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False Accusations of Rape

January 11, 2009

false accusationsAlmost every month we read of another man freed from prison because the false accusations that caused their incarceration were later proven false or a woman recanted.

Even if there is no conviction, a false allegation of rape emotionally, socially, and economically destroys a person and their immediate and often extended families.

False accusations of rape is psychological rape.  Yet, the names of the accusers are protected while the names of the accused are not.

False accusations are hard to measure and there is not much available research. However, what little research there is, that is scientific research, shows the problem is much more common than we are told.  Moreover, it is politically incorrect to fund massive studies about false accusations of any sort.

Some studies show that 50% or more of allegations examined are false.

According to an expert quoted in the CBC News Story Barrhaven sexual assault never a happened…, “for a four-year period from 2003-2007, 31 per cent of sexual assault claims that Ottawa Police investigated were dismissed as unfounded — that is, they never happened — as opposed to unsubstantiated, where there isn’t enough evidence to follow the case.”

The claim that only 2% of rape accusations are false is totally unfounded and is purportedly based on FBI crime data (though we have yet to see this confirmed), and crime data is never a reliable source to project upon the population as a whole, as compared to empirical research. This myth, often falsely attributed to FBI data, is not credible and has been debunked.  Greer, the Truth behind Legal Dominance Feminism’s ‘Two Percent False Rape Claim’ Figure, 33 Loyola of Los Angeles Law Review 947.

Regardless of what the numbers are, there is no excuse for the lack of attention to the problem.  Falsely accused persons are victims too, and to ignore, deny or downplay the experiences of those victims is a worse kind of hypocritical form of victim blaming.

False accusers should be prosecuted (they rarely are) and face the same punishment their accused might have or did receive.  Names of the accused should be protected as much as the names of the accusers. Pictures of false accusers should be posted like pictures of other types of criminals to warn others of potential harm. Furthermore, perhaps there should be a false accuser registration system like there is for sexual assault, child abuse and domestic violence.  For more, see The Community of the Wrongly Accused.

According to the FBI: “The ‘unfounded’ rate, or percentage of complaints determined through investigation to be false, is higher for forcible rape than for any other Index crime. Eight percent of forcible rape complaints in 1996 were “unfounded,” while the average for all Index crimes was 2 percent. See page 24 at

John Davis , author of How to Avoid False Accusations of Rape: Self-defense in the Feminist State…, explained it this way in a relate post on our Facebook page:

Please allow me to clarify something about the common mistake that the FBI says the rate of false accusations of rape is only 8%.

If you read the actual report that you have linked, the report does not say that. What the report says is boilerplate language (in all FBI statistic reports on rape) that “Law enforcement determines that 8% of accusations of rape are false.”

That doesn’t mean the other 92% of rape accusations are true.

I was a prosecutor 3 times in a 35 year career as a trial lawyer. What the 8% figure in the FBI report means is that the police determine that 8% of accusations of rape are so false that they do not refer those cases to the prosecutors.

The prosecutors determine that AT LEAST another 60% of the cases are false and they are dismissed at the request of the prosecutors because they are false. In many of those 60% of false accusations, the prosecutors never even file charges.

We know that the rate of false accusations of rape, from several solid scientific studies, is AT LEAST 65% and may be much higher.

The reason we don’t know the exact rate of false accusations of rape above 65% is that many men, fearing a 50 year sentence, will plead guilty, even though they are innocent, in exchange for a sentencing cap. Many convicted men are, in fact, innocent but we don’t know how many.

That figure is conservative.  It does not include false claims never proven to be false or those buried as “unsubstantiated.” It also does not include false rape claims made to other sources besides police, such as universities. Private research have found much higher numbers.

In a nine-year study of 109 rapes reported to the police in a Midwestern city, Purdue sociologist Eugene J. Kanin reported that in 41% of the cases the complainants eventually admitted that no rape had occurred.  In a follow-up study of rape claims filed over a three-year period at two large Midwestern universities, Kanin found that of 64 rape cases, 50% turned out to be false.  Among the false charges, 53% of the women admitted they filed the false claim as an alibi.  Kanin, EJ, “An alarming national trend: False rape allegations,” Archives of Sexual Behavior, Vol. 23, No. 1, 1994. Kanin was once well known and lauded by the feminist movement for his groundbreaking research on male sexual aggression. His studies on false rape received very little attention.

In a study by the U.S. Air Force, about one-fourth of rape accusers recanted just before taking a lie detector test or after failing one.  Further research found 60% of the accusations were false.  The most common reasons given were spite or revenge, feelings of guilt or shame, or to cover up an affair.  McDowell, Charles P., Ph.D. “False Allegations.” Forensic Science Digest, (publication of the U.S. Air Force Office of Special Investigations), Vol. 11, No. 4 (December 1985), p. 64.

Both the Kanin and the Air Force study are small samples, which does not make them wrong.  Three different universities replicated the Kanin study.  Consistent results from small samples indicate the need for more research, not that the findings are wrong.  The Kanin study, FBI report and other research tend to indicate the rate of approximately 25%.

However, it may be much higher. According University of Ottawa Criminal Lawyer Blane Crew, “… for a four-year period from 2003-2007, 31 per cent of sexual assault claims that Ottawa Police investigated were dismissed as unfounded — that is, they never happened — as opposed to unsubstantiated, where there isn’t enough evidence to follow the case.” Obviously, and to reiterate, an unknown number of false accusations are buried somewhere in the unsubstantiated findings.

Moreover, a 1996 Department of Justice report shows that, “…in about 25% of the sexual assault cases referred to the FBI, the primary suspect has been excluded by forensic DNA testing. Generally, definitions and acts of rape involve a forcible and non-consensual act. Regardless, a DNA match alone does not prove rape occurred. Hence, the 25% figure substantially underestimates the true extent of false allegations. Connors E, Lundregan T, Miller N, McEwen T. Convicted by juries, exonerated by science: Case studies in the use of DNA evidence to prove innocence after trial, June 1996.

The article Delhi Commission for Women concerned with rise of false rape charges reports, The Commission for Women in India, hardly a men’s rights group, found 50% of rape claims are false and often made out of vengeance.  Additionally, as reported in the Times of India, a five-year study in India found 18% of rape accusations are false and are often “coached.”

Falsely accused men are disproportionately African-American men.  Innocence Project: Facts on post-conviction DNA exonerations.

According to a 1996 Department of Justice report, “in about 25% of the sexual assault cases referred to the FBI, the primary suspect has been excluded by forensic DNA testing. Note, rape involves a forcible and non-consensual act, and a DNA match alone does not prove that rape occurred. Therefore, the 25% figure substantially underestimates the true extent of false allegations.   Connors E, Lundregan T, Miller N, McEwen T. Convicted by juries, exonerated by science: Case studies in the use of DNA evidence to establish innocence after trial. June 1996

Megan McArdle writing for Bloomberg in the 2014 article How Many Rape Reports Are False? The dark numbers behind one of the darkest crimes asked and answered, How many women falsely accuse men of rape? A lot of statistics are floating around the Internet: Two percent, say many feminists, the same as other crimes. Twenty-five percent, say other groups who quarrel with the feminists on many issues, or maybe 40 percent. Here’s the real answer: We don’t know. Anyone who insists that we do know should be corrected or ignored.”

