NCFM in the news – “Domestic violence not just a woman’s issue”

August 12, 2011

By Greg Scharf

I cringed when I saw that Harry Crouch and the National Committee for Men had complained to the Del Mar Racetrack over “Ladies Day.” Harry and I have exchanged emails over the years; he’s liked my columns on domestic violence and other related issues. He put me on the NCFM mailing list.

And while their positions can be a little extreme (as was the women’s movement in its early days), I understand his point of view that men often are unfairly treated in terms of issues such as custody rights and treatment in domestic violence cases. I praise his efforts to counter misinformation regarding those issues, as misinformation results in bad legislation, bad jury decisions, and can ruin lives, as well as perpetuate the problems its promoters claim to be solving.

Since the OJ trial, and movies such as “Enough” and “The Burning Bed,” there has been a gross

misconception of domestic violence. I conducted groups for those convicted of domestic violence for 10 years, and for several years was forced to use the “Duluth Method” of treatment, which was sexist and based in gender politics, where men were “perpetrators” and women were “victims” —- period.

It wasn’t helpful.
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4 Responses to NCFM in the news – “Domestic violence not just a woman’s issue”

  1. masculist on August 26, 2011 at 12:01 PM

    Sadly, false rape allegations are considered a myth by a mythbusters site. Seriously, see the link below:

  2. Fred H on August 18, 2011 at 7:29 AM

    Harry Crouch suggested I post my own letter to Greg Scharf on the NCFM website. Harry's a great guy, so here you go:

    Dear Greg,

    I appreciated your recent column on how domestic violence is not just a women's issue. Indeed, it's also a children's issue, since researchers find that children are just as harmed when they see mom assault dad as they are when dad is the abuser. (And, of course, researchers also find that it's just as likely that mom assaults dad, which means the system has been failing both men AND children.)

    On the other hand, I'd like you to rethink your position (albeit, a normal and typical one) vis-a-vis Ladies Nights.

    First, there is the fact that the very idea is simply outrageous (although, we have been taught NOT to be outraged by discrimination against men). For example, suppose an inner city bar wanted to widen their appeal to suburban whites. How would you react to "White Wednesdays"? Wouldn't you be simply outraged by the very concept.

    Second, of course, is the simple legality. "White Wednesdays," regardless of whatever economic argument the bar was making and regardless of how many black patrons were happy with an increase in Caucasian clientele, is simply illegal. But, the same Unruh Act which outlaws racial discrimination also lists "sex" as a category along with "race."

    Third, there is the issue of treating people as individuals and respecting them as individuals. How can you have absolutely no empathy for the resentment of poor man might feel as he is being forced to subsidize rich women?

    Finally, and perhaps most importantly, there is the issue of healthy male-female relationships. Unfortunately, this letter would be far too long if I really explained this issue, but the fact is that the continuing "male" role of initiating relationships is one of the biggest factors in perpetuating sexism and in creating unhealthy male-female relationships. I've written entire columns and given workshops on this, but I urge you to read "Why Men Are the Way They Are," by Dr. Warren Farrell, as the most comprehensive treatment of this issue.

    Best Wishes,

  3. Will_Wallace_LA on August 14, 2011 at 2:47 PM

    Attitudes like Greg's regarding his claim of "extreme positions" are fucking stupid, naive and ignorant.

    Laws follow politics, politics follow culture. If you do not address the culture, then you are defeating yourself before you start, which explains much as to why male progress has been so limited. What Harry does is outstanding and imperative in this female supremic shithole we have allowed to exist. All the bullshit is rooted in the propaganda, deceitful and malicious control of the media, culture, narrative, etc. The idiot politicians and the even fucking stupider 'justices' and (insert adjective) lawyers, follow this putrid pervasive cultural message, which is at it's core, "females are infinitely superior to males; males are barely entitled to the status of human and its associated inalienable rights; females will be awarded everything of value that society has to offer and males will be stripped and coerced out of such goods at every opportunity, and they will be redistributed to females; males will be coerced to labor and extorted of its fruits that they will be redistributed to females."

    Far from exaggeration, these are simply the facts of the matter. To change the deal, you have to educate society out of its mindfucked stupor that it has been so aggressively propagandized into. MEN ARE HUMAN. Females are explicitly NOT superior to males. Ridiculous that it needs be said, but so urgently does.

  4. Harry on August 13, 2011 at 7:45 AM

    You may have noticed that more and more journalists are more freely discussing things as in the above article. As early as three years ago MRA's were lucky to see mainstream media publish a supportive article once every couple of months. Now, with the growth of the Internet, not only are there more and more web based sites debunking the feminist lies that may still destroy much of humanity. While it's encouraging to see confirmation of our views most important is stimulating a public scrutiny that can lead to necessary reforms.

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