NCFM Board Member Fred Sottile panelist at third annual BOND Men’s Conference

July 6, 2012
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NCFM Board Member Fred Sottile on the right

BOND Men’s Conference

The Brotherhood Organization of A New Destiny (BOND) had a successful 3rd Annual Fatherhood and Men’s Conference last Saturday (6/16) in Los Angeles. The auditorium was standing room only as men of all ages and races gathered at the BOND headquarters during Father’s Day weekend.

The conference began with a powerful expert panel discussion featuring (L-R) Reynard Taylor, small business owner and father; Fred Sottile, National Board Member of the National Coalition for Men (NCFM) and Secretary of NCFM Los Angeles; and Larry Lewis, Former Professional Basketball Player and Head Player Development Coach/Los Angeles Defenders/Los Angeles Lakers Affiliate Team. BOND founder and president, Rev. Jesse Lee Peterson, moderated the event.

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The panelists didn’t waste any time tackling some of the most serious challenges facing men today. They discussed topics such as what it means to be man; how to lead your family in the right way; and dealing with the challenges of marriage. In addition to dealing with ways to improve men’s leadership skills in the home, the panel also addressed ways to navigate the family court system so that men who find themselves in the unfortunate situation of divorce can still be a part of their children’s lives.

The panel discussion was followed by the popular workshop where Rev. Peterson introduces a theme and a few topics and peppers the audience with questions to stimulate discussion. The conversation brought about very real and honest conversations about anger, forgiveness and how men can improve and reconcile their relationships with their children, wives and parents.

Some of the men in the audience opened up about harboring anger and resentment toward their parents. One of the men said that he had unresolved anger with his father, which was coloring the way he dealt with his wife and kids. Rev. Peterson advised the man to go and talk with his father and let him know that he resented the way his dad dealt with him, and forgive his father. The man said his dad was up in age and that it probably wouldn’t make a difference, but he soon realized that it wasn’t doing him any good to hold on to the anger and that it might help his dad as well. He said he planned to talk with his father.

There were also several instances where the men’s hearts were opened to the truth about how their early relationship with their parents—especially their mothers—has influenced the type of women they married and how they relate to their wives. This was a revelation to some of the men who had not considered that they had buried resentment/anger towards their mothers. As the discussion went along it was apparent that the men were freed up as they began to understand the root cause of some of their problems and those of their families.

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3 Responses to NCFM Board Member Fred Sottile panelist at third annual BOND Men’s Conference

  1. kenneth Hollander on June 30, 2013 at 8:34 AM

    Dear Mr. Fred Scottile and to all those who love all children,

    Re: David J. Glass PHd

    Shortly after this letter dated 2-12-2012 was received by the loving, caring and moral community of Malibu, CA, David J Glass PHD closed down his business and ran to FMBK. He has been shunned by his peers and this creature would giggle and laugh at me while waiting to see the judge after this David J Glass PHD psychology would bring on-going false allegations of child abuse against my GOD given son. 12 days after this letter was sent out, David J Glass PHD solicited the suborning of perjury and falsification of evidence. The CA State Bar has just received a second (2nd) complaint regarding this. If you noticed that this letter is still being sent out almost 16 months after it’s because it’s all true and undisputed.

    Respectfully,

    Kenneth Hollander

    2-12-12 Mr. Graham J Miller

    REGARDING CHILD ABUSE

    To The Principals of Malibu Elementary Schools and To Whom it may concern within the LAUSD and SMMUSD administrations, Directors or other persons.
    Dear Sir Madam or MS,

    I am writing to you firstly as a parent. I have a child in a Malibu public school. I am also writing as a Citizen, and therefore concerned in a more global manner with issues that I personally find disturbing and relevant. I believe a possible failure to perform to ethical codes of several professions, let alone what any normal person may find to be reasonable is about to, and could in the future lead to embarrassment, public consternation and at best a complete lack of faith ,trust and confidence in the above agencies.

    I have recently been informed by my daughter Lily-Jane Faith Miller that her mother has taken her out of Callahan elementary (Northridge); and she is now at some school in Malibu district. (Grade 2)

    My reasons for my concern follow.

    Within the Malibu school district there is a teacher, (C Cullen) who has accused her ex-husband of two counts of sexual abuse of their son, and 5 other counts of abuse of their son (11). This alleged abuse according to Ms. Cullen and her Attorney took place over the past 5 years.

    I would like a notation in my daughter’s file that she is never to be placed in class with the above person as her “(my daughters)” teacher. I apologize in in that I amenable to provide more details on my daughter’s whereabouts (school) but her Mom has not provided that info. I’m sure Dr Jacob the principal at Callahan would be able to assist.

    In MS Cullen’s divorce and custody case she utilized the services of a Mr. D Glass Esq.(Attorney) Mr Glass is also a PhD in Psychology .Mr. Glass was also utilized by the mother of my daughter, Lily -Jane in my own divorce and custody matter. Mr. Glass a Psychologist/ Attorney and mandated reporter saw fit to bring allegations of sexual abuse of a child and 4 allegations of other forms of abuse of MS Cullen’s son Sammy before family court. These all were investigated by the Police DCFS, and the District Attorney. They were found to be without either Medical or Credentialed 3rd party verification and closed therefore as unsubstantiated. These allegations were brought by MS Cullen via the services of Mr. Glass and occurred regularly before the summer school break on a yearly basis. MS Cullen had also recently remarried a Mr Brian Winsick another Teacher and coach in the Conejo Valley. Their marriage took place just prior to the allegations beginning.