Feminist groups not only downplay the statistical reality of false accusations, but also have been eroding due process rights of the accused, especially on college campuses and in the military. Such as by lowering the standard of proof [sic] to a coin toss preponderance of evidence, removing the right to challenge the accuser, and placing the decision in the hands of ideologically driven college employees, professors and administrators who essentially conduct very biased kangaroo courts.

Consequently, many college men are now suing their colleges for expelling them without a proper hearing. UPDATED: List of Lawsuits against Colleges and Universities Alleging Due Process Violations in Adjudicating Sexual Assault Also see: NCFM Carolinas for comprehensive information.

Brian Banks spent years in jail before his accuser recanted her false charges. His professional football career was stolen from him. He reportedly said, “’I wasn’t physically raped, but I was raped in a sense of my freedom…I was kidnapped, taken against my will, placed in a box for five years and two months. I was denied all human rights. When I screamed and pleaded and begged, it fell on deaf ears. It’s a different form of being assaulted and taken advantage of. I know what she is going through.” His accuser lived lavishly on a $750,000 settlement, was eventually ordered to repay that amount and over a million dollars more. She disappeared. Brian now works for the NFL but will never regain the five-years of his life spent in prison.

Scandals that are more recent include the Duke Lacrosse case in which Chrystal Magnum falsely accused members of the team of sexual assault. Her false accusations threw the university into turmoil, eventually led to the disbarment of a district attorney, and disgraced university professors, the Committee of Eighty-eight, who rallied to her defense. She eventually ended up murdering a boyfriend. Perhaps had she been held accountable for the Duke debacle the boyfriend would probably still be breathing? Read Until Proven Innocent by Stuart Taylor Jr. and KC Johnson.

Rape hysteria was taking root especially on college campuses. Rolling Stone took a hit after being embroiled in a gang rape scandal that wrongly defamed an entire fraternity.

The non-existent rape epidemic on college campuses and rape hysteria propelled the United States Department of Education to threaten post-secondary schools with the infamous Dear Colleague Letter, which decimated the due process rights of the accused. So hideous were the directives 21 law professors released an open letter accusing the U.S. Department of Education of unlawfully expanding how colleges must process sexual assault accusations.

NCFM, especially the NCFMCarolinas Chapter, has since the issuance of the Dear Colleague Letter worked diligently on behalf of hundreds of falsely accused college students who have had their families, education, chosen careers and lives horrifically impacted because of the hideous Machiavellian outcomes of the letter. Click here to read our press release of July 14, 2017.

No matter what the numbers are, there is no excuse for the lack of attention to the problem.  Falsely accused persons are victims not perpetrators. To deny or downplay the experiences of those victims is horrifically hypocritical victim blaming.

Much more attention and research is needed in this area.   False accusers should be prosecuted (they rarely are) and face same punishment their accused could receive.  In addition, the names of the accused should be protected as much as the names of the accusers.

Here are a few more stories about false accusations:

Innocent man jailed for 24 years after being framed | Daily Mail Online Feb 18, 2017 – Innocent man jailed for 24 years after being framed over British …. Soon, two or threeguys a month I knew were dying, from conditions like …

Rape accusation ‘traumatizing,’ former suspect says – CNN.comSep 18, 2009 – Four young men falsely accused of raping an 18-year-old student at Hofstra … Friday after an ordeal that two of them described as traumatic.

Sexual Assault: The Accused Speak Out – The Daily Beast Jan 28, 2016 – Young men accused—they claim unfairly—of college sexual assaults describe traumaticinvestigations, and the aftermath of … a false accusation, Matthew lived in fear of further retaliatorycharges. … In January 2014, President Obama launched a special task force to investigate rape and sexual assault on …

Man released on rape charge after 22 years in prison.

New York woman faces 2 years in jail for fake rape claims | Daily Mail … Jun 16, 2017 – Former college co-ed, 19, who falsely accused two football players of rape at a party to … Man, 28, is arrested for raping 13-year-old girl after.

Women falsely claims rape to justify lover’s attack on ex-boyfriend.

Man wrongly accused of rape finally released from prison, Jul 21, 2015 – Man wrongly accused of rape finally released from prison … Weiner was a 52-yearold manager at the local Food Lion, perhaps not … Mills did call the police, who tried to contact Steiniger, But she had turned off her phone after …

Innocent man falsely accused of rape to win back lover.

U.K. judge jails “skillful actress” who falsely accused man of rape.,,1939368,00.html?gusrc=rss&feed=11

national coalition for men

False accusations of sexual assault are rape of a different color.

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259 Responses to False Accusations of Rape

  1. Harold Krieg on January 9, 2023 at 11:30 AM

    Woman commits domestic battery on a man. Woman gets sentenced to community service. Innocent man gets falsely accused of an alleged sex crime. Innocent man is sentenced to many, many years in prison.

  2. Lex on September 4, 2022 at 11:10 AM

    Now if only people could fight to end routine infant male circumcision, so men could have bodily autonomy…

    • NCFM on September 5, 2022 at 4:35 PM

      Lex…actually people are fighting for that. Check out Attorneys for the Right of the Child.

  3. christie on May 8, 2022 at 1:36 PM

    My son was falsely accused just got out of trial 2 days ago the judge denied the jurors the evidence also refused to dismiss a tainted juror he was protecting the prosecutor cause he was loosing.

  4. Sandy on December 17, 2021 at 5:11 AM

    My husband hugged a 15 year old girl at the 2018 chili cook-off in our town. Two weeks ago, we finally had his jury trial for Sexual Battery and Indecent Liberties with a Child. He was found Not Guilty, but this girl’s mother has a shop right next door to the local newspaper, and the two of them are still telling everybody he’s guilty.

    • NCFM on December 17, 2021 at 10:38 AM

      Sandy, you should consult with an attorney ASAP. A good one.

    • christie on May 8, 2022 at 1:37 PM

      See if you can sue for defamation

  5. Bradley Harwood on March 16, 2021 at 8:56 AM

    It is impossible for me to prove myself innocent in the pagan courts so I prove myself innocent online. The Kangaroo Court says “guilty until proven innocent.” Doctors and psychiatrists and social workers did not fear for the safety of this child now adult. You must have been kissing “Bubbles.” You must have been kissing a chimpanzee and going apeshit. Stop monkeying around and committing monkey business like a chimpanzee in a suit.

  6. FrankCup on March 13, 2020 at 4:18 AM

    The number of false rape allegations in the studied period was 45; this was 41% of the 109 total complaints filed in this period.

