Click here to watch a FOX News interview with Dr. Ablow regarding Adam Sandler’s new movie, “That’s My Boy”.
Ablow says boycott the movie. NCFM agrees. Even Adam Sandler should know better.
In this movie, Donny, a 13-year-old boy, is seduced by his curvaceous teacher and she becomes pregnant, which the movie portrays as uproarious comedy, a laugh a minute.
Ablow asks the interviewer if she can imagine a comedy in which a male teacher impregnates a thirteen year-old-girl student. She hesitates, and then says “Nope,” she can’t imagine that.
In the movie trailer there is a courtroom scene in which it appears the very pregnant teacher has been charged with some related crime. The female judge orders, “Alright everybody, the fact that this has resulted in a pregnancy, leaves me no choice but to levy the maximum penalty.”
As the all too pregnant teacher is dragged from the courtroom she yells, “Take care of our baby Donny.” Donny and two underage friends are laughing and exchange high-fives. There’s a cameraman situated next to Donny filming the proceeding. Someone reaches out from behind him with a clenched fist and hammers underage rape victim Donny a good one in the face with the emphatic kicker, “Dumbass!” Worse, throughout the movie, Donny, as a man, is stereotypically portrayed as Dumbass womanizing, beer guzzling, cigar smoking, foulmouthed, irresponsible, financially troubled oaf headed for prison.
Just from watching the movie trailers, I agree with Dr. Ablow to boycott this movie. Sandler’s movies are usually written from some weird subconscious perspective that we supposedly all share, which is often funny because as we mature such behavior usually becomes unacceptable. His movies often end with am endearing “moral to the story”.
Not this time. While children may fantasize about having sex with one or more of his or her teachers, the reality is quite different, illegal, and generally destructive and harmful to all involved.
Please don’t support this movie by buying a ticket to see it or buying the video. Send a message to the movie’s website that you will be boycotting the movie and asking friends and associates to do the same.
Take a few minutes, go to the sites below, leave comments, and help the world, Sony Pictures, and Mr. Sandler understand that the seduction of young children by their teachers should not be glorified, especially as comedy.
It’s called “child abuse,” “sexual assault,” or “rape” — all serious crimes with long lasting consequences… and, in no way, a laughing matter.
Click on this link to read Dr. Ablow’s article. There are three different movie trailers the links of which you can find near the bottom of the page here, http://www.comingsoon.net/films.php?id=73270
Harry Crouch
President NCFM
Er, and this is equally true – “I can’t imagine the film being made if the roles were reversed and it was a male teacher and underage female,” says movie producer and author Mark Joseph, who added that while its a comedian’s job to find humor in any situation, his concern is whether the film will glorify such an incident.
Read more: http://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/2012/04/30/comedy-about-middle-school-statutory-rape-does-adam-sandlers-thats-my-boy-go/#ixzz2ADMc288W
I’ve never been sure about Adam Sandler. He seems to strive to make terrible films. I couldn’t even finish ‘Jack and Jill’.
I watched ‘That’s my Boy’, often in silence. But, there are some hilarious moments in it, and I enjoyed it, overall.
I think that he might be a genius. I’m really not sure. I’m sure that he is lazy, when it comes to stringing his comedy together. But, not as lazy as Eddie Murphy.
I’d like to see other, better actors, lifting his work beyond the trashy goals, that seem to be his aim. Minor characters tend to fall in line with his antics, too readily.
But boycott this movie? Get real!
get a life he wants laughs not boycotts and kids jerk off to it you get he allowed her to have sex with him just get a life a leave him alone
I agree that this movie is a horrendous POS in trying to make light of an adult taking advantage of a child, but I’m reading a lot of feminist-bashing comments that seem to blame them for this terrible double standard that teaches sex with little girls is a crime but sex with little boys isn’t quite so bad. There are a few problems with this; 1) female predators do go to jail (Mary Kay Laterneau (sp) spent time in jail, as have other teachers that had sex with students, 2) yes, SOME women get off with light sentences but many men also get away with crimes, so why act like ALL female predators go scot-free while ALL male rapists and pedophiles have the book thrown at them, 3) who is responsible for this double standard, women? Or is it not men that give each other the “wink wink nudge nudge” congratulations when one “bags” a MILF? Even in the movie, who was acting out the double standard? The boy’s friends were high-fiving each other, not the women in the courtroom.