    I will now outline my concerns and reasons for the request of the notation in my daughters file.

    It is my belief that the relationship between this teacher Ms. Cullen and her attorney and my own ex-wife and the same attorney is cause for reasonable concern. That to avoid any unfortunate incident where god forbid I was to be accused by my daughter’s mother of something similar as MS Cullen accused her ex-husband of it is imperative no establish able link is in place as could lead to suspicion of collusion. The worst case scenario that Ms. Cullen at some time becomes my daughters teacher and subsequently claims are made that perhaps my daughter had inferred to MS Cullen that I had abused her ( Lily-Jane) and MS Cullen then could relate this to my daughters mother through their mutual attorney, or contact at school is beyond horrific. I feel the separation of my daughter and this teacher protects LAUSD/SMMUSD and my daughter and me.

    In a more global sense I am concerned that a teacher married to another teacher and coach and an attorney who is also licensed as a psychologist made no attempt to make aware the LAUSD or the SMUSD of their concerns. (Two allegations of Sexual abuse and five other allegations of abuse.) Surely some ethical codes of their respective professions would demand other relevant or parties who could be impacted be advised.

    When a teacher finds the resources to pay $500 an hour to a Beverly Hills Attorney for 5 years surely there is a need for verification that such allegations will bring in terms of the expenses the County and State will bear during the protracted conflict. Especially if the accused has been made indigent by the continued claims and has suffered stress or work issues stemming from such accusations and is no longer paying taxes.

    As a parent I certainly would be outraged if I knew my child’s teacher was aware of a legitimate abuse situation and if, as in this case it included Sexual Abuse allegations and that teacher did nothing to bring attention to it as could protect other children I would expect answers. Specifically why and how a person(s) (2 Teachers, (Coach), An Attorney/Psychologist) would go ahead and consciously disregard accusations of such a serious nature, and then they having brought these allegations before family court and the district attorney go ahead and let other parents arrange activities with the person they were accusing of abuse in a manner as would expose other children to the accused.

    What is more disturbing and I expect the press will find disturbing is that repeated allegations of this nature are often utilized in family conflicts and that this is acceptable is in fact a failure of morality within our society. I believe this failure may have had a profound societal impact.

    That the failure of an application of evidentiary standards as are normally applied in criminal matters may have allowed credentialed persons possibly with questionable motive to use family court in a manipulative and deceitful way to achieve their own ends appears to me to be worthy of consideration.

    This epidemic of claims of abuse of children caught in such situations, (family breakups) versus children, who suffer actual abuse , desensitizes the general public and governmental agencies and allows real and dangerous criminals to hide and operate with virtual impunity in our society. It is beyond Peter and the Wolf it is an ongoing crime against humanity. To falsely perpetrate something that I believe leads to what we are now facing in the LAUSD and SMMUSD and may have exacerbated, perpetuated and indeed by lack of action condoned events and actions that possibly has led to emotional; mental and even physical harm to any child is heinous.

    I believe because of the actions as I have described many prior red flags have been ignored in many abuse situations and much suffering and harm and expense could have been avoided if a less commonplace attitude of children was the norm.

    Indeed in the immediate situation with (C Cullen, B Winsick )either the allegations were scurrilous and a product of vitriol, and an attorney(PhD Psych) with who knows what motivation (7 Claims) and that these claims were worthy of public expense .Or these persons were aware the claims they were bringing were false and therefore not worthy of reporting to LAUISD/SMUSD or other parents.? The alternative is an admission of negligent lack of reasonable due diligence and surely a great lack of concern for the school both pupils and other teachers and parents has been flagrantly displayed in total disregard for the safety and welfare of minors. Whether this is or should be a concern for the bond holders of these persons I do not know. Mr. Glass, Glass family Law and former associate of (Kolodny & Anteau) One of the most respected family law firms in the United States (Mel Gibson Getty, etc.) has been investigated by the CA Bar already in this matter and while the complaint was not upheld a letter suggesting the possibility of civil redress was issued by them.

    The APA also found he did no wrong apparently within their own ethics code.

    The fact remains an Attorney/Psychologist and a Teacher and a Teacher/Coach surely have some duty to the community. The positions of trust and respect they are afforded should allow the general public a reasonableness within their expectation of propriety and protection of the innocent by such credentialed persons.

    Perhaps the LAUSD/SMUSD could incorporate or suggest to the CA Bar a cooperative relationship of a professional nature that would allow this protection to be afforded our children as well as draft a code for the LAUSD/SMUSD’s own employees in such situations.

    Certainly recent events could lead one to surmise that a better clarified way of maintaining the safety and welfare of our children, from both bonifide and false claims of abuse would be helpful. The harm that both real and imagined events can bring to families, as well as collateral persons and an institution such as children’s learning environment should be minimalized at all times.

    Sincerely Yours,

    Graham J Miller.

    885 Avenue of the Americas

    Penthouse 1A

    New York. NY. 10001.

  2. Ray on July 10, 2012 at 4:25 AM

    Great work Fred. After hearing so much feminist meddling into the affairs of families, contributing to disharmony and destruction, it’s good to hear reasonable voices offering sane perspectives.

  3. Ivan on July 8, 2012 at 3:49 PM

    You guys are amazing people !!! Good job .
    I live in Toronto ,Ontario . I can even use my real name here ,when Im comenting . Toronto is the Malehating capital of North America. Nothink is fair here in Ontario . If you are a Female you are geting the job .If you are a Female you are always right . All my boses are Women Feminists so ….Im so glad that brave men like you guys exist !!!
    Thank you and keep up the good work .

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