  7. Lori D on February 9, 2020 at 5:18 AM

    I’m coming in so very late to this battle. Nonetheless, I am here. We are legally fighting back against a false accuser while my son sits in a cell. This women, I’ll call her AP, has 2 daughters. The father of the eldest lives out of state. AP left him. She took their child and moved to our state in hopes of finding a modeling career. (Documented on the forever net). Parental alienation to the T! I’ve spoken with him and he won’t do anything. He has no money and what little relationship he has with his daughter is not worth losing. He’s afraid he’ll lose his daughter forever so while he tries to save what little bond he has with his sweet daughter, AP is completely free to control him. The second daughter was born in our state and I’ve spoken with the father. He has spent thousands to retain the right to be a father. AP has recently accused him of child abuse. He’s fighting back and quickly running out of money.

    My son? He was 23 at the time. 5 years ago he attended a summer cookout at a friend’s condo. AP was 32. She was the neighbor who came to the party. Several times throughout the night she walked back to her condo, always with a male, to “check” on her daughters.

    Several witnesses stated that they saw her intimately talking with my son. He accepted her invitation to stay the night with her. She left the party and returned some time very late in the night. Leading him back to her condo, she inspected to make sure the kids were asleep in their own beds and proceeded to lead him into her bathroom. She initiated consensual sex by removing his clothes and taking him into the shower for sex. They then went to bed together.

    Her daughter had to wake her up the next morning because she slept past her alarm and had to get to work. She wakes up and her little daughter was there in bed with them. She left the condo to run to her neighbor’s condo (woman who has the cookout party) she reruns and take an hour showering and getting ready for work. Puts on fresh underwear…keep note of this because it comes up later in this event. And proceeded to load her girls into her car. Gave my son a ride home and went to work.

    Her youngest daughter asks AP why she was bumping butts with another boy. She then became concerned. Remember, she has two daughters. Both dads were constantly having to fight to be able to be a dad. Custody issues.

    Later that evening, she goes in for a rape kit. The dad of the youngest was trying to get the story when she came back to his house to pick up the daughter. It was his visitation night and was concerned that she was coming back so late to pick up the daughter. She cried to him that she had been raped and told just a bit of the story to him. The “bumping butt” sex scene that the daughter saw was actually from earlier in the night when she had sex with another man in her bed while her daughter was also in the bed. Remember, my son had sex with AP in the shower—not in the bed.

    Police arrive at her condo to complete the investigation. During this, the dad of the little girl called the police. The investigator called him back while he was at AP’s condo. The police got more of the story from him. The dad was concerned that his little girl was molested too. After the call, the police instructed AP to take the little girl in for testing too.

    Ok! Let’s back up a bit. What rapist stays the night with a woman? What “victim” wakes up with a man, leaves her 2 daughter alone while she leaves the condo and then takes an hour to shower? What “victim” gives the rapist a ride home? What “victim”, who wakes up with a man in her bed AND her daughter goes in for a rape kit but does not take the little daughter in for testing too?

    The rape results? TWO DNA!! Clean underwear had 2 DNA. The second man? Sex with him in the bed must have occurred earlier in the night. My son testified in detail. AP? She testified that she went to bed alone and does not remember anything. The jury bought it. But rape shield laws, incorrectly applied in this case, prevented us from brining in all the evidence. She lost custody of her kids after that night because she neglected to properly supervise her daughters. That evidence was also denied. The eldest daughter could not identify the defendant during trial. She saw my son once and the trial was 4 years after the fact. She testified that she was never shown pictures of my son during the 4 years. When she couldn’t identify my son, the prosecutor pointed over to the table where my son was sitting his attorneys—a male attorney and a female attorney. Prosecutor then asked “How about here?” Do you see the defendant here. She then identified my son. Really? Our objection was over ruled.

    Suppressed evidence—bed sheets were also not brought in. Investigation for the second man has ceased. A person of interest refused to cooperate so the police stopped investigating. . Numerous objections overruled. Numerous objections from the prosecutor were granted. Jury deceived.

    I’m in this fight for the long haul. I know first hand what this has done to my son. His family—a wonderful women with three kids of her own are displaced now because they couldn’t afford to stay on their rental home. 3 kids—my grandchildren who love my son deeply. All are without my son. A woman who loves my son. A family still very much in love, torn apart.

    The prosecutor introduced the MeToo during jury selection, in opening and in his closing. I will fight against this “women’s” movement to my very last breath. MeToo has failed the real rape victims by not standing up against false accusers. God will help us shine the light on his story. God will shine the light on all men falsely accused of rape. Men—anyone falsely accused of rape and child abuse—will have justice. With God’s Lighthouse, I will not stop until this abusive and severe miscarriage of justice ends!!!!

    Stand strong, men! Women, we must use our voices to send a strong message!! Our men and boys are being abused and wrongly accused! For far too long!!!

  8. Melinda on July 23, 2019 at 1:09 PM

    Please allow me to start from the beginning… In the beginning of 2019 my son, a 19 year old that had just graduated High School from Howe Texas received a phone call from his father. He was making allegations against him that his 8 year old step sister was claiming of sexual abuse. As he (the father) proceeded to hurl insults and accusations, my son gave the phone to his paternal grandmother, which he lived with. The father continued to state on multiple occasions that him and his girlfriend/fiancĂ©e had questioned the little girl for hours before contacting anyone. The family requested dates of these accusations, originally was informed when she was 4 or 5, the next time we asked it was just back a few months prior in May and now instead of 1 time it was 2. There are so many discrepancies with all of this is; this was my son’s senior year, he lived with his grandmother, spending most of his time with end of the year events and his friends with no vehicle of his own; there are so many individuals that are willing to speak on his behalf believing these are false allegations being pushed by the mother Angel Strait Pettit. If I may have the opportunity to continue; the mother of the little girl Angel Strait Pettit has had several issues with my son. She has had previous CPS cases of her own, has had an issue of drug abuse with prescription medication (the Dr. that she was receiving medication from is now currently incarcerated out of Sherman TX). There have been several incidents between her and several family members, including the paternal grandmother where she had to be asked to leave the home due to her not being stable (she was abusing the medication).The last incident between her and my son would be Thanksgiving time a few years back when he informed his father she was messaging another male. She was planning on leaving. When confronted she tried to commit suicide in front of the children (her daughter and son) by overdosing on pills. At which point my son had decided he would not ever be staying there again… CPS was contacted and the investigation began for THEM. On February 19th @ 10:20 A.M. my son was at a friends residence where he was staying often. He contacted me via phone and stated the investigators had just left his grandmothers house and were headed to speak with him. He was advised to contact his attorney. The investigators knocked on the door @ 10:37 A.M., my son was advised to hand them his attorney’s business card and ask them to set up a meeting via Mr. Riddles. The investigator Kenna Norris took the card and responded “Thanks I’ll go with her side of the story then”. And so it begins 2/27 at 12:01 P.M. he was arrested, he has no record, 1 speeding ticket, fresh out of high school looking to go to trade school or the service, and now was being charged with 2 counts of aggravated sexual assault of a child, with a bond set at $100k a piece. All of this with not a single questioned asked. On April 4th we were finally able to receive a bond reduction hearing. The bond was cut in half. Immediately the family (paternal grandmother, paternal aunt, paternal grandfather, paternal cousins and aunts as well as all of the maternal side of the family not to mention the many friends) all standing beside him gathered the funds for the bondsman. He was released on April 5th. We collectively composed a time line of my son’s ware bouts for all of April and May. As of last weekend my son submitted to a polygraph test which he passed with 99.96%. The family has also requested for phone records and cell tower pings. The attorney went to speak with the prosecutor Jeremy Woods today and was sent away stating he didn’t care what evidence there was. This has been 5 month with my son’s name being slandered by the mother to anyone and everyone that would give their ear. There has been no questioning of my son, no statements taken, no opportunity to prove his innocence. Yet we are to stand on our “constitution of being given a fair trial, and innocent until proven guilty”. I am not sure whom else to reach out to at this point, with being told on multiple occasions election time is this year and feeling as though my son is being treated unjustly. These are serious accusations that again if I may state he has taken a polygraph test on and passed, yet everyone seemed to look the other way. My family and I are feeling like this is just another “win” for the prosecution or “an example” for the judge. It’s a small town where everyone knows everyone and seem to be working together. I just need someone to look into this. Please contact me if you can help.