If you’re so concerned about this double standard that having sex with a little girl is bad but little boys having sex isn’t such a crime, and may even be something to celebrate, start with the people that actually think that. It’s not feminists; I don’t see any of them high-fiving each other when they learn of a teacher taking advantage of a student in such a horrific way. Work on this male thinking that all sex is good and a sign of conquest and something to be celebrated, no matter with whom or when.
As a victim of a female pedophile when I was 15 who used me to get pregnant I find the whole premise of this movie disgusting, you morons saying at 13 a boy is a man are idiots, plain and simple. If girls mature faster than boys then you're saying a 10 year old girl is old enough to have sex with a man?
This idiot was a 15 year old man and should have known better. Not a 13 year old boy. Hope that he is still paying the woman financial aid.
…then again there’s that little nagging things called the law, not to mention morality…
This movie is as bad as the 2000 made for television movie, Mary Kay Letourneau: All American Girl (TV 2000), calling teacher Mary Kay Letourneau an "All American Girl" after she raped a 13 year old male student.
I am of 2 minds. firstly anyone who makes light of the sexual abuse of minors is themselves part of the problem. this stuff isn't funny, should never be part of the plot line of a comedy. The unfortunate fact about sexual abuse is that 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys experience some form of sexual violence before becoming adults. The laws that we have whilst they seem ridiculous are in fact a response to very real and unnerving statistics about the victims of such crimes. Did you know that many abuse survivors suffer from post traumatic stress disorder?
Secondly with the way that society arbitrarily dismisses boys who have been abused as lesser victims or not victims at all then it is refreshing to see that a movie is putting the focus where it should be on the perp going to gaol.
Kratch,
I was trusting that someone would note that early sexual and other forms of abuse, including abandonment, often lead to adult "dumbass" behaviors that all too frequently land one in prison or create dependencies on social service programs. Thanks. Still, even if Sandler is making some sort of social statement about how Americans think the sexual abuse of boys is funny, I think it's inappropriate exploit it as such. And, it may well be that this movie brings more attention to problems associated with teachers sexually abusing the young students. If so, that's good, but it's also a sad indictment of a culture that finds humor in the sexual assault of children, regardless of gende.
"even if Sandler is making some sort of social statement about how Americans think the sexual abuse of boys is funny,"
What if he's actually making a social statement on just how damaging it is, whether people normally find it (child abuse) funny or not, using a humourous medium? Perhaps not the best choice, but people generally don't care about drauma's featuring male suffering except for war films, so better comedy than nothing, if it's done well. And this wouldn't be the first time comedy has been used to broach a difficult topic (though I'm really drawing a blank on examples, I'm confident this is true. I'll come back if I can think of any examples, perhaps others can offer some as well)
" If so, that's good, but it's also a sad indictment of a culture that finds humor in the sexual assault of children, regardless of gender."
I don't disagree with this, but likewise, I don't blame Adam Sandler for it ether. If this movie is done well (and again, I don't hold high hopes for it, but will reserve judgement) and DOES bring attention to male sexual abuse and it's consequences, well, I don't think people should boycott it for that, I think it should be applauded. Getting people to care about male issues is hard, and humour is one way to succeed at that. Perhaps a difficult way for some people to swallow, but if we reject everything that is uncomfortable, we're no better than the feminists and their enjoyment sucking political correctness.
All I'm really saying is, people shouldn't rush to judgement just because the subject matter actually means something to them, because this "could" actually be a good thing (again, if done well).
I am willing to give Sandler the benefit of a doubt, and will take a "wait and see" stance on the remote chance that he "is making a social statement," but he never struck me as any kind of "intellectual" beyond the most primitive brand of politically-correct "progressivizm" coming out of Hollywood, like organic fertilizer out of a buffalo.
