humanity’s prosperity by destroying male-female bonding and trust as they are trying to ‘blur’ the distinction between both sexes; rather, a domestic tyranny like never witnessed before, where the state/corporate in control in every aspect of man’s life, even in his bedroom activities with his ‘woman’ spouse.

    Did not Edgar Cayce in the 1930’s proclaimed that ‘Hope shall come from Russia’ in the future?

    “In Russia there comes the hope of the world, not as that sometimes termed of the Communistic, of the Bolshevistic; no. But freedom, freedom! that each man will live for his fellow man! The principle has been born. It will take years for it to be crystallized, but out of Russia comes again the hope of the world. ”

    Today the statement of Edgar Cayce is much relevant to us than 10 years ago.

    One day, when I feel safer from the tyranny’s apparatus, I would like to relate my very well documented story, the experience I had with this Domestic Violence illegality that was committed against my family. What we had witnessed, from the state, was enough to understand that this land is not land of laws. This recognition seeps into the psyche of each one of us, where then the reality befalls and this nation indeed has no laws, as laws contradict each other and spun to their opposite effects. No empire can stand against other nations as the uselessness of its laws are taken for a fact by the same citizens whose blood and sweat are the fuel of this tyranny.

    It is the Good that had orchestrated such rise of other powers to contradict what can deform the humanity en mass; the Good that installed itself in each man’s vision, thus not to accept tyranny nor ‘normalize’ what contradicts human’s nature, and installs a resilient resistance in each against such.

  2. Noah M. on June 9, 2022 at 11:47 PM

    I am Josh’s brother. I’m Christian, and I’m glad that there is the possibility of forgiveness – because the woman who did this to my brother certainly can’t make things right in this lifetime. A person with nothing to lose hooked up with my brother, exploited him, and took him out – for fun, I guess. I had to bury him last summer.

    The Johnny Depp / Amber Heard trial that just concluded gives us hope. The jury saw through the lies. Johnny had an uphill battle, and hats off to him for standing up to the blackmail. I feel sorry for the men that don’t have a $multimillion war-chest.

    A good woman can add to your success; a bad one can kill you. If she’s not lifting you up, please get away from her.

    • NCFM on June 10, 2022 at 9:16 AM

      We are very sorry to hear about the loss of your brother. He joined very large group of men beaten down by a woman. And, thank you for this sound advise: “A good woman can add to your success; a bad one can kill you. If she’s not lifting you up, please get away from her.”

    • Sarah Mauricio on July 7, 2023 at 11:10 PM

      I was around for this… contact me if you’d like Noah

    • Sarah on July 7, 2023 at 11:12 PM

      Contact me Noah

  3. T Bride on December 29, 2021 at 7:04 PM

    Rip Joshua Mackenroth you were a good friend and you are truly missed. I saw what you went through and it was horrible! Miss you my friend

    • NCFM on December 31, 2021 at 7:01 AM

      Joshua was a good man. He was dragged down and destroyed by false accusations and a misandrist Bar Association seemingly determined to adopt the all men bad all women good mantra. We miss him too…

  4. Aqua Man on February 17, 2021 at 2:15 PM

    It is bad to falsely accuse someone of something. Domestic violence and other crimes should only be reported when they really happen. If someone reveals the woman was lying and she finds another man, he might really abuse her and if she reports it, people will say she is “crying wolf”.

    Most domestic violence cases involve men beating women, in 10% of cases, it’s women beating men and even fewer people talk about it. There is also domestic violence among same sex couples.

    • NCFM on February 20, 2021 at 11:37 AM

      Actually, the vast majority of intimate partner violence is initiated by women, around 70%. Generally speaking, men and women abuse each other roughly equally.

  5. Mann Splainer on February 5, 2021 at 7:29 AM

    This is why I have and will remain single for the rest of my life. After ending a relationship with a woman, as a revenge tactic for being rejected, she falsely accused me of assault with a deadly weapon. She didn’t show up for the arraignment and suffered no punishment for the hell she put me through. This malevolence against men from women is now a common, every day occurrence and fully supported by an anti-male state violence proxy that serves only women’s interests and well being. The state now sponsors and supports women’s false accusations against men.

    • Joshua Mackenroth on February 5, 2021 at 10:28 PM

      Hello Mann, I’m J. M. I’m the author of the article. After taking everything from me, her lies to the police have just gotten me disbarred. My 30 year carreer as a lawyer is gone forever. I’m going to fight the decision, but fighting the State Bar is like taking on the U.S. Government. They have unlimited firepower. But I don’t care. Being a lawyer was my persona, and she got that too. I never imagined that my life would end like this. I thought I’d have a family and a house and everything. But it’s not going to turn out that way

      I do have a few good friends though. My relationship with my family is gone though. I feel like the biggest dumbass of all time. EVERYONE was telling me to get out. I just never thought anyone could do this to me. I went from a nice condo overlooking the ocean to sleeping on the sidewalks for about a month until a friend rescued me. I had given up at that point and told my friend to go away. I was just going to drink myself to death. Actually at one point I caught some nasty disease called C-diff. You get it from being in unsanitary conditions. It makes you bleed out. So I was on the streets bleeding out pretty heavily and just crying as hard as a person can. I was going to try to make it to the ER.

      Then the thought came to me: Why not just let this happen? It doesn’t hurt at all and I wont have to go through this anymore. A little Chinese lady saw me and talked me into going to the ER. The only reason I did it was so I could see my cat Purrelli again. That’s the only reason at all. With the last bit of money I had, I flew Purrelli to Northern California to stay with a friend. I hadn’t seen him in six months an I wanted to see him again. I finally got to see him for one week before I had to put him down. But I’m so blessed because then he knew I never abandoned him. He must have thought that until that week.

      I’ll never be the same. I feel completely broken. I had such an awesome life until I met her. It’s like she erased all of that in just a year and a half. Thats all it took.

      • Lisa De Freitas on July 8, 2022 at 10:39 PM

        My heart is broken after reading this. If only I had known I would have absolutely stepped in to help Joshua. Life got busy and we stopped talking and I had only known him for a couple years. But that cat was everything to him and had I caught on to all this, I can tell you this would not be the outcome. Joshua, I’m so sorry you felt this way. I wish more than anything I had been in contact with you. I’m only finding out now because I looked to see where you’ve been.
        You are at peace now with God and I know we will see each other again. As hard as it is, we must forgive wicked people like your ex (wtf her name is). God does not want us to drag that heavy burden around. We must let go of all that dead wood. But get your popcorn ..
        God has assured us that he will NOT let false claims, lies and thievery go without consequences!
        She has no idea what’s coming!
        Leave Justice To God.
        Sorry sis, too late. Hope you like hot weather! Soar Joshua! XO

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