    • NCFM on July 23, 2019 at 2:04 PM

      What is the prosecutors name? Where is this taking place?

  9. Phyllis mansfield on April 5, 2019 at 9:23 PM

    My brother was accused he was sleeping with her we warned my brother he needed to get away from her my brother is mentally disabled to tell him he did something he would begin to believe it and say it no witnesses were called no dna and told fb messages are hear say cause they can be erased that’s what they are using against him I pissed the girl off and she said she would say anything to get my brother arrested and out her life the court transcripts were altered by the district attorney so my brother would get more years he has been forced to take a plea for sexual battery instead of rape my brother want even allowed to get a protective order against her she tried to hit him with a truck made him lose his and constantly drive by with no consequences his lawyer told him to take the deal then after maybe prosecution of the district attorney for falsifying evidence she was proven on the stand for being a liar my brother is unlucky number 8 of being accused and convicted they wouldn’t even allow that in court my family is afraid he won’t make it jail cause his mental mentality and being so small this false rape allegations need to be looked into and the accusers need punishment for destroying these men’s life these woman need to account for waste of taxpayers money and these lawyers need to stop breaking the rules of professional responsibility that attorney state bar set the district attorney ethically violated my brothers due process rights and convicted him with no evidence what’s this world come to become like a sad place where you can’t trust anyone.

  10. Randy on March 12, 2019 at 12:59 PM

    The link above appears to be yet another sad story of injustice against men in America. The article depicts what really happens to men in rape cases from inside the courtroom; plea deal, no witnesses to call, “Rape Shield Laws” , no right to confront accuser, DNA used as if it were God speaking, etc. Unfortunately,this recent Fairbanks case stinks of false rape accusation.

    The man was apparently accused by a woman who was a prostitute, perhaps he failed to pay her, causing her to cry Rape. Shamefully, this woman didn’t even have to be in court to allow this poor Man his Constitutional right to confront his accuser. America is in serious trouble. I’m afraid to raise my two boys in this fem-sexist nation, yes, seriously…this is getting beyond bad!

    • NCFM on March 13, 2019 at 11:22 AM

      “Like I said they drugged me, they raped me and they robbed me, and I am in front of you today for something I didn’t do, but I have to go along with the system because if I don’t I am facing 99 years and I don’t have that long, so yeah, I am guilty okay,” Hipp said. Problem is, there was no victim, at least none the prosecution could produce. Terrifying. If they can do it to Mr. Hipp they can do it to you. And, the war on men is just beginning…

  11. Brian on October 27, 2018 at 10:37 AM

    I am a convicted sex offender now because of lies.
    I was convicted in a case where I was alleged to have placed my penis on a female’s nose while she slept. NO evidence was presented by the state to corroborate the accusation. All DNA, physical evidence, and the like were in my favor. The girl changed her story many times and even described my penis as uncircumsized when i have been circumsized since birth. She even admits that she never saw anything touch her but just felt “something” agitate her nose while she slept. I am innocent; convicted by a statement alone and need help fighting for my life. I have nothing left and am fighting the legal battle alone. Does anyone know someone that can help.

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  16. lisa Wiggins on December 1, 2017 at 2:46 PM

    My son is being held in jail in goodland Kansas for rape he says he didn’t do it he said a racist cop there had it in for him and said by any means I’mma get you so this girl he is dating in Kansas at school they break up and hook up one night now she cries rape to the police who she now’s has it out for my son and he arrest and charge my son with rape I cannot afford a attorney I live in Houston and can’t afford to travel to Kansas and don’t have a clue what to do if I could why do girls cry rape when they no it’s not true and this officer stole my son from me in the worst way if somebody out there can put this story out across the world my son is being framed by a racist cop .My Son Is Innocent if somebody can help or refer my case to and organization that helps with cases like this please fell free to contact me I don’t want the system to steal my son away from me over a lie by a racist cop .

  17. FenderBender on August 10, 2017 at 8:57 PM

    If it is every month, you should post those cases here to give what you are saying credit. If every month, cases shouldn’t be difficult to find. I’m a man and very much support MRAs so just saying, give examples of not only this injustice, but others. There aren’t enough recent cases of all types posted here. Post as many as you can find or post none.

    • radarman67 on August 13, 2017 at 1:12 PM

      I like to have my case looked at again because I’m being punished for over 20 years because of False Accusation of Rape!. But nobody will help me and I have proof of my where I was when supposed she was Raped? Her new boyfriend Ben is a drunk and he even beat her when she was driving and my son was a witness to this and told his Grandmother and she wrote it down in her notebook that I have.
      She got away with lying to the DA, the Cops who was threatening her by making her lie about what really happened.

  18. Richard Anzalone on July 7, 2017 at 2:15 PM

    I need help fasley accused of domestic violence

    • radarman67 on July 8, 2017 at 3:26 PM

      The so called victim wasn’t a victim at all she just didn’t get her way and plus she had a boyfriend on the side her husband didn’t know about. Her boyfriend was supplying her crack along with anything else she needed. He did work at the Hamburger joint on 1st st in Benica where he met Connie Miller Albright. She is a witch in an angles clothing and if she gets the chance she will stab you in the back.
      Now she lives in Arizona someplace away from her son and Daughter who both were lied to about their dad, who is really a good person who served his country for 27 years but she didn’t care she wanted to accuse him of Rape even though he didn’t do it. She lied to the police about it so her Boyfriend wouldn’t get in trouble or go to Jail for beating her up when he got drunk.
      He even hit her when she was driving her car with her young son in the back seat. Her son told his Grandmother about it and she wrote it down in her book about all the things that this guy BEN was doing to Connie and Andrew.
      As long as Ben was giving Connie Drugs she didn’t care and Punish her then Husband Jim who left and went on the streets in Oakland and away from her and trouble.
      You have to prove your innocence from your accuser and find people who know you and can stand by you against these charges.