I'm pretty leery about this one, but I think you might be a little premature in your boycott. There are a few points I feel need noting in this movies defence. 1: The woman is sentenced, and it's noted the pregnancy is seen as a bad consequence. This is a good thing, because it is often said boys don't suffer from child sexual abuse like girls do, but the truth is, boys do suffer, and this is an example of how. 2: You note grown up Danny's behaviour: womanizing, beer guzzling, cigar smoking, foulmouthed, irresponsible, financially troubled, which are actually some of the noted consequences to child sexual abuse. My concern is that these attributes are going to be attributed to Adam's character, child fathers and men in general, not specifically child sexual abuse victims.
That said, I suspect, in the end, you will have been right, because I don't know if Adam Sandler has the ability to pull this off in a socially responsible way. But I'll reserve my judgement till later.
Brigadon, "a discussion of criminalization of sexuality in what are essentially adults" is a much broader one than what this movie seem to present. I just want to focuse on the movie, which seems to be a one-sided, gender-biased OK to the flood of recent cases, when female sexual predators, acting as "teachers" had a "little fun" with their male students, teaching them some extra-curricular moves. The male victims, not only were harmed psychologically (there is no way such a "relationship" can survive) but were left holding the bag for the child support they could not afford, for the next 21 years.
In the context of a broader discussion, the law and popular culture criminalize men, depicting them as predators before (and often despite) the actual evidence would be ever considered. The general "criminalization of sex" I would argue, goes to the very core of the American "democratic" system with 2 parties fighting for votes, and using emotionally-charged demagogy to attract voters. From the nuanced and sophisticated Old World's perspective of the learned Oxford scholars, it goes to the rotten core of the American "culture" (or the lack of thereof.) It is far beyond what I would endeavor to address. It's just too complicated for average Americans. After all, we label "rapists" for life when it is a consensual sex between a 17-year-old boy and a 15-year-old girl, who passed herself for a 20-year-old. And we execute "murderers" without any DNA testing (often despite it, while withholding exculpatory evidence forever or till after the execution.) This country is just too barbaric, politicized and corrupt to deal with the notions of true justice.
In other words, my last comment is along the lines of a prayer, "Dear God, give me Strength to change that, which I can, and give me Wisdom to discern that which I cannot change, from that which I can."
I understand where you are coming from, But it still smacks of trying to stop a flood by hiding in your house and sticking chewing gum in the cracks to keep out the water.
This simply displays, and makes fun of, statutory rape laws. Perhaps it might bring some awareness to a few people that the way they are constructed right now and their incredible sexist bias, (where a 14 year old boy can have sex with a 16 year old girl and go to jail for the rest of his life for it) Is actually comedic in it's stupidity.
I think, in this case, it's the criminally stupid statutory rape laws and bigoted, greedy child support laws that have become part of ourt culture.
I understand your position, but these laws are the result of the "cultural revolution" in the making since at least 1932 in this country, when the Frankfurt School settled in the Columbia University and became the darlings of the America's academia. The original ideas really belonged to György Lukács of the Hungarian Communist Revolution of 1918-19, who mandated teaching children in school how to prostitute themselves and make their parents break-up. Then — Antonio Gramsci's blueprint for the "cultural revolution" and the "deconstruction of the Western Democracies" methodically implemented in the USA, especially in its legal aspect. It took many generations of professors and millions of students.
It is much easier for us (and "wiser" in practical terms) to criticize a one-off movie than to go after the whole pop-culture, when all we have is "an army" of two-and-a-half men, if you know what I mean. I don't want to be a lone voice crying in the wilderness. In a way, that's what we are.
Hollywood's insistence on shaping the popular culture in its own dirty image would never cease to amaze me with how tasteless, primitive and voluminous is the odious "politically-correct" crap it manufactures.
Sandler's previous forays into the PC-manufacturing movies were tasteless and ridiculously shallow. The only reason I may decide to watch this latest Sandler's concoction (while holding my nose) would be to participate in or organize a protest against it. I really think it is about time we put together a few prominent psychologists and law professors to protest against such "cultural" onslaught.
She is a CHILD MOLESTER, a NONCE, plain and simple and should be punished as they would a man.
Male, woman or child… A sexual predtor, is a sexual predator… SHE IS NO DIFFERENT!!!