  19. manlawjusticegmailcom on July 27, 2016 at 9:42 AM

    False, exaggerated and overblown accusations of domestic violence, rape and other charges are ruining the lives of Men. There is no doubt we are living in a time of crisis and erosion of Men’s Rights. Ever since the Civil Rights Act passed, Men are slowly becoming a minority group, of whatever race and creed you belong to. The ill-conceived Violence Against Women Act created billions of dollars in funding for special district attorney DV units to prosecute Men. This is happening all over the country. Even their lawyers are helpless to do anything. We should not live in the shadows anymore. Defense attorneys in local counties are not doing enough and are beholden to the DA’s offices and the local judges. Men’s Rights means using your civil rights to prevent discriminatory prosecution against Men. Those who prosecute you and the victim’s who use the justice system to seek relationship revenge need to be stopped. Time to speak up. Follow me at I am a lawyer and seeking Justice for Men.

    • NCFM on July 27, 2016 at 5:26 PM

      Welcome to the fight. Are you a member of NCFM? If not, why not?

  20. John Gault on May 27, 2016 at 9:49 AM

    Can we talk about women or girls who make accusation about having sex with a man and they are under age/minor. What happens, the man is arrested and charged and is now fighting for his life over a false accusation.

  21. Trexia Ann Bayeta-Pelpinosas on March 13, 2016 at 7:47 AM

    Hi. I come in peace. I’m not here to further a feminist cause. I’m here because someone I love has been falsely accused of domestic abuse. He’s not in any danger of imprisonment cause his lady ain’t got the chops to take her lies to court. She knows deep down that nothing she throws at him will hold in court because it’s all bullshit. Meanwhile, I’m really looking to learn all that I can about the false accuser’s mind. The “lady” in question struts her advocacy against domestic abuse around town like she’s a real victim. She taunts and humiliates her ex on social media. He’s trying to stay quiet, but those of us who care about him are sick of it and we want her stopped. We don’t want a messy lawsuit to shut her up, so we’d like to try other ways to get her quiet. I guess I was desperate when I wrote the article I’ll be sharing here because I don’t know what else to do. If any of you could give it a look and tell me what I’ve got on my hands here, I’d be really glad. This injustice needs to stop. How horrible that there are actually men doing time for crimes they didn’t commit! Even those who never step into jail lose their reputation over something that never happened. Anyway, here’s that article. I’m writing from the Philippines.

    • NCFM on March 13, 2016 at 11:50 AM

      This was posted on our Facebook page with a request to provide you with some suggestions. The Facebook site you provided will hopefully help many.

  22. Mike giffin on March 6, 2016 at 5:44 AM

    I was falsley accused in 2013 of sodomy was facing life I was found innocent by a jury she admitted to lying screwed my life up I almost started to cry when I read these stories now myy son got tooken by state because of her and they said I my never see him again if I don’t go thruvdamn sex classes and I have nothing on my record it hurts to hear that I just wanna give up

  23. gabrielle pitcher on January 14, 2016 at 12:18 PM

    My 11yr old son is being falsely accused of rape. The “victim ” is our cousin, who was forced by his mother to lie because of an ongoing probate/real property case between my our families. My son is innocent. I am indigent. And he needs help to prove his innocence. I have a stack of paperwork to prove it. What I don’t have, is an attorney willing. An advocate. Someone who is willing to seek justice for an innocent child. My name is Gabrielle. Phn nmbr 813_389_9730. Email . Please help us. He is worth it. He is innocent.

  24. Brandon on December 29, 2015 at 5:42 AM

    I’ve just spent the last 14 months of my life incarcerated because I stepped into a custody battle between this girl I was dating and her ex-husband. I was arrested and indicted solely off of words and my past record (mostly drug convictions, nothing sexual). 3 months later the rape test came back ‘inconclusive’ nothing on it at all except a labial adhesion (google it) but even the physician said she was most likely born with it. Obviously I’m going to trial (if it doesn’t get dropped) but I’m super friggin scared to do so. I have a paid attorney but she doesn’t really specialize in this kind of thing. Somebody please talk to me and give me some advice! Any at all would be greatly appreciated!

  25. Dragon on February 18, 2014 at 8:27 AM

    I need to find legal help for a man accused of sexually abusing his ex-fiance’s 9yearold daughter. I believe that the child’s family is behind this and he needs to be cleared of this. I don’t believe that his public defender will have his best intrest at heart because of stories I have heard. Even the mother of the child doesn’t believe he raped her daughter. I need to find help from a lawyer that wont require much up front to help. The mother is tarrified that he will be convicted for something that her family may have coached her daughter into saying. She is also tarrified that if she stands up for him, that she will lose her children because the state believes he is guilty.

  26. Marc Angelucci on October 26, 2013 at 9:24 AM

    Even the FBI, which only collects data from police agencies on the number of rape claims they found to be false, says 8% of rape claims are false. The report says: “As with all other Crime Index offenses, complaints of forcible rape made to law enforcement agencies are sometimes found to be false or baseless. In such cases, law enforcement agencies “unfound” the offenses and exclude them from crime counts. The “unfounded” rate, or percentage of complaints DETERMINED THROUGH INVESTIGATION TO BE FALSE, is higher for forcible rape than for any other Index crime. Eight percent of forcible rape complaints in 1996 were “unfounded,” while the average for all Index crimes was 2 percent.”

    That figure is conservatively low beause most fale rape claims do not get found to be false, they only are found to lack evidence. So that 8%% figure, although significant,, is the tip of the iceberg.

  27. Ken Hollander on August 31, 2013 at 9:19 PM

    Regarding qualified potential financial donors to your organization and causes.

    If David J. Glass ESQ, PHD is not already a current donor towards your organization, it may because he has been spending much of his time throwing catered parties and attending Laker games. Maybe a solicitation on your part may help him start a monthly financial contribution towards your organization . I am attaching a copy portion of the latest August, 2013 FMBK monthly newsletter which boastfully claims how well he and those around him are eating and living exceptionally well, while children across the globe are starving to death, are homeless, neglected and abused every day. It would appear that such a successful family law firm such as FMBK and an attorney with a PhD in Psychology would already be generous donors to your cause. The income levels of those fortunate enough to reside in the city of Beverly Hills, CA. are sufficiently able to afford generous ongoing contributions to your organization.
    David and Carol Glass hosted an FMBK mixer at their beautiful home in Beverly Hills to help welcome our 2013 summer law clerks Anna Giroux and David Jones. Carol’s family’s restaurant, Joan’s on 3rd, catered the event, alongside a portable pizza oven that fired out hand crafted, delicious pizza pies! Dessert included brownie bites, lemon squares, and other delicious sweets. All of the attorneys attended, and the mild Southern California weather made it a lovely outdoor event. Thank you David and Carol for hosting!

    To remind all those with morals and to all those who love all children, that this David J. Glass Esq. PhD would giggle & laugh at me while waiting to see the judge. Shortly after this attached letter dated 2-12-2012 was received by the community of Malibu, CA this David J. Glass Esq. PhD conspired to injure a 3rd party (myself) , suborned perjury and falsified evidence just before he closed down his practice and went to FMBK Law.The CA State Bar has just received a 2nd complaint regarding this matter.

    2-12-12 Mr. Graham J Miller


    To The Principals of Malibu Elementary Schools and To Whom it may concern within the LAUSD and SMMUSD administrations, Directors or other persons.
    Dear Sir Madam or MS,

    I am writing to you firstly as a parent. I have a child in a Malibu public school. I am also writing as a Citizen, and therefore concerned in a more global manner with issues that I personally find disturbing and relevant. I believe a possible failure to perform to ethical codes of several professions, let alone what any normal person may find to be reasonable is about to, and could in the future lead to embarrassment, public consternation and at best a complete lack of faith ,trust and confidence in the above agencies.

    I have recently been informed by my daughter Lily-Jane Faith Miller that her mother has taken her out of Callahan elementary (Northridge); and she is now at some school in Malibu district. (Grade 2)

    My reasons for my concern follow.

    Within the Malibu school district there is a teacher, (C Cullen) who has accused her ex-husband of two counts of sexual abuse of their son, and 5 other counts of abuse of their son (11). This alleged abuse according to Ms. Cullen and her Attorney took place over the past 5 years.

    I would like a notation in my daughter’s file that she is never to be placed in class with the above person as her “(my daughters)” teacher. I apologize in in that I amenable to provide more details on my daughter’s whereabouts (school) but her Mom has not provided that info. I’m sure Dr Jacob the principal at Callahan would be able to assist.

    In MS Cullen’s divorce and custody case she utilized the services of a Mr. D Glass Esq.(Attorney) Mr Glass is also a PhD in Psychology .Mr. Glass was also utilized by the mother of my daughter, Lily -Jane in my own divorce and custody matter. Mr. Glass a Psychologist/ Attorney and mandated reporter saw fit to bring allegations of sexual abuse of a child and 4 allegations of other forms of abuse of MS Cullen’s son Sammy before family court. These all were investigated by the Police DCFS, and the District Attorney. They were found to be without either Medical or Credentialed 3rd party verification and closed therefore as unsubstantiated. These allegations were brought by MS Cullen via the services of Mr. Glass and occurred regularly before the summer school break on a yearly basis. MS Cullen had also recently remarried a Mr Brian Winsick another Teacher and coach in the Conejo Valley. Their marriage took place just prior to the allegations beginning.

    I will now outline my concerns and reasons for the request of the notation in my daughters file.

    It is my belief that the relationship between this teacher Ms. Cullen and her attorney and my own ex-wife and the same attorney is cause for reasonable concern. That to avoid any unfortunate incident where god forbid I was to be accused by my daughter’s mother of something similar as MS Cullen accused her ex-husband of it is imperative no establish able link is in place as could lead to suspicion of collusion. The worst case scenario that Ms. Cullen at some time becomes my daughters teacher and subsequently claims are made that perhaps my daughter had inferred to MS Cullen that I had abused her ( Lily-Jane) and MS Cullen then could relate this to my daughters mother through their mutual attorney, or contact at school is beyond horrific. I feel the separation of my daughter and this teacher protects LAUSD/SMMUSD and my daughter and me.

    In a more global sense I am concerned that a teacher married to another teacher and coach and an attorney who is also licensed as a psychologist made no attempt to make aware the LAUSD or the SMUSD of their concerns. (Two allegations of Sexual abuse and five other allegations of abuse.) Surely some ethical codes of their respective professions would demand other relevant or parties who could be impacted be advised.

    When a teacher finds the resources to pay $500 an hour to a Beverly Hills Attorney for 5 years surely there is a need for verification that such allegations will bring in terms of the expenses the County and State will bear during the protracted conflict. Especially if the accused has been made indigent by the continued claims and has suffered stress or work issues stemming from such accusations and is no longer paying taxes.

    As a parent I certainly would be outraged if I knew my child’s teacher was aware of a legitimate abuse situation and if, as in this case it included Sexual Abuse allegations and that teacher did nothing to bring attention to it as could protect other children I would expect answers. Specifically why and how a person(s) (2 Teachers, (Coach), An Attorney/Psychologist) would go ahead and consciously disregard accusations of such a serious nature, and then they having brought these allegations before family court and the district attorney go ahead and let other parents arrange activities with the person they were accusing of abuse in a manner as would expose other children to the accused.

    What is more disturbing and I expect the press will find disturbing is that repeated allegations of this nature are often utilized in family conflicts and that this is acceptable is in fact a failure of morality within our society. I believe this failure may have had a profound societal impact.

    That the failure of an application of evidentiary standards as are normally applied in criminal matters may have allowed credentialed persons possibly with questionable motive to use family court in a manipulative and deceitful way to achieve their own ends appears to me to be worthy of consideration.

    This epidemic of claims of abuse of children caught in such situations, (family breakups) versus children, who suffer actual abuse , desensitizes the general public and governmental agencies and allows real and dangerous criminals to hide and operate with virtual impunity in our society. It is beyond Peter and the Wolf it is an ongoing crime against humanity. To falsely perpetrate something that I believe leads to what we are now facing in the LAUSD and SMMUSD and may have exacerbated, perpetuated and indeed by lack of action condoned events and actions that possibly has led to emotional; mental and even physical harm to any child is heinous.

    I believe because of the actions as I have described many prior red flags have been ignored in many abuse situations and much suffering and harm and expense could have been avoided if a less commonplace attitude of children was the norm.

    Indeed in the immediate situation with (C Cullen, B Winsick )either the allegations were scurrilous and a product of vitriol, and an attorney(PhD Psych) with who knows what motivation (7 Claims) and that these claims were worthy of public expense .Or these persons were aware the claims they were bringing were false and therefore not worthy of reporting to LAUISD/SMUSD or other parents.? The alternative is an admission of negligent lack of reasonable due diligence and surely a great lack of concern for the school both pupils and other teachers and parents has been flagrantly displayed in total disregard for the safety and welfare of minors. Whether this is or should be a concern for the bond holders of these persons I do not know. Mr. Glass, Glass family Law and former associate of (Kolodny & Anteau) One of the most respected family law firms in the United States (Mel Gibson Getty, etc.) has been investigated by the CA Bar already in this matter and while the complaint was not upheld a letter suggesting the possibility of civil redress was issued by them.

    The APA also found he did no wrong apparently within their own ethics code.

    The fact remains an Attorney/Psychologist and a Teacher and a Teacher/Coach surely have some duty to the community. The positions of trust and respect they are afforded should allow the general public a reasonableness within their expectation of propriety and protection of the innocent by such credentialed persons.

    Perhaps the LAUSD/SMUSD could incorporate or suggest to the CA Bar a cooperative relationship of a professional nature that would allow this protection to be afforded our children as well as draft a code for the LAUSD/SMUSD’s own employees in such situations.

    Certainly recent events could lead one to surmise that a better clarified way of maintaining the safety and welfare of our children, from both bonifide and false claims of abuse would be helpful. The harm that both real and imagined events can bring to families, as well as collateral persons and an institution such as children’s learning environment should be minimalized at all times.

    Sincerely Yours,

    Graham J Miller.