If it was a real scenario, would they chase the boy for maintenance, I wonder???
The premise is disgusting! Any woman who has sex with an underage boy is a pedophile and a disgusting piece of crap! She needs to be treated in the same manner as a man in the same situaiton. This is not funny- I used to like Adam Sandler but after this debacle I despise him and the rest of these Hollywood perverts who support this kind of abuse of boys and exploitation for a dang laugh!
Actually the word is 'ephebophilia', not pedophilia. Pedophilia I will agree is a horrific crime that should be punishable with immediate execution, but ephebophilia is so common that most people don't even know what the word means.
Right on Ben !! We have a looong fight ahead of us ! To change that sexist culture in America . Adam Sandler is stupid Goof . __Ey, Adam is not Funny anymore !! OK . Someone should kick his stupid ass. Whata duchbag !!____ Toronto,Canada
Birigadon. I could not disagree more and would as if you have been payed to make your posts. Being physiological able and physiologically able to deal with this are entirely different. Some 8 yr old girls can give birth, you suggesting they are ready for motherhood in the world we live in today?
If we lived per-neolithic revolution I might have more sympathy for your claims, but we don't. Boys having 'consensual' sex with much older women have had terrible problems.
Plainly and simply this film needs to be boycotted.
Yes, but my argument is that, at 13, The boy should already be in training to become a man. I was living on my own barely a year older than this kid. The problem with being psychologically capable of being a man at that age is purely causative… children are taught to not 'grow up' until way past the point where they are ready to leave the nest, often resulting in 'failure to launch' situations. High school, instead of being preparatory, is basically a babysitter for increasingly violent adults.
I would like to point out that 8 year olds going through puberty has been directly linked to agricultural growth hormones in food products. These little girls are HANDICAPPED, Not healthy.
At 13 years old, in history as far back as you care to trace, and even places in the world today, girls were(are) being prepared for motherhood and being treated….well, not as an adult, since I can only name a handful of women in the world that actually act like adults, but at least motherhood and something resembling maturity, and many of them are getting married at that age.
Statutory rape is NOT rape, rape is rape. This….garbage about rape, boy or girl, is as bad as the feminists redefining rape again and again. in the clip it was never implied that the teacher 'forced' herself on her student. Maybe it was socially inappropriate (thus the punch-out) but it was not a crime.
Never wrestle with a pig. You get sore, dirty, and the pig enjoys it. Stop trying to use feminist rules against itself… They literally cannot understand their own hipocrasy, or their self-contradiction. Trying to use their own rules against them is a waste of your time.
What age should be the age of consent is a very legitimate debate and I agree it should be lowered. What is disgusting to me is the double standard. We laugh at the boy but we protect the girl. We locked up the man for 10 years but the woman we give probation. That's disgusting. And I do agree that teachers having sex with their grade school students is totally unacceptable and not funny. Ten years it too much, but probation is too little. Thirteen is too young for sex with an adult especially your teacher. There is evidence of the damaging effects it can have. I actually don't care at much about 13 year olds having sex with each other but with their teacher, no way. And he's the one who will have to pay child support. The double standard is unbelievable.
Unless, of course, This entire article was intended to be a sly farce about feminist rape hysteria?
Apparently the author has bought into the whole "Kneejerk reaction" of imagining their little girl or little boy being sexual creature as 'oh my gosh! he's just a baby!" a thoroughly feminist-inspired viewpoint. 13 years old is learning to be an adult, and I'd rather see a young ADULT pasted across the chops and learn one of the lesser forms of what being a man is about.
The only "Crime' is poor taste.
While I understand where you are coming from, I am going to be the first to make the observation that…well… The problem is not 'rape of a boy'. The problem is actually the idiotic statutory rape laws that criminalize sexuality in what are, essentially adults.
true. AND…this is JUST a movie, dont take it so seriously. besides, what boy over the age of 12 or 13 doesnt already jerk off to the thought of their woman teachers, if the teacher was okay with it, they would totally comply…
Madeline you show your dirty cards; what else do you imagine boys jerk off too? Go troll somewhere else.