    885 Avenue of the Americas

    Penthouse 1A

    New York. NY. 10001

  28. bill on February 1, 2013 at 5:56 PM

    Im going thru a nightmare. My ex wife passed away. I got custody of my 2 children. my step daughter went with the grandmother. The grandmother is tring to get custody of my kids but im denying her that. so two years later i get a visit from dyfus saying i was accussed of child sexual abuse. they are in the process of doing the dyfus investigation. The next day a prosecutor called me and asked to speak to me . I got an attorney right away, My attorney told me not to talk to no one becuase no good would come out of it. My attorney has advised me to just wait and see if any and what charges are put againts me. it has been already 3 days since the prosecutor called me. im living in fear every day. expecting the police to come to the door and arrest me and take my children away from because of these false accusations. my attorney says just relax and wait. we dont even know the chatges and the state has not decided what to do yet. reading all these post i feel this grandma will stop at nothing to get my kids and destroy my life also. anybody has some advice for me? please tell me. all i know is that i have to wait and fight when the time comes. wate all my money on legal fees. probably lose my house and lose my kids. how can this be happening to me???????????

    • Contessa on June 4, 2013 at 5:46 PM

      Creedence and Bill – please update us.

  29. CREEDENCE on December 8, 2012 at 9:32 PM


  30. Ron on November 27, 2012 at 2:03 PM

    If you really want someone who can help you with your false charges, look into the US~Observer. They have battling people’s false charges for years and they have a great track record.

  31. gsosbee on September 17, 2012 at 8:46 AM

    See fbi female operative yell ‘wolf’ in a public forum in order to attempt to discredit former fbi agent who reports fbi crimes:

    “Who are you calling a grinning joker, you despicable little man. You are certainly full of yourself, aren’t you, slime ball. The readers can see by your post and comment that you are a loon, and there is no need for me to post a photo. Why would you ask for a photo, are you a pervert too, and want it to jack off by. Whew, you are a sick, sick person who has absolutely no grip on reality.”

    “Your website is a testimony to your severe mental disorder. It is also the testimony of a serial crybaby who blames all his problems on someone else. The only thing I am disturbed about is you loose in the community. You appear to also be a pervert in addition to being a loon. Momma’s watch your little ones if you live close to this sick man. “

  32. David Slaughter on August 24, 2012 at 11:15 AM

    Tried to call 911 for a child in danger by his parents people in the Park tried to hurt me and police beaten down and take me to jail for getting about the calls they were came for a child was taken I was eventually cuffed taken to jail where I was worked over by County sheriffs paramedics were called I was eventually stabbed by a paramedic in the left shoulder and I was also falsely accused of biting a paramedic I was found not guilty by reason of self-defense whatever happened to child’s rights and minds?

  33. TERRY WAGAR on May 11, 2012 at 7:26 AM

    My wife Joan Wagar was poisoning me while she was having an affair with a cop.
    My wife recruited our daughters into this our daughters pretended nothings wrong when my wife poisoned me and they were hiding my wife's affair from me.

    My wife's lover the cop Eric Carlson and his bro's in law enforcement made sure I could not get help from 911 or from a hospital.
    Eric Carlson's partner would speak with my doctor in the hallway and label me as a bad guy repeatedly until the doctor got the hint to shut up about me being poisoned.

    Three family members died during my wife's use of pills and antifreeze as poison and police covered up my emergency visits to the hospital and my 911 calls.

    I was so badly poisoned I was just stuck, at home, at their mercy, with no one to turn to for help.

    Eric Carlson and his bro's were framing me for their crimes and they were using Eric Carlson as a photo double to frame me as a pedo and they framed me over a murder by using Eric Carlson as a double.

    My wife Joan Wagar's coworkers knew my wife was poisoning me and that her lover Eric Carlson was framing me by acting as a double, Joan Wagar's coworkers nick named Eric Carlson and Joan Wagar Doubleclick and Mrs Dash, and Eric Carlson and Joan Wagar used those nick names in their love letters.

    I was a plasma donor when they were poisoning me.

    Terry Wagar

  34. alejandro on May 1, 2012 at 5:16 PM

    I only went to speak with the ex and she accused me of hitting her and tresspassing when she let me inside her home. i lost my job and now i have a record so its hard to find employment.

  35. Mad Dog Mike38321 on April 26, 2012 at 11:16 PM

    I had a close friend who was falsely accused of sexual assault by a girl. At the time she alleged the incident occurred it would be impossible for him to have done this because he had 75 other children and some adults in the area. He had to spend thousands of dollars to prove his innocence and even her own family said she was lying. Did that stop the feminist trained law machine from grinding him in the dirt? NO so spare me your rape victim statistics. Now I know women and girls are raped all the time I am not unsympathetic to this fact. (I also have two teenage daughters) for every false accusation waste valuable and much needed resources that could be used to stop real criminals. I think these women should serve the amount of time their falsely accused victim served or would have served; this will be true gender equality.

  36. Mad Dog Mike38321 on April 26, 2012 at 11:14 PM

    According to the feminist ideology women should be treated as equals. For women to truly be treated as equals they have to be held equally responsible under the law. This would mean a woman can and should be charged for rape by a man, and she should under the same law serve just as much time. We all know that is not going to happen because of lying women and chivalrous stupid men that rush to protect them. The reason you rarely hear about the false accusations is because the feminist run media and law enforcement don’t really want cases like this to catch the public eye. Cases like this shed light on the inequality that men suffer.

  37. madm001 on April 10, 2012 at 3:38 PM

    I am soooo glad I found this website. I have a friend going thru some of this now. It's horrible. Forturnately he's
    never been arrested for any of this. We have taken a defensive posture and make sure there's no contact. Appreciate all the comments and advice. Prayer helps.

  38. VegGirl on February 20, 2012 at 8:15 AM

    For immigrants out there, be especially careful. We're experiencing a veritable "perfect storm" right now. Our seriously mentally ill ex-landlady is accusing my husband of indecent assault. She sat in his preliminary hearing and couldn't even get her own story straight. After reviewing the transcript from the hearing, I counted a full 18 times that she contradicted herself. But this s&^t still continues, and now we're nearly $7,000 in debt from legal fees and we haven't even gone to trial yet. The cop investigating this case pulled up another immigrant's record and said it was my husband's. Mug shot? Looked nothing like my husband. No fingerprint check until charges were already filed, and they came back clean- obviously. If you're an immigrant living in a podunk town with podunk glorified mall cops with IQs around 85, BE ON YOUR GUARD! My husband is a lawful permanent resident, but this stupid vengeful accusation + racist cops might change our lives forever if my husband gets deported. Indecent assault is a "crime of moral turpitude", which means he would be disqualified from continuing to live in the U.S.. We would have to move back to Mexico with our 2 young children.

  39. Yayoi on December 25, 2011 at 7:07 AM

    I contacted a PI and he helped investigate my case. I gave him all emails, phone logs, and laid everything out for him. He told me to just ignore anything the guy sent me. I noticed that anything I tried to print that was his would become incrypted and unreadable, so I would have to print screen. After an email from him saying that he knew I was printing the emails and wanted to know why I was printing them.

    I ignored him. But every week I would get more threatening messages. Finally, he sent one that said: "We can end this quietly. Don't you dare tell anyone, and let me and you settle this silently like adults. We can meet up and neither one of us would have to worry, and I could be out of your life forever."

    I was so terrified, I didn't know what to do. I ignored it, but the message was very clear in what his intentions could have possibly been. I am only 21 now, and I am still naiive enough to not know what to really do in a situation like this when I am so scared.

    What would you have me do?

    I went to my mom and grandma and showed them the email, and they said to ignore it, and if I hear anything again to let them know.

    Eventually I stopped hearing from him altogether, but I never leave anywhere by myself. I am still scared to go out anywhere for fear of being watched or followed. I have no idea what can happen. Police won't do anything, I already tried that route, and all I wanted was an extra patrol or two during day and night in my neighborhood. I wasn't even asking for anything more. But still. I live in fear every day, and I can't really do anything because I am stuck between a rock and a hard place.

    Family means everything to me, and I would never do anything to jeopardize the family. This is the main reason why I was so scared in the very beginning. I figured that if I maintained family ties, I could eventually get out of this without hurting anyone except myself. But when my best friend found out when he was going to take me to the hotel, she helped me when I couldn't help myself. I had no control over this situation, but I was still on my own.

    It is not true that the courts and police only ever believe the women or girls. It depends on the officer(s), court(s), judge(s), region….there are plenty of factors.

    It isn't fair to say that ALL courts and officers only believe girls, because it isn't true. It is entirely dependent on the situation and the people involved.

    If the guy is someone like my uncle; who is a high ranking officer, community service person, elderly gentleman, and rich, then usually the favor goes towards that person especially if they served in a war. No matter how much proof the victim has against them, these types of people are GENERALLY (not always cause it depends on the judge, lawyers, etc) able to get through with nothing or something minor.

    It is true that there are plenty of cases with false accusations. But there are also plenty of cases with false accusations about other things too: Murder, Rape, Racism, Pedophilia, Homosexual relations, sex before marriage, who left the dish on the counter, and many other things. There will always be something out there.

    There are also cases where the victim BELIEVES they are the victim because maybe the situation was not appropriate. There are cases where the culprit believes THEY are the victim (like my uncle) because they believe what they are doing is right.

    He had no qualms about molesting a 17 year old grand niece. He told me it was his "love" and that he kissed and felt all his "lady friends" that way. He said there was no harm and that he just wanted to feel the other person. To him, this was okay and this was right. He didn't think he needed help. I have suspected before that maybe being in the war might have messed with his brain a bit. Or maybe he was bipolar or had some sort of Identity Disorder.

    My heart goes out to anyone who has been molested, raped, taken advantaged of, or wrongly accused. I don't care whether you are male or female. It isn't right.

    • keen on February 20, 2012 at 7:21 PM

      I do not believe you. I believe you made this whole thing up. I have had too many experiences with females lying and making things up to believe you.

      • URADick on April 1, 2012 at 7:45 AM

        Actually, this sounds quite legit. Of course you wouldn't believe her since she is a woman. However, you have to understand, that just because of this, you can't automatically claim she is in the wrong.

        You are an asshole. I can say that I don't believe you if you were to spout that you were wrongly accused.

        Sure. Go ahead.

        URA Dick.

    • URADick on April 1, 2012 at 7:47 AM

      The reason I say this sounds legit, is because a person making something up wouldn't go and tell something like this on a place like this, AND support both sides. Yayoi here is telling her story, yet, she is also saying it isn't right for ANYONE. A person making it up generally would tend to support a single side.

      There is also too much inner monologue here (too many opinions of the situation) to be "just a story".

  40. Yayoi on December 25, 2011 at 6:07 AM

    I have something to say as well.

    I am a woman though, and my situation is horrifying.

    I have an elder family member who sexually abused me and blackmailed me into having sex with him even though I didn't want to. He was relatively violent, and he was terrifying when he was angry. The first time he did this, I was 17 years old. At that age, no matter how much I told myself it wouldn't happen to me, it did., and I was terrified. I should have told someone, but I was so scared. He would tell me things like, "Your family would be disgusted with you." "You have no where to go" "No one will believe you. I do a lot of things for everyone, and you are just a girl."

    Eventually I was mind fucked out the ass, and he started stalking. He would pull out a list of dates and times of when I would be home and where I would be. Some of the logs had descriptions of people I was with. Things were really bad, and I had no idea what to do.

    My best friend, who was living with me at the time and knew what was going on because I secretly confided in her, helped get me out of the situation by calling the police. They interrogated him, and he denied nothing. The officers told me that he was so calm, that he made them nervous during the interrogation. They said that he sounded and acted as though he owned me and had "rights".

    After that, I ceased to have contact with him. I finally told my mom and grandma (my father passed away a long time ago) about what happened, and they helped me to avoid contact. I did not want to press charges because the family needs him, and he does a lot for the community and the Reserves. I just wanted him to stop and leave me alone. In his mind, he was not doing anything wrong. He justified everything he did, and controlled everything I did through fear and power. When he got angry, he got ANGRY. I did what he told me to do cause I didn't know what would happen to me. He knew a lot of people, and he could have anything done to me and no one would be any the wiser. He had made sure to tell me these things on plenty of occasions. I just wanted him to leave me alone.

    The three of us kept it to ourselves. We didn't tell anyone in the family, and we didn't have any intentions of pressing charges. We especially didn't want to hurt his wife and family. My aunt is an amazing woman, and me, mom and grandma agreed that we couldn't let her know because she would be really hurt. She had caught him cheating several times before, and she would be done with him if she knew.

    And then he started stalking me again.

    I got messages from him, and he claimed to have videos of me and voice recordings of me while I was home and while I was not home. I ended up getting so scared that I wouldn't leave my own home, and I kept everything locked, and windows covered with dark curtains.

    I went to the police with the messages, and they told me that they couldn't do anything about it because it was not "proof enough".

    After two weeks, I got more messages from him. He was paranoid, and under the impression that we had told the entire family what had happened and what went on. So he decided a new tactic to get me to talk to him and message him. He told me that he was going to prevent me from studying abroad and get me for defamation of character. Even though I didn't do ANYTHING wrong. He said that I ruined the family (even though we didn't tell anyone, but I don't think he knew that), and he was going to get me for it. He was going to send pictures to my mom that I didn't even KNOW he had. They were of me in my room getting dressed for school in the mornings, getting out of the shower and into my room… it was really disturbing to know that he or someone else had taken those. He also had pictures of me hanging out with some of my old guy friends from high school that I used to go fishing with. He said that he was going to tell everyone I was "fucking them", and that no one would believe me when I told them I wasn't because HE was the elder and HE was the one who did things for the family and community.

    was really terrified that he had the gall to do those things, and I had no idea what else he could do. He was right. He could say anything and I would be screwed. I had no problems with a lie detector test, but since they were flawed, the courts can not use them in trial legally.

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